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What are some activities/dates I can do to boost confidence?

I haven't been feeling so confident lately. I know my SO could also be much happier if she felt a bit more confident. When we first met around 3 years ago, we were both extremely confident. Now we seem to have trouble being decisive, making decisions to better ourselves/get necessary things done, and choosing a restaurant or a date idea gets harder and harder. I would love ideas of things that could help with this. [more inside]
posted by bbqturtle on Aug 11, 2014 - 26 answers

Break-up apps that keep you from looking at exes on Facebook/Instagram?

Does anyone know of an app (or apps) that block you from looking at a particular Facebook page, or a particular Instagram feed? I've heard of Break-up Apps that recently have come about where you can 'erase' someone's photos, tags, etc. from your Facebook, as if they were never there, and I also know of chrome extensions which block you from a site altogether, but I can't find a good app that blocks only a particular PAGE on the site (i.e. www.facebook.com/ex'susername). I would like to be able to continue being 'Facebook Friends' with an ex, as not doing so will be disruptive. I also need to use Facebook for my job. I've already blocked them from appearing on my newsfeed and in chat, but I can't seem to stop myself from, fairly regularly, checking their Facebook page, or their Instagram feed. Any good solutions you've seen online? If not, I may have to team up with a programmer to create one because I think it'd be a very useful service! I sure could use it ASAP.
posted by anonymous on Aug 2, 2014 - 4 answers

New relationship anxiety - age gap

I'm feeling a little queasy about the sexual preferences of my new boyfriend. I'm in my early 20's, he is almost 40, and I look a little younger than I am. I'm just worried he likes really young girls, just doesn't want to admit it to me. I love him, but I wouldn't be comfortable getting older with someone whose sexuality seems focused on youth. Although, he says he is most attracted to women in their late 20's and early 30's, cares more about monogamy and love than physical beauty, etc. - so that's good. I still have concerns... Besides seeming to have a particular interest in 'teen' porn where the girls look underage, I saw a VLC media file with the title indicating underage teen porn. It was under the 'recent' files in windows, but when clicked on the file no longer exists. He says he wouldn't seek that out, isn't sure where it came from, that he just downloads zip files of porn in bulk. I understand men are going to be attracted to younger women and even teen girls, but I'd rather be with someone who didn't seek it out to that extent. Makes me wonder how much attraction they'd lose for me when I become 'old.' Thoughts?
posted by bluelights on Dec 4, 2013 - 92 answers

Middle distance relationship, no car, money issues? Here!

30 miles apart, without a car to have date nights and with a boyfriend unwilling to share expenses despite having little money. Result: us not doing much of anything and me feeling guilty and stuck. [more inside]
posted by opalshards on Nov 7, 2013 - 50 answers

How, specifically, do you break up with someone?

Yet another break up question: I've decided to end it with my partner of about a year and a half, and I'll keep to the typical advice of being respectful, doing it face to face, making a clean break with no contact, etc. But what exactly do I do? Where? How? When? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 4, 2013 - 13 answers

How can I help my girlfriend with two dogs we just got after breakup?

I'm about to break up with my girlfriend of two years who I live with. We've had intermittent fights of me not being happy where it was going. The latest one happened just last week, the day before we picked up two dogs. She's going to keep the dogs (hard decision for me) if we break up, but what can I do to help? I feeling like I'm abandoning her with kids we just had. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 18, 2013 - 18 answers

Partner lied about previous sexual partners & his faithfulness

A lie of omission, to be more accurate. When I met my (now) husband he understood that I hadn’t had sex and didn’t plan on it before marriage, and that I was looking for someone with similar beliefs about sex. Because he knew this, he was honest and told me that he had been in a long-term relationship with someone before for 7 years - I was fine with this. But I recently discovered that he had sex with 3 different women right as he was getting to know me, (one of whom I've since met at one of his work parties, and cringe to think I was the only one in the group who didn't know about this), and he didn't feel it was important to tell me about it when he proposed to me. [more inside]
posted by Zee101 on Aug 21, 2013 - 43 answers

What is it like to have sex for the first time? Advice?

As someone with Asperger's Syndrome and that doesn't socialize much, I know virtually nothing about relationships and sex, and I never really believed that I would experience either of those. But I have finally met someone I connect with and we both want to have sex! [more inside]
posted by 8LeggedFriend on Aug 4, 2013 - 20 answers

Relationship!: The Game (Probably WON'T Supplant Hungry Hungry Hippos)

What activities/questions/elements would YOU include in a [card and/or board] game meant to serve as part of the "maintenance work" of a romantic relationship? [more inside]
posted by julthumbscrew on Jul 12, 2013 - 11 answers

Want to enjoy sex but am turned off by myself

I don't have a low sex drive, but I rarely want to have sex. Or rather, I WANT to have sex but I don't want to be me while I'm doing it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 18, 2013 - 22 answers

Dating when you already have feelings you never intend to act on?

I have feelings for another woman that I have no intention of ever acting on, and my current relationship seems doomed because of it. Help. [more inside]
posted by zeek321 on Mar 8, 2013 - 78 answers

Time to talk, or time to move on?

Is it better to just break up with my SO, or tell them how anxious I am about moving in together? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 25, 2013 - 25 answers

Long-distance relationship or debaucherous partying?

As a 22-year-old woman with zero real relationship experience, I'm turning to AskMe in this time of indecision. One of my best friends wants to date me, and I like him, but I also want to make out with boys I might like more. Does that make me a bad person? Should I forget about the other boys? Details inside, naturally. [more inside]
posted by jouir on Feb 12, 2013 - 33 answers

Should I break up with my boyfriend?

I'm confused by my boyfriend's criticisms of my personality. I can't tell if they're legitimate problems I should work on in this relationship because I will encounter the same issues with most perceptive guys, or if it's a sign that he'll never fully accept who I am. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 31, 2013 - 82 answers

Help me hook up!

I haven't had sex in more than three years. I am going out of my freaking mind. One of my New Year's resolutions is that I must end this dry spell. I have a friend with whom I would like to start sharing some benefits. How do I go about this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 5, 2013 - 38 answers

how to slow things down without killing the spark?

An unexpected hookup with a coworker crush at a Christmas party has opened up the possibility of a new, exciting relationship. How do I slow things down to a comfortable pace? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 25, 2012 - 10 answers

What is intimacy?

How does emotional intimacy work in your marriage/LTR? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 24, 2012 - 18 answers

Male and Female Sexual Relationships

What type of sexual relationships do women and men enjoy? I have a question, what is healthy sex and a healthy male female relationship. [more inside]
posted by mrfawcet on Sep 18, 2012 - 25 answers

Should I Stay in a Relationship that I Helped Ruin?

I deeply hurt my partner emotionally. I was insecure and stupid. She was there for me when I wasn't for her. Now, I've gotten all my confidence back, and she's not present in the relationship. I truly love her and want her. Should we continue? [more inside]
posted by sunogenous on Sep 14, 2012 - 26 answers

I didn't cheat. SO thinks I did. What happens now?

A few days ago, I came back from a week of vacation. Despite my calm and honest reassurance, my SO is wondering and worrying that I cheated.We've already talked, but she's still very anxious about it. This is the first time I've ever dealt with this kind of situation. MeFi, what else should I/we be doing or talking about? Did I do something wrong, and if so, what should I do differently in the future? I feel terrible, even though I didn't do anything to cheat at all. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 13, 2012 - 45 answers

What is the best choice for this relationship?

Should I tell the person I've dated that his time is up? [more inside]
posted by kellybird on Sep 9, 2012 - 30 answers

Is asking for immediate help from your partner unreasonable?

Is asking for immediate help from your partner unreasonable? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 5, 2012 - 191 answers

How do I communicate better with my dad?

I need some advice on how to communicate better with my dad and hopefully improve our relationship. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 15, 2012 - 11 answers

I love you, but...

Do healthy, happy couples ever have periods where one or the other feels the ennui of "I love you, but I'm not in love with you?" If so, how do they resolve it? How do they decide if it's worth resolving?
posted by Caligula's Idiot Cousin on Apr 10, 2012 - 12 answers

Reconciling feminism and submission

How have you (or have you not) reconciled your feminism with an unexpected and expanding sense of submission, which is not limited to the merely or nearly sexual? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 28, 2012 - 25 answers

Me : Extrovert. She : Introvert. Can this relationship survive? Should it?

Me : Extrovert. She : Introvert. Can this relationship survive? Should it? [more inside]
posted by Sloop John B on Mar 28, 2012 - 67 answers

Oceans never listen to us anyways.

My SO and I are going to be on different sides of the Atlantic from March to September. Should we break up? [more inside]
posted by flawsekno on Feb 7, 2012 - 29 answers

How do you not mess relationships up?

How do you not mess relationships up? [more inside]
posted by litleozy on Dec 23, 2011 - 32 answers

I want to accept my sex drive.

Help me accept my sex drive and become okay with fulfilling my sexual needs outside my sexless (and open) relationship. [more inside]
posted by chameleon on Nov 16, 2011 - 16 answers

Schroedinger's ex: I'm over him. I'm not over him.

I'm having a difficult time trying to mentally process an ex's recent wedding because I'm hung up on the sex/religion aspect of it all. I need advice on how to stop thinking about him. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 21, 2011 - 33 answers

I want to support you, not enable you

Am I being too impatient and unsupportive with my depressed boyfriend? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 5, 2011 - 33 answers

Have you ever successfully fought for a relationship that you knew was worth saving? How did it work out?

Have you ever successfully fought for a relationship that you knew was worth saving? How did it work out? [more inside]
posted by newlyminted on Apr 28, 2011 - 24 answers

standard the clash line goes here

How to deal with ambivalence in a romantic relationship? [more inside]
posted by lover on Dec 8, 2010 - 15 answers

Help me, help her, help me be the best husband I can be!

How do you work out reciprocation in your marriage/partnership/relationship? [more inside]
posted by TheBones on Aug 19, 2010 - 30 answers

I know his anxiety isn't his fault

My boyfriend and I are about to take The Bar Exam in less than a week. A few days ago, my boyfriend was having severe anxiety attacks and suddenly decided he'd be better off at his folks' house. We talked about it, I supported it, and he flew home that night. Now I'm alone in our house and I'm freaking out dealing with my own depression and anxiety. I know (I know, I really know) that what happened isn't his fault, and that he needs to do what is best for him, and that this doesn't mean he doesn't care about me. But my irrational me keeps feeling abandoned. I need advice on how to recontextualize the situation or something because with four days left I don't really have time or energy to spend being irrationally angry. [more inside]
posted by mishamashes on Jul 22, 2010 - 29 answers

Is it ethical to encourage someone to cheat?

Is it ethically sound to encourage a friend to cheat on her abusive partner as an excuse to leave the relationship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 17, 2010 - 44 answers

Calling all Aspies

Dear Metafites who have been diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome, If you are in a romantic relationship (or hope to be in a relationship in the future), what would you like your girlfriend/boyfriend to know about AS? Are there any books on AS that you would want your girlfriend/boyfriend to read? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 25, 2010 - 6 answers

De profundis clamavi ad te

Ghosts-of-relationships-past-filter: How do I forget an old girlfriend, years gone by? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 11, 2010 - 20 answers

Desire to constantly date new women...(books, thoughts, ideas).

Is it wrong to want to continually date new and interesting women? I'm almost 40 (male). Do I just need to grow up? Looking for book recommendations/advice/etc. [more inside]
posted by sharingideas on May 15, 2010 - 43 answers

Are close, one-on-one, opposite-sex friendships a good idea?

Are close, one-on-one, opposite-sex friendships a good idea; or is the risk of one-sided romantic feelings and other problems too great? [more inside]
posted by dogcat on May 6, 2010 - 34 answers

How do you tell someone that you can't be with them "right now?"

I like him. He likes me. We have been best friends for years, but I just got out of a serious relationship and realized I strongly care about him...but I know I am not ready to be a girlfriend again. I don't want him to wait for me, but I would like a shot at us when I am ready to date again. How can I tell him I care and am interested, but need to not date him right now? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 10, 2010 - 23 answers

Boyfriend has fat fetish and monogamy issues - how to deal with it?

Boyfriend has fat fetish and monogamy issues. How to deal with it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 1, 2010 - 47 answers

Is the Past more hurtful to the Future?

I've been married for just a little while now. I still have issues with handling my husband's "past." He took my virginity early in our relationship. He was with other women before me.... I don't know how to deal with this heart-sinking feeling when i think about his life before me. Advice would be gratefully appreciated.
posted by shortbus on Feb 11, 2010 - 36 answers

How should I move on? Should I even move on?

What road to take during a devastating breakup? Be the supportive, hopeful, girl that will stay until the storm calms down OR move on with my life and leave the love of my life? [more inside]
posted by penguingrl on Feb 10, 2010 - 27 answers

He is pushin me away, but does not want me to leave :'(

My S.O.'s life is falling apart and has decided to break up with me, however, S.O. has requested that nothing change. (LOOONG, so sorry) [more inside]
posted by penguingrl on Feb 2, 2010 - 73 answers

Is it depression and am I making it worse?

Every night that he comes home and winds up browsing the internet for hours, I feel like I'm going to scream. Am I a nagging worrywort, is my boyfriend mildly depressed, or both? And what's the best way to work on it? [more inside]
posted by brisquette on Nov 17, 2009 - 39 answers

That last talk.

How to go about the final talk, the post-mortem, if you will. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 31, 2009 - 28 answers

How do I fix me?

I feel like my life is over and I'm only 35. I feel completely stagnant and stuck, relationshipwise and jobwise. Do I need to change things or do I need to learn how to deal? Help me figure out how to be a happier person. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 28, 2009 - 34 answers

Too horny. Can't think. Need sex.

I'm a mid-20s British male and I haven't had sex for about three years. Manual Overides are barely taking the edge off these days and the horniess is getting so bad I can't think clearly. Help me get laid. Complications inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 4, 2009 - 31 answers

I slapped my Girlfriend

I am not a violent person. I wanted to know if anyone who considers them self nonviolent has been in a violent relationship or used violence in a relationship. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 7, 2009 - 46 answers

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