This seems petty, but I am sincerely and exorbitantly bummed out (with some jealousy and hurt feelings to boot) that MY best friend didn't choose me to be her maid of honor. I'm clearly the next-in-line bridesmaid, but I haven't as of yet achieved many positive feelings about the honor I've received, but would like to, and as quickly as possible.
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posted by lovingkindness
on May 13, 2013 -
54 answers
Luckily I’m not deceiving, but I have managed to get myself into a very unfortunate romantic relationship with an old friend. Help me untangle myself? A blizzard of snowflake details inside…
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posted by sarahgrace
on May 10, 2013 -
26 answers
My best friend is dating a new guy and is currently in the "floating in the clouds" stage. He's all that she talks about, texts me about, emails me about, mentions, quotes, you name it. I'm happy for her, but I am quickly reaching "who cares" stage. She does this with everyone she dates, but this guy might become permanent, so I'm not brushing it off as "just wait until this passes". How can I politely tell her that we need to have conversations about OTHER THINGS? She can be very sensitive, and I don't want her to feel that I am not interested in the relationship or not happy for her. More details inside.
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posted by ElectricGoat
on Apr 28, 2013 -
26 answers
Is a man who pretends to be friends with a woman when he is actually interested in more than friendship doing something shady?
Should said woman (myself) drop him as a friend or give him a chance to adjust? He’s a good friend and generally a positive, interesting and charming friend to have (smart, insightful, witty, capable of deep conversation, trustworthy with secrets, understanding…). I’m simply not interested in dating him (for many reasons, the most glaring of which is that he’s sexist in subtle ways that I couldn’t tolerate in a partner), but I value and love his friendship and conversation. I do not want to date him, ever. I don’t know if I should salvage our friendship or let it go, for his sake and mine...I've included the details below but I think this summary captures what I am trying to intellectually and emotionally figure out.
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posted by grassbottles
on Feb 28, 2013 -
54 answers
I'm a married female. My female friend has admitted to having feelings for me and continually makes subtle comments. What to do?
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posted by shiggins
on Jan 3, 2013 -
44 answers
I am a good friend, I meet loads of interesting people, but I am terrible at maintaining friendships. Help me not end up alone, on my couch, eating out of a tuna can every night wondering what happened to all my friends.
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posted by amoeba
on Nov 5, 2012 -
17 answers
Two shy snowflakes romance question. Need ideas for pushing the boundaries of our ambiguous friendship.
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posted by JeanDupont
on Jul 15, 2012 -
7 answers
I have been seeing my close friend's boyfriend on
Grindr a lot lately. Should I say something? There are complicating factors.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 12, 2012 -
19 answers
I’m recently divorced and confused about an online situation that resolved amicably. I’m not sure how to think about it; however, I want to know if I made some obvious mistake so I won’t repeat it in the future.
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posted by Fierce clam
on Jan 11, 2012 -
15 answers
I'd like some help thinking about how to respond to being blown off for the first time early on in a relationship.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 31, 2011 -
23 answers
Seeking advice from sensible people: how to navigate weird/awkward post-hook up situation, with bonus unplanned pregnancy.
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 4, 2011 -
15 answers
I am a successful human being - employed, married, friends, good relationships with family. However, I find myself engaging in insecure and annoying approval-seeking behavior.
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 1, 2011 -
11 answers
In friendships, I have a hard time seeing myself as the concrete stuff I can bring to it (helping others, entertaining them). I can't see people appreciating me for my "soft" qualities (kindness, affection, etc.). Although I can appreciate other people for more than what they bring me in concrete ways, I can't put words on the things I like about them. What kinds of qualities are good to see in friends?
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posted by Monday, stony Monday
on Jun 27, 2011 -
17 answers
In the past, my partner and I have had a casual approach to shared socializing - we have a lot in common intellectually and emotionally, but our work and our hobbies are pretty different. Also, I hate parties and my partner loves them. So we spend time together as a couple a lot, but we see our friends separately and don't usually go to big social events together--although we do go to weddings, holidays, etc as a couple. This has gone on (happily, as far as I knew) for years.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 21, 2011 -
42 answers
Is it normal to be a female and not have many (okay, any) close guy friends? Should I actively pursue friendships with guys?
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posted by sunnychef88
on May 6, 2011 -
33 answers
A gentleman I've been seeing has proposed an unusual, temporary "mutually beneficial arrangement." I'd like some help figuring out whether or not I should go for it and whether he has a hidden agenda.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 18, 2011 -
50 answers
How do I explain to people the aftermath of what is probably due to mono? People (family, cute girls) keep brushing off my physical symptoms when I try to concisely explain that, even though I'm infinitely better than I was a couple months ago, my energy fuel tank still empties suddenly and unpredictably, and then I feel awful, freezing, aching, dizzy, and extremely sick until I sleep it off?
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posted by zeek321
on Feb 1, 2011 -
15 answers
I recently confessed my romantic feelings to a very close friend and, alas, he doesn't return them. I want to get things back to "normal" between us as quickly is possible. How do I go about doing this, and am I fooling myself into thinking that it is possible to return to "normal" right away?
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posted by HonoriaGlossop
on Jan 3, 2011 -
25 answers
One of my best friends is totally and completely wrapped up in her boyfriend. And she doesn't feel like much of a friend as a result.
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posted by blackcatcuriouser
on Sep 9, 2010 -
51 answers
My brother, who is a young adult with autism and other mental disabilities, got himself banned from Facebook because he was bugging "friends" of his friends. I need help explaining the unwritten rules of social networking, and creating some basic guidelines for him to follow when he tries Facebook again. (Much more inside.)
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posted by me3dia
on Jul 2, 2010 -
21 answers
I just discovered something potentially damaging to one of my best friend's relationships. But it's also going to hurt her really badly. Do I tell her?
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posted by canadia
on Jun 27, 2010 -
31 answers
Are close, one-on-one, opposite-sex friendships a good idea; or is the risk of one-sided romantic feelings and other problems too great?
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posted by dogcat
on May 6, 2010 -
34 answers
My long-time single friend finally has a boyfriend. I'm jealous. How should I deal with that?
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posted by anonymous
on May 3, 2010 -
24 answers
How much should I share about myself when I'm first getting to know someone, and how should I open up further as the friendship/relationship progresses?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 25, 2010 -
9 answers
The New Year is approaching and I need some guidance on how to move forward with my life.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 26, 2009 -
13 answers
How do I tell my friend the truth in a way that she can hear it, then take what she can from it and do what feels right to her?
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posted by Hydrofiend
on Nov 29, 2009 -
29 answers
Help! Can I salvage this friendship even after experiencing the searing pain of rejection?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 23, 2009 -
13 answers
Every night that he comes home and winds up browsing the internet for hours, I feel like I'm going to scream.
Am I a nagging worrywort, is my boyfriend mildly depressed, or both? And what's the best way to work on it?
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posted by brisquette
on Nov 17, 2009 -
39 answers
Anyone who has been to Australia or talked to any Australian males (sometimes females) will know they frequently call people they have never met before or even people they're angry with: "mate". What other expressions of universal male bonding are used in other countries?
posted by vizsla
on Jun 18, 2009 -
35 answers
As a friend of someone who is going through an extended personal rough patch, how do I find and maintain a good balance between being a sympathetic ear and feeling like a punching bag?
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posted by anonymous
on May 27, 2009 -
18 answers
I'm in love with my friend. I'm going to tell him, but not for a few months. A) What do I do in the meantime? B) Any dos/don'ts for when I tell him? C) How do I both hope for the best and keep my expectations in check so I don't get hurt if he's not interested? D) Any way I can feel him out for signs of interest?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 1, 2009 -
42 answers
