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The 33 Year Old (quasi) Virgin

I started out as Emma. But I've turned into Miss Bates. [more inside]
posted by ChickenBear on Aug 19, 2016 - 22 answers

How to prevent attachment to a casual fling?

For my first outside-of-my-first-relationship relationship (or whatever you would call it, there's no titles for anything anymore), I am very confused how to do this successfully and without getting hurt. Please help me understand how to navigate a casual relationship without hurting myself. Slight snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by socky bottoms on Jul 25, 2016 - 25 answers

Instrumental jazz album for sexy times

What is your favorite jazz album for making love? Prefer anything later than 1950 but before 1990. Also prefer instrumental. Not too obscure. Should be easy to find on iTunes. That's it. Thanks!
posted by marsha56 on Jul 18, 2016 - 15 answers

Partner's struggles with anxiety have killed our sex life

I am really struggling with my partner’s anxiety and its impact on our sex life. I am 33, he is 25, and we are a gay male couple. [more inside]
posted by ninefour on Jul 13, 2016 - 12 answers

Is it an STD?

Had a one night stand a couple of weeks ago, used a condom. Now have a mildly itchy spot near my genitals that isn't going away. Do I worry? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 9, 2016 - 10 answers

How to figure out this sleeping issue with partner?

I've recently begun dating someone I really like. Mostly everything is going great....until we sleep. [more inside]
posted by pando11 on Jul 8, 2016 - 30 answers

New guy -am I worrying too much?

I am 37, divorced....Recently, a guy from my hometown (same age) contacted me on Facebook...he lives a 4 hour drive from me. We agreed to meet at the halfway point, and our first date went really well. A few days ago he drove down to see me before heading up to camp with his buddies... He drove 10 hours out of his way for me, and stayed overnight. It was an amazing night, we had been talking regularly for 3 weeks, and ended up sleeping together. Now I am wondering if I'm worrying too much about his texting habits? [more inside]
posted by Maggsie97 on Jul 4, 2016 - 27 answers

Last night my girlfriend told me that she has no sex drive

I'm 24 and she's 20, last night she told me she doesn't enjoy sex at all and doesn't see the point. She said she likes how people look and likes how I like but doesn't feel desire towards them. I've tried to ask her more about it, like when it started, but she said she genuinely didn't know, it's been causing her a lot of stress and upset and she was afraid to tell me. [more inside]
posted by fallingleaves on Jul 3, 2016 - 40 answers

Weed nerds-- Help me find a hookah alternative with a similar vibe?

My husband and I currently spend the majority of our time together wrangling our two year old. We have been getting in an 'adult time' frame of mind about twice a month by smoking weed from a hookah. It's awesome. However, I'm concerned about the health effects. Looking for an alternative that preserves the relaxing ritual feel. Snowflakes below [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 30, 2016 - 17 answers

Getting some on the side, with permission.

My spouse has given me permission to have sex outside of our marriage, has expressed a desire for me to do so. This is not something that I have necessarily wanted to do, but I believe it is something I should consider for reasons I will explain inside. Have you or someone that you know done this? If so, what are the pitfalls? What are some good ground rules? What worked and what didn't? What should I consider before taking this step? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 28, 2016 - 19 answers

Do we REALLY need to obey pelvic rest instructions?

13 days ago, I had a laparoscopic surgery to treat some endometriosis-related concerns. YANMD, but you are also not what I find when I Google this ("pelvic rest" seems to turn up pregnancy-related concerns only). Short version: my partner and I want to do. it. soon. But the printed instructions my doctor gave after surgery say no. [more inside]
posted by witchen on Jun 22, 2016 - 20 answers

Sick & sexified exercise music videos

I am curating a playlist of music videos (of any genre, and of any era) featuring exercise (of any kind) done in a sexy or titillating way. Current tracklist and granular criteria within. Bonus points for depictions of men doing sexy workouts. [more inside]
posted by thetarium on Jun 9, 2016 - 34 answers

What do you do about a love triangle?

I'm finding myself in a very complicated love triangle between my partner and our mutual friend (his best friend of many years). My boyfriend and I are in an open sexual relationship, but I believe I'm emotionally cheating on him. I have no idea what to do, or where to even begin in trying to fix this. [more inside]
posted by chocolatespaghetti on Jun 7, 2016 - 41 answers

How do I adjust to a non-sexual, companionate marriage?

My husband of 15 years and I haven't had sex in seven months. We are mismatched sexually and are otherwise happy. How do I let go of the idea that sex with him is necessary? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 3, 2016 - 24 answers

How do nonexclusive relationships work?

I'm in the process of getting divorced and am seeing a couple different dudes. I like them both a lot but am in no place for a serious relationship. My soon to be ex is the only serious adult relationship I've ever had so I totally don't know what I'm doing. [more inside]
posted by Janet Snakehole on May 30, 2016 - 12 answers

How to hit the reset button on our sex life and libidos?

Our sex life has been lackluster for a long time and I want to change that, but there's a long and complicated history.. Wall of text inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 14, 2016 - 33 answers

How to ask out my TA? … when we’ve already made out?

How to ask out my TA? … when we’ve already made out? My judgment may be slightly clouded by, um, hormones. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 10, 2016 - 14 answers

Married but interested in younger/beautiful girls

I have been married with an older woman for about 4 years and now I have developed interests towards younger girls. [more inside]
posted by wondering_man on May 4, 2016 - 52 answers

Later in life to lose my virginity; afraid to sleep with someone new.

I lost my virginity at age 29 to my long-term boyfriend (a little over three years) and we recently broke up. Now that I'm starting to date again, I'm having a hard time imagining being with someone else. And I'm not sure how to sleep with someone who I'm not in a relationship with. Can you give some advice on how to ease into new sexual relationships?
posted by anonymous on May 2, 2016 - 18 answers

Advice for dealing with painful sex (penetration)

I'm in my mid-late thirties, a woman dating men, and penetrative sex has always been painful or uncomfortable to varying degrees. What are some ways I can deal with this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 18, 2016 - 17 answers

How can a fundamentalist explore beyond her upbringing?

How can I respectfully explore the possibility that, as a woman, I'm attracted to women? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 17, 2016 - 14 answers

How do we break out of a years long separation limbo?

Over five years ago I (male) decided to separate from my wife. We’ve been married for 16 years. The dam burst of emotion that fueled my decision to separate was spent before going all the way to divorce. She hasn’t divorced me either. Neither of us has dated anyone else. Things have simmered to an uneasy state of limbo, where we’re technically married, yet more like just friends and co-parents. How do you break out of an indecision so powerful that any choice feels like dying? Warning: tsunami of text inside! [more inside]
posted by star fruit on Apr 15, 2016 - 22 answers

Video about mathematical models of why sexual reproduction happens

A while ago, I saw a video where a woman speaker discussed some of the puzzles in biology about why sexual reproduction evolved and continues to happen. It covers "the cost of males" and other major drawbacks, then discusses how only models that incorporate a finite population show sex evolving and persisting. [more inside]
posted by sindark on Apr 14, 2016 - 3 answers

What should I include in my 'sex and relationships' lessons?

I'm looking for advice as to what I should include as 'extras' in my sex and relationships lessons for ten and eleven year old children. [more inside]
posted by schmoo on Apr 4, 2016 - 48 answers

Sexting Got Gross

I have this platonic friend, B. We’re not terribly close but hang out from time to time to talk music and stuff. Nothing at all sexual has happened between us. Yesterday, he texted me and then it suddenly turned into sexting. Except the sexting was pretty gross. I know I don’t want to hang out with him again, but I can’t decide if I should say anything about the sexting, especially since I didn’t at the time. More below. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 28, 2016 - 15 answers

I want to flirt, harmlessly, online. How do I do this, where do I go?

I have the urge to flirt online. I don't want to do this via any real social channels, because those are all real people and I don't want to hurt any of them. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 25, 2016 - 9 answers

How do you initiate sex?

I appreciate all the advice I've received so far. It's been very helpful. I do however have another question, if you're on a date, how exactly does one initiate sex? [more inside]
posted by Dynamo05 on Mar 25, 2016 - 29 answers

STD/AIDS PSA from early 90s

A public service announcement from the very early 90s intended to spread STD awareness by describing how, when you sleep with someone, you are having sex with every person with whom your partner has had sex. Can you help me find video, audio or print collateral from this PSA? [more inside]
posted by everyfoolthing on Feb 27, 2016 - 7 answers

How to get past my husband's lack of attraction

My husband and I have been together for 16 years, married for 10. We started dating at almost 20. We generally have a good marriage, good communication, and love each other. However, several times over the past few years, my husband has told me that he is not attracted to my body. He still thinks my face is pretty and we still have sex about once a week, 2x a month if we're busy, and it's good. I'm having trouble getting past the fact that he feels this way, though. I'm angry and resentful. How do I move past this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 20, 2016 - 24 answers

How to stop dating after a couple dates?

I'm 32, date women and men, and am just getting back into dating. After two-three dates, what's the polite way to let someone know that you're not interested in dating further (because of lack of chemistry or whatever)? Does it change based on how naked you got with them? These are mostly internet dates where we text a little, don't talk on the phone, and don't see one another outside dating.
posted by anonymous on Feb 16, 2016 - 27 answers

How can I transport Cialis pills for emergency use?

How can I transport Cialis/Viagra pills for emergency use? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 15, 2016 - 13 answers

Which gangster invented supermarket sex?

This cover of the Police Gazette magazine references "supermarket sex" (?) being invented by a particular "gangster". Who were they referring to? [more inside]
posted by dilaudid on Feb 6, 2016 - 7 answers

The big, scary world of sexytimes

I'm 26 and gay. In a wheelchair. Never been kissed ( ha! ), been on only one date, which went poorly. How do I make inroads with regards to my crippling fear of intimacy- physical and emotional? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 4, 2016 - 9 answers

Seeking romantic compatibility anecdata

Deep in limerence, but the first attempt at sex was disappointing. [more inside]
posted by hellameangirl on Jan 31, 2016 - 21 answers

Shaving every day as the price of admission for sex

Had a tiff last night with my boyfriend regarding leg stubble. When I tried to get frisky he told me I needed to go shave first since it had been three days. This has come up before and I'm feeling a bit hurt and resentful. He insisted he was joking and didn't care if I'd shaved. Do I need to just let it go? [more inside]
posted by Chkalovskaya on Jan 30, 2016 - 156 answers

Can you find the DIY couch instructions with the funny setup?

Several years ago I found some instructions for building your own (banquette style, I think) seating out of plywood, foam, etc. What sticks out in my memory was the author introducing the need for new furniture. It was something like this: 'I loaned my apartment to some filmmakers for a shoot. After the fact, I discovered they made porn, and you can guess what they used my couch for. (They had sex on it.) Obviously I need new furniture.' Can you track down this page?
posted by Monochrome on Jan 29, 2016 - 2 answers

I am EXTREMELY attracted to my professors/TAs. Help?

I've been in school (grad school!!) for two years, and I want to sex every single one of my male professors/TAs, with very few exceptions. How can I turn this infernal brain thing off?!?! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 27, 2016 - 20 answers

Options for safely reducing female libido?

What are the options (besides antidepressants) a woman has to safely reduce her libido? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 14, 2016 - 13 answers

Where to find how social media has influenced attitudes on sex work?

Has there been any scholarly work or research done on how attitudes toward sex workers/pornographic performers have changed due to social media? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 11, 2016 - 2 answers

Positive representations & stories about sex with men of size

I find myself very attracted to an obese man. I'm an average-sized lady who has mostly been with more slender men, and I want more information about what it would be like to be with somebody much bigger. I'm hoping you can help me find some healthy, positive representations of sexuality featuring men of size. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 22, 2015 - 7 answers

Erotic Bondage

I have a few questions about a form of erotic bondage. Clearly NSFW after the fold. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 21, 2015 - 2 answers

Scorpion Sex Scene

I'm trying to remember the title of a movie or tv show from my childhood. This would be an 80's or early 90's thing probably. All I remember is a that its a sex/seduction scene, and that there is a black scorpion scrawling on the silk sheets next to the couple, and then on one or both of them. I want to say that one of them was trying to kill the other and released it before getting it on.
posted by Gargantuantoe on Dec 20, 2015 - 2 answers

Talking about sex with a partner who has Stage 4 cancer...

I really need some advice on how to talk with my partner and address her questions about our sex life (or lack of it) as not only do we have a two-year old but my partner is also undergoing treatment for cancer. Help, please... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 16, 2015 - 22 answers

NYC group sex and BDSM scenes

Hi. We're a late 30s F/M couple (both straight) interested in learning more about both the group sex and BDSM scenes in New York City. Groups, websites, articles, tips for newcomers and any other advice or suggestions are all welcome. [more inside]
posted by junipacrossthestars on Dec 15, 2015 - 1 answer

The Pinterest of S&M?

As a mostly service top, I'm good to go with technical aspects of bondage, but have trouble planning the "plotline" or trajectory of any given session with my masochist partner. Are there websites/ books/ blogs that have sizeable compendia of ideas for bondage scenarios (games, roleplays, scripts, etc.)? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 4, 2015 - 7 answers

Girlfriend's mom says we have to share separate beds. Opinions?

My girlfriend is twenty five and her mother is telling her to sleep in a separate bed from me. She is fairly introverted and sheltered ( I am too to a degree) and her family is pretty religious. I am feeling uncomfortable that my girlfriend's mother is making these decisions for her, and I am unsure how to proceed or how to feel about this relationship. Any and all opinions are welcome. [more inside]
posted by Thanquol180 on Dec 3, 2015 - 48 answers

How can I stop body image issues getting in the way with a new partner?

Please help me to get over my body image issues when it comes to sex with someone new. [more inside]
posted by NatalieWood on Nov 30, 2015 - 15 answers

Please help a sexless relationship.

Everything is going great, until at some point my partner doesn't seem to be interested in me anymore. Physically. Everything is great, there is just no sex. [more inside]
posted by Tiffy119 on Nov 29, 2015 - 30 answers

My partner has ED. How do I make him feel better?

My boyfriend has had problems maintaining an erection and reaching orgasm for the 7 months we've been together. I love him a lot and know that this hurts him, probably far more than he is letting on. This isn't about me - I would just love some advice from people that have either been in my or his situation about things that have helped them to feel like they aren't a failure or less masculine because of it. [more inside]
posted by kyetak on Nov 26, 2015 - 16 answers

Issues with long distance relationship.

I am living in a long distance relationship and have encountered an issue I do not know how to cope with. I hope you can help me. [more inside]
posted by Salicornia on Nov 24, 2015 - 13 answers

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