The backstory might shed light, but it's long and I'm sorry if it bores you. I might make a TL;DR sentence, but I suggest you read the whole thing. TL;DR. Befriended girl and crushed, had a lot of issues that turned me off, turned into a very close friend, badly timed telling her about dead feelings, and managed to still communicate until I had to back off for a bit. Don't know what I should do? [more inside]
I am the world's WORST accessorizer. It is known. Last time I wanted to up my fashion game, Mefites were super helpful. Can you do it again, in a Partner's-Holiday-Office-Party flavour?! (Seasonally appropriate) snowflakes inside! [more inside]
My dad will be making his last child support payment to my mother next month for my brother who is 19 and no longer in full time education (he’s going to university). After then he will no longer financially support my brother - he hasn't financially supported me since I was 18 when he made his last support payment. I am now thinking of asking him directly to make a monthly payment to me and my brother since he isn’t supporting us in any other way. [more inside]
I'm a college junior who has had trouble making many friends, help? [more inside]
I really can't figure out what I want to do in my life. And it's scaring the crap out of me. At many times I really thought I knew what I wanted and then when I started working... I didn't, at all! I tried really hard to figure out what to do. I majored in political science, been involved in campaigns, and I thought I would just go to law school. But felt uneasy about the whole thing like it was just something I was supposed to do cause I would be good at it. So I decided to work a bit in a medical field, which was followed by living aboard for a few years. Now I'm dabbling in film and thinking about architecture. All amazing experiences but no closer to a conclusion. I feel super strongly about some careers and then realize I only feel strongly about those things because I admire the people in those fields and not necessarily the field itself. Does anyone have a similar story? Any conclusions? Can anyone help?
I know you are not my lawyer. I have a Kafkaesque situation invovling the cops. [more inside]
So I need some sound advice. I think I was harassed a number of months ago at a local YMCA by another member. I decided to file this complaint internally, and now I'm worried I'm being stonewalled. Normally I would let something like this slide, but I've decided to take up this cause because I think it's the honorable thing to do. If only because I am inspired by the anti-bullying movement. Do I have legal options? Can somebody with any experience or strength with this sort of thing help me figure out what exactly happened to me, and share what they did in a similar situation? Details within. [more inside]
My girlfriend mentioned suicide last night... [more inside]
I just graduated college and have been working full-time for one month. I really don't like my job because I think I ended up in the wrong industry/type of business. I'm hoping for any suggestions, advice, or thoughts about how I can go about figuring out what industry/type of business/job would be a better fit for me. I am talented, smart, and hard working, but I feel like I am wasting my life because I'm not interested in my company or the work we do. [more inside]
I am lost, I am interested in being a positive influence to other people by making them laugh or helping them out with life problems. Need some suggestions. [more inside]
I like him, I am pretty sure he likes me, yay! Complications: we essentially work together, and he theoretically has a girlfriend. Tips/suggestions needed for navigating this situation with maturity, honesty, and a minimum of hurt feelings. Stories and anecdotes about similar situations--with good outcomes or otherwise--VERY welcome. [more inside]
Ok, so I've been having this problem lately (and I think it's related to my recent depression) where I meet new people and kind of expect that I'll never develop any friendship with them, but then it actually does happen, and I realize in horror that when they bring up previous conversations we've had, I act completely clueless because I didn't bother to remember it in the first place, and they say something like, "Remember we were talking about how my mom lives literally right next door to you?" (seriously, that happened today) and I remember suddenly, but clearly have already made it obvious that I didn't remember it in the first place... That's been happening a lot lately, and I want to know how to recall what I talked about with people more. [more inside]
I'm a recent college graduate and long time depression sufferer. Now I've suddenly been cast out into the "real world" with no directed day-to-day course of action and I'm feeling lost and needing help. Currently near by the San Francisco Bay Area, I'm needing to settle down soon to make some money and also receive the mental health care that I believe I need. The problem is that I'm totally broke. Any practical advice on breaking a stubborn depression when you're not made of money would be sincerely appreciated. [more inside]
How to do the right thing post break-up? [more inside]
I need help with my life especially what's going on with me nowadays. How to defeat my fear of failure? How should I start living a fresh life? How do I actually start? [more inside]
Lawyer people: I am a lawyer licensed in Illinois and have started to do some solo practice work. Do I need to form a LLC? Why? [more inside]
Beginning this week, I will start using a Windows XP notebook as my home computer; to date my personal computers have been Macs. I've done some preliminary research as to Windows alternatives to programs, but I'd appreciate three areas of people's suggestions: (i) general tips for owning a Windows machine as your home machine; (ii) specific tips for people migrating from a Mac to a Windows machine; and (iii) critiques and/or alternate suggestions for Windows alternatives to the Mac programs I've used. [more inside]
What can I do to make life easier on my family and i? (were broke) [more inside]
Starting a Non-Profit... Where to start? [more inside]
I want to upgrade my HTC Touch HD GSM Windows OS from 6.1 to 6.5. What is 1.56.OliNex simple comprehensive English? what is the difference between upgrading through HSPL and USPL? I don't really know the meaning and the difference between HSPL and USPL, and which one is recommended and less risky? I went to xda-developers.com and couldn't comprehend there well.
Stuck in a rut. Help me find meaning, direction, and help me get back on my feet. [more inside]
So I'm going to Italy for a class and then I'm planing on traveling around for a little while afterwords in the month of August. I'll probably stay mainly in Italy, but I would like to go to Greece and maybe visit my cousins in France. I've never done something like this so I really could use some help with my trip. Is there some guide for people for backpacking in Europe? What are just some overall recommendations on traveling like this? [more inside]
Help me plan a trip to Western Europe (Paris, London, and Rome) on the cheap. More details inside. [more inside]
What are the legalities of utilizing a homeless person/vagrant/urban outdoorsman for marketing purposes? I've read up on "Bumvertising", but other than some negative feedback from homeless persons advocates (wikipedia) what happens when one of these "employees" happens to do something illegal? [more inside]
Lawyer type looking for possible non-lawyer work needs advice. Okay, you-are-not-my-career-counselor, but I am appealing to the hive mind for advice. I am looking for a job and I need a fresh set of ideas. My fact pattern is a bit odd, and I feel like I’m treading the same ground over and over again in my current search, I want to expand it and don’t know which way to go. Lengthy fact pattern to follow: [more inside]
[Job Advice Filter] I applied and interviewed for an out-of-state job 8 months ago. Eventually I was offered the position, but I declined due to life circumstances that arose at the time. That same position is still open, and I'm interested. How should I proceed? [more inside]
I have some questions about making the big move to Toronto...I feel it's right for me, but need additional information. [more inside]
How to read PDF files on Amazon Kindle? [more inside]
My friend has just confided that her new husband is often verbally abusive, and occasionally physically abusive. I honestly don't know how to help. [more inside]
Why won't my girlfriend's MacBook start? It went to sleep when we did, last night, and when she got up this morning it was just: BLACK. [more inside]
I'm in an unusual situation and it's proving extremely difficult to change things. Short version: I've been out of work for five years mostly due to severe depression, anxiety, and an abusive relationship, and have been trying to establish myself since recovering with no luck. I'm a bookworm with a degree who seeks an entry-level publishing position, but will take other (hopefully related, but not an absolute requirement right now) positions in the interest of establishing a recent job history for myself. (Extra long version inside...) [more inside]
what is the dumbest, funniest, most peculiar piece of advice you have ever found in a self-help book?
what is the dumbest, funniest, most peculiar piece of advice you have ever found in a self-help book? [more inside]
I am 21 and have serious money problems, including a huge debt. The problems are turning into a depression. They affect my ability to commute to work (by car). And now, To top it off, an old friend of mine hung himself 2 days ago. Why? Because of money problems. I dont want to kill myself at all, but I am deeply depressed. Happy Stories, Life Advice, or insight .. all deeply apprecaited. [more inside]
I have a dear pal with a coke habit that has driven him to homelessness. He is not a US-native; he grew up in pre-change Eastern Europe. He does have a green card. He has had trouble hiolding job and appears to have never received training in money-management issues either in the US or at home. I do not want him to die, which he will surely do this year if things do not change. What can I do?
HelpMyWritingFilter: Am I overthinking or do I actually need these extra words of clarification when it comes to writing fiction? [more inside]
I'm going to be a freshman going to college in the fall. Any advice, helpful anecdotes, experiences, tips or suggestions? [more inside]
Due to a relationship breakup, I'm having a lot of trouble sleeping, and it's wreaking havoc with my life. I just can't sleep, I toss and turn most of the night. I never feel rested. I've tried Tylenol PM, but it just doesn't seem to work most times. I don't really want to drink myself into a stupor. Any suggestions on how I can fall asleep? [more inside]
Recommendations/thoughts about engaging a "life coach" [+] [more inside]
My writing has gone to hell lately. Fiction, documentation, casual correspondence - it all looks like, uh, bad and stuff. And it's just getting worse as I crank out junk after junk. Any advice on how I can sharpen myself up, and get back on track?
Aside from putting every site I tend to spend too much time on (including this one, shortly) into my hosts file pointing to 127.0.0.1, what are some other good tips on how to stay focused on your work and not get distracted?