Is it possible to maintain a polyamorous relationship where my partner's other partner is someone I despise? I am very much in love with someone who is married to a person I have met, talked with, and entirely hate. Do metamours typically get along? Should they in order for a relationship to be healthy? [more inside]
If this is frass (insect poop), what kind is it? I'm finding it along the edges of our sunroom and on the floor under the route of one of the beams in the center. I don't see any insects or holes. The sunroom is metal beam construction, attached to the house by studded drywall over masonry. frass one and frass two
Can I get my FICO or credit score if I have a credit freeze in place with the big 3 credit reporting agencies? Would I need to remove the credit freeze in order to get my credit rating?
I have a good friend who I met at work (same company, different division), and we have known each other a few years. In our last interaction, she behaved in a way which has put me right off and I'm trying to decide if I am being reasonable or not. [more inside]
Whenever I want to open MeFi, access my bank accounts, open my mail, etc, I have to reenter my password. How do I fix this please?
Am steadily repurchasing most of my favorite books I had growing up. (Gotta contribute to the economy somehow, I guess.) This was a reader, with short stories that included a condensed version of "Flat Stanley." [more inside]
So my spouse bought us some Sudafed on Saturday, the real stuff that you have to turn over your driver's license for. Then we forgot it in the car and it spent all day in the glovebox. [more inside]
A friend gave me a big hunk of aged provolone. This morning, I grated a little bit of it into my scrambled egg and it was effing delicious. Next up, melty slices of it on a hot Italian beef sub sandwich. How else can I use this cheese to best effect?
My friend thinks several of our mutual friends hate her. This is not true, but she is convinced that it is. She has taken to lashing out at me if I spend time with any of these people without her. [more inside]
My jar of store-bought kimchi has white stuff growing on it. I suspect it's yeast. Can I still eat it if I discard the yeasty parts? [more inside]
Is it safe to say that there is always a rainbow visible in the sky somewhere on Planet Earth? Relatedly, is it possible to estimate the average number of rainbows visible across the planet at a given moment?
I have a ginormous Rosemary bush which I need to trim back to manageable amounts (at the moment it covers our path, which is obviously not ideal). I like Rosemary with lamb, but theres limited variations on that. Are there any recipes where Rosemary might not be the obvious thing to use? Does it freeze? Any other non-obvious uses? I've offered it to neighbours but it doesnt seem to be a thing amongst my mainly Asian/Afro-Carribean neighbours, but if there's a way of giving it away I'm all for it!
I want to do something like "Airplane mode" only for biking. I want to be able to toggle a group of settings every time I go for a bike ride, without having to check each one individually. The goal would be to press one button at the start of the ride and then undo it all at the end. [more inside]
I need to know if it's possible to run a slide show of someone else's FB photos during a memorial service....Snowflakes of course... [more inside]
I live in Australia. When I start typing an address or landmark into my android phone on the google maps app, the top suggestions Google gives until my typing is complete are 99% NZ places, mostly from the parts of New Zealand I visit once a year or so. And then I often accidentally click on one instead of the correct address. It's driving me crazy. Has anyone seen this sort of behaviour before? How can I make it stop? [more inside]
I'm moving from the East Coast to Los Angeles in the next few weeks. It is intended to be a permanent move, but I will be staying at an Airbnb for the first couple of months while I apartment-hunt, etc. In studying the California DMV guidelines here I see that I will need to provide a residential address to print on the license (even if I use a PO Box for my mail.) Is there any way around this? [more inside]
Came home this evening to a right mess in the kitchen and dining room. My lodger's daughters (11yo and 9yo) had been left unsupervised in his room - they claimed not to know where he was or what time he'd be back. Surprise, surprise, he was in the pub. His response was underwhelming to say the least. Avalanche of rantings... [more inside]
Friday night the hard drive my Steam and Origin games were installed on died the death of the dreaded click. All is fixed, except for the Windows 10 uninstall programs menu. [more inside]
I want to read journals and letters by people in their fifties and sixties. It could be anyone, anywhere, any century. I prefer good writing, and some levity. Most of all I'm looking for a sense of personality, text that brings the writer to life. The writer in his/her late middle age has lived several decades. They are settled in themselves, yet they still struggle. They look forward to years ahead, and they ponder mortality. What do they have to say? [more inside]
Excel experts and fundraising professionals, ho! I work for a small non-profit and we're currently transitioning from a janky FilemakerPro database to NeonCRM. I have all the data spread across three spreadsheets and my brain is collapsing trying to figure out the best way to deal with it. What's the best/most efficient way to compare data between three separate spreadsheets, and manipulate it into the format I need for this import? All the necessary/boring details lie within! [more inside]
I need help putting a name to my gender identity. This feels stupid to me, but I seem to be having some difficulty with this, and would appreciate it if the internet would kindly put me out of my misery. [more inside]
Is there anywhere I can watch a video of the men's 200m final without having the results spoiled? [more inside]
Pretty basic. Applied for a job in a technical field. It said, degree required so I was surprised I got an email and it looked like a three person interview set up pretty quickly. Then it got weird. [more inside]
I can't remember the title, artist, or lyrics, so this is a shot in the dark. It was an Americana song, female sung. It was possibly more toward the Iris DeMent/John Prine end of that spectrum than the alt.country end. It was a somewhat comedic story song recounting the lust and excitement of a young couple saving themselves for marriage. [more inside]
Started making a very spicy pasta sauce and ended up going to the movies. Now I have something resembling very hot salsa but with the herbs of pasta sauce. How do I salvage this? [more inside]
After purchasing the Gawker Media assets, Univision will be shutting Gawker (as in the site) down in the next week. I have enjoyed reading the news, political coverage, and the championing of progressive causes in Gawker's often cutting, but humorous tone. SO! Where to next? [more inside]
Has anyone had luck getting a refund from AVG? I paid $199.99 on 6/23 for AVG Go tech support, but they weren't able to fix my aged computer. On 7/14, I got an e-mail saying my refund request had been approved, but the money still hasn't come back into my account. I've called and called. Any other suggestions?
Someone made a cool image illustrating some large number (more than 30 but less than 100?) of puns/proverbs/idioms in Chinese (I think Mandarin, but don't remember.) There was a key in English to each of the puns/proverbs/idioms, but the image had no words on it. Naturally, I lost the bookmark and can't find it now that I want to show someone else. Can you help? [more inside]
Husband, let’s call him J, has had a good interview at another company in town that he’d like to work for, and is going in for a second interview. He feels confident that they want to hire him. The concern is how hopping jobs in a short time will affect his resume and future prospects if it’s a clear pattern. Is this too much job hopping? [more inside]
My tabby cat, Jacqueline, has become obsessed with a nylon cord wand toy I made; please help me. [more inside]
I am a man with diabetes. I need to have easy access to all of my gear (pens, needles, monitor, strips, pills, etc.). I have a desk job (business attire required), but my weekends and evenings are spent all over the place. I can occasionally use my wife's purse as a holder- but that still means a bunch of loose stuff floating around in the jumble of her purse. What can I use to contain and keep all my stuff with me and still fit in around the office and town?
Can anyone suggest a good game that runs on a pc and does not require an internet connection for game play? [more inside]
Looking for a place that sells work vests -- similar to the Wal-Mart style -- with a screenprinting/embroidery option. My first choice for screenprinting, CustomInk, doesn't carry vests like this. Anyone know where I might be able to source such a item?
Wouldn't you know, therapy has revealed that I am very much a people pleaser and I think it's slightly harming me. Now that I am right in the middle of a confusing dating situation and stressed from school, I'm not sure how to figure what's good for me--not others. [more inside]
I need help in staying true to myself, avoiding self-pity and being naive as I try to conclude my divorce following a long, drawn out separation. Long story below. [more inside]
A cake was made last Wednesday in a household where someone came down with norovirus that day. Said cake was frozen on the same day, and is set to be eaten today by various family members. I have determined that I personally will not consume any -- is this paranoia or reasonable caution? [more inside]
Can I buy "natural light" lightbulbs instead of a fancy task lamp for nighttime craftwork? If so, which ones? [more inside]
I'm planning to buy an Amazon Fire (for mostly reading Kindle e-books) and, in three months, renew my smartphone. Then I saw a lady with a Samsung "phablet" (I guess a Galaxy E7) and the lightbulb turned on! [more inside]
How can I clean my luggage without ruining it? Recommendations for "nondetergent soap" have not helped me find the right product. [more inside]
Looking for hotel or AirBnB recommendations walking distance from a beach. Snowflakes: female going by myself (no travel groups/guides, please); seeking a balance of safety+pleasantness between empty (would feel too unsafe to doze, walk at sunrise) and unpleasantly packed; I don't drive so need paid/free conveyance from airport/train station to hotel/beach/groceries. [more inside]
I have made these banana and cardamom buns twice now. How do I accomplish that beautiful-looking crust? [more inside]
We are looking to buy a new oven/stove that is 30" wide, but the spot that it will go is going to be 34" wide, which leaves a 2" gap on each side, in the middle of a longer counter. Is there a way to do this such that it will not look too weird, without redoing all of our counter tops and lower cabinets? It would have to be more cosmetic than structural, as that width is pretty much a given.
Left a pound of extra sharp cheddar cheese out of the fridge exposed to the air in an 80-degree kitchen for about twenty hours. It's "sweating" oil of some sort. Can I Eat This?
I am going to a classical music concert tonight at a fancy venue. It's a 2 hour concert indoors with assigned seating and I would absolutely love to bring my knitting with me. I am not sitting anywhere near the front, I will be sitting in the main orchestra level. I would be using bamboo needles, which don't make any sounds and aren't reflective. Is it rude to fellow concertgoers to be knitting openly during the concert?
A milestone birthday is coming up. Would appreciate hive mind advice on celebrating solo. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
Yes, this is absolutely rich-American-problems territory, but this crowd seems to Know Things. I've narrowed it down to a couple contenders, but I'd love to hear the wisdom of this particular crowd... [more inside]
Silly old poem from my childhood. I'd love to find the whole thing and the origin, and my google-fu is not all that strong on the best of days. Does this ring any bells? [more inside]
Any recommendations on the best way to have a Wordpress podcast blog turn its MP3s into movie content that is then uploaded to a YouTube channel? [more inside]
I'm doing an impromptu night trip from Seattle to see the Perseids. The internet advice for meteor watchers is aimed at campers and hikers. What can a non-outdoorsperson like myself do for best meteror viewing? [more inside]