I have to tell my boss that I am not going to renew my contract at Awful Inc. and am really nervous about the whole thing and never finding any (better) job ever again. [more inside]
I have ADHD and am struggling with time management at work. If you have ADHD, how do you get things done in a timely manner? [more inside]
I would like to spend more free time working on side projects, but I can't find the focus by the end of a workday. Can you? Tell me how. [more inside]
I'm going to be starting up a book club at my work, a large Jewish non-profit, and I'm looking for some advice and getting some answers to my questions. HR knows about this and is on board. [more inside]
So I am a guy getting harassed by another guy at work, and by the way, this is a "professional work environment". A couple months ago this guy comes up to me and starts making comments like "you are looking good today" and just stares at me for a prolonged period of time with a smirk. And he has said other things too that make me uncomfortable. Now, I do what I can to avoid him but he is trying to gain rapport with me, but I just ignore him; so now it has been 3 months. I was initially going to talk with my boss (the CFO) and let him know what this guy has been doing. But, I have asked this question before on this website, and someone pointed out that I could get fired for making the complaint even though I am the victim. And then I did more research on the internet where victims of sexual harassment can actually get fired for making a complaint. I am just wondering how often does this happen, and if anyone has ever seen it happen before?
I'm the only female in my group at work and I'm rarely spoken to by any of my male colleagues, including my boss...not even courtesy greetings. They avoid me and only talk to me when they need something from me. [more inside]
I work for myself doing a particular service for homeowners that is in high demand right now. I'm considering donating a consultation to my kid's school's auction. What should I think about before I do this? [more inside]
I posted this a few months ago and found it very helpful! Can we try again, but this time with maternity leave related questions/answers? [more inside]
I'm looking for books about how to manage your working life effectively. That could be anything from productivity, to managing stress, to interpersonal relationships, to broader musings on work-life balance or authenticity or ambition. I know that the airport bookshops of the world are full of this kind of thing, but what's actually worth reading? [more inside]
My career requires me to periodically muster up tremendous amounts of emotion, energy, and enthusiasm, and perform huge amounts of emotional labour. It's like a rollercoaster: really fun and exhilarating once it gets rolling, but then it ends and drops me into a pit of fatigue and inertia. I mostly enjoy the highs, but how can I get better at managing the drops? (Lots more inside) [more inside]
I'm thinking of volunteering for a suicide hotline. I found the Samaritans', but their volunteer program requires one overnight shift per month. I work 9-5, and cannot afford to show up sleep-deprived on a regular basis. Are there alternatives that do not require overnight shifts? How much sleep can I expect to get during one of the Samaritans' overnight shifts?
My boss and one of my direct reports teamed up to play a public practical joke on me. It feels mean instead of funny. Am I overreacting? [more inside]
I'm an American who has lived in Amsterdam for the past 7 years. I work for a travel company, and have to go to the US at least once a month. Although my passport doesn't expire for another three years, it is now full and no longer valid as each trip to the US takes up one page of stamps (one stamp for entering the US, one stamp for leaving the US, and then the same for Holland). I rarely travel outside of Europe for personal reasons, and more than 3/4 of the stamps in my passport are from work. I now need a new passport due to my extensive work travel, my company will not help chip in for a new one. I have another work trip next week, and now need to pay for an expedited passport on top of the regular fees for the new document. Am I being unreasonable in thinking my employer should help pay for this?
I'd like to leave my current job because of my boss. How do I handle discussing this kind of thing when I'm asked about why I am leaving during a job interview? [more inside]
I work as a copywriter at an university in D.C. Lately, things has been piling up at this job with a series of events, and really starting to get to be too much. I'm not exactly sure how to proceed. [more inside]
I'm middle aged, and I seem to be unemployable. But I have some money. Not enough to live off for the rest of my life, but surely enough to start a business. How do I invest €250 000 in a (low-risk) way that provides me with a job and a modest but steady income? I live in an affluent EU country. [more inside]
In light of the recent election, it has become more evident to me that I need to become part of a community where there is more of a liberal presence. This includes not only political persuasion, but also religious leanings as well. Currently in AZ. I would like to leave this area and relocate to a place that would be a better fit. Additionally, in researching potential cities, I can't help but noticing that a lot of the most desirable leftist cities also have very high costs of living. [more inside]
Gay filter: I am a 23 year old gay male. I started a relationship with a man of the same age that I work with. The relationship started fast and ended even faster. I went back to him after he hurt me, but soon decided enough is enough. Now I can't stand the pain when I see him in work, and I am still lingering over feelings of attachment to him...even though he hurt me! What should I do? [more inside]
I think I've got a strong case for a promotion at work, and could use the extra money. But I'm also sure I want to jump to a new company and I'm actively looking. What are the considerations here? How do I avoid burning bridges, but also do right by my career?
I am turning 29 this month. I graduated 3.8 GPA with a undergraduate Business degree in 2010 from a good university but then went through about 4 career changes in the last 6 years. I thought this kind of "soul-searching" would help me explore a lot of different areas and find myself. But in fact, I'm so miserable about the fact that I'm so behind and have not built anything worthwhile in the last 6 years. Today, I'm stuck at a uninspiring coding job out in the suburbs and just am staying with it because it pays the bills but I know I can be so much better. I see my peers who are now graduating with their MBAs + PhDs from Columbia and Cornell and getting married or just doing amazing things with their lives in general and feel terribly behind, have so many regrets, extremely depressed. How can I turn my life around? [more inside]
Hi guys. I recently posted this ask . I got some really helpful answers, and am on my way to some sort of diagnosis (for the moment, it's 'a hypermobility syndrome, not sure which one, fibromyalgia, and maaaaaybe POTS.' It's a start). I've had to give up my job, and although I'm not really well enough to be applying for a regular job, I do need some kind of income fairly urgently. [more inside]
I'm currently applying to grad school and working a couple part time jobs to make ends meet while taking the last set of pre-requisite classes for grad school. I'll be finishing up my classes by the end of this semester, leaving me with a 6-9 month chunk of time between finishing up class and potentially going. I'd like to be able to save a bit of money before starting grad school if that happens. Do I look for a temp job to fill that time or something else? [more inside]
Middle of the road, broadly experienced software developer here. Does anyone have recommendations for a good employer in the Boulder, CO area? [more inside]
First, I want to point out I am a guy, and I work in a professional white collar environment. There is someone at work who is annoying me to the point in which it's really aggravating. He comes up to me when I am at the copy machine, and says comments like: 1) You are looking good today. And sometimes he just gives an intense long stare at me, which is weird. 2) He once said I have a nice chest. 3) Yells out my name in a mocking way when I pass by, but when no one is around. 4) Makes comments about the way I dress. It might not seem much, but it's done in a weird way, which is done in a snide / mocking / teasing manner. Is this something that I have to learn to brush off? It's very annoying. I am close with my boss, so should I tell him first, before I tell this guy to stop irritating me? I will like to check with my boss first to see how he will react in the event I tell this guy to stop and he doesn't. Do I need real evidence of him bothering me? I was thinking of using the recorder on my phone to record any interaction.
My job is, by most objective standards, terrific. I work from home (which I like); have flexible hours; overtime is okay’d whenever requested; boss likes me and thinks I’m brilliant. And the pay is more than I’ve ever made in my life (which puts me at just under the low end of middle-class income). Yay. What’s not good: the work I do, which includes an increasing number of tasks I dislike intensely – enough that I’ve thought not only, “I’d rather work with raw sewage than do this,” but “hey, I wonder if that guy I used to know who worked at the sewage plant still works there? Nah, they probably don’t pay this well for untrained labor. (Could I get trained?)” [more inside]
My job is a sick system and I feel burnt out, miserable, and trapped. This UK employer sponsors my Tier 2 work visa. If I quit, I will have to return to the US immediately, which I have absolutely no intentions of doing. Current UK visa rules mean it's nearly impossible for me to find a different employer, moreso since the Brexit outcome. I have three more years living here under a work visa until I can apply for citizenship, which is my long-term goal. As crazy as it sounds, I'd like to stay with them, but how do I survive this? [more inside]
I'm having trouble keeping up with work requests coming at me from all directions. Seeking an online tool that will help me stay organized and on track. [more inside]
I have serious career burnout. After an exhausting and stressful decade of working at two of the highest profile, most competitive tech companies anywhere, I'm quickly reaching the point where I just can't stand it any longer. I'm stressed all the time, and I'm starting to think it's becoming dangerous for me to have this much stress at this time in my life. Trouble is, I can't seem to decide what to do next. Snowstorm after the jump. [more inside]
I am a manager at a very small creative agency. A friendship between two of our employees is both alienating and distracting to almost everyone else, but they aren't doing anything wrong. How do I bring it up delicately? [more inside]
Work part time (eg, no full time contract) in academia. Currently split between two departments, with most of my time spent in Department A. Department B gave me a promotion. Now Department A wants me to only work with them. Dept B wants me to eventually be full time with them. Added complication: there is growing bad blood between the two departments, and both sides are smearing each other. [more inside]
Things are finally better at work, but I think I'm finally letting myself have the meltdown I should have had before. How do I keep it from impacting my work and life? Strategies, tips? [more inside]
I was hired a year and a half ago to a position that I very much like and work very hard at in an extremely niche field. Everything has gone swimmingly until this week. Looking for some extra outside insight into this situation. Anybody had this happen to them? Or something similar? [more inside]
I've decided to accept a job offer and leave a job that I had become dissatisfied with, yay! But now I need to tell my manager and my teammates that I'm leaving and I'm not sure how to do that because I'm a remote worker. Special snowflake details within. [more inside]
A colleague (X) that I have closely volunteered with at a separate non-profit for a couple years recommended me to apply for a job at her workplace from which she is soon departing. This job (technical in nature) is in the same department that X works in and she also sat in on each of the interviews as a part of the interviewing team. I've had a couple interviews so far, and based on my advancement, now believe that I may actually be offered this position, and my long-held impostor syndrome is actually now warranted. [more inside]
How do I tell my bosses about an impending surgical procedure I will be receiving? We are a tiny company, we are very busy, the procedure is pretty big, and I will be out of commission for a good while. Also: the procedure itself COULD be considered "elective" (but kinda isn't). Iodine-swabbed snowflakes inside. [more inside]
A friend of mine is looking to change careers and is at kind of a loss for the best path forward. I was hoping to find them a career counselor in the Seattle area. This person is not in a technical field, which is what most of the Seattle area counselors appear to specialize in.
Tomorrow I leave for a "work retreat" my manager has arranged. Four days and three nights, with her and my two colleagues who make up our team. In a rental house. With every minute planned out. I'm starting to panic a bit and need survival tips. [more inside]
I moved to the UK with my family a few years ago for work. I like my job a lot, we have access to good schools, we don't pay rent, and the quality of life is generally good. The problem is that, after 3 years, I have no friends. I've invited people over, invited people out, gone to everything I have been invited to myself, and it just hasn't worked out with... anyone. [more inside]
Last time I was actively job searching (2010-2014, give or take), conventional wisdom had it that hiring managers/HR wouldn't even look at a resume with an address beyond reasonable commuting distance from the job. [more inside]
I've noticed a pattern at the software company I work for: our best engineers (not just in terms of engineering but also in terms of their social skills, collaboration, coaching and working well with others) are promoted to engineering leadership roles and given direct reports. This reduces the time they spend actually making things by at least 50% due to the time they spend in management. They often don't make great managers (at least at first) and in some cases they eventually ask to return to being an individual contributor. How can we make this work better? What patterns of success have you seen for this in your own workplaces? [more inside]
I’m nearly 50 and have all but given up on any form of worldly success or financial stability. What now? [more inside]
I'm looking for visual references to logbooks that craftspeople have kept over the years for their work. For example, maintenance logs, mechanics logs, captain's logs, work related journaling, etc. Digital copies are fairly important, and a getting a feel for layout, language, and visuals are all a plus.
Good news: I'm getting a bigger office! Can you provide tips, tricks, or inspiration on how to set up a comfortable, productive, organized work space? [more inside]
My business is planning an out of state week-long meeting for next spring, with hundreds of people coming in from across the country.... the week before my wedding. Am I unreasonable for asking for an exemption? [more inside]
Hi; This is in Canada. When a employer hires u, and says u will be paid in cash once a month (no taxes), and it's up to u to pay your taxes - at the end of year, what happens to the employer - or u? How can the worker or employer get caught? Thanks :-)
My manager gets defensive when they come into contact with parts of my work they don't know how to replicate and acts as though I've caused A Problem. Help? [more inside]
Recently I saw a multi-panel meme/comic on the internet that used an image similar to this. If I recall correctly, the color scheme was white and blue, and it was a variation on the whole "work tip: get up, stretch, take a walk, keep going" joke. Can anyone help me find it? I've been searching for it for a long time today, and it's like looking for a needle in a haystack.
I'm looking for some good articles that explain the timelines of social media to my boss. I'm struggling to get him to understand why delaying posting things that are already published online on news websites for days or even weeks doesn't make sense. Ditto delaying posting photos from events for up to two weeks. [more inside]
Managers of Metafilter, how did you handle coverage for your maternity leave? If all goes according to plan, I'm going to tell my boss that I'm pregnant next week, and I'd like to have some ideas/suggestions for her when she starts wondering how to handle my leave. [more inside]
I loved Whiplash. I love Top Chef. I love documentaries about ballet. What else can I watch that gives an entertaining insight into the 'backstage' of various professions? [more inside]