My parents are in their mid-sixties. I'm in my forties. I want to be the best daughter I can be while I still have them around. What things do you wish your adult children would do more of (or less of) to make you feel loved and supported? I know what's needed and possibly appreciated may vary based on people's physical abilities, income levels, etc. I just want to get some ideas from people who have children my age of things they've appreciated that I may not have thought of, so all ideas welcome. Thanks!
I want to get my girlfriend something crafty or hands-on for Christmas. I know she has a secret fascination with geology, and we've talked about how she wishes she'd been able to play with science kits when she was a kid. So I really want to get her a science kit now, ideally something geology-related, but is it possible to get one that's maybe one a little more engaging for a woman in her 30s? [more inside]
As a follow up to my previous question, I'm thinking that going back to school for a masters in public health would be the most rewarding solution. Advice on weighing the pros and cons of this decision appreciated. [more inside]
Recommend somewhere warm and beautiful in the Caribbean, adults only, 4-5 star, all inclusive. Prefer something off the beaten path/lesser known. [more inside]
I've decided I'm done carrying heavy purses and doing damage to my shoulders and back. But that means a backpack. However I'm a woman in my 30s who dresses nicely for work (and stylishly otherwise). Women who have found stylish backpacks, what are your recommendations? Price range up to $250ish, leather, tan/light brown. Thank you!!
Once a week I would like to have Do a Thing Night with my husband, where we do something at home after the kids are in bed, that is outside our daily repertoire. I would like ideas for things to do that are 30-45 minutes, don't require a ton of set-up and clean-up, and don't require excessive advanced planning or supply purchases. Snowflakes inside! [more inside]
Now I want to change. Help me stay on this path. [more inside]
I work at country level in a global organisation. I identified a key regional growth initiative and built an action plan for it. It has had strong support from the country managers and lukewarm support from the dedicated regional team. The project recently came to the attention of the global board in a positive way. As a result, the regional manager (my boss's boss) has publicly stripped me of the leadership role and given it to one of his dedicated regional team. My manager has appealed on my behalf, but to no avail. Besides finding a new job (working on it!) how can I be an adult about this and salvage my reputation? [more inside]
Why do I feel like I'm not really an adult yet and completely embarrassed by that? What can I do to make myself feel like proper grown up? [more inside]
The love of my life has recently been diagnosed with stage three breast cancer. This seemed to come out of nowhere. In the space of a month from one checkup to the next she developed a 2.5 centimeter tumour. I'm lost. [more inside]
I'm in my thirties and I just got my first 'grown-up' job. Now find me a book that teaches me grown-up finances. [more inside]
When I was about 20 I had an performing arts teacher who told me that my body was going through some important metamorphosis, and that another important transformation will occur when I am 27. Well, I'm now 29, and I think I have observed that transformation in myself and in many of my close friends... [more inside]
I would like to learn how to play the piano and am considering whether to learn via adult education courses, private lessons or teach myself. Or even a mix. [more inside]
How can I expand the social consciousness of my book loving nieces? [more inside]
I played piano for over 7 years as a child, quit playing (we moved away from the piano), but stayed in choir well into my 20's. [more inside]
I want a sunlight alarm clock for me and one for my four-year-old. We've all been having trouble getting up in the dark and it's been negatively affecting our morning routine. So I could buy a couple. On the other hand, those remote controllable LED bulbs intrigue me. Maybe that would be more fun? Please share your experiences with either/or, and help me decide. [more inside]
Where can I find slightly fancy, office-appropriate, preferably elbow-sleeve tops? Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
I hate to live alone. Does that mean I fail as an adult? [more inside]
How can I best prepare for (and get the most out of) ballet as an adult beginner? [more inside]
My SO is in his thirties and has never really learnt to tie his shoelaces properly. How do I teach him? [more inside]
I've always known I was a little different. I have trouble remembering things from my relatively normal childhood, so it took until high school to connect the few dots I had, but after I did that, I relished in the attraction I felt for certain other men. It was exciting and made me feel as though I was part of a community with a common story. I grew up with conservative parents who I haven't been able to tell but who I suspect have an inkling, given the things they found left open on my teenage computer and my shy, sensitive nature. I was fine with not making it a part of my identity and limited its sphere of influence to my taste in porn and online friendships. I never felt the need for a relationship- with women or men- but I enjoyed the way validation from "manly" men made me feel both emotionally and physically. [more inside]
I am trying to become more emotionally independent from my parents. I had a very traumatic experience with them many years ago, and I don't know how to resolve the lingering insecurity. Due to the nature of the trauma, I've had a lot of trouble using therapy to resolve this issue. What can I do to stop craving their approval? [more inside]
I am searching for the name of a fantasy novel from childhood, which has been calling to me lately in a way that may greatly inform my artwork. It has been fruitless to google, as I can only remember certain clues about its plotline and cover illustration. Help me, metafilter! The internet is great but some quandaries need humans. (Read extended explanation for the clues) [more inside]
Help name that blog: adult toy store clerk edition. [more inside]
Who are the most enthusiastic adult film performers today? [more inside]
I am looking for online classes about adult education course planning. I have been training groups in fundraising for a while and want to get more professional about it. Bonus if the courses are interactive.
Need help identifying a book from childhood. [more inside]
I am trying to remember the name of a fantasy book I read around 1990 or so. It was written for pre-teens/young adults, took place on another planet, involved a longish journey on some sort of camel-esque creature and the development of a relationship between a trainee warrior-type and some sort of novitiate. Any ideas as to what this book could be? [more inside]
I want to become a Doctor. With my history and circumstances, is this a realistic goal or just a daydream? [more inside]
Do other people see this as normal, or am I clueless because I've never had children? [more inside]
I'm most productive when I'm being competitive and there's outside pressure. I'd like to find some competitions or groups to give me this opportunity. [more inside]
Guys singled out to the exclusion of girls. Why? [more inside]
I was reviewing my link profile and found out that I had links from shady websites I have never requested links from. they apparently link from a page but when you click on it, you get redirected to a porn site. my question is how can they achieve that? second how do you stop it or prevent it from happening. here are some of the examples: [more inside]
Please name some Paranormal Young Adult fiction tropes and cliches (obvious or obscure) so I can avoid doing them myself in the book I am writing. Thanks! [more inside]
I'm an adult learning to swim for the first time at the YMCA. I've only had 1 lesson so far and the instructor seemed encouraging. However, he did not address my fear of water and did not take the time to help me become comfortable with the water (submerging my face in the water, etc.). On the first day, he showed me how to kick while sitting on the pool edge, how to float on my back, how to kick using kickboard, and then he moved on to telling me to put my hands up in a torpedo position, face in the water, then glide forward while kicking. He was on the other side to catch me. I sunk every single attempt and he kept telling me to try again. I was so terrified that I don't want to come back to next class. Since then, I've been coming to the pool and practicing on my own. I feel like I'm more comfortable than the first day but I'm still afraid to come back for the next lesson this Saturday. This is the first instructor I've ever had so I'm not sure how to judge how he's doing. Do you think I should quit and get another one? The staff members at the Y that I've talked to told me that he's a good instructor but can be a very demanding. Please give me your advice! Thank you!
I'm about to go through some serious life changes (first "real" job, first time living alone, etc.) and could use some advice seeing as I don't really feel like an adult... [more inside]
I am a woman in my late 20s. Lately I've been feeling like all of the adults I know are more mature and adult-like in the way they hold themselves and behave than I am. I don't know how to get that or be more like that. What am I doing wrong? What to do? [more inside]
After spending several years reading largely YA, I'd like to read some grown-up secondary world fantasy novels. Persnickety tastes below the fold. [more inside]
I am wondering if I should continue a friendship with a woman I met on our old job almost 20 years ago. Some background: we're both in our 40's, married, and have children. We live in different cities, my family moved from our hometown 14 years ago. I work outside the home, she is a sahm since she had her first child. We have corresponded mostly by e-mail, facebook, text message over the years. When we both worked we would literally "talk" via e-mail the entire day. We have been there for each other through some really serious stuff, i.e. marital problems, deaths, pregnancies, illnesses. [more inside]
For her bat mitzvah, I would like to give my niece a book that is age appropriate but will also have lasting value. Suggestions? [more inside]
I've recently finally gotten really fit and in shape, after spending most of my 27 years...not doing that. I've been looking for something local and athletic to do, both for fun and for fitness, but since I haven't played sports since I was 12 or so, my skills are lacking. However, all the local instruction is oriented towards youth, so I turn to you folk for aid. How can an sports newb adult learn how to play? [more inside]
Simply put, if one goes shopping for such things in traditional shops, it's shocking the markup %. Does the hive have any recommendations for sites with broad variety and competitive pricing?
My sister (married, one child) and I (married, no kids) want to plan a joint family vacation. We do not want our parents (divorced, both remarried) to come. Our mom is extremely sensitive/dramatic, and we are hoping to avoid a major meltdown from her. Help? [more inside]
I have an adult website so I can't submit articles to normal article directories and get a link back for SEO. Is there a list of adult article directories where I can submit articles or even short stories and include a link in the article or bio?
Interesting gifts for my family - give me some inexpensive gift ideas for weird, funny, creative, or out of the ordinary gifts. Bonus if I can order them online and get them on time for Xmas, still. [more inside]
What are presents/things I don't know I want? [more inside]
Seeking the best stories, across all genres, about coming to terms with the world in the early adult years.
What are the best stories that feature young adults coming of age/coming to terms with life's imperfect realities? By "young adults" I mean "adults who are young," probably roughly 19-30, not "young people who are becoming adults." This maturing process can be central to the work or peripheral. One example: "The Great Gatsby." Short stories, novels, nonfiction, film, television and any other genre are all welcome.
Seeking your ideas for free or inexpensive crafts for adults that can be completed within 2-3 hours with very little instruction required. Striving for a fun process and a pleasing end product. No worthless, ugly or junky, please. [more inside]
Four-year-olds can do it. Grannies can do it. My mom can do it. I could do it myself thirty years ago, but it isn't true that you never forget. How can I re-learn to ride a bike? [more inside]
How do I help my boyfriend, who I think has adult separation anxiety disorder? How do I deal with his neediness without feeling unhappy or guilty? [more inside]