I want a sunlight alarm clock for me and one for my four-year-old. We've all been having trouble getting up in the dark and it's been negatively affecting our morning routine. So I could buy a couple. On the other hand, those remote controllable LED bulbs intrigue me. Maybe that would be more fun? Please share your experiences with either/or, and help me decide. [more inside]
Where can I find slightly fancy, office-appropriate, preferably elbow-sleeve tops? Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
I hate to live alone. Does that mean I fail as an adult? [more inside]
How can I best prepare for (and get the most out of) ballet as an adult beginner? [more inside]
My SO is in his thirties and has never really learnt to tie his shoelaces properly. How do I teach him? [more inside]
I've always known I was a little different. I have trouble remembering things from my relatively normal childhood, so it took until high school to connect the few dots I had, but after I did that, I relished in the attraction I felt for certain other men. It was exciting and made me feel as though I was part of a community with a common story. I grew up with conservative parents who I haven't been able to tell but who I suspect have an inkling, given the things they found left open on my teenage computer and my shy, sensitive nature. I was fine with not making it a part of my identity and limited its sphere of influence to my taste in porn and online friendships. I never felt the need for a relationship- with women or men- but I enjoyed the way validation from "manly" men made me feel both emotionally and physically. [more inside]
I am trying to become more emotionally independent from my parents. I had a very traumatic experience with them many years ago, and I don't know how to resolve the lingering insecurity. Due to the nature of the trauma, I've had a lot of trouble using therapy to resolve this issue. What can I do to stop craving their approval? [more inside]
I am searching for the name of a fantasy novel from childhood, which has been calling to me lately in a way that may greatly inform my artwork. It has been fruitless to google, as I can only remember certain clues about its plotline and cover illustration. Help me, metafilter! The internet is great but some quandaries need humans. (Read extended explanation for the clues) [more inside]
Help name that blog: adult toy store clerk edition. [more inside]
Who are the most enthusiastic adult film performers today? [more inside]
I am looking for online classes about adult education course planning. I have been training groups in fundraising for a while and want to get more professional about it. Bonus if the courses are interactive.
Need help identifying a book from childhood. [more inside]
I am trying to remember the name of a fantasy book I read around 1990 or so. It was written for pre-teens/young adults, took place on another planet, involved a longish journey on some sort of camel-esque creature and the development of a relationship between a trainee warrior-type and some sort of novitiate. Any ideas as to what this book could be? [more inside]
I want to become a Doctor. With my history and circumstances, is this a realistic goal or just a daydream? [more inside]
Do other people see this as normal, or am I clueless because I've never had children? [more inside]
I'm most productive when I'm being competitive and there's outside pressure. I'd like to find some competitions or groups to give me this opportunity. [more inside]
Guys singled out to the exclusion of girls. Why? [more inside]
I was reviewing my link profile and found out that I had links from shady websites I have never requested links from. they apparently link from a page but when you click on it, you get redirected to a porn site. my question is how can they achieve that? second how do you stop it or prevent it from happening. here are some of the examples: [more inside]
Please name some Paranormal Young Adult fiction tropes and cliches (obvious or obscure) so I can avoid doing them myself in the book I am writing. Thanks! [more inside]
I'm an adult learning to swim for the first time at the YMCA. I've only had 1 lesson so far and the instructor seemed encouraging. However, he did not address my fear of water and did not take the time to help me become comfortable with the water (submerging my face in the water, etc.). On the first day, he showed me how to kick while sitting on the pool edge, how to float on my back, how to kick using kickboard, and then he moved on to telling me to put my hands up in a torpedo position, face in the water, then glide forward while kicking. He was on the other side to catch me. I sunk every single attempt and he kept telling me to try again. I was so terrified that I don't want to come back to next class. Since then, I've been coming to the pool and practicing on my own. I feel like I'm more comfortable than the first day but I'm still afraid to come back for the next lesson this Saturday. This is the first instructor I've ever had so I'm not sure how to judge how he's doing. Do you think I should quit and get another one? The staff members at the Y that I've talked to told me that he's a good instructor but can be a very demanding. Please give me your advice! Thank you!
I'm about to go through some serious life changes (first "real" job, first time living alone, etc.) and could use some advice seeing as I don't really feel like an adult... [more inside]
I am a woman in my late 20s. Lately I've been feeling like all of the adults I know are more mature and adult-like in the way they hold themselves and behave than I am. I don't know how to get that or be more like that. What am I doing wrong? What to do? [more inside]
After spending several years reading largely YA, I'd like to read some grown-up secondary world fantasy novels. Persnickety tastes below the fold. [more inside]
I am wondering if I should continue a friendship with a woman I met on our old job almost 20 years ago. Some background: we're both in our 40's, married, and have children. We live in different cities, my family moved from our hometown 14 years ago. I work outside the home, she is a sahm since she had her first child. We have corresponded mostly by e-mail, facebook, text message over the years. When we both worked we would literally "talk" via e-mail the entire day. We have been there for each other through some really serious stuff, i.e. marital problems, deaths, pregnancies, illnesses. [more inside]
For her bat mitzvah, I would like to give my niece a book that is age appropriate but will also have lasting value. Suggestions? [more inside]
I've recently finally gotten really fit and in shape, after spending most of my 27 years...not doing that. I've been looking for something local and athletic to do, both for fun and for fitness, but since I haven't played sports since I was 12 or so, my skills are lacking. However, all the local instruction is oriented towards youth, so I turn to you folk for aid. How can an sports newb adult learn how to play? [more inside]
Simply put, if one goes shopping for such things in traditional shops, it's shocking the markup %. Does the hive have any recommendations for sites with broad variety and competitive pricing?
My sister (married, one child) and I (married, no kids) want to plan a joint family vacation. We do not want our parents (divorced, both remarried) to come. Our mom is extremely sensitive/dramatic, and we are hoping to avoid a major meltdown from her. Help? [more inside]
I have an adult website so I can't submit articles to normal article directories and get a link back for SEO. Is there a list of adult article directories where I can submit articles or even short stories and include a link in the article or bio?
Interesting gifts for my family - give me some inexpensive gift ideas for weird, funny, creative, or out of the ordinary gifts. Bonus if I can order them online and get them on time for Xmas, still. [more inside]
What are presents/things I don't know I want? [more inside]
Seeking the best stories, across all genres, about coming to terms with the world in the early adult years.
What are the best stories that feature young adults coming of age/coming to terms with life's imperfect realities? By "young adults" I mean "adults who are young," probably roughly 19-30, not "young people who are becoming adults." This maturing process can be central to the work or peripheral. One example: "The Great Gatsby." Short stories, novels, nonfiction, film, television and any other genre are all welcome.
Seeking your ideas for free or inexpensive crafts for adults that can be completed within 2-3 hours with very little instruction required. Striving for a fun process and a pleasing end product. No worthless, ugly or junky, please. [more inside]
Four-year-olds can do it. Grannies can do it. My mom can do it. I could do it myself thirty years ago, but it isn't true that you never forget. How can I re-learn to ride a bike? [more inside]
How do I help my boyfriend, who I think has adult separation anxiety disorder? How do I deal with his neediness without feeling unhappy or guilty? [more inside]
Adult swimming beginners: what motivated you to learn how to swim? What techniques did you find useful in swimming lessons and what things made you uncomfortable? [more inside]
Browser say what? Trying to find some learning material (online or books) for a 35 yo adult. [more inside]
Help me be a grown-up. I am turning 25 soon, and I'm beginning to realize that I don't really enjoy living like an irresponsible kid anymore! [more inside]
Where's a good place for an adult to take driving lessons in Toronto? [more inside]
Help me come up with a loooong list of newly-available opportunities conferred upon one's 18th birthday in the US beyond the obvious biggies. My niece is celebrating her 18th birthday with me, wants to take advantage of her new adult status, and I want to present her with a ludicrously long and goofy list of "celebratory options." [more inside]
Help find a Boston or Manhattan psychiatrist who takes 1199 insurance and can see a new patient soon. My dear friend is in serious distress. [more inside]
What can I do to cope with relationship (adult) separation anxiety/missing someone strongly? It happens after just one day without seeing my partner. I don't want to get clingy or go through so much ickiness so I need some coping ideas! [more inside]
Am I fine? Is the doc a quack? Is this part of the process? Adult ADD content [more inside]
I need names of United States banks that offer merchant accounts for adult web businesses. [more inside]
I want to find a/some adult pacifiers. Except, I want them relatively inexpensive. Google-fu failing! [more inside]
I need some advice on how to communicate better with my dad and hopefully improve our relationship. [more inside]
My moms want me to devote my life to writing. I'm 30 and want to explore life. How do I get them off my back?
My moms want me to devote my life to writing. I'm 30 and want to explore life. How do I get them off my back? [more inside]
How do I become even better friends with my friends? [more inside]
In my mid-20s. Am just now really getting into the dating scene. Help me figure out how not to deal with this like a teenager. [more inside]
I'm an adult child of alcoholics, and I've just recently come to realize I actually do exhibit many of the classic behaviors of one. Now that I have that figured out, how do I retrain myself to NOT do those things? [more inside]