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Anyone know a good therapist in Brighton/Watertown area of Boston?

I am looking for a good therapist in the Watertown or Brighton area of Boston - say within a 5-10 minute drive from Brighton Center. Would prefer female and someone who has experience with relationship issues and/or mortality issues. Can anyone make a recommendation?
posted by IzzeYum on Jul 2, 2015 - 1 answer

How can I become attractive to anyone other than straight men?

Basically only ever men show any interest in me, ever. I can go to a party where like 95% of people aren't straight and of course it'll be the two straight guys there that talk to me. Only guys ever message me or respond to my messages on okcupid. Honestly I don't really want anything to do with men, but it's so disheartening I feel like I'll basically have to get into a relationship with a man if I want any kind of companionship at all. I want to know what I should be doing differently like do I need a makeover or change my attitude or what? [more inside]
posted by ninjablob on Jul 1, 2015 - 23 answers

How should I deal with possibly manipulative catastrophizing?

How do I respond to "I just have to accept [exaggerated outcome that neither of us want]"? [more inside]
posted by scatter gather on Jun 30, 2015 - 32 answers

Queer nonmonogamy-friendly therapist in Chicago?

My partner and I (both bisexual women) are looking for a therapist in Chicago for help with our sexual relationship, in particular with opening it up to new partners and dealing with the negative emotions that come with that. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 29, 2015 - 2 answers

LDR Fifty Percent of the Time

My partner, with my full support, is about to take a job that involves traveling 50%-60% of the time. What can we do to keep our relationship healthy? [more inside]
posted by CMcG on Jun 26, 2015 - 13 answers

Relationship weirdness

This is a clear case of DTMFA ... right? [more inside]
posted by bookgirl18 on Jun 25, 2015 - 27 answers

How to navigate a potential divorce?

Hi. This is me. I have been thinking for a couple weeks and am leaning towards divorce. I have multiple questions about this. [more inside]
posted by a strong female character on Jun 24, 2015 - 41 answers

Toxic ex broke up with me and wants to get back together

I'm conflicted with this sensitive, hard situation. My ex of 2.5 years broke up with me roughly 4 months ago due to him recently becoming aware of his issues (anger, depression, possible bipolar disorder, childhood issues, binge eating). He seems to be increasingly struggling with his issues day by day He mentioned that he still loves/cares for me, and wants to become a better person for me, build a life together but can't do these things until he gets better. We've talked on and off after the break up. He saw me out with a new guy and is now worried about potentially losing me and wants to get back together. [more inside]
posted by ruebeignet on Jun 23, 2015 - 37 answers

Breakup in Same Social Circle

My girlfriend (26) broke up with me (33) out of the blue last week. To add to this, we share the same tight social circle that meets multiple times per week for different outings. I have been keeping my distance from the group so far. While I don't want to lose touch with this circle of friends, I also feel that seeing her would add to my pain and discomfort. Has anyone been in a similar situation and how did you handle it?
posted by QuietType on Jun 20, 2015 - 11 answers

How much of an explanation do I owe this guy after one date?

I went out with a guy from OKCupid who seemed awkward but raised no huge red flags. Less than a week later, he got weird and I'm no longer interested. Do I need to tell him this? [more inside]
posted by intheigloo on Jun 20, 2015 - 21 answers

How can I learn to command respect?

I'm tired of being disrespected by friends, family and co-workers and treated like a doormat all the time. What can I change about myself to prevent this from happening constantly? [more inside]
posted by KTN on Jun 19, 2015 - 20 answers

Nerd hobby that gets me out there

What is a nerd hobby that will enable me to (a) travel anywhere to enjoy (b) interact with people and build relationships, (c) not super expensive, (d) somewhat DIY, and (e) doesn't require an entire workshop, garage, or wardrobe? [more inside]
posted by rebent on Jun 19, 2015 - 34 answers

How do I move on from a bad relationship?

I split up with my horrible ex two years ago and on paper my life is pretty good now, but he still lives nearby and I'm in a constant state of panic about bumping into him and still a complete emotional wreck. How do I move on with my life and stop caring? [more inside]
posted by intensitymultiply on Jun 18, 2015 - 26 answers

Why did he not respond after our first date and what should I do?

I went on a first date with a guy I met on a dating website, we got on really well and I thought everything was great. I haven't heard from him since and now I am struggling to stop thinking about him. Any help on what I should do? [more inside]
posted by artystar on Jun 17, 2015 - 32 answers

Can People Change?

I'm with a guy who's not romantic at all and I can't stand it. He says he can change, but is that even possible? [more inside]
posted by lhude sing cuccu on Jun 15, 2015 - 21 answers

How do I find out my boyfriend's secret desires?

I'm afraid of boring my boyfriend in bed. He's a decade older and has had quite a few relationships in his past. I can't imagine he's as vanilla as he professes to be--I'm willing to do ANYTHING, and he wants missionary every time. Does he view me as too innocent for anything else? [more inside]
posted by Guinevere on Jun 15, 2015 - 29 answers

Adults who love life and have no kids: what is your lifestyle?

I'm not too excited about the "get married and have kids" or the "devote yourself completely to your job" approaches, yet these seem (to me at least) to be the two most common lifestyles that happy people report. Currently I take the "play video games and watch TV" approach, which isn't really happy-inducing for me anymore. For the rest of you out there who would consider yourselves happy, what lifestyle sustains you? What do your days look like? What do you do to keep things interesting for yourself? Thanks for your thoughts. [more inside]
posted by HumanBean on Jun 14, 2015 - 38 answers

Is it normal that I'm so private with my mother?

This Onion article reflects pretty well my relationship with my mother. I love her very much, but I can rarely bring myself to share much with her about my life, and when I do, I usually regret it. Is this common for men? [more inside]
posted by pot suppeck on Jun 14, 2015 - 26 answers

Meant to be or not meant to be?

I met this really great guy a few months ago (in a pretty romantic/spontaneous way) after a string of not great relationships. Everything is really healthy, relationship-wise right now. We both have loads of space to sort our brains/ lives, and the small amount of time we do spend together (looking like once a week/ once every two weeks) is really, really something special. However, he’s on a career fast track and has a hard time balancing work/family. [more inside]
posted by Kestrelxo on Jun 11, 2015 - 25 answers

Relationship Anxiety

I am dating someone in my social circle who I've know for around 8 months. We've been dating for the last 2 months. I think she's great...smart, funny, attractive. We get along well and there is lots of chemistry. I'm happy that I've been able to find someone. Being in a relationship has brought some of my insecurities to the surface. Specifically, there's a couple areas where I could use some advice. [more inside]
posted by QuietType on Jun 10, 2015 - 18 answers

How to avoid traumatic encounter at wedding?

The sister of my boyfriend of 10 years! (yes i know...) is getting married and her close friend is likely to attend. This close friend and my boyfriend dated briefly before we met, so over 10 years ago - everyone was very young. About 5 years ago my boyfriend slept with her one night and I found out about this 2 years ago and was extremely hurt. I have thought a lot about it and I feel like i don't want to put myself through encountering her at the wedding. More details inside - apologies for the length. [more inside]
posted by whatdoyouthink? on Jun 7, 2015 - 46 answers

Can I still take you up on that offer? From friends to FWB...

A friend and I once discussed an exclusive FWB arrangement, which I declined since I was only looking for a serious relationship at the time. Two years later, my situation has changed and I'd like to test the waters. Should I bring up the subject again? If so, how? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 6, 2015 - 15 answers

Help me survive BFE without too much misery

Partner lives and works in a rural area of the country. I have lived in cities all of my adult life. The area where he lives is beautiful, but services of all kinds are limited. It's also very conservative, and we are not. But due to circumstances to be explained, I've committed to living there for at least 3 years. Please give me your tips and suggestions for making rural life work so that I can continue to see this as an adventure and not something to resent! [more inside]
posted by sorrygottago on Jun 5, 2015 - 29 answers

It was a dream, then got hit with a huge dose of reality. Can we fix it?

My boyfriend (ex-boyfriend? Something in between?) and I fell in love and saw us building a future together. Then chaos erupted with his work and put a strain on us and our relationship. After months of waiting, he has a new position that he has become obsessed with and our relationship was put on the back burner. We still love each other and don't want to walk away completely, so we are currently on a break and I'm confused about where to go from here. (Deeply apologetic for the length, but I wanted to paint the most accurate picture possible... ) [more inside]
posted by heathergro on Jun 5, 2015 - 23 answers

My wonderful Mr. Right sucks in bed and I don't know how to tell him

I am in love with my wonderful boyfriend of 3 months. The only problem is that he doesn't seem to care that I am not having ANY orgasms with him, he's not into oral sex (the only thing that has worked for me in the past), he's not into foreplay, he barely kisses me, and he doesn't even realize that I'm unhappy because I am too wimpy and unassertive to voice a word of complaint. He's a very macho "alpha male" old-fashioned chivalrous type and I am afraid to emasculate him by giving him directions in the bedroom or telling him that I'm not satisfied. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 3, 2015 - 55 answers

How to keep some mystery and spark in a LTR ?

I've been dating my boyfriend for five months and we are head over heels for each other. For a myriad of reasons I want to spend less time with him. [more inside]
posted by pintapicasso on Jun 1, 2015 - 12 answers

Addressing non-dealbreaker behavior in relationships

I've had issues with being assertive about my needs in past relationships, and while I've gotten a lot better, I still have trouble deciding when and how it's best to bring up things that I don't like but are not dealbreakers. I'd like help thinking this through. [more inside]
posted by deus ex machina on May 31, 2015 - 7 answers

How do I meet men now?

I'm a straight, overweight but otherwise generally considered attractive, woman in her early 40's. I got out of a LTR a year and a half ago. I am more than ready to date, but having major problems finding anyone interested :( [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 29, 2015 - 24 answers

In sickness and in strain?

How do you know when a relationship is 'tough' and 'hard work' or when it's harming you and warrants walking away? [more inside]
posted by Vrai on May 27, 2015 - 25 answers

Tips for keeping a relationship healthy for a year of LDR

My girlfriend of 1.5 years will be leaving for Japan for a full year for grad school stuff very soon. I'm looking for tips for keeping things healthy while we're long distance. As always, snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by Hactar on May 27, 2015 - 12 answers

Is my boyfriend not treating me kindly?

So I've been in a relationship for 7 months now. I am 22 (female) and he is 25. The other day I got a flat tire on my way to work right after I left his house (2 miles away from his house) and called him because I wasn't sure how to change my tire. I'd never had a flat and never learned how. He seemed very irritated and told me to try to figure it out and call me if I couldn't. Should I be angry that he didn't just come help me? [more inside]
posted by anon1129 on May 26, 2015 - 103 answers

I hate everybody else's relationships

I don't know if this is a life stage thing or a terrible personality flaw or what, but I find myself feeling contemptuous of others' relationships, even though it's 100% none of my business. I want to stop this. [more inside]
posted by fernweh on May 25, 2015 - 19 answers

Should I end my relationship, and if so how?

I (26f) have been with my boyfriend (28m) for 6 years. I've always had doubts in the back of my mind and am thinking about ending things for the 3rd time in 2 years. Am I making the right decision, and how do I go about it? [more inside]
posted by Satsue on May 24, 2015 - 23 answers

Should I believe a 40+ man who says he doesn't believe in marriage?

I've been dating a never-married man in his early 40s for the past few months. (I'm a decade younger.) Last night he casually mentioned that he never wants to get married and would be fine with raising kids without marriage -- just as HE was raised, as the only child of an unmarried mother. I am devastated because I am falling in love with him but cannot accept this commitment-free future. Should I get out now or endeavor to change his mind down the road? [more inside]
posted by Guinevere on May 23, 2015 - 60 answers

Family abandon me when I was at my lowest point. Should I cut them off?

My mother passed away last year of April and as a result I had a mental breakdown. I wasn't myself..I had overwhelming grief and I was in a deep depression. Mind you I was in a deep depression and calling out for help..my family abandon and basically treated me like a black sheep. [more inside]
posted by TheBronxGirl on May 21, 2015 - 31 answers

What to do about a nasty email sent to the wrong person?

My mentally ill mother likes to send me super mean emails every once in a while, which I don't usually reply to. I just discovered today that she has accidentally been sending emails to a random person with a similar email address to mine. I'm not sure what, if anything, I should do about it. [more inside]
posted by thelaze on May 20, 2015 - 27 answers

Should I ask my uncle about his Big Secret car crash from 50 years ago?

This AskMe from 2010 is me. When I wrote that, I had just heard about a car crash my uncle was allegedly in when he was in his early 20s, where he was driving and a passenger died. I never asked about the crash and a newspaper search didn't pull anything up at the time. But I recently stumbled upon an old newspaper article that confirmed it. I don't know what to do, or not do, with this information. He has never even hinted about anything like this. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 20, 2015 - 61 answers

Addressing the need for me-time in a LDR

My GF and I are currently long distance, though only for a short while longer. We're planning for me to visit her at the end of the month for four days. Due to manic work commitments and sickness, I was looking forward to having this (long) weekend to myself, but my GF has said that my not coming to visit has made her feel "not nurtured." I don't know how to address this in an adult fashion; advice is welcome (snowflakes abound…) [more inside]
posted by six sided sock on May 18, 2015 - 42 answers

Am I Too Fast Or Is He Too Slow? Or Both or Neither?

I recently met a man I dig, but I feel like he's being cryptic about his life. I'm not sure if I'm expecting him to open up too fast or if he is being too slow. Either way, do I cut my losses or wait and see? [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe on May 14, 2015 - 21 answers

Am I hurting myself in the long run, or being a good friend?

I have posted some questions before about my first relationship and would like to get some advice on whether friendship is even the right thing now. I've had conflicted feelings the entire 5 1/2 years I've known this person, and am wondering what is the right thing to do? He says he needs my support because he finally came out but could we be friends or are we going to keep hurting each other? [more inside]
posted by lunastellasol on May 14, 2015 - 19 answers

How to not think about relationship troubles

I'm in a serious relationship that might be ending. How do I let myself not have constant anxious thoughts about this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 11, 2015 - 8 answers

Am I being silly?

I'm having conflicting desires regarding my future. Is this a 'the grass is greener' scenario, or should I be making changes to my life? Complication: anxiety. [more inside]
posted by toerinishuman on May 11, 2015 - 15 answers

Is it time to move on?

My bf and I have been together for almost 2 years, we have talked about getting married for about year and he still has not asked. Should I be concerned? [more inside]
posted by jk9119 on May 8, 2015 - 62 answers

Just dumped. Super busy. Need tips on getting work done.

I was just dumped. I realize now I was a bad partner because I've been depressed. I have an appointment to see a therapist in a week but I'm having trouble figuring out how to get through and meeting my obligations for the next few days (I am not suicidal). [more inside]
posted by mcmile on May 7, 2015 - 13 answers

Am I a narcissist?

I really hope not and I think probably not, but if not, then what exactly? Not that I need an exact label, but I would love to hear some objective thoughts on this. [more inside]
posted by otterboxdefender on May 7, 2015 - 19 answers

How to keep track of names and faces to build relationships at a large c

Remembering who someone is has been a roadblock to successful networking in the past – but in my new job, I have more people to remember than ever. I’d like to know what you, as someone who also has trouble remembering names and faces, has done to keep track of a large network. I am not looking for mnemonic tricks to remember one or several specific names. I’m hoping more for something like “Everyone I meet goes in my electronic rolodex that I update with X information after each meeting.” [more inside]
posted by rebent on May 7, 2015 - 9 answers

How to cope with my terror of uncertainty in my mid-20s

How do I enjoy and make the most of my life, when it is so full of uncertainty? What are some strategies for tolerating and living with uncertainty, rather than being afraid of and fighting it? Details/specific situation inside [more inside]
posted by armadillo1224 on May 6, 2015 - 25 answers

My brain rejects any man who treats me well. Help!

I can stay attracted to emotionally or actually unavailable men for YEARS: but as soon as a guy starts treating me decently and wants to get serious, my brain starts picking him apart and I run away before I hurt him. How can I stop myself from thinking this way and ruining potentially great relationships? [more inside]
posted by libertypie on May 6, 2015 - 14 answers

What is sexual compatibility if libido is not a problem?

Trying to get over a recent Ex who I thought was perfect except for sexual compatibility. I'm trying to unpack this concept and get advice on whether different sexual styles (libido is not a problem) is a dealbreaker. There's no chance of getting him back, but it might help me move on. [more inside]
posted by minoraltercation on May 5, 2015 - 15 answers

My bf always asks if I'm okay, and it's frustrating.

I don't like being asked on such a regular basis (five times or more a day) if I'm okay. I just want to go about my normal activities and feel my normal range of emotions without having to be self-conscious about it. I know he means well, but I feel like if I'm not always smiling and outwardly placid -- like if I'm trying to find something in the house or concentrating intently on writing an email -- then something is wrong, the kind of wrong that I suddenly have to open up and talk about to placate his need to know if I'm okay. 98 percent of the time, I am fine. I'm not a naturally perky person, and I'm a bit introverted so my inner life is important to me. I've mentioned all this to him several times. How do I get him to stop?
posted by anonymous on May 3, 2015 - 42 answers

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