My boyfriend of 5 months has recently confessed that the sexual problems we'd been having are largely due to his addiction to masturbating/porn. He has decided that he needs to quit and "reboot" his brain-- he's joined "nofap" on reddit, and seems very committed to making this change. It's been about two weeks since he took on the "challenge." It's a bit hard for me because a) I want to support him in any way I can while taking care of myself and b) I feel a overwhelmed by the extent of his problem and how it interrelates with our relationship. Help! [more inside]
I am already doing no contact and no exposure to my ex. Still, I get very regular cravings, thoughts, and dreams about them. It takes time out of my day, and disrupts my other relationships. I don't imagine I can make this stop, maybe ever, or for a long time. It's already been about a year. What are some practical, concrete tips to make this impact me less? [more inside]
I'm sort of new to watching tv. But thanks to Roku and Amazon Prime, I'm all "whoooooa this is awesooommmmeee!"... for, like, an entire day. How do I know how much tv is 'normal', since I'm prone to being sedentary and depressed at times, and really can't tell? [more inside]
I am in physical rehab right now after having surgery from a chronic sports injury. I am a little antsy to say the least, I can't do sports, and I want to understand my addiction better. I googled and couldn't find any good resources, books, movies, forums, anything will help. At this point I'm trying to AT LEAST make it to the end of my rehab (4 more months) without relapsing and going to play basketball and re-injuring myself. To call it a sports addiction is interesting in a few ways. I'm not addicted to exercise. It's sports, like basketball, soccer, football etc. And it may or may not be an "addiction" but I am strongly desiring to play sports with my friends, it's my favorite thing to do in the world, it's really fun. I'm a former professional athlete, and I know some people will say take up new hobbies.. uh huh,..
Did you kick your coffee-drinking habit? If so, how? [more inside]
I have a problem with intense physical anxiety. As anyone knows who has gone through this, it takes a long time before you can see a psych and get medication that works for you. I've finally done so, but in the period before getting help I relied on opiates to cope. Now I'm addicted and want to stop being dependent, but I have a new job and can't screw it up. [more inside]
My mother-in-law is very ill. In short, she is suffering from obesity, diabetes, hoarding, incontinence and mental health issues. Her husband is beyond the end of his rope and is thinking of leaving her. What can we do? [more inside]
I have been sober for almost two years from Short acting opiates. I quit my habit before it got out of control. I was using opiates about 5 out of the 6 days a week and it was getting worse. I would do about 60 mgs of oxy each time. I dont want to drink right now, but maybe a couple of years down the road I would like to have a drink. I never had a problem drinking at all. I know I am getting ahead of myself here, but I am just curious if it has been done? I went out with my friends this weekend and they were all drinking. I felt kind of left out. It was really not a big deal but I am still pretty curious.
My dad is around 70 years old and has subsisted on a steady diet of shortbread cookies (those ones in the yellow box from the convenience store) and vanilla Ensure drinks for the past 2-3 years. How can we help him to help himself and eat real, nourishing food? [more inside]
My [possibly workaholic] wife works seven days a week as a ski instructor. I live and work two hours away during the week, and then I drive up to see her on the weekends. When I'm there on the weekends, I spend an average of four hours a week with her. Usually she is physically, mentally, and emotionally exhausted from working so much. Needless to say, it does not feel like she is there for me. When I tell her I would like to spend more time with her, she tells me I'm too needy and dependent on her. I would like her to take off a Saturday or Sunday every week so we can spend time together. Is that asking for too much? What other requests/things can I do to make life more manageable? Thanks for your help. P.S. You get bonus points if you have worked in the ski industry and can explain how difficult it is to ask for weekends off! :-)
I have been sober for 8 months. I was on suboxone for 16 months then got off in May of last year. I have not taken pain pills in 2 years. I never attended any AA or NA program. IT is not for me. The problem is over the last 9 weeks I have been obsessing over my past use. This scares me and makes me fear I will relapse. I never want to do that stuff again, but it scares me that it is always on my brain. My therapist said sometimes it takes a year to die down. I hope I make it. Anyone have any previous experience with this?
Beyond the initial challenges of quitting smoking, what are the longer-term effects? How does life actually change? [more inside]
I feel like I'm in a love triangle, help me breakup with my girlfriend. [more inside]
Need help breaking an internet addiction before school begins. [more inside]
Two of my family members are interested (separately) in getting treatment for what seems to be depression. They are both in the Columbus, OH, area. I'd like to help them find services, but given their circumstances (detailed inside) and the fact that I'm in another state, I'm not sure where to start. [more inside]
What things help with your recovery besides meetings and aa? Please share some examples of how you recovered without aa. I want to try a different way, but dont think it will work because the aa is the only way saying has been drilled in my head.
Do I have to believe in the disease model of addiction to be successful in my recovery? I go to this counselor and he says in order for me to be happy I need to buy into NA and make friends there to live a happy healthy and normal life. I dont like NA and dont believe in the principles. Why cant I just say I was on drugs and now I am off without having to talk about it all the time? Is this the only way to happiness? He said I am fighting my disease and will never be happy if I dont try it. I have been sober for 5 months and I have real bad days and some good days. I am always overanalyzing things. I started CBT and that has seemed to make me more anxious at the moment. He also says that in my case CBT wont work unless I stop fighting my disease. I dont see how that makes sense.
My sober, drug addict husband was prescribed a cream for his painful arthritis. We always have a sobriety plan in place when he has to take strong pain medicines for legit reasons. Do we have to do the same thing for this cream? Also, what is in this medicine? [more inside]
My Little Brother is directionless after dropping out of college. He spends every day sleeping until 2, waking to smoke up, and then watching TV. I'm worried that weeks of complacency will lead to months of inactivity and eventually years of a pattern of self-defeating behavior. But I don't know what else I can tell him. [more inside]
My fiance went on a massive alcohol binge this week, two weeks before our wedding, and has left me. Any suggestions for coping with the devastation and loss I am feeling? Portland, OR-specific suggestions are especially welcome. [more inside]
I just found out my landlord is a meth addict. How worried should I be? [more inside]
I'm looking for tips and coping strategies and insight for living with a food addict. My domestic partner is now a diabetic and gets pancreatitis because of his overeating. I want ideas for how to lessen the impact on the household and to avoid obsessing about the situation. [more inside]
To smartphone or not to smartphone? Can I have the advantages without being sucked in by the electronic leash? [more inside]
Please help me buckle down and survive the 16 months I have left before my husband abandons me and our kids. [more inside]
I am utterly enthralled with validation and praise, to an unhealthy extent. I want to change this. [more inside]
Please help me find some alternative activities to drugs and booze - stuff to keep me diverted and entertained during the long nights of insomnia and loneliness I'm looking forward to over the next few months. I'm looking for both general and specific recommendations - books to read, films to watch, games to play, things to cook and activities outside the house I could get involved in. [more inside]
Dealing with a friend who is in a bad place in her life - how can I handle this situation with grace and as few hurt feelings as possible? [more inside]
I graduated college a year ago and moved to Baltimore. I’m now considering moving back home to be close to family, save money and travel. Am I possibly making a huge mistake? Special complications inside. [more inside]
Help me understand Anger and its relation to self-esteem, loving relationships, circmstances, and daily life. Are you or have you been and angry person ? to what extend have you been able to spot the causes and / or gotten better ? How did it feel ? [more inside]
I'm having problems with my escapism. How do I kick my TV addiction? [more inside]
Does anyone know of any way to cure yourself of an Afrin (oxymetazoline HCl) and / or Dristan (phenylephrine HCl) addiction? [more inside]
Trying to locate a study in which they gave a chimpanzee (or other ape?) all the hard drugs he wanted (though it may have just been cocaine and/or heroin?) and found that with sufficient care, the subject actually lived a perfectly healthy and long life. [more inside]
A close friend recently revealed to me that she's been using heroin on occasion. She is unconcerned; I am freaking out. I need advice on how to handle this, or if I can. [more inside]
How to get over psychological addiction to Vicodin? [more inside]
I'm addicted. To a person. And much like addictions to other things, I know I need rehab, but I'm not ready to go there. What can I do to manage until I bottom out/finally wake up/he drops me? [more inside]
I've been addicted to the Internet for a decade now and every aspect of my life has been affected. Help me rejoin society, get past this, learn time management skills, develop a work ethic, and piece my life back together. [more inside]
How do you stay sober through difficult times? [more inside]
Help me help a friend dealing with trauma/mental health/addiction issues in Georgia. [more inside]
My awesome neighbors need help with a hoarding problem. One spouse has created a living situation that is dangerous to the other and I am in the best position of all their friends and family to help them but I don't know how to tackle this delicate situation. [more inside]
Someone very close to me is a recovering meth user with 3 small children, her latest baby daddy is a recovering alcoholic who is also convicted rapist albeit on parole now. I am having some concerns about her and the kids but am at a loss as to what I should or even can do.... [more inside]
Question about the compulsion to drink beer disappearing when I exercise. [more inside]
The recovering addict and the… sports addict? Is this level of interest in sports normal? How can I not take the backseat to sports, while remaining considerate of his feelings as he deals with me dealing with multiple health issues? [more inside]
Is there a non-sweet milky drink that can replace my latte addiction? [more inside]
I'm meeting all my responsibilities but I don't feel invested in my own life. All I care about are fictional characters. [more inside]
My coworker lost her son to addiction earlier this month, and she has a younger son who also struggles with addiction. She needs counseling for both grief and for dealing with children with addictions. She's not able to find a therapist right now so I told her I would help. [more inside]
In the wake of Whitney Houston's death, I find myself thinking about the grotesque confluence of celebrity, addiction, mental illness and (frequently but not necessarily) death. I'd like to understand it better. Who has explored this thoughtfully, whether in essay, book, film, television, whatever?
Does anyone know where to buy Cheds or Cheez-Its in Japan? Mail order is best but anything helps. I've had precious little luck finding anything on the domestic market good enough to qualify as a replacement.
Will offering my full attention to my loved ones get them to reciprocate? [more inside]
Asking-for-a-friend filter: One of my closest friends recently began using pot. She told me that she liked it and plans to keep using it. I'm concerned because I dont want to see anything bad to happen to her. Should I be concerned? Can pot cause any serious problems, mentally or physically? Is there much of anything I can do at this point? We are still in high school too. Thanks for any advice you can give me. I really wish to help this friend. [more inside]
Techniques to break porn and masturbation addiction? [more inside]