My father in law recently suffered a traumatic brain injury, and is hospitalized. We are trying to learn everything we can to help with care and recovery. [more inside]
At our last session my therapist alluded to God in an entirely benign way but it still leaves me wondering whether I -- as an irreligious gay man -- should start shopping elsewhere. [more inside]
I'm looking for a couples counselor in the Honolulu area who isn't a big proponent of anything religious/"Eastern"/mystical/etc. Degrees from accredited universities are preferred. I've already checked the Psychology Today website without much luck. [more inside]
I need to see a therapist but I have NO idea how to find one. I live in Brooklyn and would go anywhere in Queens/Brooklyn/Manhattan (but mid/down town and northeast Brooklyn would be best.) I would prefer to see a woman, maybe someone who specializes in emotionally abusive relationships. I have Oxford insurance but I dont know if that even covers therapy. I could pay up to $100 a session out of pocket, I guess. I need to see someone as soon as possible. [more inside]
Have you had any experience with having a therapist (or client) who has a very different background and level of privilege from you? How did you address this? [more inside]
Have you done EMDR in therapy before? What was your experience? I am looking for anecdotal and/or research-based information about the efficacy of EMDR. [more inside]
Hello everyone, I've been having trouble finding a therapist. I'm looking because everyone tells me I need to see a counselor, but I've had 0 luck, and I've called over a dozen so far without avail. [more inside]
What help is out there for people who are partners to people with depression? [more inside]
Looking for a therapist who will treat me for a cluster of related injection/medical/dental phobias. [more inside]
How do I find a non-abusive, trustworthy therapist when that's never happened before? [more inside]
Not to change them or help the people around them that are affected by them. I mean, what sort of therapy might actually help them to live a happier life, accept the unchangeable things that drive them into spirals of anger, and smooth out the cycle of exploding their life every three years or so? [more inside]
Please suggest in-depth, emotionally intelligent, not overloaded with cliches and gender stereotyping, books about: marriage, marriage therapy, the psychology of relationships etc. [more inside]
I want to get my girl some help. Help me figure out how to evaluate therapists for her? And if you were or had an anxious teen or tween who learned tools that helped, what were they? [more inside]
I haven't been asked directly about my abuse and trauma history when meeting with mental health professionals. Is this standard? If so, why? [more inside]
Looking for personal, tried-and-true recommendations for a therapist in the DC area who works with adult women with autism spectrum disorders and accepts United insurance. Must be transit-accessible. [more inside]
I had been making some progress on the whole 'stop worrying about everything and try to be less sensitive' front. All of it went out the window when I started a medication that affects my hormone levels. Is there a way to CBT yourself out of biology, or will I be a nervous wreck forever? [more inside]
Curious if anyone knows specific counselors who have a knack with BPD in Kaiser's insurance for Denver, CO. I am an adult male in his 40s who has the BPD diagnosis but not been professionally treated with it. [more inside]
OK, AskMe, around these parts we know and love the advice to get therapy. It's great advice! But what about the 201-level advice? Once you get yourself into therapy, how do you get the most out of it? I'm curious to hear some MeFite wisdom. What has made your experience with therapy richer and more helpful? Give me your practical tips, and tell me about mindsets and attitudes that you have found to be helpful (or not helpful). [more inside]
Hi, I'm looking for a set of children's fantasy picturebooks from the 1960s or 1970s, that were designed for educational therapy, specifically to teach children how to correctly pronounce the "R", "Th" and "L". The ones I can remember were: [more inside]
How can I help my family deal with my adult brother's potentially violent behavior? I live several states away, and he recently started ADHD meds as an adult. [more inside]
I've had several careers (or jobs) that seem very different from each other, and I have an educational background which is equally varied. I'm looking to possibly embark on a new path, but need help figuring out where I'm going exactly. [more inside]
Have you attended an intensive couples therapy retreat, or gone through an intensive couples therapy experience? Do you know about outstanding programs that are worth traveling for? Please, please share with us. My partner and I are going through a crisis, and we're looking into intensive couples therapy and retreats to jumpstart our work. We are interested in considering all excellent programs, but we are also open to hearing about terrific therapists in the Chicagoland area who may be willing to work with us intensively. If you worked with an amazing therapist in the Chicago area, please let us know. We are having a super difficult time right now and would be grateful for information and recommendations. [more inside]
I'm completely confused and upset about recent developments in my therapy, and I don't know if I should continue it or not. I'm sorry but this is loooong, and there's really no good TL;DR I can come up with. Please be gentle; I realize I'm possibly wrong about everything, but I'm feeling fragile right now. [more inside]
Hello all, Yet another therapist recommendation question. This time my own! [more inside]
I spent a sizable portion of my adult life, a good 25 years, searching for a therapist who would truly understand me. In 2005, I did. After a a few years of not going, I went to see her again. As usual, she made me feel so much better that months passed before I called for another appointment. Then I learned she passed away suddenly. I honestly don't know what to do now. She had a private practice, so no colleagues, though I did reach out to a former associate of hers from a while back. I'm not sure if he's taking new clients, though. What are your suggestions? Any ideas would be much appreciated.
I'm gonna try again but it feels mighty daunting.I want to start a new therapy process and don't know what to look for, or how. [more inside]
A friend of mine is trying to find a new therapist with some level of class-based savvy. Difficulty level: accepts BCBS of Texas, not faith based, ideally CBT or DBT based.
How do I, a slacker who has ADHD and talks on the phone only reluctantly, find a therapist and make an appointment? I'm having a lot of trouble with this! [more inside]
After a completely sleepless, panicky night spent crying into my pillow, I realize I need help controlling my anxiety disorder. I am uninsured (until January) so low cost is essential, but I want to see a good therapist trained in CBT or a similar modality...bonus points if you know a provider who would be friendly to monogamish relationship situations, but I know that might be pushing it. Thanks for your help MeFites. I'm tired of the struggle...
I'm having trouble finding a therapist who can accommodate my work hours. Is this a common problem? [more inside]
I enjoy playing sports regularly (once or twice a day) and I end up getting injured often, (rolled ankle, straight calf, tight hamstring, over-use injuries too) and I'd like recommendations on injury prevention. Specific exercises, books, DVDs, principles, equipment, anything that can keep me in the field with less injuries. [more inside]
Diagnosed with an eating disorder last week. My dietitian will consult with my therapist of 3 years. We haven't been focusing on the ED in therapy very much up to this point. What kinds of things will the nutritionist and therapist talk about? What will the nutritionist want to know about therapy, and what info will my therapist get from the nutritionist?
A sibling of mine is in crisis. Possible bipolar disorder, definite prescription pill abuse, possible suicide risk. We need to find them help immediately. But my family being my family, there are some requirements that have to be met. More details inside. [more inside]
Spouse and I are struggling. We're busy, we're cranky, we're over extended, we are both feeling unappreciated and unheard. We have some of the stereotypical gender based dysfunctional interactions. We are having the same damn fights. Though more frequently because of life. There's no big drama, but we aren't being as nice to each other as we should be. We aren't supporting each other the way we should. [more inside]
Wife and I recognize that we need outside help, but aren't sure how to find it. [more inside]
How do I help a dying friend discourage another friend (unknown to me)from pushing alternative medicine/cures for her incurable cancer on Facebook? [more inside]
I like my therapist but feel that she is a bit too critical and it stresses me out. Am I overreacting? [more inside]
I was in therapy, but then we moved to a developing country a few months ago where therapies are not the done thing. I was physically, emotionally and verbally abusive before therapy. After a lot of work, I am a lot less abusive, but I've found that I still engage in controlling behavior. For the sake of my mental health and my relationship I want to stop completely, but don't know how to without professional help. [more inside]
On a shopping trip yesterday I happened to walk into Sephora and try Ultra Repair Lip Therapy balm. It felt great and lasted forever! However, it's $12 for 0.5 oz. Is there a similar lip therapy out there that's a bit cheaper?
Hi everyone. I've had travel anxiety for the last 10 or so years, but it's recently gotten really bad. I've completely dumped my responsibilities for the entire week in favour of just generally being anxious and depressed. [more inside]
I need some help in seeking a therapist. Not a recommendation to a specific therapist, but some insight into various approaches. [more inside]
My teenage brother has been struggling with pretty severe anxiety and depression for the last ~9 months; while my parents are being (in my view) amazing caregivers for him, I think they're both suffering from a lack of self-care, optimism, and support. What resources can I point them to, and what can I do, to help them with this? [more inside]
I saw on social media that my therapist's mother died on Saturday. However, she has confirmed our appointment for the day after tomorrow. I am quite sad about her loss. She doesn't know I look at her social media, and it is probably not appropriate to say anything about her personal life at any rate. How do I go to session two days from now and talk about my petty problems, knowing what she is going through? Is it inappropriate for me to be very upset about this loss in my therapist's life, that I'm not supposed to know about?
Hope me an online-only CBT class for Perfectionism, worthlessness, and other related 'Bad Thoughts'. (Or an alternative plan of treatment.) [more inside]
Are there any active online support groups for 9/11 survivors? I was in midtown when the WTC was attacked in 2001. That brought on several days of stressful situations for myself and others in the city (evacuating due to bomb threats, going near the site only to run for your life because fears of other buildings falling near the site, etc). I coped as everyone else did in the city, and for the past several years I've avoided most if not all 9/11 coverage. This year, the anniversary passed without me realizing it - but then on the 12th I was reading an article about first responders lobbying congress and it sent me down a rabbit hole of watching (for the first time) life news footage of the attacks. [more inside]
I have an English-language health handout that includes the self-care check-yourself acronym HALT (Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired - more background on it here). I want to have the handout translated into Spanish. Is there an "official" Spanish-language version of HALT that therapists use? I don't want to make up something new. [more inside]
Physical or occupational therapists, speech pathologists, rehabilitation people etc., would you please step inside? I would like to collect some of the physical methods and exercises used to train and develop your clients. I am thinking there are probably things like blowing into straws or passing objects from one hand to another and would love to hear more and what it is they develop.
With the help of my excellent (CBT) psychotherapist, the last seven years have seen great strides in my mental health. But I fear that my therapist and I have reached our expiration date. Should I consider a life coach? Given my budget, can I even afford to have a life coach around often enough to be effective? [more inside]
My mom(85), recovering from a stroke she had in February 2015, is staying with me for a month. I would like to pay for someone to come to my building and work with her while she is visiting. We have a full gym in the building, but I don't feel comfortable leading her in exercise. Any references for hiring a visiting Physical Therapist in or near Jersey City, NJ, US?
Dealing with depression, nothing is working, every day is a waste. [more inside]