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How to make the best use of two (only two!) mediation sessions

My spouse has long resisted going to couples’ mediation, despite on-going problems in our marriage. After a particularly bad fight a few days ago, my spouse reluctantly agreed to attend two sessions. I’m responsible for selecting the mediator. What’s the best way to extract the most benefit from just two sessions? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 10, 2014 - 15 answers

Perspective on the idea of "growing apart" in a long term commitment?

I recently started seeing someone new, who happens to be the first person I've dated who's divorced. When he told me that he was divorced, he said they "grew apart," after over a decade of marriage, though he also indicated that his ex-wife didn't feel that way, and didn't want to get divorced. I had the sense (though this was a brief conversation, and we're just getting to know each other) that he didn't necessarily *try* to fix things. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 27, 2014 - 26 answers

Separation without moving out?

Can you have a trial separation while still both living in the same house? [more inside]
posted by El Curioso on Sep 20, 2014 - 24 answers

Breaking up/co-parenting with a difficult person

I've decided to end my relationship with my boyfriend/fiance of nearly 6 years. We have a 3 year old. I've realized I would rather be single/co-parenting than have my child see such an unhappy relationship. My boyfriend is regularly verbally/emotionally abusive to me in front of our child, and has a history of being emotionally withdrawn. For the purpose of this question please assume that we are definitely breaking up and that there is no other option for me. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 7, 2014 - 33 answers

The "how" and the "who first"

While my concerns about divorcing my spouse are numerous, there are two in particular that I could really use some advice on. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 3, 2014 - 20 answers

Marriage in trouble, wife refuses relationship counseling. What next?

My wife Jane and I are in our 40s and have been together for eight years. We got along well for the first few years, but things have been steadily going south since then. In theory, we both want to improve our marriage, but we are not making much progress on our own. I could use some advice. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 21, 2014 - 48 answers

Procedural/ethical question that may sound like a relationship question

This is a financial/procedural/ethical question, not a relationship question. My SO and I recently bought a house together. The loan is in SO's name, because we got a better rate that way. SO is therefore the official owner right now. Our verbal agreement upon commencing the search for a house, and what we both decided was fair, was that my name would be added to the deed after we closed. We also talked about what we'd do if we split up, and we agreed that one would buy the other out, or we'd split the money from the sale of the home (minus our individual contributions to the down payment). We've moved in, and in typical fashion, haven't gotten around to the deed bit. Actual question after the jump. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 29, 2014 - 23 answers

Need advice: Is it time for a divorce, or do I ride this out?

Should I seriously be considering a divorce now, or give it more time? And if I do want to initiate a split--how do I do it, since this will totally blindside him? What else should I do to prepare if it comes to that? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 4, 2013 - 27 answers

Should I be the one who got away?

Two women, two very different paths in life. Is there a third option that I can't see? Excessive detail inside. [more inside]
posted by MyFrozenYear on Aug 18, 2013 - 33 answers

Friend just gave birth. Leaving her husband. What does she need to know?

Not the happiest circumstances to bring a new child into this world. After years of supporting her husband, financially and emotionally, she's reached her limit. He's dealing with some addiction issues, and has become increasingly hostile with the birth of this baby. Maybe they'll work this out one day, but right now she doesn't feel safe, has filled her car with personal belongings and is staying with family. She left him a lengthy note, but does not want to talk to him in the next few days. This has been a long time coming, and while I don't imagine it will be a surprise—his family has actually encouraged her to do this—he won't react well. What sort of legal precautions should she begin taking? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 29, 2013 - 19 answers

Have you had to divorce your best friend?

My husband of 8 years and I have come to an impasse: he wants a free-love, open relationship because he stifled his sexuality as a religious person before we were married, and I want...well, not that. How do I move forward when it means breaking the most important bond I have? [more inside]
posted by SarahBellum on May 7, 2013 - 28 answers

To stay [gone] or go [back]?

My wife and I separated a few months ago (which was my choice, not hers) and it seems that many of the things that I left over may have been addressed, but I still feel cagey about it all. How do I square this circle in my head and in my heart? Blizzard inside. [more inside]
posted by six sided sock on Feb 26, 2013 - 40 answers

My boyfriends borderline ex-wife is making me borderline crazy!

How should I address the fact that my boyfriend's unstable ex-wife continues to inappropriately contact him and his family? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 27, 2012 - 22 answers

how to initiate a separation?

i'm unhappy in my marriage but my wife is very dependent on me. how do i do this? [more inside]
posted by saraswati on Nov 12, 2012 - 22 answers

Between a rock and a hard place

I have recently separated from my wife of 6 years and have moved out of the family home into temporary accommodation. It has been about a month since I left and I am in a very confused place at the moment. My wife has put forward an ultimatum that is tearing me apart and I would appreciate some perspective from the hive mind. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 25, 2012 - 79 answers

Some semblance of normality?

I'm increasingly certain that my marriage is  dying, and I need some help negotiating the time between now and my first realtionship counselling appointment. (Apologies for the long post) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 24, 2012 - 27 answers

What is the Facebook protocol during a painful divorce?

What is the Facebook protocol during a painful divorce? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 7, 2012 - 40 answers

Give her "space" and potentially end the relationship, or try to compromise?

Wife wants "space" -- but we're supposed to move to a foreign country in a week. Give her "space" and potentially end the relationship, or try to compromise? There's more to it than that, so here goes: [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 4, 2012 - 29 answers

Should I stay or should I go?

Husband's mental health problems led him to compulsively spend over £27,000 (about $44,000) while I supported both of us for three years. I know he'll work hard on therapy, but I don't know if I should divorce him. Should I try and forgive? [warning, long!] [more inside]
posted by TriparteGoddess on Apr 29, 2012 - 62 answers

Separated from wife, got involved with someone else, should I reconcile with my wife?

I've been separated from my wife for over six months. During that time I got involved with someone else, but now I'm thinking about going back to my wife. Please tell me I'm not making a mistake. [more inside]
posted by quoth_the_raven on Apr 23, 2012 - 53 answers

Wedding etiquette regarding invites and rsvp

My partner was not invited to my friend's wedding yet my ex-husband and his new girlfriend are. Bride and Groom to be were both invited and attended ex and my wedding previously. I live with my partner and its a serious relationship. My ex-husbands gf is now pregnant. I find this all upsetting. How should I respond? [more inside]
posted by Under the Sea on Jan 13, 2012 - 67 answers

What do you wish you knew before you committed to a relationship with a divorced person who has a child?

What do you wish you knew before you committed to a relationship with a divorced person who has a child? [more inside]
posted by JoannaC on Jan 12, 2012 - 21 answers

What’s my takeaway for an intense online conversation that suddenly ended?

I’m recently divorced and confused about an online situation that resolved amicably. I’m not sure how to think about it; however, I want to know if I made some obvious mistake so I won’t repeat it in the future. [more inside]
posted by Fierce clam on Jan 11, 2012 - 15 answers

Broaching the awkward/weird topic of marriage and divorce

I have a question about broaching the awkward/weird topic of marriage with my current SO. (Warning: I'm providing as much _anonymous_ backstory as I possibly can, please forgive any awkward grammar in view of this) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 3, 2011 - 21 answers

Helping my sister through divorce?

How do I be the best most supportive brother I can while my sister is going through a divorce? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 21, 2011 - 14 answers

How do I accept my divorce for what it is?

Now my divorce is really happening, how do I learn to accept this is the way its going to be now? [more inside]
posted by Under the Sea on Sep 26, 2011 - 12 answers

Life after divorce - with kids.

I'm in the throes of a divorce. I have an 8 year old girl. I've met someone else - how best to integrate two people with young kids...more details below... [more inside]
posted by nicktf on Jul 8, 2011 - 15 answers

I'm in love with a divorcing man who is having a divorce freak out. Help!

In love with a divorcing man who is now backing off. Help! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 29, 2011 - 25 answers

How to deal with your parents getting a divorce when you're an adult?

How to deal with your parents getting a divorce when you're an adult? [more inside]
posted by dayspteh on Apr 23, 2011 - 27 answers

How do I convince myself to get a divorce, and not feel guilty forever about abandoning someone who loves me?

How do I convince myself to get a divorce, and not feel guilty forever about abandoning someone who loves me? And doesn't have a job. And can't get health insurance on her own. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 31, 2011 - 83 answers

Breaking up as partners, not as friends?

My SO of 13 years and I just broke up. It was mutual and amicable but we feel numb. How do we process this and oh god, logistics? What do we do now? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 21, 2010 - 9 answers

My ex treats me like crap... Help me get over it.

I am no longer with the father of my child and he treats me like crap. In person, over email, on the phone. We've got a long way to go here - our kid isn't even three yet. I'm trying to not take it personally and to let it go, but I am struggling... [more inside]
posted by voneil on Nov 18, 2010 - 28 answers

How can I help revive my partner's sexual appetite?

My partner has recently gone through a painful divorce and totally lost his libido. How can I help revive his sexual appetite? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 14, 2010 - 9 answers

How to talk to a friend who is considering leaving her husband

My friend has asked me to have a conversation with her about whether she should leave her husband for a new man. I have a strong view: should I tell her and can I do so in a way that is constructive? What else should I consider about the content and format of what I say? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 3, 2010 - 27 answers

How does divorce really work

My husband and I are going through counseling after 12 years of marriage. It's possible that we won't make it. What are the practicalities of divorce, and how does it really work? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 24, 2010 - 10 answers

How do I know if I should get a divorce?

How did you know when your long-term relationship was over? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 13, 2010 - 39 answers

Advice needed on an amicable separation.

Advice needed on an amicable separation. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 2, 2010 - 17 answers

How to smooth step-childen (sort of) co-habitation?

Not the brady branch: I live in a household with my child and my boyfriend and his two children. We both have our respective children 4 days of the week (split custody with ex-spouses).... even though his kids live here more than with their mother - they do not think of it as "home" which is starting to unnerve me in many ways.... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 13, 2010 - 42 answers

How do you save a marriage after an affair?

My world is destroyed after an affair. I desperately need advice. Its a long story... Please help. [more inside]
posted by wantstobeadesigner on Nov 26, 2009 - 54 answers

Why am I suddenly having these dreams?

Why have I suddenly started to dream about other women? [more inside]
posted by kleenkat on Oct 21, 2009 - 23 answers

Learning to THRIVE alone after divorce.

After divorce, how can I learn to be a confident, whole individual without being in a relationship? I'm struggling with insecurity, I feel like there is a part of me missing, and I've gotten myself so worked up about it that I'm in a state of "analysis paralysis." Please help me break through that paralysis! [more inside]
posted by MultiFaceted on Oct 17, 2009 - 23 answers

What to do after you open Pandora's box?

My husband is cheating on me and has been for at least two years. He doesn't know I found out. Now what? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 3, 2009 - 67 answers

Give me perspective on my dad's dating situation

My parents split about a year ago. My father has started dating under unusual circumstances, and it makes me somewhat angry. Am I overreacting? How can I find peace with the situation? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 4, 2009 - 32 answers

How do I cope with bitterness and vengefulness toward my ex?

My husband of 17 years had an affair and left me for someone else. Three years later, I’m still feeling bitter and vengeful. Please help me cope. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 3, 2009 - 38 answers

What is a "successful" relationship

How do you define "success" in relationships? [more inside]
posted by pauldonato on May 27, 2009 - 22 answers

How to introduce kids to a new SO?

Tell me the best way to introduce my kid to new significant others. [more inside]
posted by RajahKing on May 14, 2009 - 17 answers

Could a common-law relationship make a bigamist case?

Does being in a de-facto / common-law relationship while waiting for a pending divorce make me grounds for bigamy under Australian law? [more inside]
posted by psyward on Apr 27, 2009 - 7 answers

How can I ease the pain for my kids?

So, I'm getting divorced. I have 2 daughters, who I'm kinda terrified to tell. I'm hoping Ask.Me might be able to provide some tips. [more inside]
posted by Richat on Apr 2, 2009 - 27 answers

I know he doesn't love me, why can't I leave?

Why can't I remove myself from a relationship I'm not happy in? I'm miserable with him, miserable without him, and all my relationships follow the same pattern... [more inside]
posted by DoNotRefill on Jan 4, 2009 - 21 answers

How can I get my (future-ex) wife to finalize our separation agreement?

Hopefully-not-too-ugly Divorcefilter: How can I get my (future-ex) wife to finalize our separation agreement? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 25, 2008 - 7 answers

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