I was recently in the situation where I met a possible new love interest but, due to interference by a mutual social group, the relationship never had a chance to begin.
How common is this and how can I protect myself? Snowflakes inside.
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posted by anonymous
on May 3, 2013 -
26 answers
I’m a 31 year-old female. About 9 months ago, a 2-year relationship ended. I’m still struggling a lot with it. How abnormal is this, and what else can I do?
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posted by anonymous
on May 1, 2013 -
17 answers
I have been dating my girlfriend for 2 years and am very much in love. She is bipolar and it is affecting my emotional and mental health. I cannot shake these feelings of leaving her but I know love is hard to come by. What should I do?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 22, 2013 -
25 answers
I'm in a great new relationship, yay! It's been about 4 months. I like her. She likes me. But I am a classic anxiously attached type, and I would like your advice on how to cope with the "omg what will I do when she figures out I'm a loser and she dumps me and why didn't she call last night and she seemed annoyed when I said that and omg what if she doesn't like me anymore" feeling.
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 1, 2013 -
11 answers
I recently met an amazing, smart woman. On our third date, I made a stupid comment that offended her. I made it worse by trying to cover myself. I really want to salvage this situation and see this woman again.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 31, 2013 -
55 answers
I met a girl at a bar and I want to know how to avoid chatting with her all week before our first date.
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posted by Atlantic
on Mar 31, 2013 -
25 answers
I'm experiencing a very tumultuous time in my relationship with my partner of 4 years. I don't know what part of our relationship problems are due to his ADHD, general depression on both our parts or incompatibility. Where can I go from here? What questions can I ask myself and him to get a clearer idea of the origin of our problem?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 26, 2013 -
4 answers
I have feelings for another woman that I have no intention of ever acting on, and my current relationship seems doomed because of it. Help.
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posted by zeek321
on Mar 8, 2013 -
78 answers
Here is the photo with the Arabic message:
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What does this say in English? I think the girl might represent me. She looks brokenhearted, too.
Thank you so much for your help!
posted by thatgirl1985
on Mar 8, 2013 -
2 answers
My boyfriend and I have been dating for five months. After a big fight this weekend, we've decided to take a week off from seeing each other. Has this strategy EVER improved a relationship? &How do I best manage anxiety this week?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 3, 2013 -
21 answers
Is a man who pretends to be friends with a woman when he is actually interested in more than friendship doing something shady?
Should said woman (myself) drop him as a friend or give him a chance to adjust? He’s a good friend and generally a positive, interesting and charming friend to have (smart, insightful, witty, capable of deep conversation, trustworthy with secrets, understanding…). I’m simply not interested in dating him (for many reasons, the most glaring of which is that he’s sexist in subtle ways that I couldn’t tolerate in a partner), but I value and love his friendship and conversation. I do not want to date him, ever. I don’t know if I should salvage our friendship or let it go, for his sake and mine...I've included the details below but I think this summary captures what I am trying to intellectually and emotionally figure out.
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posted by grassbottles
on Feb 28, 2013 -
54 answers
My wife and I separated a few months ago (which was my choice, not hers) and it seems that many of the things that I left over may have been addressed, but I still feel cagey about it all. How do I square this circle in my head and in my heart? Blizzard inside.
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posted by six sided sock
on Feb 26, 2013 -
40 answers
Have you ever had a relationship, that maybe not DTMFA worthy, started out pretty rocky but eventually turned in to something good and healthy? Details are appreciated.
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posted by mockpuppet
on Jan 29, 2013 -
18 answers
I have a friend who insists on a certain way of understanding how men and women couple off. Basically, he sees the situation as rather animalistic, where all the women are essentially waiting to be asked out, and the first men to do so get the "choicest" women. The rest of the women are left for, well, the rest of the men. Obviously, this is pretty traditional/sexist/chauvinistic. Anyway, barring all that, he feels a constant urgency to get to women "before somebody else does," because "the best women will be taken." Of course, I understand asking someone out before someone else does, but his theory is off-putting to me.
It seems like human personalities, reasoning, circumstances, geographies, and cultures throw a monkey-wrench into his theory. Things are a lot more complicated in my mind. Do you have an alternative way of seeing the dating world, have a different experience, or are there any studies that you could point me to on this subject?
posted by uncannyslacks
on Jan 23, 2013 -
38 answers
Straight guy here, mid-30s. I'm a relationship virgin apart from two or three very brief and superficial ones, and would be an actual virgin if not for a handful of sexual encounters, almost all of them very unsatisfying. I've always fantasized about love and sex but whenever things get real my heart and body seem to lose all interest. What's wrong with me and are there other people out there in the same boat?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 13, 2013 -
35 answers
I’m considering ending my relationship. Should I give him another chance to make changes?
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posted by Ms.Stocking
on Jan 4, 2013 -
47 answers
How much should we be talking about our feelings for each other? I love him, and I think he loves me...
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 12, 2012 -
9 answers
On herpes and forgiveness. Nine months into our relationship, my boyfriend told me that he has HSV-2. That was almost a year ago. It still bothers me. What now?
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 2, 2012 -
47 answers
What are the healthy and fulfilling expectations of what a relationship should be and do for you?
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posted by yeahyeahyeah
on Nov 25, 2012 -
8 answers
Can you really be addicted to a certain kind of sadness?
Ugh...I hate that song. My boyfriend has serious intimacy issues but is trying to work on them. I feel intermittently insecure/frustrated/sad/angry and I don't know how much longer I can take it...
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posted by entropy33
on Nov 4, 2012 -
14 answers
How do you stay in a relationship when you know there's a very good chance it might end soon? [Siberian winter's worth of snowflakes inside.]
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posted by Sockmaster
on Sep 17, 2012 -
42 answers
I deeply hurt my partner emotionally. I was insecure and stupid. She was there for me when I wasn't for her. Now, I've gotten all my confidence back, and she's not present in the relationship. I truly love her and want her. Should we continue?
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posted by sunogenous
on Sep 14, 2012 -
26 answers
(re)met the daughter of a family friend last weekend at a wedding. We hadn't seen each other since we were 6 or 7 and she is two years younger than I am. The challenge--spent three hours together, live 600 miles apart, and I can't stop thinking about her. A few more details, but the question is "How can I see if this has potential to go somewhere?"
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 23, 2012 -
13 answers
I recently met online a former high school boyfriend from 25 years ago. We've seen each other briefly at reunions, but now we are both single and he is over the moon with me before we've even had a chance to meet in person again, which will happen tomorrow. I am confused and overwhelmed by his interest in me, how do I proceed?
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posted by waving
on Jul 17, 2012 -
15 answers
Why am I not in love with my girlfriend? I'm 25. She's 28. We're 7 months in and things are fine, but sometimes I wonder if things should be better. Am I over thinking things? Is more time going to change anything? Answers based off a guy's similar experience would be awesome, but all advice is appreciated.
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posted by yeahyeahyeah
on Jun 8, 2012 -
61 answers
I move across the country for my boyfriend tomorrow, and I am not feeling very relaxed about it.
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posted by queens86
on May 31, 2012 -
38 answers
My girlfriend told me that she has a crush on another guy. Not really sure how to deal with this revelation.
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posted by anonymous
on May 22, 2012 -
34 answers
Husband's mental health problems led him to compulsively spend over £27,000 (about $44,000) while I supported both of us for three years. I know he'll work hard on therapy, but I don't know if I should divorce him. Should I try and forgive? [warning, long!]
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posted by TriparteGoddess
on Apr 29, 2012 -
62 answers
I keep picking women who don't give as much as I feel I give and so I always end up feeling used. And because I keep picking them (even though the last one should've been enough to warn me off of the next one), I also end up feeling stupid too. Meanwhile, I've had women who've given to me the way I've given to those others, but I never seem to end up with them, even though they are exactly what I say I've wanted. How can I keep the good one and stop picking the bad ones? What is my problem?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 26, 2012 -
15 answers
MeFites! Can a relationship work between a hyper-intellectual and a simpler, more down-to-earth type? (special snowflake details inside..)
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 25, 2012 -
69 answers
Do healthy, happy couples ever have periods where one or the other feels the ennui of "I love you, but I'm not
in love with you?" If so, how do they resolve it? How do they decide if it's worth resolving?
posted by Caligula's Idiot Cousin
on Apr 10, 2012 -
12 answers
Found myself head-over-heels in love with my friend. Our interactions have gotten exceedingly flirtatious. Is she in love, too? What's your opinion? Details after the jump.
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posted by thatgirl1985
on Apr 3, 2012 -
39 answers
I realize this post is a little long.....but has anyone ever experienced the following Made-For-TV-Hallmark-Channel episode, or something like it, or know anyone who did? If so, how did you handle it?
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posted by BeastMan78
on Feb 8, 2012 -
10 answers
My partner and I feel comfortable and safe in our relationship, and we feel love for one another. But we are sexually unfulfilled, and to a smaller extent emotionally and/or intellectually troubled. How do we know whether to break up or to work at it?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 28, 2012 -
20 answers
Please help me understand the gray area in between being totally into someone you're exclusively dating and being in love with him/her? These things are virtually synonymous for me, but I love easily.
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 23, 2012 -
16 answers
Even though logically I don't feel like he's "marriage material," I am overwhelmed lately with a desire to be married to him. Which way should I be going on this?
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posted by thrasher
on Dec 15, 2011 -
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