My partner's 18 year old sister wants to marry her boyfriend of one year. They both live at home with their respective parents, are not planning to pursue post-secondary school, and are financially insecure (she does not work, he works part time). They have recently converted to a fundamentalist version of a new faith, and their plan is to rely on her disabled mother who would lose her benefits by caring for them - the mother is against this but of course loves her daughter. Their religious community is encouraging them (but not offering financial aid). What can we do to support her but not her decision? [more inside]
posted by partly squamous and partly rugose
on Mar 9, 2014 -
After going to a few brick and mortar shops in NYC, we have a bit of sticker shock over how much a simple men's wedding band can cost. We're looking for a 4mm 14k yellow gold half round band size 10. We're hoping to spend under $300. Does anyone know any brick and mortar stores in NYC where we could could find a ring for under this price? Reputable website recommendations are also welcome, but we would prefer to see the ring in person before buying it, if possible. [more inside]
posted by dysh
on Mar 3, 2014 -
I have a great best man. I do not want to have a "co" best man at my wedding. I have another friend who is very close to me, and I want to give him a title that signifies he isn't simply a groomsmen but is one of my very closest friends. Is there another title I can give him which will make him feel important and that's not BS. Thanks, Z
posted by quiverandquill
on Feb 28, 2014 -
I'm inclined to think that any young lady whose father walked her down the aisle of Trinity Church in Lower Manhattan in a late 18th or early 19th century wedding was probably born to wealth. Pretty size-able wealth.
Are we talking robber baron wealthy, or what?
Or was the church actually available to all comers?
posted by John Borrowman
on Feb 28, 2014 -
Difficulty level: Dutch/Canadian/Australian.
Mr Fish and I are getting married in July. A lot of Mr Fish's Canadian family are coming, and this is my first time meeting a lot of them. We absolutely do not
expect gifts but we're already getting questions about registries. Do international registries exist? [more inside]
posted by nerdfish
on Feb 26, 2014 -
I am getting married in Hawaii - that much is certain. It is going to be a small wedding (because of travel requirements). When I say small, I mean probably 10 and 20 would be the absolute most. [more inside]
posted by locussst
on Feb 20, 2014 -
My dear friend got married late last year and I'm a little behind on sending him and his new wife a wedding present. I'd like to find them something ~$50, related to cheese (like a cheese smoker or a really cool cutting board—they love cheese and will be opening a small cheese shop soon). I'm having a very hard time finding such a thing. They also like vintage, retro, rockabilly, steampunk and the like. They are in California and I am in England; sending them something from the US would be preferable but if there's something uniquely British here and not too much cost to ship I could manage that too. Any ideas for specific items to purchase would be most welcome, thanks!
posted by iamkimiam
on Feb 19, 2014 -
We'd like to have a small, lovely wedding on the grounds or in the gardens of a Scottish castle. The internet leads me down a sweaty, confusing little rabbit hole. [more inside]
posted by letahl
on Feb 17, 2014 -
I need to get to NYC for a wedding rehearsal on Friday. There is going to be an insane snowstorm her tomorrow. Should I try to get an Amtrak for tomorrow morning (cheaper) or try for Friday morning (kind of expensive)? Will snow stop the trains? Should I just try to go tonight (imposing on people)?
I already bought a bus ticket for Friday morning a few weeks ago but I'm guessing the roads will not be great between the cities. Is this a wrong assumption?
posted by josher71
on Feb 12, 2014 -
Looking for suggestions for songs to ask our gypsy-jazz wedding band to play! [more inside]
posted by Miko
on Feb 10, 2014 -
So we're looking at wedding venues in fairly remote spots (in the US) where there's no cell phone or Internet connectivity for at least 5 miles in any direction. We'd like to be accommodating of our guests, so what can we do to bring connectivity to these venues? [more inside]
posted by gchucky
on Feb 9, 2014 -
I recently got engaged, and am so happy about this! But, I am not the type of girl who always dreamed about what my wedding would be like...basically, I'm more of a casual-type person who is not super into party planning (nor is the hubby-to-be). :) I feel like we need some help in figuring out how to make this wedding happen, but I don't want to get sucked into all the wedding industry stuff...we are not rich, and to the extent we will want to spend money on this, it is probably not on things like ridiculously expensive flower arrangements. So, two questions: [more inside]
posted by rainbowbrite
on Feb 4, 2014 -
Practical: Any ideas for fun-but-cheap bachelorette weekend accommodations or activities around the central East Coast?
Context: I'm the last single friend of our group of friends, and the most broke. I'm comfortable with talking about money, but my friends are WASPier types who'd prefer to never, ever discuss anything to do with finances, and tend to change the subject abruptly when it comes up.
This is a problem when I'm expected to pitch in for something that I really can't afford, but that everyone else can. I'm thinking the best solution is to pitch an alternative that I can
afford. [more inside]
posted by magdalemon
on Jan 28, 2014 -
Any ideas for a Brooklyn (or Manhattan, I guess) restaurant that can host a wedding of appx 75? Something warm and intimate, like Frankies (too small) or Aurora (hello $20K!). Nothing too **fancy** (as my Aunt Frances says). No venues or spaces or lofts or halls. Just a restaurant :)
posted by antipode12
on Jan 27, 2014 -
I've decided to skip my brother's wedding, for very good reasons. Help me figure out how to talk to him about this - it gets long, sorry. [more inside]
posted by guessthis
on Jan 27, 2014 -
Afternoon WeddingFilter: We're trying to work out the timing for an afternoon wedding with a reception meal, and would love your advice and experience. [more inside]
posted by Miko
on Jan 24, 2014 -
I'm getting married at the beginning of May, and would like to purchase a nice suit for the day. But I want a particular look, and something that is going to last me for years that I can wear regularly, not just for one day. [more inside]
posted by postel's law
on Jan 22, 2014 -
At age 43, I found my birth family. (Original post
.) In addition to my birth mother and many other relatives, I've gained an adult sister. I'm now 44 and she's 29. We're slowly getting to know each other.
My birth mother informed me the day we met last June that I'd be going to my sister's (up until then her only daughter, as far as the world knew) wedding in Key West in March. I was so thrilled by the whirlwind of everything, and I wanted to keep the hoopla surrounding my integration into the family as minimally disruptive to her planning the big event, that I've kind of forgotten something important until now: What on earth should I get her as a wedding present? [more inside]
posted by ImproviseOrDie
on Jan 17, 2014 -
Me and my boyfriend recently decided to get married and go from boyfriend status to a married status after a short engagement f 1 month. We know we love each other and that it is working. [more inside]
posted by barexamfreak
on Jan 15, 2014 -
We'd prefer little hassle, few fees, and a way to know who they are so we can thank them. We expect 0 to 50 people to actually gift us money this way. What are our best options? [more inside]
posted by ethidda
on Jan 15, 2014 -
We are planning our wedding for mid July of this year and we want to cook most of the food for it in the week or so leading up to our wedding. We are looking for two things: a kitchen (or kitchens?) to cook the food, and a fridge/freezer (fridges/freezers?) to store the stuff. How can we do this? [more inside]
posted by andreapandrea
on Jan 5, 2014 -
Our go-to cheap Philly hotel just closed. Help us find an alternate for our wedding guests. [more inside]
posted by Diskeater
on Jan 5, 2014 -
A couple of months ago I found a nontraditional/alternative wedding registry website which was perfect for me, and which I'd like to use. Apparently I failed to bookmark it, and now I can't find it again. Googling is not working for me and I'd love your help. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by Miko
on Jan 1, 2014 -
I am thinking of buying a nice framed photo that is recognizably DC (landmarks, cherry blossoms, etc., or something more creative) as a wedding gift. I looked at Art.com and everything was pretty generic, 'obvious' and postcard-looking. I'd love to find a photo that is a bit more unique, or even perhaps a cool framed graphic print. My budget is not awesome: I am looking to spend under $300. Any recommendations of websites/photographers/artists I should check out?
posted by imalaowai
on Dec 31, 2013 -
A week ago today, my sweetheart and I got (gay) married in Utah! We're thrilled. We're going to see a lawyer familiar with gay rights issues that our friend recommended in the new year so we can draw up wills, etc. Here's the question: what is the etc? And any tips for input on wills? [more inside]
posted by timpanogos
on Dec 27, 2013 -
My sister will be getting married next month, Yeah!
She doesn't know where to take her post-wedding/pre-reception pictures, Boo!
Does anyone have any cool spots they know of in Brooklyn to take some wedding shots? [more inside]
posted by Julnyes
on Dec 26, 2013 -
I'm hoping to find a Drupal theme/template that would be suitable for the website of a wedding venue. [more inside]
posted by wats
on Dec 19, 2013 -
How should I word a clause in a contract which states that we will receive a refund on our deposit for a wedding reception venue if that business is sold or goes out of business? [more inside]
posted by lovableiago
on Dec 17, 2013 -
Looking for ideas to get a corsage for the bride and a boutonniere for the groom on short notice in Miami. These will be for a casual wedding ceremony on Thursday late afternoon (2 days from now). They don't have to be fancy, but it would be nice to have good quality flowers and for them to be well made.
posted by theory
on Dec 3, 2013 -
Where can I buy pens in Sydney, and/or who has a wide variety of pens (gel pens, paint pens, that sort of thing)? I am working on my sister's wedding invitations and am rather pressed for time... I am especially interested in the Sakura Souffle pens, if you know of anyone who carries them. [more inside]
posted by jrobin276
on Dec 1, 2013 -
Some friends are throwing us a wedding reception and have requested "no gifts" on the invitation. Can I somehow ask them to change that or is that just the done thing now? [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Nov 24, 2013 -
Weddingfilter: My fiance and I are getting married in NYC in October, we'd like advice on Wedding dance classes. We'd like personal recommendations if anyone has experience with specific places. [more inside]
posted by edbles
on Nov 23, 2013 -
My fiancée and I want to get married at sea on a cruise. Unfortunately, we can't find a cruise line that sails from our nearby ports that offers a wedding package that works for us (all the lines we checked require that everything be done by the book on their schedule with their vows, music, food, etc.). Has anyone ever staged a "stealth wedding" at sea where you bring your own officiant, gather a small number of family and friends together at an agreed-upon time in a quiet corner of the ship, and carry out a short impromptu ceremony? Will the cruise line have a problem with this? Would there be a penalty if we were caught? More importantly, would a marriage license from our state be valid if signed at sea in international waters? If not, what if we handled the paperwork in port? It's just a germ of an idea right now and at this point we really want to know if this is all possible and legal. Any advice for us?
posted by Servo5678
on Nov 19, 2013 -
What are some fun games or activities that can take place at a wedding and at the reception? I'm hoping to hear about things that you've experienced at a wedding that worked really well, made people laugh or contributed to the meaning of the wedding. Thank you.
posted by surenoproblem
on Nov 18, 2013 -
A while ago, I joined Meta specifically to ask this question
. Well, I am happy to announce I am another AskMeta success story! Following a large amount of advice I received, I was more specific about my wants and needs and to cut a very long story short, my boyfriend proposed on my birthday a couple of weeks ago! I'm thrilled! The boy did good. He agreed he needed a kick up the bum and I really owe that to you guys! This brings me to my question, I am extraordinarily uncomfortable talking about myself for extended periods of time and being the centre of attention. [more inside]
posted by JenThePro
on Nov 15, 2013 -
My stepsister is getting married this Saturday, a stepsister who has always presumed closeness to everyone in her stepfamily. I do not like her very much for reasons that are not relevant here. I am a bridesmaid in the wedding. She e-mailed all of the bridesmaids and in the same e-mail about our jewelry, mentioned that they'd be making time for speeches during the rehearsal dinner while the band is on a break (yes! There's a band at the rehearsal dinner, which is a whole other story...). She asked for us to let her know if anyone was interested in giving a toast. Should I? [more inside]
posted by juliagulia
on Nov 7, 2013 -
A month ago, we got back our wedding photographs - the photographer gave us an online gallery with all the pictures (some I like, so I don't) and a drive with all the pictures on them. Our photographer has asked us to only share the photos with others via the online gallery (though this is not in our contract). Do I have to do this? Meaning, is this the ethical thing to do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Oct 31, 2013 -
I'd like some tips for managing capital-a Anxiety and interacting well during a non-traditional, cross-cultural wedding. Difficulty level: I'm the groom. [more inside]
posted by griphus
on Oct 30, 2013 -
I may or may not have to present during the wedding ceremony and the following dance and performance numbers, but I'd at least like to have a great poem to present as a framed gift with some photos. [more inside]
posted by snsranch
on Oct 27, 2013 -
On Friday, I rented my first-ever tuxedo for a black-tie wedding. On Saturday, I went to said wedding. On Sunday, I noticed that there's somehow red wine stains on the tuxedo shirt, despite not drinking red wine and not having stains on any other part of the tuxedo. On Monday, I'm supposed to return the tuxedo. Help? [more inside]
posted by Ash3000
on Oct 27, 2013 -
My best friend is getting married in June and I'm a bridesmaid.
I've offered to put together a guestbook for the couple as part of the big day. I've heard of so many creative ideas - books with photos, framed signed photos, puzzles, etc., but some of them seem impractical. I want this to be something they can potentially display in their home as a reminder of the ceremony.
I need ideas, links, personal anecdotes (what made your guestbook special?), to help me put together the best guest book for a lovely couple! It can be DIY or for purchase.
posted by brynna
on Oct 14, 2013 -
I'm a bridesmaid in a wedding in two weeks, and I desperately need pink flats! The dress looks like this
. I did find shoes that I like (these
) but the eBay seller mislabeled them as size 41 and they were actually 39.5, so they didn't fit. I very much liked the style of them, however. Can you help? [more inside]
posted by ancient star
on Oct 11, 2013 -