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Help me respect people in my life that don't seem like they are trying.

It feels like people in my life aren't trying hard enough, but as I have felt this way multiple times now, I realize the problem is within me. My life has been pretty easy because I try really hard and get good results. Does anyone have any perspectives/advice for me? Snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by bbqturtle on May 14, 2014 - 75 answers

Giving up on other people

If you have failed at forming relationships (of any kind), is there a point where you should just accept you don't have the skills and are incapable of developing them? [more inside]
posted by Aranquis on Apr 6, 2014 - 40 answers

choose: job and lifestyle OR friends and family

Which would you choose: a great job and lifestyle OR being close to your family and friends? Especially if you really can't have both at the same time...? [more inside]
posted by elizamina on Jan 25, 2014 - 33 answers

How to best deal with a despised close friend of my SO?

For reasons that I find entirely justifiable, I despise one of my significant other's closest friends. Until recently, we have gotten along, and although he treats his girlfriend terribly and frequently complains about their relationship to my SO and me, I thought he was just unhappy in his relationship, and dismissed it. Recent events have brought to light that, not only does he dislike me deep down, it appears he genuinely thinks of women in general as nothing more than inconsequential beasts with breasts that somehow continue to exists despite their obvious stupidity and inability to do anything of value. Obviously this revelation makes me a little uncomfortable with the idea of he and my SO cavorting about together without me being around to deter the "I hate women" diatribe. Snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by Quincy on Dec 19, 2013 - 32 answers

What to do about someone I like

Basically I met a guy at a bar (I'm also a guy fyi)... We've been going places, eating out, and hanging out for the past month and a half and still are. Every day or every other day or so and he's always up for it. He messages me while we're both at work. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 11, 2013 - 12 answers

Is this a normal thing when friends get a girlfriend?

I have a guy friend i've known since 1st grade (we're both 26), we went to school together all the way through high school. We had a kind of mutual unspoken, understanding/agreement over the years that we were friends, but we just didn't see each other often around school after a certain grade to be really good friends. Last year, we started talking a lot more on a pretty regular basis (about every day/night). [more inside]
posted by earthquakeglue on Oct 3, 2013 - 20 answers

how can an introvert infiltrate a tight-knit group of super-socializers?

my SO of about a year has a very large family that is heavily into socializing, and i'm an introvert. can we peacefully coexist? [more inside]
posted by humiliated_grape on Aug 28, 2013 - 20 answers

Hey, Extroverts!

This is a question for the extroverts, the popular, those who play well with others and the possessors of good people skills. What do you know about meeting people, making friends and relationships (both platonic and romantic) that others might not? [more inside]
posted by the hot hot side of randy on Aug 9, 2013 - 37 answers

This could be a sitcom plot...if it was actually funny.

One of three mutual friends of mine (who are all roommates) has been behaving very strangely and it is making things awkward. Should I address this or hope it goes away on its own? [more inside]
posted by bolognius maximus on Jun 23, 2013 - 19 answers

Why do I always end up in the 'Friend Zone'?

This happens to me far too often when I've dated men, I hear the 'I like you as a friend' after a handful of dates far too often. Is there something I could be doing wrong? [more inside]
posted by bluehermit on Jun 11, 2013 - 33 answers

Are most guys' minds creepy (or sex sex sex? :/)

Incident report of a young woman and much older upper-middle class man. [more inside]
posted by MiuMiu on May 10, 2013 - 85 answers

Help me tell my BFF to shut up, in the nicest of ways.

My best friend is dating a new guy and is currently in the "floating in the clouds" stage. He's all that she talks about, texts me about, emails me about, mentions, quotes, you name it. I'm happy for her, but I am quickly reaching "who cares" stage. She does this with everyone she dates, but this guy might become permanent, so I'm not brushing it off as "just wait until this passes". How can I politely tell her that we need to have conversations about OTHER THINGS? She can be very sensitive, and I don't want her to feel that I am not interested in the relationship or not happy for her. More details inside. [more inside]
posted by ElectricGoat on Apr 28, 2013 - 26 answers

Help me deal with a (crazy?) ex.

LTR ended without a word. We're going to have to see each other a lot. How should I handle this? [more inside]
posted by sevensnowflakes on Jan 13, 2013 - 34 answers

Relationship; and the one with her Male Friend

At the beginning of the relationship, she had asked to be exclusive. Told me she wants me to be her boyfriend. Thing's were going great. She mentions that she has a male friend visiting from out of town. Wasn't a big deal for me. Then it comes to light that he would be staying at her place for the weekend. [more inside]
posted by Nicholas Geary on Jan 2, 2013 - 120 answers

...Why am I so antisocial?

Is it wrong for me to not want any friends, or will it destroy me in the long run? [more inside]
posted by orchidgenes on Dec 27, 2012 - 21 answers

How can I turn him down without crushing him?

How can I avoid leading a guy on when he won't come out and state his attraction? [more inside]
posted by chocolatemilkshakes on Dec 14, 2012 - 28 answers

How do I handle a friend who is potentially messing up my love life?

My date canceled on me because he's best friends with a guy who is in love with me...even though I have absolutely no feelings for said friend and I've told him so. How do I handle this? [more inside]
posted by mlk915 on Dec 13, 2012 - 64 answers

Hitting the like button just doesn't cut it.

Hit me with your best asynchronous communication tips, games, tools & tricks. [more inside]
posted by deludingmyself on Nov 14, 2012 - 7 answers

Help me learn how to maintain friendships?

I am a good friend, I meet loads of interesting people, but I am terrible at maintaining friendships. Help me not end up alone, on my couch, eating out of a tuna can every night wondering what happened to all my friends. [more inside]
posted by amoeba on Nov 5, 2012 - 17 answers

Why trust other people?

I have just ended a long term relationship due to a breach of trust. This has, however, added to my increasing lack of trust in other people -- which was little to begin with. Why should and how do I learn to trust people again? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 31, 2012 - 15 answers

Friends of exes - always off limits?

Briefly dated someone - is his friend off limits? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 5, 2012 - 22 answers

Is this a new friendship or a ticking timebomb?

My ex has sneaked back into my life during a difficult time. I'm appreciative of his support but I'm nervous about backsliding emotionally. How do I set the right boundaries? Or is this just the "being friends with your ex when you're ready" thing I've read so much about here on the green? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 26, 2012 - 17 answers

It's easy: "Mom, meet Sock. Sock, this is my mom."

I have a great boyfriend who treats me really well, but we hardly ever hang out with his friends, except sometimes at parties. And even though he agrees that we're for (very) serious, he hasn't even mentioned the idea of introducing me to his parents. I have told him that I'm upset about the friend stuff. [more inside]
posted by sockity sock on Sep 13, 2012 - 37 answers

How do you judge how good a friend is?

How do you know if someone is a good friend to keep around? Is it judging them by their support or their company? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 5, 2012 - 23 answers

What's a little friendly sexual competition amongst amigos?

How do I manage this potentially awkward social situation and win the girl? [more inside]
posted by Che boludo! on Sep 5, 2012 - 14 answers

Pissing off prospective friends and alienating people since the 1980s

I pissed off a lot of people at a meetup. How can I patch things up with them and be friends, or is it even possible anymore and should I just give up? [more inside]
posted by dekathelon on Jul 22, 2012 - 90 answers

Can we stay this way?

How to thwart jealousy and possessiveness in a non-relationship relationship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 14, 2012 - 23 answers

How to preserve my friendship with an ex now that I'm involved with a new person?

We dated for quite a while, but it didn't work out and we've ended up as good friends. But now I'm entering a serious relationship for the first time since it ended, and the shift in my attention seems to be rattling her. How can I handle this gracefully? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 12, 2012 - 39 answers

Friendships, relationships, and my screwed-up brain.

Friendships, relationships, and my screwed-up brain. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 6, 2012 - 15 answers

what do you talk/move with ur gf's friends?

I am nervous(totally) about meeting bunch of strangers and the thought they are all there to meet me. How do you handle this? what kind of conversations would you have with them? [more inside]
posted by daveg02 on May 18, 2012 - 23 answers

"what's the problem?" "...ん..."

Japanese friend/relationship advice. She all of a sudden became very cold and distant, and I don't understand why. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by iamcrispy on Apr 6, 2012 - 26 answers

Me : Extrovert. She : Introvert. Can this relationship survive? Should it?

Me : Extrovert. She : Introvert. Can this relationship survive? Should it? [more inside]
posted by Sloop John B on Mar 28, 2012 - 67 answers

how to form a group of girlfriends at age 30?

How can I form a group of close, lifelong girlfriends when I'm almost 30? [more inside]
posted by sunrisecoffee on Jan 14, 2012 - 22 answers

Changing for a guy?

How can I prove to my friends that I'm not "changing for a new guy," or should I even bother? [more inside]
posted by pandorasbox on Jan 10, 2012 - 32 answers

I have no idea how to summarize this.

Help me interpret my situation and figure out the practical implications of the social advice/philosophies that my friends have been giving me about it. (Warning: a super long and arguably dramatic story awaits you.) [more inside]
posted by Conspire on Nov 4, 2011 - 38 answers

Boyfriend reconnecting with an ex, good or bad idea?

My boyfriend is catching up with an old girlfriend and I want to be okay with it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 4, 2011 - 37 answers

How to let down someone who has a crush on me?

She has a crush on me. I don't feel the same way about her. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 19, 2011 - 19 answers

Is it okay to surprise my best friend at the airport?

Would it be inappropriate to surprise your best friend at the airport who has been on a long international flight? She'll be arriving alone in Abu Dhabi from Toronto this evening. We haven't seen each other in about five months. See further details below: [more inside]
posted by thatgirl1985 on Aug 26, 2011 - 19 answers

Check yes or no.

So my friend and I kissed. Now what? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 21, 2011 - 16 answers

Friend bugs me for advice

A friend and I had a very brief fling a long time ago. To this day, she informs of every single romantic advance a man makes toward her and it's starting to annoy me (longer than I thought). [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 9, 2011 - 29 answers

Why do we go weeks without seeing each other? Are we just friends?

This guy is confusing me. He acts like he likes me but we sometimes don't see each other for a few weeks. [more inside]
posted by ohtimorousme on Jun 18, 2011 - 24 answers

Teach me to be a less of a jerk

My behaviour towards a friend of mine is sort of cruddy, and I'd like an outside perspective on how to change it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 7, 2011 - 13 answers

Is it normal to be a female and not have many (okay, any) close guy friends?

Is it normal to be a female and not have many (okay, any) close guy friends? Should I actively pursue friendships with guys? [more inside]
posted by sunnychef88 on May 6, 2011 - 33 answers

Would you like to be friends again?

How (and should) I platonically re-connect with an ex? [more inside]
posted by ohsnapdragon on Apr 11, 2011 - 22 answers

Social Skills Training/Behavior Therapy in NYC?

I need to improve my social and relationship skills. Can anyone recommend a behavior therapist in NYC who does social skill training and takes Empire Blue Cross/Blue Shield? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 28, 2011 - 3 answers

Friends with your ex?

Why is being friends with your ex supposedly a good sign to future dating prospects? [more inside]
posted by DisreputableDog on Feb 20, 2011 - 65 answers

Nice to meet you! Now I never want to see you again!

Do you ever meet someone, think they're pleasant, but then don't really want to run into them again? [more inside]
posted by thorny on Jan 16, 2011 - 37 answers

How to make new friends when you're all grown up?

Asking for mom: how do you get back out there and form close friendships/relationships after you've already settled down, raised a family, and devoted yourself to work? [more inside]
posted by Amaranta on Jan 9, 2011 - 13 answers

Help! I may be an asshole

I seem to have a neverending list since adulthood of people that just simply do not like me, and increasingly shorter list of those that do. How do I become less of an asshole? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 2, 2010 - 55 answers

Why don't I like people? Yes, I've tried!

This would be a fairly standard 'how do I make friends' question, except I know the reason I can't. Lack of social skills, not liking normal socialising exercises (e.g. parties), and living miles from anywhere are part of it, but before I get to those problems I have this one: I don't like anybody. Seriously, this is an even bigger problem than people not liking me. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 15, 2010 - 32 answers

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