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How can I make my dating profile more reflective of who I really am?

I'm getting back into dating but my OKCupid profile belongs to an insecure child. How do I update my profile to reflect the growth I’ve experienced in the last five years? [more inside]
posted by modernserf on Jul 29, 2016 - 10 answers

How do I credit?

I'll be paying off my student loans in the next year or so. When that's over, I'll be completely debt-free. I don't really want a credit card, and I'm not planning any big, credit-required purchases for the foreseeable future. I don't want to rule anything out though, and am interested in maintaining my hard-earned good credit score. So what should I do now? [more inside]
posted by saguaro on Sep 11, 2015 - 7 answers

What is a healthy response to trying to do a thing that is hard?

My response to trying to start a challenging task is to become cranky/grumpy/etc., and my partner's response is to avoid doing the task. What is a healthier approach? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 7, 2015 - 21 answers

From the mouths of babes...

I'm looking for instances of kids pointing out the hypocrisy of grownup society/adult etiquette, or questioning the reasoning of their elders. The funnier the anecdote, the better -- especially when the kid has a point. [more inside]
posted by egeanin on Feb 21, 2015 - 25 answers

RIYL The movies of Mike Leigh, BoJack Horseman

I've liked the Mike Leigh movies that I've seen - that sort-of-realistic, slice-of-life, kind of happy, kind of sad, this-is-how-we-settle-for-what-we-can-get-from-life-while-getting-what-we-can feel is pretty nice. What other movies, TV shows, & books can give me that same vibe? (BoJack Horseman gave me the same feel. Ditto Frances Ha, though it made me a bit more sad.) Thanks!
posted by Going To Maine on Sep 27, 2014 - 9 answers

Please help me be ok with the prospect of being a life-long renter.

Through a series of unfortunate events and choices, I've reached middle age without being able to purchase a house (I'm single, if it matters). It looks like my financial situation won't change in the forseeable future and I'm carrying a significant load of personal debt. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 8, 2014 - 60 answers

creative, ambitious, lazy

How does an adult develop "grit"? [more inside]
posted by serenity soonish on Aug 31, 2014 - 12 answers

How do I handle two siblings ganging up on me? Fun fact: they're 30.

My two older siblings and brother-in-law are beyond irritated with me when all I've been doing is minding my own business and forging my path into adulthood. They are never short of criticisms and any attempts at satisfying them are futile. Things got way out of hand this weekend to the point I am either ousted from future family functions or there will be an awkward vibe/fake niceness. [more inside]
posted by HiphopAnonymous on May 12, 2014 - 34 answers

How to maintain motivation for self-improvement?

I am a 27 year old woman who, after spending most of my twenties held back by depression and insecurity, is FINALLY taking steps to improve my personal and professional situation. However, I am battling doubts, regret, self-loathing, and the fear that it's all too late. How do I keep the self-criticism at bay long enough to actually get ahead? [more inside]
posted by celestine on May 4, 2014 - 22 answers

I miss living at college. Can I replicate it as a working adult?

Going to college in Ann Arbor was great in that everything was located conveniently, public transportation was great, and the city was filled with extremely intelligent people. I want to live somewhere like this eventually again, if possible. More criteria inside. [more inside]
posted by tweedle on Aug 26, 2013 - 25 answers

advanced adulthood primer for parentless children?

My parents were absent for much of my childhood, and I have been estranged from my family for years. I've been fully independent since my late teens, but I still learn best by example and rote memorization, and I did not really have anyone to learn from. I've built what I think is a good life, but I am still lacking a lot of practical information. What sort of resources are available for people in this position to figure out what they've missed and get themselves unstuck? Is there a book, checklist, or set of guidelines that I could use? Something like Advanced Adulthood for Dummies? [more inside]
posted by divined by radio on Aug 21, 2013 - 23 answers

What are some alternatives to going to college?

What are some options for a bright young man who wants to delay college? It can be volunteer-based, overseas, career ideas, special programs, alternate ideas of how to approach higher learning...anything. The main thing he wants is real-world experience outside of a classroom, something that will help him grow as a person and help him learn what he wants out of life. [more inside]
posted by piratesriding on Aug 10, 2013 - 38 answers

How can I learn to grocery shop and cook on a college budget?

I'm going into my senior year college and have relied on a fraternity meal plan and eating out often. What should I be buying at the grocery store regularly, and what are some quick and healthy meals to make regularly? [more inside]
posted by seandq on Jun 17, 2013 - 29 answers

Looking for practical suggestions about adulthood (laundry & furniture)

There are a couple of things that I have problems with: laundry, and getting my home looking furnished and decent. Especially my bedroom. Can you help? [more inside]
posted by htid on Mar 14, 2013 - 36 answers

International move planning for the generally risk-averse!

How do people decide to do and execute big moves abroad? Is it a dumb idea to move abroad without a job in hand first? [more inside]
posted by Papagayo on Jan 20, 2013 - 8 answers

What to do in case of 'helicopter parents'?

I am a young adult woman living in the home she grew up in, with parents and siblings. My parents are NOT abusive - they have always provided me with a place where I felt safe and cared for. But the way they relate to me now that I've gone to college and come back has not changed since I was several years younger, and I think it's affecting me negatively. I need to figure out what my action plan is for establishing my independence, both materially and emotionally. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 17, 2013 - 78 answers

How do you stay sane on two weeks of vacation a year?

I just accepted my first real job offer! I'm excited, but kind of freaking out about adjusting to a traditional working lifestyle. [more inside]
posted by circumspice on Jan 8, 2013 - 49 answers

I'm making a huge tiny mistake.

Is waiting for someone to contact you first giving them too much power? Is contacting them first desperate? Am I overthinking what is already a trainwreck (most likely)? Help me out, romantically-experienced MeFites! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 30, 2012 - 17 answers

What is the real difference between friends and lovers? (Codependency question)

What is the real difference between friends and lovers? (Codependency question) [more inside]
posted by Cybria on Dec 18, 2012 - 15 answers

I want to get on my own two feet. I need a plan of attack.

The Short: I'm a single young adult with a college degree and student loan debt. I live in a sterile small city with limited job prospects. I want to move out and get an entry-level or temporary job in a coastal U.S. city (NYC, LA, SF, Seattle). Please walk me through the logistics and help me devise a plan, as well as offer any advice you have on making it on your own in a new city (essentially, how to be an independent, self-sufficient adult). [more inside]
posted by matticulate on Dec 13, 2012 - 19 answers

My life was ruined by a dollar sign

Do you work in college admissions? Have you successfully navigated paying for college education? Are you an adult? I could use your advice on how to pay for my education, or advice to just give up. [more inside]
posted by FirstMateKate on Dec 5, 2012 - 27 answers

Starting over at 24

I'm 24 and very recently my first serious relationship (7 years) ended. Starting over with my life after my first traumatic upset and in need of some recommendations for... well, life (career, relationships, finances, the whole gamut). (please forgive the length) [more inside]
posted by znith on Nov 23, 2012 - 11 answers

Is there such a thing as a manageable amount of student loan debt?

Is there a manageable amount of student loan debt? Am I being paranoid about my own amount or should I avoid additional debt at all costs? [more inside]
posted by Papagayo on Nov 8, 2012 - 22 answers

Seeking the best stories, across all genres, about coming to terms with the world in the early adult years.

What are the best stories that feature young adults coming of age/coming to terms with life's imperfect realities? By "young adults" I mean "adults who are young," probably roughly 19-30, not "young people who are becoming adults." This maturing process can be central to the work or peripheral. One example: "The Great Gatsby." Short stories, novels, nonfiction, film, television and any other genre are all welcome.
posted by croutonsupafreak on Oct 30, 2012 - 29 answers

Keeping it grimey?

[MusicRecommendationFilter]I really enjoy the soundtracks to Ill Manors and Adulthood. Looking for similar dark British hip-hop. [more inside]
posted by kuanes on Oct 28, 2012 - 5 answers

How to emerge out of a deep, dark hole

How did you summon the strength to bounce back and/or change your life? [more inside]
posted by twentyfoursummers on Sep 1, 2012 - 19 answers

All it's cracked up to be?

The college experience: How important is it really, and other questions. [more inside]
posted by Urban Winter on Aug 27, 2012 - 40 answers

Path to Adulthood

What are important things that every adult should have? What are important things that adults should be able to do? In other words: what should I do, what do I need to have, and what life skills should I learn in order to become more of an adult? [more inside]
posted by livinglearning on Jan 19, 2012 - 55 answers

Help me become a grownup.

So, I've been joking for a while that I need, like, boot camp for how to be an adult. Help me find something? Maybe like Upward Bound for grownups meets finishing school plus...something? [more inside]
posted by tulip-socks on Dec 10, 2011 - 15 answers

A Fiat, an expulsion, and hard knocks

Please help me remember the title of a young adult novel I read in the late 1980s, involving a young American man who drives a Fiat, goes to college, joins a fraternity, and ends up getting expelled and working in a fast food restaurant. [more inside]
posted by jgfoot on May 9, 2011 - 2 answers

Help me be an adult!

What books/websites would you recommend for a recent college grad trying to navigate the practicalities of being a young adult, such as building credit, taking care of a car, wiring lighting, etc. [more inside]
posted by ribboncake on Apr 26, 2011 - 11 answers

Figuring out how to reconcile responsibilities to family and desire to grow the hell up already

Adult staying at home to help financially support parents, parents split up, total financial chaos ensues... NOW how/when am I going to become an independent, grown-up adult? [more inside]
posted by so_gracefully on Dec 15, 2010 - 11 answers

How do I be an adult?

What was that one most important thing you did in your mid-20s that made you feel like you were a Real Adult? [more inside]
posted by griphus on Dec 13, 2010 - 40 answers

What made you emerge?

Slightly older mefites: What is one thing about life that you get satisfaction out of now that you would not have appreciated in your early to mid 20s? [more inside]
posted by the foreground on Aug 31, 2010 - 76 answers

How old is 30?

I'm a woman who turned 30 this year. Some parts of my life are great; others aren't quite where I'd like them to be, and I'm starting to worry that 30 is Too Old to change that, especially in terms of relationships and future families (I'm currently single, would like in the future to be married with kids). I'm having some trouble telling the difference between 'reasonable concern' and 'worrying about nothing' here, and could do with some assistance. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 9, 2010 - 31 answers

helping high-functioning sister gain independence

special needs filter: how do I help my high-functioning sibling gain independence? what have your experiences with special needs siblings been like? [more inside]
posted by elephantsvanish on Jul 22, 2010 - 4 answers

Summer in the City

I'm going to be in Hamilton, ON for the rest of the summer with a pretty lax schedule, pretty empty wallet and pretty much nobody I know. What is there to do, see and enjoy in the GTA for someone as myself? [more inside]
posted by Throw away your common sense and get an afro! on Jun 24, 2010 - 14 answers

RZA Shaved the Track and He Caught Razor Bumps

Teach me how to shave properly. [more inside]
posted by orville sash on Jun 22, 2010 - 33 answers


Failedpolyamoryfilter: Help! I care for two people and I have to choose between them. What does one base a decision like this on? How do I tackle this situation? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 4, 2010 - 26 answers

Turning 30. Handling it poorly.

I'm not talented at anything useful. I'm not passionate about anything specific. And I'm getting older. What now? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 30, 2010 - 32 answers

My little sister's growing up :'(

My younger sister is moving in with her future-fiancé. How to mark this passage, and what house-warming gift to buy them? [more inside]
posted by SebastianKnight on Nov 7, 2009 - 7 answers

Help me become a responsible adult...

Help me become a responsible adult... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 19, 2007 - 36 answers

What does it means to be an adult and how do I become one?

What does it means to be an adult and how do I become one? [more inside]
posted by bluenausea on May 9, 2007 - 48 answers

Is there a "user's manual for grownup life" out there somewhere?

My current level of "life management" skills aren't cutting it anymore (not that they ever did so great to begin with). How can I get my act together? [more inside]
posted by shelbaroo on Mar 24, 2006 - 20 answers

What am I up against learning to play an instrument as an adult?

What are your experiences learning to play an instrument as an adult? [more inside]
posted by tomble on Oct 3, 2005 - 8 answers

Where's the fun?

Is anybody having fun? [more inside]
posted by argybarg on Mar 1, 2005 - 45 answers

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