Divorce from abusive ex almost final, unexpectedly slept with a friend. We have loads in common but he's not (yet?) available. Cool it, or enjoy?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 17, 2012 -
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I moved into a new area, but then I didn't turn off my old cellphone (that my family got me) because my sister was sending me abusive messages and I wanted to collect them as proof just in case I use it in court, and now I got a message that said that I got tracked with the verizon Family Locator (since they were the owner of my old cellphone's account). I didn't even know such thing existed nor thought that my family would actually use that on me. I am terrified because now they know my location, they can just come down here. They were threatening to come over, hire a private cop and a private investigator, and etcetera for days. I am scared to go out the house. I feel messed up. It's already been a hectic week because I was moving my items (without my own car), going to job interviews, dragging groceries, etc... I don't want to burden my new roommates either.. what a shitty week. I tried so hard to find a safe place where no one can find me. I don't know what to do, feel so stupid. I know where the court is, should I just get the restraining order now? Even though my family knows my exact where about.
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posted by kopi
on May 10, 2012 -
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How can I emotionally begin to handle the end of my relationship with my ex-stepmother? This is the end of a very tangled family situation and I have no idea how to deal with it. I feel terrible.
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posted by athenadanae
on Jan 11, 2012 -
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Considering a restraining order against an ex, but I have a lot of questions about the logistics and just generally whether it's going to make the situation better or worse. For example, I don't think he knows where I live- so how would it even work? Many more questions inside.
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 26, 2011 -
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I was overjoyed to move several hundred miles away from my parents. Recently, they've decided they want to spend more time with family, and as of this week they'll have driven to see us three times in a year with little to no notice. Is there any reasonably graceful way to discourage/reduce these visits?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 19, 2011 -
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Where can I find resources on complicated grief, especially with regard to grieving something that never was?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 8, 2011 -
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I'm looking for songs from the vantage point of a possessive/threatening lover (Don't even
think about breaking up with/cheating on me songs).
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posted by dgaicun
on Mar 24, 2011 -
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How do I deal with a mother who has been in and out of an abusive relationship for years? She'll leave him for a few months, but always goes back. Can or will this ever stop? And how to I support her while not condoning her behavior?
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posted by Delfena
on Feb 6, 2011 -
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Question: Trying to rebuild after leaving an abusive relationship; how can I recover my lost sense of self, while facing a competitive job market?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 9, 2011 -
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I have an alcoholic friend whose behavior is getting increasingly disturbing and abusive. He sent me a frightening e-mail today and I'm scared and not sure what to do.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 4, 2010 -
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My friend's on-again/off-again nonstop crazy drama relationship just turned physically abusive six days ago. Now they are separated, again, and hopefully for good. I have reason to believe that the separation won't last, and I don't know how I could or should deal with that. Please help.
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 9, 2009 -
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It's taking me a really really long time to get over an abusive relationship. I keep thinking I've made huges strides and then I realize how far from normal my feelings and behaviour are. I know it's a matter of healing but I could do with advice on helping it along.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 11, 2008 -
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I'm worried that my male friend might be in some sort of abusive relationship. He's my best friend and seems to have been in a "spend all time with new GF and not call or visit friends" mode for 3 months, and we are all far past the teenage years.
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 22, 2008 -
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Domestic violence filter : Please help me to cope with my abusive und violent brother.
My twin brother gains satisfaction from ruining my life. What shall I do? (lengthy explanation)
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 30, 2007 -
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I was raised by an abusive father. Now in my early 30's I am looking ahead to the future when I may become a father. I am determined not to recreate the family environment I grew up in but know how these things sometimes turn out -- that people determined not to recreate something sometimes wind up doing so in an unforseen manner. I was in therapy for 2 years in my 20's to work on the issues but therapy is not an option now because of money. I have worked hard not to be my father, but part of me is afraid that I will wind up being like him as a parent. (In particular, I worry about being a father to a son because of my history). I am looking for information about the father-son relationship as well as information about how to be a good parent when you have a background like mine. Please offer advice, books, suggestions - anything that can help.
posted by anonymous
on Feb 13, 2005 -
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