After twelve years of silence, an abusive father has been aggressively trying to get in touch. [more inside]
Can anyone recommend a self-help method for starting one's (emotional) life over again after coming to terms with childhood trauma? [more inside]
Animal cruelty bothers me way more than it should. Is this related to my childhood sexual abuse? [more inside]
How can I handle my feelings for my parents during this holiday season? [more inside]
I was raised by an abusive father. Now in my early 30's I am looking ahead to the future when I may become a father. I am determined not to recreate the family environment I grew up in but know how these things sometimes turn out -- that people determined not to recreate something sometimes wind up doing so in an unforseen manner. I was in therapy for 2 years in my 20's to work on the issues but therapy is not an option now because of money. I have worked hard not to be my father, but part of me is afraid that I will wind up being like him as a parent. (In particular, I worry about being a father to a son because of my history). I am looking for information about the father-son relationship as well as information about how to be a good parent when you have a background like mine. Please offer advice, books, suggestions - anything that can help.