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For my own sanity/happiness I have to end a LTR, need help

For my own sanity/happiness I have to end a LTR, like TODAY - I could use some advice. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 21, 2012 - 67 answers

Stories of abuse

Looking for good short stories or essays about abusive relationships [more inside]
posted by princeoftheair on Apr 16, 2012 - 9 answers

Let well enough alone?

Should I call my abuser on his behavior, even though it's been over twenty years since we've last spoken? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 13, 2012 - 75 answers

Memory loss as side effect of emotional abuse?

Is it common to forget specifics of emotional abuse? (potential triggers inside) [more inside]
posted by sockermom on Mar 22, 2012 - 19 answers

Just how common are abusive situations in academia? How do you survive and is it even worth it?

My girlfriend is 5 years in to a PhD program with an abusive (verbal, emotional, and mental) PI/lab. This seems to be a common theme in academia, just how common is it? How do you go about graduating if they seem to be working against you (assuming no fault on your part)? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 13, 2012 - 12 answers

How do you convince someone to leave an abuser?

He says she's crazy, she says she's not. How to help a friend escape an abusive situation? [more inside]
posted by Chelsaroo650 on Mar 9, 2012 - 17 answers

Stop it before it starts...

[Potential Abuse Trigger] YANML, yes I know. But can you hope me stave off a bad situation with a man that's abused my sister and other members of my family BEFORE it happens again? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 10, 2012 - 36 answers

Sexual relationship with someone with a bad history

I'm dating a girl who has had a difficult past and who seems to be strangely absent during sex. Help me figure out how best to deal with this. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 6, 2012 - 6 answers

How do I get out of this?

Escaping a bad life? [more inside]
posted by SquidlyDigi on Feb 5, 2012 - 35 answers

Can I ask my girl to stop talking to her cheater exes?

Is it unreasonably controlling of me to ask my girlfriend to not initiate online contact with a specific set of ex-boyfriends, namely those that she has cheated on her (ex-) husband or other boyfriends with? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 3, 2012 - 51 answers

How do I deal with abuse my girlfriend is going through?

Girl I am dating just admitted to me that her family was abusive and her older brother is still abusive towards her. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 20, 2012 - 29 answers

stepmom broke up with me

How can I emotionally begin to handle the end of my relationship with my ex-stepmother? This is the end of a very tangled family situation and I have no idea how to deal with it. I feel terrible. [more inside]
posted by athenadanae on Jan 11, 2012 - 35 answers

Help for someone helpless

Looking for emergency shelter for a pregnant woman first thing tomorrow morning. We're in Brooklyn. [more inside]
posted by hermitosis on Jan 9, 2012 - 21 answers

Books, forums, ??, for adult children of abusive parents who have (undiagnosed) cognitive and emotional issues?

What are some informative self-help books and other resources (preferably online or UK-based) for adults dealing with abusive parents who have undiagnosed cognitive deficits and are emotionally stunted? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 1, 2012 - 2 answers

Help me kill this zombie relationship for good

I'm in an unhappy, unhealthy relationship-- I'm scared I might even be emotionally abusing my boyfriend. Should I break up with him now or wait until later? How can I make sure that the break-up will last? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 30, 2011 - 57 answers

Another question about an insane mother

I have a great deal of contempt for my mother, which fills me with guilt. She has had serious psychiatric problems for her entire life. Although I know that she loves us, she is quite mentally ill, and I don't know how to cope with it. I need help learning how. (This is long, I apologize.) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 28, 2011 - 51 answers

I know it's the right thing to do. Why don't they?

How do I handle the reaction of my family and (people I thought of as) close friends to the news of my divorce? Lots of special snowflakes ahead. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 21, 2011 - 27 answers

Should I get a dog, even though my husband has a slight tendancy to violence?

My husband has anger issues. We are considering getting a dog, but I'm not sure I trust him to appropriately express his anger around the dog. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 9, 2011 - 33 answers

Please help me talk to my relative about his marijuana problem...

How can I talk to my relative about his marijuana problem? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 28, 2011 - 30 answers

Having trouble figuring out if I'm overreacting to my husband grabbing my arm

Help me figure out if this is a relationship dealbreaker-- my husband recently dragged me out of my chair, against my will. [more inside]
posted by DianaV on Nov 26, 2011 - 66 answers

How did you tell others you were in an abusive relationship?

I realized last night that I need to get out of my emotionally abusive marriage. I'm really scared for a lot of reasons. For those of you who have been in my shoes, how did you "come out" to others about your situation? How did you cope with people who told you you brought it on yourself? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 9, 2011 - 32 answers

Deliberately or otherwise, this person is lying about us

What do you do with a passive-aggressive, anonymous busybody neighbor? [more inside]
posted by The Winsome Parker Lewis on Oct 20, 2011 - 40 answers

History of Abuse

I went away to boarding school in 1993/4. During 1993, a teacher there who was sexually inappropriate. I sort of lost track of him, but found out today he is now the Head Director of a school, and on the board of the Assoc. of International School Heads, It was a long time ago, and I cannot prove anything, and do not want to go in guns half cocked, but I feel like I should say something. What are best practices here?
posted by anonymous on Oct 12, 2011 - 23 answers

How can I let go of past abuse?

Is it possible to let go of past injuries? My parents were abusive when I was growing up (both physically and emotionally) and I have been dealing with depression and anxiety ever since, with medication and therapy. Now, though, they have changed (really), and I'm trying to figure out how to let go of what happened and have a good relationship with the people they are now. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 7, 2011 - 16 answers

Stare down the emotional pit or look elsewhere?

How do you deal with difficult family situations without imploding? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 30, 2011 - 8 answers

How I should feel about my dad having a tumor?

My dad was an angry person throughout my life. He would throw temper tantrums to everyone else in the household. My mom would lose friends due to his behaviour. He has accused my mom of cheating, he makes decisions without listening to her and then throws temper tantrums when my mom tries to resist, and he has accused my mom of being lazy during times when she was the only one working. Neither my brother or I have much respect for him anymore, but we still love our mom. Mom phoned yesterday telling my dad has testicular cancer and is getting surgery for it. I'm coming in to visit at my mom's request. But she's going to try to make me go through the motions of pretending we're a healthy family. Am I wrong to not have strong mourning feelings towards my dad's cancer?
posted by DetriusXii on Sep 27, 2011 - 15 answers

Protection From Abuse againdt a Blogspot Writer.

I am a woman. A man I have a court-ordered PFA (Protection From Abuse) against started a blogspot.com page about me using MYNAME.blogspot.com to write viscous lies about me and my underage son. The blogspot page is, of course, the #1 result on google when googling my name. He is not impersonating me, but he is harassing me and my family. What can I do now? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 26, 2011 - 25 answers

Crazy family history...how do I avoid passing it on?

How do I break the cycle of abuse in my family and make a stable, happy and safe environment for my own (future) family? ( [more inside]
posted by snowysoul on Sep 23, 2011 - 21 answers

How to help my abused student?

One of my university students is being physically, mentally and emotionally abused by their parents and has asked me for help. What can/should I do as their teacher? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 15, 2011 - 13 answers

How to respond to a family vacation turned violent domestic incident?

My family just spent a week with my wife's brother and his family. Six kids, four adults, one week in their house. It was for the most part uneventful. In fact, it was great. We're now from the big city, they're from the suburbs in the South. We ate BBQ, fished, shot guns, and drank beer, all things we aren't able to do where we normally live. Then, the last night, the brother got violent. Started picking a fight that we couldn't stop, accusing us of mocking him and his family and wife. There was NO way to diffuse it. I can't tell you how much we tried to be solicitous. He ended up hitting my wife on the arm and shoving me, we ran out of the house in the middle of the night grabbing clothes and kids and stayed in a hotel. It's been a few days and my wife and I are now at her mom's house 30 minutes away - she doesn't seem to know what happened. Do we tell her? Do we report the incident to the police? How do I set parameters around ever seeing each other again (such as to go see a counselor)? This doesn't seem to be a normal pattern for him, but something in his relationship with his sister really, really set him off. I don't want to be unforgiving - I just can't predict if that firestorm could appear again and honestly that night i feared for my life and the lives of my wife and kids - so how do we move on from here? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 14, 2011 - 40 answers

Is there a reason for my inability to connect with guys and what can I do to be more at ease with them?

I’ve been trying to figure out why I can’t communicate with guys at a more personal level. I’m wondering if it’s just shyness or something more. [more inside]
posted by the borneo kid on Sep 1, 2011 - 24 answers

Therapist in PDX specializing in treatment of child abuse victims?

Where in Portland, Oregon can I find a female therapist specializing in treating victims of long-term abuse, starting from early childhood? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 10, 2011 - 4 answers

Resources on complicated grief

Where can I find resources on complicated grief, especially with regard to grieving something that never was? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 8, 2011 - 6 answers

Is there hope for my brother?

Mentally ill brother is getting worse...and worse...and worse. What are our options? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 23, 2011 - 12 answers

I'd like to not feel crazy anymore, but I'm scared of the doctor.

I suffer from severe anxiety and PTSD stemming from an abusive childhood. I have frequent panic attacks, flashbacks, and bouts of derealization that are terrifying to me. I'm going to see a psychiatrist soon, and I'd like to know what to expect. Help? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 30, 2011 - 10 answers

Help me identify abusive relationship

Please help me learn how to identify an emotionally/mentally abusive relationship. I am not sure if myne has always been one, or is slowly turning into one, or is not one. [more inside]
posted by amacph10 on Jun 15, 2011 - 137 answers

What are some of the best self-help books you read after leaving an abusive relationship?

What are some of the best self-help books you read after leaving an abusive relationship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 7, 2011 - 14 answers

What do I call this?

Some things happened to me when I was a child and I'm not sure what to call them but I think they were abusive? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 5, 2011 - 20 answers

OMG get me out of here.

Please recommend resources to avoid insanity in a family business. [more inside]
posted by motsque on Jun 3, 2011 - 11 answers

I want the babe to be safe.

Neighbor behavior filter: I hear my neighbor's baby (definitely a baby) crying. I hear the sound of a man yelling things like "shut up" or "stop crying". And then I hear the sound of a smack. This makes me feel horrified. But is it any of my business to try to help? [more inside]
posted by your mom's a sock puppet on May 25, 2011 - 40 answers

I've got a friend in a bad situation. How can she get out?

A good friend of mine - I'll refer to her as E - is living in a negative situation that she's ready to get out of. Short version: she's living with and basically looking after a toxic, alcoholic parent. E's done all she can, and it's time to leave. But there are some issues holding her back. How can she address these? Details below. [more inside]
posted by katillathehun on May 10, 2011 - 14 answers

Help me move forward from an emotionally tramatic year....

How can I restore my mental health/sanity after one stressful hell of a year? Additionally, any suggestions for starting to heal as a surviour of emotional abuse by a parent? [more inside]
posted by snowysoul on May 9, 2011 - 16 answers

Thriving as an adult after a dysfunctional authoritarian childhood?

Resources for adults who have trouble living day to day after growing up in an authoritative family in which abuse was present? [more inside]
posted by GEB's fun world on May 7, 2011 - 6 answers

How to change my I'm not lovable belief system?!? Help me!!

How can I fix myself so I can attract and believe in a healthy relationship is out there for me? I have great friends, I'm well-liked, I have a great career and have made tons of progress working on myself over the last ten years to make sure I don't adopt the patterns of my family of origin. I want a relationship but I still keep falling into the pattern of "I'll never meet anyone for me" or thinking that I'm meant to be alone AND I WANT TO STOP THIS BS ALREADY! Help/ideas please! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 7, 2011 - 8 answers

Questions to ask about entering a psychiatric facility

My spouse will soon be voluntarily entering a psychiatric facility in order to deal with some trauma from sexual and physical abuse when they were a child. I have some questions I hope you can help answer. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 31, 2011 - 10 answers

Help me help my neighbors dog!

Is there anything I can do to help this dog? [more inside]
posted by iabide79 on Feb 26, 2011 - 20 answers

Help me bounce back from an emotionally abusive relationship.

I just left an emotionally abusive relationship. And I feel... off. Help? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 23, 2011 - 24 answers

Chaining Up A Dog--How Can I Stop This?

My parents have a guard dog that they chain up, all day and all night. How do I stop this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 17, 2011 - 30 answers

Evidence-based donations

What organizations deserve my money to prevent child abuse and ameliorate the consequences? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 19, 2011 - 9 answers

Tell me about a study that links kindness and affinity.

We know that an abuser's contempt for his victim increases, the more he abuses her, in a vicious feedback loop. Are you aware of any studies suggesting the converse, that when I treat someone with kindness, my affinity increases, in a virtuous circle?
posted by markcmyers on Jan 13, 2011 - 5 answers

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