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Yeah, so the real reason I didn't come to your party....

Do I tell a good friend that I've been avoiding him because my husband's jealous of the friendship? Gory details and backstory inside. [more inside]
posted by Gwendoline Mary on Jun 8, 2014 - 26 answers

It's Complicated (But Not Really)

What would you call this type of relationship? [more inside]
posted by Marisa Stole the Precious Thing on Oct 29, 2013 - 43 answers

How to get out of this?

For the last 6 months, I have been involved in and online "thing". I think it's time to cut this off. Most effective way? [more inside]
posted by sabina_r on Sep 3, 2013 - 14 answers

Is it okay to stop maintaining contact with a longtime 'friend'?

I have a 'friend' with whom I am not interested in maintaining a friendship any longer. She seems to feel otherwise and is being a bit persistent. I keep ignoring her emails and phone calls, but still, every few months or so, there she is. I really don't want to have to tell her that I don't want to be her friend anymore. What can I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 26, 2013 - 37 answers

How best to deal with polite, yet really rude and selfish people?

This woman I've been friends with is like a sheep in wolf's clothing. Extremely polite, kind, caring on the outside, which totally draws you in to being friends with her. But in reality she's demanding, bossy, everything has to be on her terms, and really childish. I'm in a totally one-sided friendship with a friend and neighbor and I am having a really hard time doing the fade-away because she is so (seemingly) well-liked and established in our circle of friends and such a presence in our neighborhood. How, in your relationships, or circle of friends do you bring to someone attention that you are tired of always being the one doing the driving, inviting, hosting, etc. and that they need to step up and do their part? This person comes across as so sweet, kind and socially savvy that saying anything like this to her could seem to be really damaging, akward and embarassing for this person. She is non-confrontational, has been a total avoider in past relationships, and always comes across as holier than thou and as someone who always takes the higher road, etc. I'm so sick of having to cater to her demands and would really like to say something while maintaining a semblance of dignity, and politeness. Can you help with some suggestions? [more inside]
posted by dmbfan93 on Jul 30, 2013 - 35 answers

Anger/lack of remourse in relationship

I'm not sure how to handle a situation with my best friend and an outburst her boyfriend caused this weekend which caused a huge rift between all of us. She has been dating for about 7 months and I have met him a handful of times, and truely was a huge fan of him until this weekend. I want to talk to her about it, but want to see if my take on the situation is appropriate and how to approach it. [more inside]
posted by love2much on Jul 29, 2013 - 37 answers

So, now, is it rude to decline?

my friend invited me alone to her wedding. I asked her about it. I'm invited with no guest. now, do I have to go? [more inside]
posted by euphoria066 on Jul 25, 2013 - 126 answers

Fantasy online romance

Few months back, I started talking to someone online that I have never met. Things developed from there and now all our conversations revolve around our feelings for each other. I am happy to keep this as a fantasy. Am I still going to get hurt here? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 25, 2013 - 10 answers

Hiding chronic illness from people

I have been living with chronic illness for around 10 years now. I am only able to work part time, but I look completely healthy on the outside. Nobody apart from my family knows about it. I hide it for many reasons but unfortunately this makes it unable to get really close to anyone. What to do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 17, 2013 - 20 answers

NOT the Maid of Honor disappointment--swallow or confess

This seems petty, but I am sincerely and exorbitantly bummed out (with some jealousy and hurt feelings to boot) that MY best friend didn't choose me to be her maid of honor. I'm clearly the next-in-line bridesmaid, but I haven't as of yet achieved many positive feelings about the honor I've received, but would like to, and as quickly as possible. [more inside]
posted by lovingkindness on May 13, 2013 - 54 answers

Oh what a tangled web we weave...

Luckily I’m not deceiving, but I have managed to get myself into a very unfortunate romantic relationship with an old friend. Help me untangle myself? A blizzard of snowflake details inside… [more inside]
posted by sarahgrace on May 10, 2013 - 26 answers

Help me tell my BFF to shut up, in the nicest of ways.

My best friend is dating a new guy and is currently in the "floating in the clouds" stage. He's all that she talks about, texts me about, emails me about, mentions, quotes, you name it. I'm happy for her, but I am quickly reaching "who cares" stage. She does this with everyone she dates, but this guy might become permanent, so I'm not brushing it off as "just wait until this passes". How can I politely tell her that we need to have conversations about OTHER THINGS? She can be very sensitive, and I don't want her to feel that I am not interested in the relationship or not happy for her. More details inside. [more inside]
posted by ElectricGoat on Apr 28, 2013 - 26 answers

Do you like me or what?

I kinda think the dude likes me but I'm not sure and I'm tired of waiting to find out [more inside]
posted by thank you silence on Apr 7, 2013 - 17 answers

Lose a good friend or try to fix it?

Is a man who pretends to be friends with a woman when he is actually interested in more than friendship doing something shady? Should said woman (myself) drop him as a friend or give him a chance to adjust? He’s a good friend and generally a positive, interesting and charming friend to have (smart, insightful, witty, capable of deep conversation, trustworthy with secrets, understanding…). I’m simply not interested in dating him (for many reasons, the most glaring of which is that he’s sexist in subtle ways that I couldn’t tolerate in a partner), but I value and love his friendship and conversation. I do not want to date him, ever. I don’t know if I should salvage our friendship or let it go, for his sake and mine...I've included the details below but I think this summary captures what I am trying to intellectually and emotionally figure out. [more inside]
posted by grassbottles on Feb 28, 2013 - 54 answers

Weird female friend territory. Help!

I'm a married female. My female friend has admitted to having feelings for me and continually makes subtle comments. What to do? [more inside]
posted by shiggins on Jan 3, 2013 - 44 answers

...Why am I so antisocial?

Is it wrong for me to not want any friends, or will it destroy me in the long run? [more inside]
posted by orchidgenes on Dec 27, 2012 - 21 answers

Help me learn how to maintain friendships?

I am a good friend, I meet loads of interesting people, but I am terrible at maintaining friendships. Help me not end up alone, on my couch, eating out of a tuna can every night wondering what happened to all my friends. [more inside]
posted by amoeba on Nov 5, 2012 - 17 answers

Are old friendships really that much richer than new ones?

Is it really so bad that I don't have friends from high school anymore? [more inside]
posted by sunrisecoffee on Aug 14, 2012 - 57 answers

How to convince my friend to go to counseling

Help me convince my friend to talk to a therapist [more inside]
posted by grokfest on Jul 29, 2012 - 22 answers

Another ambiguous friendship problem, involving 2 shy snowflakes

Two shy snowflakes romance question. Need ideas for pushing the boundaries of our ambiguous friendship. [more inside]
posted by JeanDupont on Jul 15, 2012 - 7 answers

Should I say something?

I have been seeing my close friend's boyfriend on Grindr a lot lately. Should I say something? There are complicating factors. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 12, 2012 - 19 answers

I love you so I can't see you anymore.

I've gotta stop having a crush on my friend or stop seeing her entirely. [more inside]
posted by OrangeDrink on Jun 14, 2012 - 44 answers

Can we stay this way?

How to thwart jealousy and possessiveness in a non-relationship relationship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 14, 2012 - 23 answers

Friendships, relationships, and my screwed-up brain.

Friendships, relationships, and my screwed-up brain. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 6, 2012 - 15 answers

What are some tips for keeping friendships as an adult?

How do I become even better friends with my friends? [more inside]
posted by flowers103 on Apr 1, 2012 - 14 answers

What’s my takeaway for an intense online conversation that suddenly ended?

I’m recently divorced and confused about an online situation that resolved amicably. I’m not sure how to think about it; however, I want to know if I made some obvious mistake so I won’t repeat it in the future. [more inside]
posted by Fierce clam on Jan 11, 2012 - 15 answers

My friend's husband thinks I have a crush on her.

My friend's husband thinks I have a crush on her. What do I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 1, 2012 - 28 answers

Flake on me once, shame on you. Flake on me twice, shame on me.

I'd like some help thinking about how to respond to being blown off for the first time early on in a relationship. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 31, 2011 - 23 answers

How do you not mess relationships up?

How do you not mess relationships up? [more inside]
posted by litleozy on Dec 23, 2011 - 32 answers

Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option?

Why do my significant other’s girlfriends dislike me? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 22, 2011 - 51 answers

Meeting a friend for coffee next week - how and when do I tell her my feelings for her?

Meeting a friend for coffee next week - how and when do I tell her my feelings for her? [more inside]
posted by ashkenazy on Dec 2, 2011 - 28 answers

Requesting advice from sensible people: how to navigate weird/awkward post-hook up situation

Seeking advice from sensible people: how to navigate weird/awkward post-hook up situation, with bonus unplanned pregnancy. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 4, 2011 - 15 answers

The Friendship Dating Pool

Am I some form of abnormal for thinking about my friend this way? [more inside]
posted by Heretical on Oct 24, 2011 - 38 answers

I want to stop looking for everyone's approval. How do I do that?

I am a successful human being - employed, married, friends, good relationships with family. However, I find myself engaging in insecure and annoying approval-seeking behavior. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 1, 2011 - 11 answers

Seeing the good in people (including myself)

In friendships, I have a hard time seeing myself as the concrete stuff I can bring to it (helping others, entertaining them). I can't see people appreciating me for my "soft" qualities (kindness, affection, etc.). Although I can appreciate other people for more than what they bring me in concrete ways, I can't put words on the things I like about them. What kinds of qualities are good to see in friends? [more inside]
posted by Monday, stony Monday on Jun 27, 2011 - 17 answers

To what degree should I hang out with my partner's friends? What about "couple" friends?

In the past, my partner and I have had a casual approach to shared socializing - we have a lot in common intellectually and emotionally, but our work and our hobbies are pretty different. Also, I hate parties and my partner loves them. So we spend time together as a couple a lot, but we see our friends separately and don't usually go to big social events together--although we do go to weddings, holidays, etc as a couple. This has gone on (happily, as far as I knew) for years. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 21, 2011 - 42 answers

How to deal with envious friends?

How do I gracefully deal with envious female friends? [more inside]
posted by Dilemma on Jun 19, 2011 - 52 answers

FWB: Can I save this friendship from my own regret?

Ex-FWB: I really want to be friends again, but I'm too disgusted, and it's not his fault. What now? A follow-up to this question. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 4, 2011 - 35 answers

Is it normal to be a female and not have many (okay, any) close guy friends?

Is it normal to be a female and not have many (okay, any) close guy friends? Should I actively pursue friendships with guys? [more inside]
posted by sunnychef88 on May 6, 2011 - 33 answers

Not the typical mutually beneficial relationship

A gentleman I've been seeing has proposed an unusual, temporary "mutually beneficial arrangement." I'd like some help figuring out whether or not I should go for it and whether he has a hidden agenda. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 18, 2011 - 50 answers

One of those, "but you don't look sick" situations.

How do I explain to people the aftermath of what is probably due to mono? People (family, cute girls) keep brushing off my physical symptoms when I try to concisely explain that, even though I'm infinitely better than I was a couple months ago, my energy fuel tank still empties suddenly and unpredictably, and then I feel awful, freezing, aching, dizzy, and extremely sick until I sleep it off? [more inside]
posted by zeek321 on Feb 1, 2011 - 15 answers

Finding friends as a nonspiritual person

How do I find friends and relationships as a formerly-religious-now-agnostic person? [more inside]
posted by sherlockt on Jan 9, 2011 - 13 answers

What's the epilogue to my non-Hollywood ending?

I recently confessed my romantic feelings to a very close friend and, alas, he doesn't return them. I want to get things back to "normal" between us as quickly is possible. How do I go about doing this, and am I fooling myself into thinking that it is possible to return to "normal" right away? [more inside]
posted by HonoriaGlossop on Jan 3, 2011 - 25 answers

Ho's before bro's?

One of my best friends is totally and completely wrapped up in her boyfriend. And she doesn't feel like much of a friend as a result. [more inside]
posted by blackcatcuriouser on Sep 9, 2010 - 51 answers

How can I help an autistic guy navigate "Facebook friends"?

My brother, who is a young adult with autism and other mental disabilities, got himself banned from Facebook because he was bugging "friends" of his friends. I need help explaining the unwritten rules of social networking, and creating some basic guidelines for him to follow when he tries Facebook again. (Much more inside.) [more inside]
posted by me3dia on Jul 2, 2010 - 21 answers

Do I tell my friend to DTMFA?

I just discovered something potentially damaging to one of my best friend's relationships. But it's also going to hurt her really badly. Do I tell her? [more inside]
posted by canadia on Jun 27, 2010 - 31 answers

Are close, one-on-one, opposite-sex friendships a good idea?

Are close, one-on-one, opposite-sex friendships a good idea; or is the risk of one-sided romantic feelings and other problems too great? [more inside]
posted by dogcat on May 6, 2010 - 34 answers

I'm jealous of my friend's relationship.

My long-time single friend finally has a boyfriend. I'm jealous. How should I deal with that? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 3, 2010 - 24 answers

Friend's cheating...what to do?

How can I support my friend when I (and she) know what she's doing is wrong? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 10, 2010 - 32 answers

How should I open up to other people?

How much should I share about myself when I'm first getting to know someone, and how should I open up further as the friendship/relationship progresses? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 25, 2010 - 9 answers

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