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Describe going from "date" to "relationship"

I'm a guy in his thirties who has never been in a romantic relationship. I've been dating through OKCupid for a while, without too much success, and I think one of the reasons is that I just don't have a model of how you go from "first date" to "exclusive relationship involving emotional commitment". Hollywood love stories are no help, and I have no real-life experience, even at second hand, of how this tends to happen. I think it would help me to read some concrete descriptions of various paths this transition can take. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 9, 2014 - 14 answers

Again with the OKCupid nonsense

I'm back on OKCupid after some time spent getting my head on straight (well, bi I guess). I'd like some third party advice on my profile. Friends are ok, but they're too nice to be really helpful. [more inside]
posted by showbiz_liz on Mar 31, 2014 - 52 answers

Communication in the early days of dating

What are your tips to keeping the lines of communication open in the first few weeks of dating someone new? [more inside]
posted by toerinishuman on Feb 3, 2013 - 6 answers

Is a facebook message a bad move for contacting the elusive lady?

I don't want to breech the fb borders yet, as I feel it could kill some of the mystery and magic of getting to know her in real life, but we may never cross paths again. Do I exercise my limited patience for a moment that I can't wait for or just send a msg and start the ball rolling? [more inside]
posted by talljamal on Feb 1, 2013 - 26 answers

Suggestions that may improve my OKCupid profile or conversation initiations?

Suggestions that may improve my OKCupid profile or conversation initiations? [more inside]
posted by Willpower on Aug 5, 2012 - 49 answers

Suggestions for my OkCupid profile, and on how to initiate conversations with women?

My OkCupid profile--any suggestions? And what's the best way to initiate conversations with women? [more inside]
posted by Willpower on Jun 29, 2012 - 51 answers

OkNotSoCupid

I'm a finicky dater. Should I give up on online dating? [more inside]
posted by aintthattheway on Apr 11, 2012 - 38 answers

Nervous for a first date after red flag, please hope me!

Got a first date tomorrow. Yay! Red flag came up in first phone conversation last night. Boo! New to online dating, and dating in general really. Tips? [more inside]
posted by Ceci n'est pas un sockpuppet on Aug 25, 2011 - 25 answers

Help me become comfortable with online dating

I am a 29-year old straight male who needs some help with both the mechanics of online dating as well as becoming comfortable with the idea of online dating. Snowflakely details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 26, 2011 - 30 answers

How do I start having healthy relationships as a female introvert at college?

I'm a female eighteen-year-old in the middle of my freshman year at college. I've been having trouble making friends and meeting new people. [more inside]
posted by athenadanae on Feb 2, 2011 - 36 answers

Why does everyone think I'm gay?

20-something straight male, minimal relationship success because I think people think I'm gay...strange situation...advice much appreciated! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 19, 2011 - 45 answers

So how does this dating thing go?: The Sequel

I'm pretty new to dating, and I feel like my lack of experience and ideas is making it hard for me to be spontaneous and natural. Can you help me cure some of my ignorance with your anecdotes, personal experience, and wisdom? [more inside]
posted by dogcat on Jul 1, 2010 - 21 answers

Is online dating a reasonable step?

I moved to a new city and I'm lonely. tl;dr inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 1, 2010 - 27 answers

But I don't want to be an alpha male!

Questions about male-female attraction and my validity as a man. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 14, 2010 - 60 answers

OKCupid users and/or experienced daters: What's my next move?

If you're online dating and the email correspondence drags on too long, what's the next move? Is it rude/unwise to ignore a long, thoughtful message when you'd really rather meet in person? I'd rather not miss my chance with this guy. [more inside]
posted by maggymay on Feb 4, 2010 - 40 answers

How do I keep my distance without crushing someone's heart?

I'm 25. She's 20. We're 4 hours apart. I think a relationship is a bad idea. How do I communicate this without making everything explode? [more inside]
posted by Turkey Glue on Jan 11, 2010 - 33 answers

Why Did He Bring His Girlfriend On a Date With Me?

Online-dating filter: Should I confront him about bringing his girlfriend on what I thought was a date, or just let it all go? [more inside]
posted by aabbbiee on Oct 12, 2009 - 30 answers

Dating for widows. Not the spider kind. Not the text layout kind.

Widow in her mid-thirties would like some dating tips... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 7, 2008 - 35 answers

Why is he still going to Match.com?

If a guy is not a player why would he continue to frequent a dating site a month into what seems to be a pretty good relationship for both of us? [more inside]
posted by terra on May 19, 2006 - 36 answers

Online Dating

What are your experiences with online dating? [+]
posted by slipperywhenwet on Feb 12, 2005 - 29 answers

On dating sites, should my profile be long or short?

DatingSiteFilter: One thing that annoys me on dating sites is profiles that are very short - just 2-3 lines or so. I'd like to know a bit about potential matches (yes, I'm picky!) But I'm wondering if having too long a profile is a turn-off to women. I'm a guy in his late twenties who totally believes in honesty, and my profile on a couple of sites is about 600 words long. This is so I don't accidentally end up with people who won't fit (I'm an atheist libertarian among other things). Is my profile too long? Should I keep some "mystery" back? Am I not getting any contacts because women might be falling asleep by the time they finish reading? Please share your thoughts and experiences.
posted by anonymous on Feb 7, 2005 - 31 answers

Online dating diplomacy.

Online dating diplomacy. If you decide after an email or two that you are not interested in the other person, either because the conversation is uninspiring or the pictures they send are unappealing, should you actually write to tell them "sorry, but I'm not interested?" Or is that worse than falling silent and letting the correspondence die? Some people persist if you don't respond, and ask "what's the deal? you didn't like my pic?" I honestly don't know what's the best thing to say, if anything. Honesty is not the same as full disclosure, and I just feel that random people really don't need to hear that I find them undesireable / uninteresting. I figure if I just stop writing, most people will simply write me off and move on. What do you think?
posted by scarabic on Jan 31, 2005 - 38 answers

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