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How to discharge anger at an ex two years after the breakup?

When everything on the surface seems healed and healthy after a breakup, how do you quash obsessive thoughts and anger about an abusive ex- two years on? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 17, 2012 - 20 answers

Should I cool it with my long distance friend until he leaves his girlfriend?

Divorce from abusive ex almost final, unexpectedly slept with a friend. We have loads in common but he's not (yet?) available. Cool it, or enjoy? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 17, 2012 - 31 answers

How should my sister bring her son home, across state lines, during a messy divorce proceeding?

Asking for a friend: How should my sister bring her son home, across state lines, during a messy divorce proceeding? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 2, 2012 - 7 answers

Help me preserve my sanity long enough to escape my parents' household.

I'm a recent unemployed graduate who's stuck in an abusive household. Please help me develop a wellness strategy. [more inside]
posted by Ashen on Aug 13, 2012 - 67 answers

How do I share my abusive childhood experience with my in-laws?

How do I "read in" my in-laws on my childhood physical/verbal abuse? My wife's immediate family is very close and I spend a fair amount of time with them (I see some of them weekly and all of them at least once a month). One part of my life that I've only shared with my brother-in-law and his girlfriend (in a very generic way) is that I was sadistically abused by both of my parents for a good portion of my childhood. This has created a barrier between us and while I've only heard whispers about it from my wife, I know they sense that I don't give them much in terms of who I am and what I'm feeling. I've known them throughout my relationship with my wife which started over 16 years ago, so there's a lot of history there. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 8, 2012 - 34 answers

How to support the abused

I've started to date again after the end of an eight year relationship. The good news is I've met an amazing woman and we're starting to develop a more serious relationship. The part I (male) need help with is that it turns out she was physically, sexually, mentally, and emotionally abused in several previous relationships over the course of about 15 years. How do I support her as a new relationship partner? Can you recommend any good resources for me to read? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 1, 2012 - 11 answers

How do you move on in a healthy light from an abusive childhood?

No former teenage angst here; what do you do when your parents genuinely SUCK? [more inside]
posted by Chelsaroo650 on Jul 16, 2012 - 20 answers

Pull me out of the water? No, that just won't work.

My friend is in an abusive relationship and refuses help. How do I cope? [more inside]
posted by fearnothing on Jul 13, 2012 - 18 answers

Will learning to orgasm through masturbation help me through my divorce?

Will learning to orgasm through masturbation help me through my divorce? Female, been married 10 years, left because of verbal abuse, disturbed by reawakening of my sexuality now I'm "old" (nearly 40) and unloved. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 10, 2012 - 12 answers

Abuse, anger; how far should I go to support my girlfriend?

My girlfriend has suffered a lot, and is very angry: she wants me to confront my housemate for his passivity to the abuse she endured. Should I? Long and complicated. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 6, 2012 - 52 answers

How to move on from my abusive father?

Now that I know I hate my abusive father, what can I do specifically to move forward? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 26, 2012 - 23 answers

How to help a women in an abusive and controlling relationship?

I need advice about how to help a friend in a non-violent yet intensely abusive relationship, and about how worried I should be for her young daughter and what to do for her too. (We're all in a major Canadian city, we're not all Canadian.) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 29, 2012 - 18 answers

Did I just see someone get raped in porn?

NSFW porn question: I am a hetero woman and I like to watch hardcore porn once in a while. I just had an unpleasant experience, though. And I would like to know if what I saw is abuse or what the hell. [more inside]
posted by ADent on May 19, 2012 - 35 answers

So Confused Right Now.

How do I deal with being a platonic relationship? [more inside]
posted by DuchessProzac on May 18, 2012 - 15 answers

What do your dreams look like after prazosin?

PTSD and nightmares. How does prazosin actually help you? [more inside]
posted by kanata on May 10, 2012 - 10 answers

Can supportive adults help?

I am looking for article/s pertaining to childhood and outside adult support from a dysfunctional family. [more inside]
posted by annsunny on May 9, 2012 - 2 answers

What advice would help this family?

What can I do to help my mother and siblings cope with an abusive parent? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 5, 2012 - 5 answers

Empathic Vancouver, BC family lawyer?

Please help me find an empathic Vancouver, BC area family lawyer. [more inside]
posted by Chaussette and the Pussy Cats on Apr 30, 2012 - 4 answers

Help me help her.

Nutshell: I need a reputable, authoritative source of data about how many times the average victim of abuse/domestic violence/intimate partner violence returns to the relationship. [more inside]
posted by prefpara on Apr 27, 2012 - 6 answers

Worried about my little sisters

I'm worried that my little sisters may be in an abusive situation, but don't know what's really going on or where I should go from here. [more inside]
posted by whalebreath on Apr 26, 2012 - 18 answers

What else can we do?

Active domestic violence and emotional abuse in the unit above me... Help us brainstorm, are there other things we can do as neighbors with long ears? [more inside]
posted by Leucistic Cuttlefish on Apr 25, 2012 - 16 answers

For my own sanity/happiness I have to end a LTR, need help

For my own sanity/happiness I have to end a LTR, like TODAY - I could use some advice. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 21, 2012 - 67 answers

Stories of abuse

Looking for good short stories or essays about abusive relationships [more inside]
posted by princeoftheair on Apr 16, 2012 - 9 answers

Let well enough alone?

Should I call my abuser on his behavior, even though it's been over twenty years since we've last spoken? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 13, 2012 - 75 answers

Memory loss as side effect of emotional abuse?

Is it common to forget specifics of emotional abuse? (potential triggers inside) [more inside]
posted by sockermom on Mar 22, 2012 - 19 answers

Just how common are abusive situations in academia? How do you survive and is it even worth it?

My girlfriend is 5 years in to a PhD program with an abusive (verbal, emotional, and mental) PI/lab. This seems to be a common theme in academia, just how common is it? How do you go about graduating if they seem to be working against you (assuming no fault on your part)? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 13, 2012 - 12 answers

How do you convince someone to leave an abuser?

He says she's crazy, she says she's not. How to help a friend escape an abusive situation? [more inside]
posted by Chelsaroo650 on Mar 9, 2012 - 17 answers

Stop it before it starts...

[Potential Abuse Trigger] YANML, yes I know. But can you hope me stave off a bad situation with a man that's abused my sister and other members of my family BEFORE it happens again? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 10, 2012 - 36 answers

Sexual relationship with someone with a bad history

I'm dating a girl who has had a difficult past and who seems to be strangely absent during sex. Help me figure out how best to deal with this. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 6, 2012 - 6 answers

How do I get out of this?

Escaping a bad life? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 5, 2012 - 33 answers

Can I ask my girl to stop talking to her cheater exes?

Is it unreasonably controlling of me to ask my girlfriend to not initiate online contact with a specific set of ex-boyfriends, namely those that she has cheated on her (ex-) husband or other boyfriends with? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 3, 2012 - 51 answers

How do I deal with abuse my girlfriend is going through?

Girl I am dating just admitted to me that her family was abusive and her older brother is still abusive towards her. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 20, 2012 - 29 answers

stepmom broke up with me

How can I emotionally begin to handle the end of my relationship with my ex-stepmother? This is the end of a very tangled family situation and I have no idea how to deal with it. I feel terrible. [more inside]
posted by athenadanae on Jan 11, 2012 - 35 answers

Help for someone helpless

Looking for emergency shelter for a pregnant woman first thing tomorrow morning. We're in Brooklyn. [more inside]
posted by hermitosis on Jan 9, 2012 - 21 answers

Books, forums, ??, for adult children of abusive parents who have (undiagnosed) cognitive and emotional issues?

What are some informative self-help books and other resources (preferably online or UK-based) for adults dealing with abusive parents who have undiagnosed cognitive deficits and are emotionally stunted? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 1, 2012 - 2 answers

Help me kill this zombie relationship for good

I'm in an unhappy, unhealthy relationship-- I'm scared I might even be emotionally abusing my boyfriend. Should I break up with him now or wait until later? How can I make sure that the break-up will last? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 30, 2011 - 57 answers

Another question about an insane mother

I have a great deal of contempt for my mother, which fills me with guilt. She has had serious psychiatric problems for her entire life. Although I know that she loves us, she is quite mentally ill, and I don't know how to cope with it. I need help learning how. (This is long, I apologize.) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 28, 2011 - 51 answers

I know it's the right thing to do. Why don't they?

How do I handle the reaction of my family and (people I thought of as) close friends to the news of my divorce? Lots of special snowflakes ahead. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 21, 2011 - 27 answers

Should I get a dog, even though my husband has a slight tendancy to violence?

My husband has anger issues. We are considering getting a dog, but I'm not sure I trust him to appropriately express his anger around the dog. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 9, 2011 - 33 answers

Please help me talk to my relative about his marijuana problem...

How can I talk to my relative about his marijuana problem? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 28, 2011 - 30 answers

Having trouble figuring out if I'm overreacting to my husband grabbing my arm

Help me figure out if this is a relationship dealbreaker-- my husband recently dragged me out of my chair, against my will. [more inside]
posted by DianaV on Nov 26, 2011 - 66 answers

How did you tell others you were in an abusive relationship?

I realized last night that I need to get out of my emotionally abusive marriage. I'm really scared for a lot of reasons. For those of you who have been in my shoes, how did you "come out" to others about your situation? How did you cope with people who told you you brought it on yourself? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 9, 2011 - 32 answers

Deliberately or otherwise, this person is lying about us

What do you do with a passive-aggressive, anonymous busybody neighbor? [more inside]
posted by The Winsome Parker Lewis on Oct 20, 2011 - 40 answers

History of Abuse

I went away to boarding school in 1993/4. During 1993, a teacher there who was sexually inappropriate. I sort of lost track of him, but found out today he is now the Head Director of a school, and on the board of the Assoc. of International School Heads, It was a long time ago, and I cannot prove anything, and do not want to go in guns half cocked, but I feel like I should say something. What are best practices here?
posted by anonymous on Oct 12, 2011 - 23 answers

How can I let go of past abuse?

Is it possible to let go of past injuries? My parents were abusive when I was growing up (both physically and emotionally) and I have been dealing with depression and anxiety ever since, with medication and therapy. Now, though, they have changed (really), and I'm trying to figure out how to let go of what happened and have a good relationship with the people they are now. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 7, 2011 - 16 answers

Stare down the emotional pit or look elsewhere?

How do you deal with difficult family situations without imploding? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 30, 2011 - 8 answers

How I should feel about my dad having a tumor?

My dad was an angry person throughout my life. He would throw temper tantrums to everyone else in the household. My mom would lose friends due to his behaviour. He has accused my mom of cheating, he makes decisions without listening to her and then throws temper tantrums when my mom tries to resist, and he has accused my mom of being lazy during times when she was the only one working. Neither my brother or I have much respect for him anymore, but we still love our mom. Mom phoned yesterday telling my dad has testicular cancer and is getting surgery for it. I'm coming in to visit at my mom's request. But she's going to try to make me go through the motions of pretending we're a healthy family. Am I wrong to not have strong mourning feelings towards my dad's cancer?
posted by DetriusXii on Sep 27, 2011 - 15 answers

Protection From Abuse againdt a Blogspot Writer.

I am a woman. A man I have a court-ordered PFA (Protection From Abuse) against started a blogspot.com page about me using MYNAME.blogspot.com to write viscous lies about me and my underage son. The blogspot page is, of course, the #1 result on google when googling my name. He is not impersonating me, but he is harassing me and my family. What can I do now? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 26, 2011 - 25 answers

Crazy family history...how do I avoid passing it on?

How do I break the cycle of abuse in my family and make a stable, happy and safe environment for my own (future) family? ( [more inside]
posted by snowysoul on Sep 23, 2011 - 21 answers

How to help my abused student?

One of my university students is being physically, mentally and emotionally abused by their parents and has asked me for help. What can/should I do as their teacher? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 15, 2011 - 13 answers

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