Ex cheated on me. It hurts. She's now in an abusive, controlling relationship. Where do I draw the line between helping her and helping me? Many, many snow flurries inside. [more inside]
I stole from a daycare and am too ashamed to admit it to the carers. My kids will be going to this daycare next year. I am worried they know of my problem and will think less of me. [more inside]
So, my partner and I are at the stage of our relationship where we are discussing having children. I want to know about the impact of having a parent who is in recovery throughout your childhood. [more inside]
I have an English-language health handout that includes the self-care check-yourself acronym HALT (Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired - more background on it here). I want to have the handout translated into Spanish. Is there an "official" Spanish-language version of HALT that therapists use? I don't want to make up something new. [more inside]
A good friend has a drug problem (pain pills & xanax). He has been taking Subutex for a few weeks now and will be crashing at my place temporarily. How do I best help him through this? Tips, tricks, advice... things I should expect? [more inside]
A family friend needs help. Over the last few years he's been sinking more and more of his life into MMORPGs and internet time wasting. He's socially isolated -- no friends, low social skills. He was a pretty normal, fun kid up until about 15. He's in the midst of flunking out of his freshman year of college (after an in-between year spent similarly wasted). [more inside]
What things help with your recovery besides meetings and aa? Please share some examples of how you recovered without aa. I want to try a different way, but dont think it will work because the aa is the only way saying has been drilled in my head.
My fiance went on a massive alcohol binge this week, two weeks before our wedding, and has left me. Any suggestions for coping with the devastation and loss I am feeling? Portland, OR-specific suggestions are especially welcome. [more inside]
How do you find a Higher Power in 12-step recovery when you're a hardened atheist? [more inside]
A is not a heavy user, but not a once-in-a-blue-mooner either. And its not just pot. Its been going on for a long time and its starting to take its toll. I'm not sure if I can help her, or how. [more inside]
Compulsive web-browsing completely dominates my life. How do I physically stop myself from using the internet? [more inside]
What are some good books / music / gifts for when you get out of rehab? [more inside]
How do I help a friend in recovery from narcotics make it to two clean years? [more inside]
I have a pretty serious drinking problem which has caused me to "call in sick" too often at my job. I finally confessed to my supervisor that I have a drinking problem. I should have been fired long ago, but because I appealed to them for help, the company is willing to keep me on the payroll provided that I seek treatment for my addiction. Here's my dilemma: where I live, every alcohol/chemical dependency treatment program is based on Alcoholics Anonymous and its 12 Steps. I have an intrinsic aversion to anything even remotely associated with a Higher Power, God, Jesus, etc. I need to find a treatment facility ( either residential or out-patient) that'll help me get sober without all the spiritual mumbo-jumbo associated with AA and the 12 Steps. I live in Corpus Christi, Texas and it's important that any suitable treatment program be located somewhere nearby--preferably Austin since I have sober friends there. But I guess anywhere in Texas will do. Any suggestions?
You could call me an alcoholic in that I have drunk nearly every day for ten years. I am 34 years old. I am thin and healthy looking. Because I’m asking in part for medical advice I want to be very specific about the amount I drink. [more inside]
What to do now? I'm a single, mid-thirties female, and I have a crush. Oh, wait. It's a lot more complicated than that. I'm sorry this is so long... [more inside]
Any recommendations for online communities for people recovering from substance abuse? While I am not anti-12 Step, I would like an alternative.
My fun, happy, fairy-tale marriage of 2 months is imploding because my husband suddenly can't accept my past. Super-long explanation inside. [more inside]
Does it ever stop? I am a "recovered" heroin addict. Or maybe now I can say I "was" a heroin addict. I've been clean for 8 years, I have children, a career, a semblance of a responsible adult life that I am content with at 36, friends, the arts. I write grants for charities. I don't have to hide my past, it just doesn't come up anymore. But I dream of dope sometimes- vivid dreams in my sleep. If I am stressed out, my thoughts occasionally wander there... [more inside]