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Criticize me, please!

How can I develop relationships in a manner where people feel comfortable enough to give me honest feedback? I am socially deficient in many ways, but right now I would like to focus on how I can improve this particular aspect of relationship development. [more inside]
posted by FiveSecondRule on Mar 16, 2015 - 8 answers

Anxiety and Memory Loss? Foods that help memory loss for vegans?

I seem to have acute anxiety lately, which is causing a cognition deficit for me. My memory is quite poor and lax these days - I'm not certain if it is due to my vegan diet, or my ongoing intensive anxiety? Are there any tips on how to improve my memory and stabilize my anxiety? [more inside]
posted by RearWindow on Mar 10, 2015 - 17 answers

What do you mean there's no website?

Is it a new trend to conduct a political campaign without a website and just use social media? How does an old-school web person adjust? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 8, 2015 - 12 answers

Trip cancellation etiquette amongst friends

What's the commonly acceptable etiquette on reimbursing someone when you back out of a trip? [more inside]
posted by arcticseal on Feb 27, 2015 - 40 answers

How to be around people?

Going through a rough patch. Where can I go to be in the company of other people without feeling like I have to be outgoing? [more inside]
posted by shaun on Feb 24, 2015 - 12 answers

Not intelligent enough to become a social researcher?

Lately, I have seem to have doubts about my intelligence; particularly with the notion of becoming a social researcher. I have always wanted to explore the field of social research. I have a penchant for learning new knowledge and theories; my curiosity never seems to wane. However, I have little confidence that I'm able to obtain a Master's Degree in Critical Sociology. I need to build my confidence and reassure myself that I have the capability, passion, devotion, and worth ethic to learn and strive towards this career goal. I would be most appreciated for some scope of advice, tips, and encouragement. [more inside]
posted by RearWindow on Feb 16, 2015 - 11 answers

Going to protests/marches alone and social anxiety

There are a lot of protests and marches I would like to attend, but none of my friends are interested in going. [more inside]
posted by winterportage on Feb 14, 2015 - 13 answers

Social skills workplan

I've read books about improving social skills and it hasn't really helped. What I really want is some workplan that's broken down into tasks for each week to help me improve. Mostly I'm looking at seeming interesting enough that people would want to spend time with me. [more inside]
posted by ninjablob on Jan 27, 2015 - 26 answers

How can I be less sensitive?

There is no question about it – I am an extremely sensitive person. What I want to know is how can I be less sensitive, or, maybe, if I should be less sensitive? [more inside]
posted by 8LeggedFriend on Jan 20, 2015 - 16 answers

Are there any techniques that make someone better at social situations?

I've done the meetup thing and it's alright, but I feel like people are turned off by me a little. There are awkward silences and such. I'm an introvert and can fall into becoming a hermit really easily if I don't watch myself. [more inside]
posted by manderin on Jan 14, 2015 - 21 answers

What's an Extroverted Introvert to do?

Yes, I'm literally asking for basic social tips and tricks. [more inside]
posted by ourt on Jan 4, 2015 - 8 answers

How to escalate small talk to medium talk?

I met this great guy in NYC on everyone's favorite dating website. We've been out a few weekends in a row and had a great time together, but I'm running in to a sort of roadblock, conversationally. We are both introverted and quiet, and we both find small talk is insanely boring. [more inside]
posted by Kestrelxo on Jan 4, 2015 - 16 answers

Tips, Anecdotes or Books About Forgiving Those Who've Wronged You?

I am carrying around a lot of hatred and fury. I don't know how to forgive people from my past. I need a primer -- books, tips, anything. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 3, 2015 - 31 answers

What if I just don't fit in with people?

I have the sneaking suspicion that I was born in the wrong place (or planet), and I want to come to terms with the loneliness that sometimes creeps in. Please help? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by The Shonky Shop on Dec 28, 2014 - 14 answers

Is it weird/creepy to attempt friendship with a one off acquaintance?

Recently I had to take my car in for repairs. I visited the shop for an estimate, spoke on the phone to the receptionist and dealt with her when dropping off my car and picking up the courtesy car. Not only was she very helpful in providing me with some information I needed (a previous shop I went to weren't helpful at all) but she was fun to interact with. She and I seemed to hit it off and chatted each time for a few minutes, about the car and also about some other random topics. After interacting with her I just felt like I wished she was my friend. The converation was light and fun and I think we share a sense of humor. Just to provide some more information: I'm a female in my early 40s and I think she is maybe late 40s. [more inside]
posted by thegoldfish on Dec 18, 2014 - 25 answers

Comms. reading material over the holidays

Not too heavy but not too light [more inside]
posted by winterportage on Dec 11, 2014 - 5 answers

Can I contact a social worker to deliver a gift?

A homeless man in my neighborhood mentioned his social worker's name to me; can I ask her to deliver a care package to the homeless man? [more inside]
posted by shornco on Dec 9, 2014 - 7 answers

Curiouser and curiouser

I would like to be more curious about my fellow human beings. Curious people, how do you approach conversations with people you don't know? [more inside]
posted by ontheradio on Dec 3, 2014 - 12 answers

Trans* Resources for the mundane aspects of transitioning?

I am a transwoman thinking heavily about transitioning, looking for resources that discuss the day-to-day and social aspects of the process. Can you recommend blogs, books, articles, or anything else? Any "Go trans! Yay!" things would be helpful, actually. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 2, 2014 - 15 answers

Volunteer looking for prison transition resources & needs.

I've just volunteered with a prison ministry in Tulsa, OK devoted to criminal justice reform, helping families of inmates, providing services to prisoners, etc. I'm looking for transition resources & am working on identifying the needs of transitioning prisoners. [more inside]
posted by countrymod on Nov 16, 2014 - 6 answers

I can't drink you under the table. The table's already floating away...

I'm a super lightweight (even if I've eaten) who sometimes goes out drinking with new colleagues, in small groups, often as the only female in the group. I'm a happy melty drunk who gets dreamy and quiet rather than more social -- not the worst of all possibilities, but clearly not right for these important professional contexts. Any strategies for always being the non-drinker or less-than-one-drink-er in occasionally competitive and/or macho drinking cultures?
posted by kalapierson on Nov 13, 2014 - 25 answers

Being fun at parties

Scenario: college party with other folks my age, drinking and meeting folks. Problem: I'm not good at talking about light, non-intellectual topics at parties. I don't watch TV or movies or know about goings on on campus. What can I talk about (that isn't boring), or how can I improve this? [more inside]
posted by markbao on Nov 6, 2014 - 22 answers

Why do I have to get semi-naked to see a doctor?

So I finally got health insurance in the US and made a 'new patient' appointment for a physical. After talking the nurse through my (very limited) medical history, I was asked to undress and put on a medical gown. I then met my new doctor, talked about my medical history again, asked for a referral to a chiropractor (I have scoliosis and associated back pain, and wanted to re-establish treatment). She took my blood pressure, did the stethoscope thing on my back, and did a bit of abdomen pressing. The rest was talking. So why did I need to undress and wear a medical gown? [more inside]
posted by finding.perdita on Oct 27, 2014 - 40 answers

I'm cooking! (With a catch.)

Hi! I'm hosting a dinner party. One of the attendees is a professional chef. MeFi, what do I feed my guests? [more inside]
posted by schooley on Oct 22, 2014 - 26 answers

friend is late to plans 95% of the time

How to handle issues regarding a friend who is typically late to nearly all our plans? [more inside]
posted by bananaskin on Oct 19, 2014 - 46 answers

Polyandry - tell me everything

I'm writing a dystopian sci fi novel and it's coming along sparkingly. Yay. One of the plot lines involves a shortage of women, and the development of new family units utilising polyandry. I'm looking for resources - primarily non-fiction - of both positive and negative experiences of polyandry. [more inside]
posted by b33j on Oct 17, 2014 - 10 answers

Hire me even though I ran out so fast you saw a blur?

I had a great second interview for a position that I believe I will excel in. I did the best I could and answered as truthfully as possible. I believe things were going well and both managers seemed receptive, yet had their poker faces on. My mistake was when I got up to leave, I grabbed my purse and forgot to shake their hands and walked out. Is it a big deal? [more inside]
posted by lunastellasol on Oct 17, 2014 - 18 answers

can random people view my stuff on facebook, pinterest and twitter?

I am on facebook, pinterest and twitter, and I was wondering if random people can just look up my stuff that I have written or even my pictures. I'm not talking about people who are logged in and are following me or my friends. I just mean random strangers. Thanks.
posted by lynnie-the-pooh on Oct 2, 2014 - 6 answers

what are some steps that I can take towards my ideal career set-up?

I have an idea of what I think would be my ideal career set up (involving social, ethnographic and/or market research in China) , but am not too clear on the next steps to take. Can you help? [more inside]
posted by bearette on Sep 26, 2014 - 2 answers

Self- sabotage: A beast with two heads

For the past few years, I've had to deal with what seems like procrastination's more stubborn cousin. It's not just a tendency to put things off- it feels like a visceral, physically-manifested resistance to doing things that should involve no forethought in terms of effort whatsoever, or that do, but that would only serve to help me better myself if I managed to get them done. [more inside]
posted by marsbar77 on Sep 18, 2014 - 19 answers

Being more confident and less nervous when speaking

How can I be more confident when speaking in nervous situations? When I'm speaking to a friend, I'm fine and speak really well, deep voice, etc. But when I talk to a superior, like to a professor or mentor or an intense discussion group, my voice gets high-pitched and cracks and I don't speak well. How can I speak more confidently in these nervous situations?
posted by suburbs on Sep 18, 2014 - 6 answers

Seniors, Social Security, and Sallie Mae

Thinking ahead to my eventual retirement, I phoned Sallie Mae earlier this year, and spoke with a rep who was easy to chat with, and seemed well-informed and helpful. I asked her if there was any sort of discount or other concession made for student loan payments once the debtor retired and began drawing Social Security. Her answer was that, good news, once I provide Sallie Mae with documentary evidence that I am drawing Social Security, the balance of my loans would be waived. [more inside]
posted by mmiddle on Sep 11, 2014 - 7 answers

Social undermining, Reply-All email edition

What is the proper response when you've just sent out an email invitation to a regular social group because it's your turn to host, and immediately one of the members replies-all to your email in order to publicly "correct" you. Only they're actually wrong. [more inside]
posted by hush on Sep 9, 2014 - 55 answers

How do I not invite a friend's boyfriend to anything in the future?

Over the weekend we went to a party at my friend Ryan's apartment (not his real name) where he lives with his boyfriend Kevin (also not a real name), then we all went out to a bar. They've been dating for probably a year. My friends Anne and Steven, who are dating, came too -- they don't really know Ryan and Kevin but they came for the party. I ended up leaving fairly early and Anne and Steven were still there, as was my friend Amanda (none of these names are the actual names of participants). I found out yesterday from Steven that Kevin "jokingly" groped Anne which is obviously profoundly not okay. I have a few questions about how to proceed from here. Don't know if this matters but I am a woman so it would be great if suggestions about specific steps I should take could please bear that in mind. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 8, 2014 - 57 answers

Sources of funding for social mobility

I have some friends who don't have GCSEs or A-levels. I would like to help them study for these qualifications. How can they support their living costs? [more inside]
posted by Musashi Daryl on Sep 3, 2014 - 9 answers

How to work under an insecure boss?

I'm struggling with a social / political issue at work. I have been in my current job for about a year. I am a little overqualified for the position, but I really like most aspects of it and it's a small enough field that other similar jobs are hard to come by, so I'd vastly prefer it if the solution doesn't involve quitting. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 19, 2014 - 10 answers

Books about inequality and privilege

I'm currently traveling in a developing country (Ghana) and got the very common feeling that "I'm so privileged/lucky" compared to some of the underprivileged people here. I'd like to continue this train of thought, and read more books about privilege, dealing with privilege (do we have a responsibility to give back since we have privilege?), and generally how inequality comes about. What do you recommend? Some books I've found on this topic are inside. [more inside]
posted by markbao on Aug 14, 2014 - 3 answers

Was I rude on accident for not introducing my boyfriend to my boss?

I'm a teacher who didn't introduce my boyfriend to my supervisor at an informal gathering and I'm wondering if I should apologize to to him [the supervisor]? Was this rude or perhaps OK for the circumstance? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 8, 2014 - 14 answers

What to say when "Fine, and you?" feels like a betrayal?

I've had a truly awful year, and in April my much beloved pet died suddenly leaving me completely devastated with guilt and grief. Among the things I no longer seem to be able to do is answer the innocuous "How are you?" question from acquaintances and colleagues. Any suggestions? [more inside]
posted by girl flaneur on Jul 31, 2014 - 42 answers

Careers in communications / social justice

I'm going back to school for communications in the fall. I'd like to start gathering career ideas now so I know what to look for when I graduate and also so that I pick the right courses for my career path. When I went in to my undergrad in 2007, I had no idea of what I would do upon graduation. So, I'd like to gather some ideas now and tailor my course selection towards potential career options. [more inside]
posted by winterportage on Jul 22, 2014 - 4 answers

Social Mapping

Does Twitter or Facebook provide any mapping like this, or is there an app that can, through access to a TW or FB account, create this kind of map? [more inside]
posted by CollectiveMind on Jul 21, 2014 - 5 answers

Ending friendship like a grown-up

I’d like to get some outside opinions on managing the probable end of a friendship with a formerly very close friend, without (any more) melodrama or middle-school emotional antics. I will definitely see her at a mutual friend’s birthday in a couple of months, and I may see her infrequently (e.g. a few times a year) on an ongoing basis. [more inside]
posted by Kpele on Jul 21, 2014 - 28 answers

How do I respond to an apparent offer of friendship?

As someone who is socially anxious and has difficulty interpreting social interactions, what is an appropriate follow-up response to someone who appears to be being friendly but may actually just be following social niceties? [more inside]
posted by teselecta on Jul 21, 2014 - 17 answers

Help me get out of a work-only rut and be sociable again?

In the last year or so, my life has basically become work and errands, and my social life is barely there. As a result, I find myself becoming unable to be sociable around people. All I seem to do is be able to discuss my job. How can I get out of this rut? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 18, 2014 - 7 answers

Having a messy house is the least of my worries

Mefites with ADHD, how do you cope with the social and professional problems caused by this condition? [more inside]
posted by Sockrates on Jun 29, 2014 - 7 answers

How to smile on command?

How do I make a genuine smile when I encounter people so that they know that I'm open to interactions? [more inside]
posted by PlasticSupernova on Jun 21, 2014 - 25 answers

I avoid people. Is this normal?

Apart from some very special people, I avoid interaction as much as I can. I don't remember ever feeling like I enjoy interacting with people just for the sake of it unless I already have an established good relationship. You are not my therapist, but what is my deal? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 2, 2014 - 27 answers

When should you inquire about the academic rigor of research?

A few weeks ago I saw this FPP and found it to be very enlightening. Since then I was exposed to some similar but much lesser academic work and found questionable references in it. My issue - should I just drop it or do something more substantial? [more inside]
posted by vonstadler on May 31, 2014 - 4 answers

Graceful ways to explain spouse's chronic illness in social situations

I am having some difficulties explaining/trying not to explain my spouse's chronic health condition in social and work situations. I need some stock answers I can give for various occasions. [more inside]
posted by JoannaC on May 21, 2014 - 28 answers

Lessons UK can learn from the US education system?

What lessons can the UK learn from the US education system in order to close the achievement gap? I am writing a report on the pivotal role education plays in increasing the ability of low-income Americans to move up the income ladder. Central to the American ethos is the notion that it is possible to start out poor and become prosperous - it is hard work and not circumstances you were born into that offers real prospects for success. The class system in the UK is deeply entrenched and a mindset that higher education is for "posh" people. Why does the US have much more social mobility? Or is the reality not so encouraging? I am looking at inner-city schools in New York City in particular but any opinions about the US in general would be very appreciated.
posted by ashawill on May 17, 2014 - 33 answers

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