Need ideas for a feminist bachelorette sash. [more inside]
My sister is estranged from my parents and me. It’s been about 5 years since she’s been in touch with everyone, initially estranging herself from my mother, then my father. For about a year after that she was still in touch with me, but ceased contact when I refused a request I saw as an attempt to make me ‘take her side’ against our mother. [more inside]
We are friends with a Brazilian couple that will soon be getting married. We will be sending gifts in the mail. The pre-shipping price point we're looking at is about $150. One thing we absolutely will be sending is a pack of red party cups (the groom has expressed interest in them!). But what else should we send? [more inside]
My awesome friend got engaged this Christmas to an equally awesome fella. They are rocking the Vegas Wedding and would love some ideas/suggestions. [more inside]
Is there any elegant way to ask for money instead of gifts? Is this always just rude? Details within! [more inside]
We are getting legally married soon, but will be having an actual wedding in a year. I have questions. [more inside]
So my fiance and I have been engaged for two years, and have started the process of wedding planning. One thing I am putting my foot down about is to not have a "traditional" wedding, including a white dress like every other bride. No off-white cop outs like ivory or cream, either. [more inside]
Going to a black-tie wedding on NYE. Already putting in a significant amount of money and time for this, and would love to avoid dropping another couple hundred dollars on a tux rental. I have a 3-piece suit (might be this one)and a tuxedo shirt. If I get a black bow tie, am I pretty much at a tuxedo, or am I gonna look like an idiot? FWIW, I'm doing all the music, so I'll be a little more visible than the average wedding guest.
I hate wedding planning. Fiance wants a big (75 people) wedding for an unrealistic budget. This has resulted in a wedding planning logjam for nearly a year. How can we come up with a wedding 'plan'/budget that actually works for both of us? [more inside]
A pair of my friends would like to get married quickly (politics!), but they'll only be able to get to NYC on the 30th. After the one-day waiting period, they can get hitched on New Year's Eve sometime in the afternoon, but the Marriage Bureau is, of course, closed. Do you know of a place that wouldn't mind us taking up space for 15 or 20 minutes, tops, that early afternoon? [more inside]
I'm getting married next year, and my parents and I had a huge fight about the wedding planning. What should I do? [more inside]
Sweet fiancé and I are getting married in a park, in July. Seating is extremely limited. How do I work this out? [more inside]
I took the dive into wedding planning and tried on dresses. It was fun, but everything felt pretty formal (and really expensive). I have seen interesting and more budget friendly dresses at places like Modcloth and so now I wonder: what other companies or stores carry wedding dresses? [more inside]
What should I get my future brother-in-law for Christmas- he's a farmer, it's my first time at the family Christmas. [more inside]
I will be getting married shortly and am looking for advice on how to handle the digital part of combining lives and households. What are the current suggestions for how to integrate or manage digital assets - music, ebooks, online accounts, devices, and the like?
Me: a trans white lesbian, her: a black bisexual woman. Wedding in Kansas in April 2017. Will it still be legal? Is it worth risking it? Should we do the marriage certificate now and the wedding as planned?
Fiancé and I were planning (and have paid deposits for) a July 2017 wedding. Given the US election news (we are Americans, living in a rent controlled apartment in New York), is there any reason we should elope in the next nine weeks?
I don’t want to go to the wedding of a formerly close friend. What’s an acceptable way to decline (and am I overthinking this)? [more inside]
My daughter and her longtime girlfriend are engaged and are in early days of planning their wedding for fall of 2017. They're both horsey, outdoors women and they both have always dreamt of celebrating in a big red barn (Vermont friends will know this is A THING). The catch: they don't want to spend $3k and up on fulfilling their dream wedding as they're both good, frugal Yankee stock. How to get this to happen? [more inside]
We want to throw a party for about 300 people that happens to begin with a wedding ceremony. What are some nontraditional / outside-the-wedding-industrial-complex strategies for creating a meaningful, festive, family-centered, and cost-conscious celebration event for such a large group? We're in St. Louis, Missouri but are very interested in general strategies and examples from other regions that may not be as commonly known here, as well as St. Louis-specific advice. Help! [more inside]
So after being engaged for-ev-er, our wedding is finally within sight and we've started to get questions about where we're registered. Zola's persistent advertising has convinced me they're a good option for aggregate gift-giving and receiving, and it actually does look pretty nice--but is it? I also have questions related to my money/materialism anxiety. [more inside]
Can anyone think of some good wedding gift ideas for a very literary, offbeat, humanities grad student that won't break the bank? [more inside]
My business is planning an out of state week-long meeting for next spring, with hundreds of people coming in from across the country.... the week before my wedding. Am I unreasonable for asking for an exemption? [more inside]
While I am glad we won't get Hurricane Matthew, it's expected to rain and be gloomy on my wedding day. I am devastated. Recommendations for making it more enjoyable? [more inside]
I’m getting married in a week and a half. We expect about 130 guests in an indoor venue. Thus far, I’ve rented speakers that I’m told will be sufficient for ambient music and then a dance floor, and I’m planning on creating a Spotify playlist to play from my laptop during the dance. Am I doing this wrong? Should I panic and try to find a DJ at the last minute? [more inside]
I'll be attending a wedding with a Victorian era dress theme. I've got my tailcoat and waistcoat picked out, which you can take a look at here. Unlike in the photo I'll be wearing it with a white dress shirt underneath. I'm wondering what I should go for in an ascot/cravat/tie/whatever. I'm less concerned about 100% period accuracy than I am about something that looks interesting and/or good. If it affects the recommendation at all, I'm blond and fair skinned, and don't currently plan on wearing a hat. Any and all suggestions or ideas are welcome, thanks!
I'm engaged to my wonderful partner, and we'll be getting married in her country (Sweden) with many of our friends and family travelling from my country (Australia). I'm sure they'll want to be there with us for more than a single night, and we want that too. I'd like to figure out if a collective 'summer camp' style thing is workable. [more inside]
Help me come up with creative catering ideas for my upcoming wedding! [more inside]
I'm looking for songs that lift your heart up, but in a... calming way? Examples of what I'm looking for would be Israel Kamakawiwoʻole's cover of "Somewhere Over the Rainbow," Modest Mouse's "Float On," or maybe The Magnetic Fields' "The Book of Love." Something that wouldn't be out of place at a wedding OR a memorial service. A joyful solemnity is the best descriptor I can come up with for what I'm looking for. What have you got for me?
A couple of literary friends are getting married, and I'd like to indulge their bibliophile tendencies. What are some ideas for gifts that would make practical additions to a home library? [more inside]
We're getting married. We both dislike jewelry but have decided to wear simple rings. But the selection is overwhelming. Do you enjoy this sort of thing and want to help us? [more inside]
The best weddings (to me/us) seem to be the ones where the couple's tribe is invited to participate in some way. We'd love ideas for how to make this happen. [more inside]
I'm hoping that I can get some recommendations for places to get married in either Devon or Somerset in England. Me and my girlfriend are hoping to get married in March-April 2017. We have three main requirements for the venue: 1) We can hire our own caterers or have self catering 2) The cost of the venue hire excluding catering is less than £3000 3) That the ceremony and reception are in the same place 4) For the wedding venue to hold roughly/up to 150 people Also, we're having trouble finding a venue like this... is there any particular terminology for a more inexpensive choice of venue as we only seem to be able to find posh mansion/expensive manor type houses at the moment.
Help me pick a wedding present for our friends who are getting married in the States and moving to Berlin next month! [more inside]
OK, so I have the wedding songs from musicals thing covered. Mr. 317 and I are getting married next summer, and would like to incorporate monologues from plays into our ceremony. Can you think of any great ones? Funny is okay.
We are looking for an nice, special and simple spot near Beacon, NY for our wedding. Google and there are lots of wedding "venues"; but these are not what we want. A special spot; a beautiful building; a nice garden. We can have it catered locally, but want to avoid the usual rented event/hotel destination spots.
Need songs for a skydiving themed wedding, help? [more inside]
I'm getting married in a month! Thinking of creative ways to invite our guests to share something of themselves with us. Guestbooks are cool and if that's what we end up with, no problem, but wondered if the hive mind has seen something cooler? Recently saw a wedding where the outcome of this was something that could be displayed, and it got me wondering. [more inside]
We just got engaged and are now in the research/planning process for our wedding. We are considering many options, from destination wedding (not likely, but in the running), large local wedding, small local wedding, or anything in between. The question that keeps popping up is: Is spending a huge chunk of money on our wedding worth it? [more inside]
I bought a (nonrefundable, of course) plane ticket to a wedding thinking the wedding was in the evening. It turns out it is in the afternoon. My flight is supposed to get in at 9 am the day of the wedding. I am in the wedding party. Should I take an overnight bus instead to insure that I am there on time? [more inside]
I really want this planner. But $63 seems steep. But it's really, really pretty. But are there better options?! [more inside]
We've chosen Marie's Wedding as a father-daughter/mother-son dance for our wedding next week. It's in 4/4 as far as I can tell. We just realized we have no idea how to dance to it. Difficulty level: we don't know how to dance anyway. [more inside]
So, live-in boyfriend of three years brother is getting married in September. We live in a different state from him and they're not particularly close, so I've only met his brother a few times and his fiancée once, but I'm on friendly terms with the family (I spend Christmas with them, etc). Boyfriend probably talks to his brother about every 6 months. [more inside]
I had a lovely informal courthouse wedding. Next Friday I will be having a large formalish party thrown by my parents. I'm wearing this dress in champagne with nude pumps. But what the heck do I wear from the neck up? [more inside]
For our Boozy Summer Camp-themed wedding, soon-to-be-Mr. Dorinda and I want to get bandanas with our made-up camp logo printed on them to give out to our campers/guests in their welcome baggies. We'd also like to not spend a gazillion dollars on what is in the grand scheme of things an incredibly minor part of our shindig. [more inside]
Hello hivemind, my spouse and I have our anniversary coming up and I would like to get us simple gold engrave-able his/hers ring set. The rings need to be well made and durable (not tarnishing). I am looking at online stores/etsy sellers -- are there any that you could recommend that could fit the bill? Your input is much appreciated!
Another 'find me a dress like this dress' question. I'm loving this dress for my wedding. Not loving the price tag. Suggestions for something similar either online or in Toronto? [more inside]
I am in the early stages of planning my wedding for next spring, and starting to look into who I would hire to play some tunes for the ceremony and party. I have a pretty good grasp of how insanely expensive wedding stuff is, but I'd sorely underestimated the going rate for a dj. Can I skip it, or is that a terrible mistake? Snowflakes within. [more inside]
I will be attending a wedding as a guest next weekend. My options for a suit are: dark grey, light grey, and a lighter navy. I'm interested in buying a new shirt and tie combo for the occasion, but I'm looking for some options. I'd like something that's bright and fun, but doesn't clash (which I often have a hard time discerning). [more inside]
I need to stop reading wedding boards. Everyone says I need a day-of-coordinator for my wedding, but do I really? [more inside]