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New relationship anxiety - age gap

I'm feeling a little queasy about the sexual preferences of my new boyfriend. I'm in my early 20's, he is almost 40, and I look a little younger than I am. I'm just worried he likes really young girls, just doesn't want to admit it to me. I love him, but I wouldn't be comfortable getting older with someone whose sexuality seems focused on youth. Although, he says he is most attracted to women in their late 20's and early 30's, cares more about monogamy and love than physical beauty, etc. - so that's good. I still have concerns... Besides seeming to have a particular interest in 'teen' porn where the girls look underage, I saw a VLC media file with the title indicating underage teen porn. It was under the 'recent' files in windows, but when clicked on the file no longer exists. He says he wouldn't seek that out, isn't sure where it came from, that he just downloads zip files of porn in bulk. I understand men are going to be attracted to younger women and even teen girls, but I'd rather be with someone who didn't seek it out to that extent. Makes me wonder how much attraction they'd lose for me when I become 'old.' Thoughts?
posted by bluelights on Dec 4, 2013 - 92 answers

How can I revive my sex life with my girlfriend?

My girlfriend and I have lived together for about a year and a half. We're a solid couple, we love each other a lot and generally communicate well, but our formerly awesome sex life is just non-existent now. We've talked about it, but she's just withdrawn and apologetic whenever I try to initiate things. Help? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 16, 2013 - 28 answers

Want to enjoy sex but am turned off by myself

I don't have a low sex drive, but I rarely want to have sex. Or rather, I WANT to have sex but I don't want to be me while I'm doing it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 18, 2013 - 22 answers

It's too late to try communication

I didn't communicate with my SO before hand, and now I'm self destructing. What are my options? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 16, 2013 - 14 answers

What do women think men and women want in relationships?

"Men want sex" and "women want romance" -- so the stereotypes go. To what extent does the average woman believe (or not believe) in these stereotypes? Does anyone know if there is research on this? I've been searching for hours, but haven't turned up anything yet.
posted by tybeet on Jan 31, 2013 - 11 answers

Are we given any indication about the nature of Fozzie Bear's sexuality?

In The Muppets Take Manhattan, there's a scene where a lady bear snuggles up to Fozzie, and he appears visibly panicked, calling for Kermit in a way that suggests he doesn't know how to navigate the situation. Have there ever been any Muppet appearances where Fozzie has romantic interactions with anyone, of any gender? If so, who? Has any Muppet media ever implied that Fozzie Bear is heterosexual?
posted by Greg Nog on Jan 15, 2013 - 25 answers

Lower... lower... higher... left... OTHER left... MY left... lower...

Random thought/Someone must have made this question: Anyone know of an online site that allows you to map out areas on a (3D or 2D) human model as "hot" or "cold"? I'm thinking of something that would allow people to map out their erogenous zones as they know them or discover them. [more inside]
posted by Decimask on Nov 28, 2012 - 1 answer

Help me figure out how to address sexual issues

I am feeling guilty and confused about sexual issues I had with my ex. Please help give me ideas about how I should have handled this, and what I can learn from it (sorry, this is long and a bit convoluted). [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 17, 2012 - 21 answers

I want to accept my sex drive.

Help me accept my sex drive and become okay with fulfilling my sexual needs outside my sexless (and open) relationship. [more inside]
posted by chameleon on Nov 16, 2011 - 16 answers

'Reverse' Bicurious, am I kidding myself?

I am a 25 year-old gay(-ish?) male living in New York City. Perhaps uncharacteristically, I have a really strong drive to have kids (of my own) and really want to do so in the next five or ten years. I'm torn about how to get there though, given relationship difficulties that hinge largely on unresolved issues relating to my sexuality. Warning: TL;DR potential, but significant context is necessary. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 25, 2011 - 21 answers

I'm gay! Oh wait, maybe I just am trying to stir up trouble in my hetero relationship.

Questioning my sexuality. In a relationship. Also, how do I get over my completely unhealthy need for drama in a relationship? I believe these two issues are conflated in my case. [more inside]
posted by tweedle on Mar 6, 2011 - 8 answers

Can we skip the flogging tonight, dear? I have to wash the drapes.

My hubby's kinky. I'm not. Please help us figure out a fair way to compromise in the bedroom. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 23, 2010 - 46 answers

How to be more sexually communicative and experimental with my partner?

My partner has a wild sexual history and would like to incorporate threesomes into our sex life. I am not comfortable with this idea at all. Do these sort of discrepancies point to some sort of sexual incompatibility? (Many more details insides . . . NSFW.) [more inside]
posted by fignewton on Jun 24, 2010 - 50 answers

Bob and Carol and Ted and Alice and Lions and Tigers and Bears and Hot Tubs and Hairy Chests and Press-On Nails...

Some now-former friends have decided to jump into polyamory as a solution to a big mess of relationship crazy. I think this is a terrible, terrible idea, for reasons specific to both the couple and polyamory as a whole. But how do I discuss this with them (and others) without sliding down the slippery slope of defining what other types of relationships are "right" or "wrong"? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 26, 2010 - 50 answers

I urgently need help in abandoning my doubt before it destroys a once-in-a-lifetime chance.

I know my anxiety to be a liar. I don't know how to shut it up. Please help me get a handle on it before it derails something amazing. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 29, 2010 - 16 answers

Attraction to New Men vs. Partner

I've been with my boyfriend for three years (living together for half that amount of time). This is my first long-term relationship. Previously, my relationships lasted anywhere from 3-6 months. So I don't have a real point of comparison for anything outside of the endorphine-rush phase. [more inside]
posted by Blazing Star on Mar 22, 2010 - 10 answers

How do I keep my raging lust in check while getting to know someone?

Please share with me your best tips for keeping my raging lust in check while I'm getting to know someone I find very attractive. [more inside]
posted by velvet winter on Jan 5, 2010 - 24 answers

I want you, I want to be you -- help?

I'm 25 years old, male, attracted to women. I have some funny fetishes, and there is something called "autogynephilia", love of oneself as a woman, that I'm pretty sure applies to me. What kind of woman can I get into a relationship with who would be understanding? [more inside]
posted by jikeda on Sep 18, 2009 - 19 answers

My groin wants what my brain doesn't!

The type of guy I like to spend time with isn't the type I like to have sex with. What now? Probably NSFW! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 5, 2008 - 31 answers

Help me overthink sex and romance.

What are some good books/essays/articles about human sexuality, sexual and romantic relationships, and sexual or otherwise affection-entangled activity - with an emphasis on the theoretical? I'm thinking more along the lines of Judith Butler than The Joy of Sex - so suggestions should be at least vaguely academic. (Things like Leaves of Grass count as vaguely academic). [more inside]
posted by bubukaba on Mar 10, 2008 - 21 answers

Help me figure out what to do about my relationship.

Help me sort out my feelings about the relationship I’m in because I just can’t seem to figure it out. (long and complicated - sorry!) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 25, 2007 - 23 answers

Where's my parade?

Help me, if you will, loosen the ferociously tangled knot of my sexual orientation. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 12, 2007 - 51 answers

How do I find out whether he likes me?

Is he gay like me? Will it work out? The messy process of coming out ... [more inside]
posted by cscott on Feb 9, 2007 - 25 answers

What percentage of male-to-female transsexuals are lesbian in their sexual orientation after their transitions?

What percentage of male-to-female transsexuals are lesbians after their transitions? [more inside]
posted by jason's_planet on Oct 4, 2006 - 10 answers

Dr. Mefi's Sexual Advice Chat

Help me help my less experienced fella in bed. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 7, 2006 - 18 answers

How do you confront your SO about trolling for sex on the internet?

Note: I'm asking the following on behalf of a friend...

How do you confront your SO about trolling for sex on the internet? [more inside]
posted by jpoulos on Oct 4, 2004 - 37 answers

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