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Marriage in trouble, wife refuses relationship counseling. What next?

My wife Jane and I are in our 40s and have been together for eight years. We got along well for the first few years, but things have been steadily going south since then. In theory, we both want to improve our marriage, but we are not making much progress on our own. I could use some advice. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 21, 2014 - 48 answers

Describe going from "date" to "relationship"

I'm a guy in his thirties who has never been in a romantic relationship. I've been dating through OKCupid for a while, without too much success, and I think one of the reasons is that I just don't have a model of how you go from "first date" to "exclusive relationship involving emotional commitment". Hollywood love stories are no help, and I have no real-life experience, even at second hand, of how this tends to happen. I think it would help me to read some concrete descriptions of various paths this transition can take. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 9, 2014 - 14 answers

How do I deal with my spouse having an external romantic relationship?

I found out my partner of 20 years/spouse of 11 was having an emotional/romantic affair with our best friend and lied to me about it. Now that we've gone through the initial reveal, I've told her I've forgiven her; she's hinting she's been thinking about romantic relationships outside of our marriage. tl;dr- Are we done here or can this be saved? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 22, 2013 - 49 answers

It's Complicated (But Not Really)

What would you call this type of relationship? [more inside]
posted by Marisa Stole the Precious Thing on Oct 29, 2013 - 43 answers

I'm 27 and I don't want a partner

At 27 years old, I really should be 'out there,' looking for a partner. So why does the mere thought of dating fill me with utter dread? [more inside]
posted by winterhill on Aug 13, 2013 - 39 answers

How old were you when you first genuinely fell in love with someone...

How old were you when you first genuinely fell in love with someone that resulted in a relatively lasting, satisfying relationship? [more inside]
posted by WhitenoisE on May 19, 2013 - 28 answers

Losing relationship chances due to others' interference - help?

I was recently in the situation where I met a possible new love interest but, due to interference by a mutual social group, the relationship never had a chance to begin. How common is this and how can I protect myself? Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 3, 2013 - 26 answers

What advice would you give me if there might still be a chance?

I’ve had a small crush on a co worker that later turned into a pretty big one. It’s gotten to the point where I couldn’t get her off my mind and it was hard focusing on school work. I’m 25 and haven’t had much dating experience. In my younger years, middle school throughout high school, I had self esteem issues with being overweight and then with acne. I’ve come here seeking advice from a wide verity of experiences of both genders. I found a similar case to mine on here and found the answers very useful so I hope to get great advice from this community. I apologize in advance for a long winded background story but I wanted to make sure I get enough information out to aid you guys. [more inside]
posted by uberkrn on Apr 15, 2013 - 21 answers

I'm so glad all our friends are happy; let's break up

BreakupFilter: I've been dating a woman for about five months now, and whilst she's lovely I'm starting to think that maybe I've been hit by a limerence bomb... As it starts to fade, is it time for me to walk away? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 22, 2013 - 17 answers

*Arabic speakers*: Brokenhearted girl needs your translation ability

Here is the photo with the Arabic message: LINK What does this say in English? I think the girl might represent me. She looks brokenhearted, too. Thank you so much for your help!
posted by thatgirl1985 on Mar 8, 2013 - 3 answers

What do women think men and women want in relationships?

"Men want sex" and "women want romance" -- so the stereotypes go. To what extent does the average woman believe (or not believe) in these stereotypes? Does anyone know if there is research on this? I've been searching for hours, but haven't turned up anything yet.
posted by tybeet on Jan 31, 2013 - 11 answers

Remind me to text "I love you."

The "jazz up my marriage" app -- what's it called and where do I get it? [more inside]
posted by spunweb on Nov 30, 2012 - 4 answers

How to find, or get over, The One?

Think I saw The One, over three years ago, while in another relationship. How do I find him again, or get over it? [more inside]
posted by 6 of 1 on Oct 23, 2012 - 44 answers

Another ambiguous friendship problem, involving 2 shy snowflakes

Two shy snowflakes romance question. Need ideas for pushing the boundaries of our ambiguous friendship. [more inside]
posted by JeanDupont on Jul 15, 2012 - 7 answers

Me : Extrovert. She : Introvert. Can this relationship survive? Should it?

Me : Extrovert. She : Introvert. Can this relationship survive? Should it? [more inside]
posted by Sloop John B on Mar 28, 2012 - 67 answers

What is Real Life, non-Hollywood romance?

Please explain romance to an asexual aromantic who's wobbling on the romantic identification. What's the difference between romance and friendship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 4, 2012 - 17 answers

How do I survive my future marine's enlistment?

My boyfriend and I are madly in love. We want to spend the rest of our lives together. He is my best friend, my lover, my confidant, my conscience, and a continuous source of strength and love. The problem is that he is leaving for the Marines in August and I have been seriously questioning my ability to survive his enlistment term. I am absolutely terrified of what is to come. I feel as though there is no possible way I can survive being away from him for so long. How do I find the emotional strength to deal with his absence? [more inside]
posted by OsoMeaty on Jan 11, 2012 - 16 answers

Connect the dots (or, people..)

How do you connect with people? How do you reach out to someone you're interested in getting to know better to let them know you're interested in them as a person (with or without romantic potential). I suffer from a bit of social anxiety and shyness so I tend to feel extremely awkward in approaching opportunities for one-on-one interaction. [more inside]
posted by myShanon on Jan 9, 2012 - 19 answers

Fucking love how do they work

I'm tired of feeling so "issue-y" about relationships. Please help me stop. [more inside]
posted by innocuous_sockpuppet on Nov 2, 2011 - 11 answers

Find me writing on romantic love from a feminist perspective

I'm interested in online writing or books that take a positive and feminist approach to romantic love. [more inside]
posted by peacheater on Oct 10, 2011 - 7 answers

Out going yet Socially Awkward around romantic interests.

Socially Awkward around women [more inside]
posted by snow_mac on Aug 24, 2011 - 19 answers

How do I get over my ambivalance about relationships?

How do I get over my ambivalance about relationships or should I? Can I? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 24, 2011 - 20 answers

The Anthropology Of Love

Dating around the world. How does it work? [more inside]
posted by Sara C. on Mar 25, 2011 - 10 answers

The right one or just one?

After reading this question, I was curious about something said in the comments: [more inside]
posted by sprezzy on Mar 22, 2011 - 11 answers

Romance Noob

How do I not be silly when it comes to relationships? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 6, 2011 - 14 answers

standard the clash line goes here

How to deal with ambivalence in a romantic relationship? [more inside]
posted by lover on Dec 8, 2010 - 15 answers

Help me recover from on-again, off-again, and then just one huge big BOOM!

Six months. Dozens of emails a week. But it turns out … he’s married, with kids. The thing is, I’ve known him more than 20 years. Help me frame this. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 29, 2010 - 61 answers

Did Disney give you a hero complex?

What are the impacts of stories like Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty, The Little Mermaid, The Tales of King Arthur, Beauty & the Beast, or Aladdin, on contemporary romantic relationships? [more inside]
posted by toni_jean on Jul 20, 2010 - 43 answers

Having a (not that) unconventional relationships

I don't want a normal life, I guess, but it'd be nice to have romantic relationships. Is it possible? [more inside]
posted by innocuous_sockpuppet on Jul 6, 2010 - 52 answers

Are librarians allowed to date patrons?

Are librarians allowed to date patrons? [more inside]
posted by Joe Beese on Jun 10, 2010 - 30 answers

Cross-linguistic romance

I think I'm in love. Problem is, my beloved speaks a different language -- a language I can understand much of and speak some of, but with little nuance, sophistication, or precision, thus doing no justice to what I mean, or indeed even to what he means. Yet of my language he speaks far, far less, so we stay with his. And we don't live on the same continent, so phoning/Skyping/emailing -- language-dependent communication -- will have to do for the times we can't rely on the tacit, graceful understandings that happen in person. I can be miserable about this, but my heart is full of ardor and my gut, even, actually feels a strong sense of hope. [more inside]
posted by taramosalata on Feb 9, 2010 - 16 answers

Can I live without laughter?

Have been dating this guy for almost three months, am feeling very serious about him, and he about me. There’s just one thing: he doesn’t laugh. Hardly at all. Almost never. I am trying to figure out if I should move forward with a relationship which is wonderful in pretty much every other way. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 17, 2009 - 30 answers

So I Guess He Wasn't Into Me?

Is He Just Not That Into Me: Part Deux [more inside]
posted by cscott on Sep 23, 2009 - 31 answers

Tell me about a time when you were on the receiving end of a truly romantic act.

I'm looking for stories from folks, especially ladyfolks, who have been on the receiving end of random acts of romance. Tell me, when were you surprised by a romantic act? What was it? What were the circumstances? [more inside]
posted by stuboo on Sep 16, 2009 - 39 answers

What is proper dating etiquette?

What is proper dating etiquette? [more inside]
posted by mintchip on Aug 5, 2009 - 20 answers

Grown-up love

Can cynical old me still find passionate love? Or should I readjust to some kind of grown-up relationship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 14, 2009 - 8 answers

Does it really come when you least expect it?

Are you a person whose romantic life started comparatively late--say, in your mid-twenties or later? Tell me your story! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 31, 2009 - 14 answers

When to DTR & Early-Stage Gifts

Horrors-of-Dating-Filter: Defining the relationship: How soon is too soon? And what about early-relationship-stage gifts for birthday and Valentines? [more inside]
posted by adjockey on Jan 21, 2009 - 29 answers

Movies about love and relationships that aren't like whirlwind romances?

I'm looking for movies about love that are not of the Titanic type. That is, they are about two people who learn to love each other over a long period of time. Maybe at first they don't particularly like each other - or they are just together by necessity, or they are just friends and never think about love. Any ideas? [more inside]
posted by vizsla on Jan 3, 2009 - 53 answers

Do Mulder and Scully count?

I'm looking for movies and television shows that featured memorable, star-crossed heterosexual couples. The man and woman must either: a) never get together, or b) get together only to have everything go horribly. No long-term relationships or on-and-off again romances, please. Bonus points for obscurity, but well-known examples are also appreciated. Examples: - Red (K. Kieslowski) - Titanic Thanks for your help! :-)
posted by coizero on Aug 1, 2008 - 64 answers

Fizzled Out on Passion

Depression has knocked my passion (for everything) out. Gwargh. What do I do while I get therapy sorted? [more inside]
posted by divabat on Jul 21, 2008 - 13 answers

You're so gay, and you don't even like boys... ???

I fell in love with my best friend, who is a guy. I’m a young bisexual guy. Apparently, he is not. Did the “wrong thing” and told him about how I felt, and was rejected, but things seemed okay afterward. However, I’m still hurting, I’m feeling delusional about it, and sometimes I think that he inadvertently isn’t helping… how do I live with my best friend now? Help me, Metafilter! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 7, 2008 - 25 answers

Prenup Angst

I'm getting married in just over 2 weeks time. Some time ago my fiance said he wanted a prenup, and after some resistance I assented. Nothing happened until last week. Now we're in the process and I'm finding it so repellent and depressing that I'm questioning...well, everything. What can I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 1, 2008 - 83 answers

I'd really like to get to give this a shot - can you help?

Here’s one of those how-do-I-play-this? relationship questions. At the very beginning of a possible relationship (with a touring musician) that I'd really like to give a chance to, but he may be too scared. (explanation inside) [more inside]
posted by FlyByDay on May 6, 2008 - 25 answers

Suggestions for ways to rev up the romance at home?

Suggestions for fun/romantic nights at home? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 12, 2008 - 8 answers

Help me overthink sex and romance.

What are some good books/essays/articles about human sexuality, sexual and romantic relationships, and sexual or otherwise affection-entangled activity - with an emphasis on the theoretical? I'm thinking more along the lines of Judith Butler than The Joy of Sex - so suggestions should be at least vaguely academic. (Things like Leaves of Grass count as vaguely academic). [more inside]
posted by bubukaba on Mar 10, 2008 - 21 answers

Help me feel more at ease about meeting up with an old flame

I've re-connected with an old flame, who is now divorced. He's been off-limits for so long, but now wants to come visit me. I'm thrilled. I'm single. But I can't stop worrying that it will somehow fall apart and not happen. [more inside]
posted by FlyByDay on Jun 29, 2007 - 25 answers

When is the right time to tell a woman how I feel about her?

RelationshipFilter: How long after a divorce should I wait to declare my feelings to another woman? Should I say anything at all? Ever? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 26, 2007 - 29 answers

So, you're telling me we should just be friends?

How can I begin changing my views on relationships and romance? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 6, 2007 - 21 answers

What is a man? A miserable little pile of secrets.

RelationshipFilter (sorry!): I've become entangled in a complex 'relationship', and I'm not sure what to do... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 29, 2006 - 57 answers

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