A professional setback from several years ago is affecting my ability to move forward. I’ve been floundering around and drifting for years. I want to get my shit together, but I don’t know how to proceed. How do I figure out wtf I should do with my life now? [long] [more inside]
The backstory might shed light, but it's long and I'm sorry if it bores you. I might make a TL;DR sentence, but I suggest you read the whole thing. TL;DR. Befriended girl and crushed, had a lot of issues that turned me off, turned into a very close friend, badly timed telling her about dead feelings, and managed to still communicate until I had to back off for a bit. Don't know what I should do? [more inside]
My friend is graduating in 6 weeks from college. She is usually really animated and bubbly, but I was hanging out with her yesterday, and she mentioned in passing that she's thinking about going back to college for another major (she is currently getting her second major after her first didn't work out for her), but she's iffy on whether her dad will let her or not. [more inside]
I recently met someone who is an Agile product manager, and he seems to have my dream job. I love meeting and talking to people, translating layman's speak and understanding into tech speak and vice versa, and I love an everchanging, fast-paced job where you actually *work.* How do I get into this? (Longsplaining background follows.) [more inside]
I am designing a poster for a personal project on the subject of "always moving forward" and "taking the next step" – do you have any quotes that you live by on that subject? [more inside]
So, I'm selling my house and will have some extra cash, finally. I have a consolidated student loan that after years of steady payments, has come down to a very low 1.85% interest rate. Given the current economic conditions, and an intense desire to have my money work hard for me after years of being in the doldrums, should I up the payment and try to save a tiny bit on interest? Or would it be better to stuff my IRA, or put money into a no-load fund or index? [more inside]
My brain is swirling with options and I just need kind advice. I have no shoulder on which I may settle my weight for a moment's rest. I beg your listening ear!Should I sit tight and save or make a move to take pressure off my vehicle? It needs to last me a few years.... How can I escape the white trash wastes I have been condemned to? [more inside]
I'm recently back from a long trip through South America, but my travel lust is hardly satiated. I have some savings left, and I'm desperate to take off again. Is this a good idea? And if so, where should I go next? Details inside. [more inside]
My dad paid for 200k worth of schooling for me, i got a BA in Economics from a good school, went on to do some independent film production, quit my job with my boss 6 months ago, finally saw the last film I helped produce premiere at TIFF, and I've been re-evaluating what I want to do with my life. (Currently 24.5 years old.) I want to join the Army and become a Ranger, like my uncle (who my dad despises) but I don't know how to go about telling my dad. [more inside]
What are some options for a bright young man who wants to delay college? It can be volunteer-based, overseas, career ideas, special programs, alternate ideas of how to approach higher learning...anything. The main thing he wants is real-world experience outside of a classroom, something that will help him grow as a person and help him learn what he wants out of life. [more inside]
This one might be a doozy. So, I'm a 23 year old recent college grad ( this May) with a B.A. in psychology and no idea what to do with my life. ( Original, I know, but bear with me, it gets better.) Everyone around me seems to have what are at least well-outlined 5 year plans, oriented around either grad school or a great entry level job. Certain circumstances in my life though seem to leave me with a vision of the future that doesn't extend far beyond the living room couch and daytime TV for the next 10 years and that frightens me to no end. [more inside]
I really can't figure out what I want to do in my life. And it's scaring the crap out of me. At many times I really thought I knew what I wanted and then when I started working... I didn't, at all! I tried really hard to figure out what to do. I majored in political science, been involved in campaigns, and I thought I would just go to law school. But felt uneasy about the whole thing like it was just something I was supposed to do cause I would be good at it. So I decided to work a bit in a medical field, which was followed by living aboard for a few years. Now I'm dabbling in film and thinking about architecture. All amazing experiences but no closer to a conclusion. I feel super strongly about some careers and then realize I only feel strongly about those things because I admire the people in those fields and not necessarily the field itself. Does anyone have a similar story? Any conclusions? Can anyone help?
Hopping off the good advice spread here, I'd like a guide to navigating my next decade in general as me and my kids enter their tweens and middle school to high school.
I have a history of romantic involvements that usually never get past three or four months (with a single exception that went on for 3.5 years). This didn't used to bother me so much, but it's now starting to make me ridiculously sad. I'm 30. How can I learn to hold someone's interest in me and/or choose better? Sorry for the book below, and thanks for any suggestions. [more inside]
Is there some sort of 'career/life counselor' out there that can help me navigate college/university programs and requirements after dropping out last year? [more inside]
Where do you turn for advice in solving life dilemmas? I know about therapy (been there, done that) and asking the hive mind (and you guys are great btw!) I love my family dearly but I feel like I know what they are going to say before I even ask. So tell me: -- where else can I turn for new, fresh advice on big life issues (career, jobs, relocating, relationships etc)? -- how can I really shake up my way of thinking and challenge my own perceptions? -- how can I help myself solve my own problems with needing to ask other people? hope that makes sense!
My turn! Citizens of Metafilter: What advice would you give to your thirty-year-old self? [more inside]
What advice would you give your 25-year-old self? [more inside]
How did you summon the strength to bounce back and/or change your life? [more inside]
I just graduated college and have been working full-time for one month. I really don't like my job because I think I ended up in the wrong industry/type of business. I'm hoping for any suggestions, advice, or thoughts about how I can go about figuring out what industry/type of business/job would be a better fit for me. I am talented, smart, and hard working, but I feel like I am wasting my life because I'm not interested in my company or the work we do. [more inside]
As a recent graduate, how can I engineer my life to maximize happiness, financial security, and independence (in that order)? What choices did you make that led to suboptimal outcomes in these areas, and what would you do differently given another chance? [more inside]
Several years ago, my husband's close friend died suddenly. Now the friend's oldest son is graduating from high school, and his wife asked my husband (and others) to pass on some personal accumulated wisdom and memories. What kinds of things should we address? [more inside]
Struggling, College Educated 23-year-old Needs Solid Life Advice [more inside]
Problem renting an apartment. [more inside]
How can I not drink heavily and keep a social life? [more inside]
I'm a creative/analytical individual who thrives in an environment where I can tweak and testdrive many variables/things/ideas/etc in a creative way and put them to use for profit/critique/judgement/etc. I have all the time in the world to figure this out, but I want to get it right and I want to find a career I will love the rest of my life. [more inside]
It's not a quarter-life crisis, I'm almost broken. How can I turn things around before it's too late? [more inside]
I'm looking for suggestions for daily and weekly routines I should try to incorporate into my life over the next year. [more inside]
Carleton v. Wesleyan. I'll be seeing my nephew next week, and he has his future whittled down to these two colleges. Not that it will really have an effect, but I'd like to appear to know more than that it is colder in Minnesota, and asking MeFites seemed easier (and maybe more astute) than reading a lot of PR things. Neither he nor I know what he will major in, but probably nothing practical (ie. if he doesn't wind up an academic, he'll be applying to law schools sooner or later.). Any opinions or insights?
Should I move to increase my chances at getting a job? Should I drop it all to help my parents? Should I stay where I'm happiest? [possibly long] [more inside]
I'm very close to walking out on both of my shitty jobs. What the hell can, and should I do with myself? [more inside]
Please tell me how I can find out what to do with my life? [more inside]
I want to re-learn how to enjoy food and the process of eating. [more inside]
So I'm about to start my 7th year of community college... [more inside]
Do you have any regrets that you didn't start doing something earlier? [more inside]
What's the key to getting involved with as many interesting projects and meeting as many interesting people as possible?
What's the key to getting involved with as many interesting projects and meeting as many interesting people as possible? [more inside]
Any advice for a fresh graduate jumping from a world of possibility to a world of potential naysayers? Help me tone down the naïveté, or whatever else needs to be done. [more inside]
[Job Advice Filter] I applied and interviewed for an out-of-state job 8 months ago. Eventually I was offered the position, but I declined due to life circumstances that arose at the time. That same position is still open, and I'm interested. How should I proceed? [more inside]
What might be some people for a grown man to go to for advice when his parents, spouse, and friends are... 'unavailable' for various reasons? [more inside]
Single mom/Single parent: How does one go about building a lasting relationship with a single mother, to show her that you will not only be there for her, but also for her son? (She's 22, and he's under five I'm assuming.) [more inside]
How can I reconcile two different and conflicting plans for my future? (long-ish explanation) [more inside]
About a week ago I graduated from high school—finally. I graduated with honors and have a very large scholarship to a state university here. It's all planned for me to go to university. But I am not sure if I want this. [more inside]
So I'm putting together a collection of "Rules for Life" as a gift for my 15 year old little brother, that I'll likely put together on one of those one-off vanity book publishery things... and I'm looking for some suggestions as to some good rules. Looking for real advice for obscure situations one might find themselves in, great quotes that can inspire someone to live their life better, serious thoughts that people have realized later in their life that they wish someone had told them previously, and a good dose of humor. Cliche as it is, Mary Schmich's "Wear Sunscreen" column gives a decent examples of the general tone I want for most of it. So.... What else should I put in the book? [more inside]
I'm a college sophomore on my way to a CS Major / Religion Minor. Apparently my initial career options (just from that major) are a little bit better than my English-major friends. But I'd much rather make interesting things than work in a cubicle. How do I do this? [more inside]
(Birthday filter)I am not young enough to know everything. -- Oscar Wilde- Today I turn 28, I have been extremely lucky in life (though this year was full of hiccups). Though this past year was a bit trying, I have plenty to be thankful for. I would love for you guys to give me some advice for the upcoming year. What do you wish you had known at 28 that you know now? Some pearls of wisdom would be the best gift I can ask for. Thanks guys!
Help me decide my future. [more inside]
Is there anything you wish you had known when you were 18? [more inside]
Recommendations/thoughts about engaging a "life coach" [+] [more inside]