Some of the disciplinary acts I endured as a child and teenager have spilled over into my adult sex life. Is this a healthy thing to encourage, or should I avoid these acts altogether? [more inside]
posted on Aug 31, 2008 - 16 answers

How can I help stop child abuse, other than writing a check? [more inside]
posted on Aug 28, 2008 - 19 answers

I have friends that seem to neglect a dog almost to the point of abuse. What should I do? [more inside]
posted on Jul 4, 2008 - 49 answers

My friend has just confided that her new husband is often verbally abusive, and occasionally physically abusive. I honestly don't know how to help. [more inside]
posted on Jul 1, 2008 - 35 answers

TraumaFilter: what worked for you in overcoming PTSD, anxiety, depression? [more inside]
posted on Jun 23, 2008 - 23 answers

Scary roommate situation. I want to leave and I'm trying to figure out if I have any way of getting my money back, which I really need to help me get another room. [more inside]
posted on Jun 5, 2008 - 32 answers

How Does one go about finding a really top notch Private Investigator? [more inside]
posted on May 29, 2008 - 11 answers

This morning, my neighbors down the hall had an extended, high-volume fight. It frightened me in its intensity and content. I called the cops and slipped a note under the door when the aggressor left. Is there anything else I can or should do? [more inside]
posted on Apr 16, 2008 - 37 answers

To whom do I report suspected abuse of a service dog? [more inside]
posted on Mar 13, 2008 - 9 answers

Due to some bizarre circumstances, my college is forcing me to dig up some things from my past I'd thought I'd put behind me and would much, much sooner forget. How do I deal? [more inside]
posted on Jan 30, 2008 - 41 answers

Questions about child abuse and the statute of limitations (unpleasant details inside) [more inside]
posted on Jan 24, 2008 - 19 answers

I'm worried that my male friend might be in some sort of abusive relationship. He's my best friend and seems to have been in a "spend all time with new GF and not call or visit friends" mode for 3 months, and we are all far past the teenage years. [more inside]
posted on Jan 22, 2008 - 16 answers

How do we tell a young woman (a teenager, really) that she's headed for a nightmare of a relationship? [more inside]
posted on Jan 1, 2008 - 27 answers

Domestic violence filter : Please help me to cope with my abusive und violent brother. My twin brother gains satisfaction from ruining my life. What shall I do? (lengthy explanation) [more inside]
posted on Dec 30, 2007 - 38 answers

Help me sort out my feelings about the relationship I’m in because I just can’t seem to figure it out. (long and complicated - sorry!) [more inside]
posted on Dec 25, 2007 - 23 answers

Are there non-stupid substance abuse prevention films? [more inside]
posted on Dec 19, 2007 - 30 answers

How can I get them to leave me alone? I have the court order. I have moved and rarely leave the house. So how do I get this person to leave me alone? [more inside]
posted on Dec 16, 2007 - 19 answers

Is it inappropriate for me to contact my nieces' guardian ad litem? [more inside]
posted on Dec 1, 2007 - 11 answers

How does one dig up and release deep-seated rage, or any other deeply repressed (old baggage-type) emotions? [more inside]
posted on Oct 24, 2007 - 21 answers

Please help me decide whether to get drunk or high every night. [more inside]
posted on Aug 22, 2007 - 57 answers

How can I prank this evil debt collection company? [more inside]
posted on Aug 9, 2007 - 41 answers

FamilyCrapFilter: Please help- What to do with abusive, intrusive, stalking mother who shows up on my doorstep? [more inside]
posted on Jul 2, 2007 - 39 answers

My stepfather abused my sister a few weeks ago. She walked out of the house, but then reconciled a week later. What should I do? [more inside]
posted on May 21, 2007 - 43 answers

A few months ago, my sister disclosed to my family that she was molested as a child by an aide to a former baby sitter. We would like to help her but we have no idea how to proceed from here. What should we do? [more inside]
posted on May 12, 2007 - 7 answers

Does anyone know where to find a copy of Bungie's classic game Abuse? It seems they made it available for free download and someone promptly made an SDL/OS X port, but all the links from the project page are dead.
posted on Apr 17, 2007 - 8 answers

I was in Mexico for three days with my boyfriend when he because physically violent. It was the first time he had ever done so. I have the bruises and cuts from earlier today. Because the incident took place in Mexico, US police say they cannot do anything. Do I have any options at this point? We're both applying to law schools, and the ABA has strict policies against criminal backgrounds. He's a criminal, but I don't know what to do. I can't believe he's getting away with this.
posted on Mar 9, 2007 - 45 answers

How to grow a spine. [more inside]
posted on Mar 8, 2007 - 43 answers

How-I-Spent-My-Xmas-Holiday-Filter: Please help me get my head straight in light of family sexual abuse revelations. This is a long one. [more inside]
posted on Jan 3, 2007 - 12 answers

Looking for popular songs and movies that can be used to educate people in the system for abuse related crimes. These examples will be used to facilitate discussions about relationship boundaries, male entitlement, and inappropriate behavior. [more inside]
posted on Dec 29, 2006 - 45 answers

work related question. A co-worker I work with very closely threatened my verbally and physically, claiming I was doing a poor job. I reported to my supervisor, and said co-worker denies it. What should I do (other than quitting, but I like the job) I have been there 3 years and this came out of the blue. I feel now I have to resign. Suggestions?
posted on Dec 13, 2006 - 39 answers

How often do the sexually abused become abusers? [more inside]
posted on Nov 24, 2006 - 10 answers

Help me identify a book I read as a child that scared the bejeebers out of me! [more inside]
posted on Nov 17, 2006 - 3 answers

Child abuse - how to cope with it and how can someone get closure and ensure that the culprit never does anything like it ever again? [more inside]
posted on Oct 4, 2006 - 13 answers

My significant other revealed to me that he was sexually abused as a little boy by a friend of his, who was also a boy. The incident, without describing it in detail, was one of sexual humiliation. The shame and suffering he now feels is immense and has carried over into other areas of his life, including his relationships. He told me what had happenned because I knew something was wrong and pressed him. We are now college-age (and in college too) and he had never told anyone before me. I have said to him that many other people have been sexually abused and have learned to accept their past, but I have said this without knowing if it's really true. Because of the problems caused by the event and other events that followed, I have broken up with him but am serious about being with him after he takes care of himself in therapy. Does anyone have insight on the possibility of moving forward after such a traumatizing event?
posted on Sep 22, 2006 - 21 answers

What recourse do fathers who receive Massachusetts 209A restraining ? From what I can gather, a woman can say absolutely anything and get a restraining order imposed. I got one yesterday taking custody away from me for alleged threat of violence I made. At the time I was over 200 miles away. I didn't think I was that powerful. [more inside]
posted on Jul 20, 2006 - 54 answers

Wow. My sexuality is really messed up. [more inside]
posted on Jun 17, 2006 - 32 answers

How do I get my (abusive?) boyfriend out of my life? [more inside]
posted on Apr 20, 2006 - 25 answers

Will I ever be able to stop thinking that I am evil? [more inside]
posted on Apr 10, 2006 - 31 answers

How can I best help some sick birds in a pet shop? [more inside]
posted on Apr 2, 2006 - 5 answers

[book/other media recommendations]: I'm researching the sexualization of children, found in abusive situations as well as in less obvious contexts like child beauty pageants. Has there been a particular book/movie/situation that most eloquently laid out this topic for you? [more inside]
posted on Mar 14, 2006 - 17 answers

I've been going out with my partner for almost 5 years, about 2 1/2 years ago she told me she'd been sexually abused as a child. I've supported her through her counselling and depression ever since, ironically she wouldn't have been able to unpack a lot of her issues without the safe enviroment I've provided for her for the first time. I'm in counselling myself, my partner pursuaded me that I needed some help to keep myself standing, and it has really helped. But I'm starting to loose hope that things are ever going to be better again. [more inside]
posted on Mar 4, 2006 - 8 answers

Give me some insight into College Admissions and Financial Aid. [more inside]
posted on Feb 23, 2006 - 27 answers

What are the various theoretical frameworks for understanding why victims of abuse often 'deal' with their trauma by becoming perpetrators themselves? What explanations have been suggested, for example, as to why sexually molested children often grow up into sexually-molesting adults? The one that comes to mind is that the victim somehow feels he can master the trauma by becoming its perpetrator. What, or who, is the origin of this theory? Is it Freud? Does it (still) have any currency in professional circles? What, if any, other theories have been suggested?
posted on Feb 18, 2006 - 22 answers

This might have been asked before but I couldn't find it in my search. My website has no advertising. Other websites have been displaying my content inside frames surrounded by advertising. How may I prevent this from happening?
posted on Jan 19, 2006 - 20 answers

My sister and I have very different "memories" of our childhood. It makes it extremely difficult to communicate. I'm wondering if anyone has the same experience and what can be done about it. [more inside]
posted on Dec 1, 2005 - 33 answers

Need help in choosing a psychologist. [more inside]
posted on Nov 2, 2005 - 13 answers

Imodium Abuse Question: A rather obese person at work has cheerfully described how she regularly takes 20-30 imodiums at once to regulate her bowel movements. [more inside]
posted on Aug 12, 2005 - 22 answers

What leads to a child/young adult picking up a parent's behavior (good or bad), rather than rebelling against it? [more inside]
posted on Aug 5, 2005 - 13 answers

How do you best support a survivor of childhood abuse? [more inside]
posted on Jul 24, 2005 - 17 answers

I was raised by an abusive father. Now in my early 30's I am looking ahead to the future when I may become a father. I am determined not to recreate the family environment I grew up in but know how these things sometimes turn out -- that people determined not to recreate something sometimes wind up doing so in an unforseen manner. I was in therapy for 2 years in my 20's to work on the issues but therapy is not an option now because of money. I have worked hard not to be my father, but part of me is afraid that I will wind up being like him as a parent. (In particular, I worry about being a father to a son because of my history). I am looking for information about the father-son relationship as well as information about how to be a good parent when you have a background like mine. Please offer advice, books, suggestions - anything that can help.
posted on Feb 13, 2005 - 16 answers