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Need a good gay friendly therapist in Seattle

I've been struggling with depression and anxiety for years, and I'm tired of trying to struggle through it on my own. I've decided I need to get help, but I have no idea where to start. I'm gay and in Seattle. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 15, 2014 - 6 answers

How should I handle my hunch that my boyfriend was abused?

How should I handle my hunch that my boyfriend was abused as a child -- when I am unsure about the future of our relationship in general? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 10, 2014 - 36 answers

Taking a few days for myself… now what?

After a turbulent period in my marriage, I'm taking a few days out for myself. Thing is, I don't know exactly what to do in those few days, or how best to work on things in my marriage whilst I'm away. [more inside]
posted by yasp on Sep 8, 2014 - 32 answers

How do I conquer my longtime addiction to relationships?

How do I conquer my longtime addiction to relationships, but... also date in Brooklyn? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 15, 2014 - 9 answers

Cant. Seem. To. Move. On.

I'm 30 and female. A year and a half ago I broke up with this guy who I had been with for just as long. I didn't want to break up with him, because I loved him dearly, but I had to because he was treating me so poorly near the end. Ever since we broke up, I've been a semi wreck when it comes to anything romantic. I had an ill-advised rebound with a secret alcoholic followed by a guy who took me for a three month long ride. Meanwhile my ex got back in touch from afar (he lived in another state) this summer and started calling me every night, telling me he loved me and was open to us being together again when I moved to where he lived. But when I actually did move to NY (where he lives) not for him but to start my career in earnest, he abruptly changed his tune. Suddenly he didn't even want to be my friend and couldn't stay in touch. We last spoke a month and a half ago (we've been in very sporadic contact since I moved) and I haven't heard from him since. [more inside]
posted by caseofyou on Mar 30, 2014 - 26 answers

Am I depressed or discontented with life in general?

Lengthy, but I would so appreciate helpful perspectives. For some time there have been certain 'unhappy' factors in my life that I have been able to manage - but almost a week ago something seemed to trigger crisis mode and I have felt very low and almost completely unable to shake the feeling since. [more inside]
posted by Kat_Dubs on Mar 26, 2014 - 16 answers

What can I do about severe sexual incompatibility?

I have a high sex drive, my partner has a low sex drive. This incompatibility is making me depressed to the point that I feel like I can't stay in the relationship, despite everything else between us being really, really great. I don't know what my options are or what I can do to try and work with this. [more inside]
posted by Vrai on Feb 15, 2014 - 33 answers

Is this just summer-fall-winter-spring-summer-fall-winter-spring love?

Struggling with my boyfriend's apparent lack of effort in our relationship, but I'm not sure if it's worth trying to work though, because he won't discuss if he have a future together. [more inside]
posted by hasna on Feb 12, 2014 - 39 answers

How do you untangle the threads of a beat-up heart?

I'm in the early stages of a relationship with a wonderful woman; it's our second go at this. I'm pretty sure this is love. But my anxiety and depression is holding me back, or making me doubt how I feel, or stopping me from actually expressing how I feel. And I don't know how to navigate this. I don't know whether to push through all these uncertainties or walk away. Help me work it out, mefites. [more inside]
posted by six sided sock on Feb 11, 2014 - 18 answers

How do you stop thinking of something that still hurts?

If you've decided to let something go in a relationship, how do you get past it while it still hurts you? [more inside]
posted by Autumn on Feb 8, 2014 - 21 answers

Help me find hope that things will get better

Things just keep getting worse and I don't know what to do. Please see extended explanation. [more inside]
posted by kbbbo on Dec 28, 2013 - 14 answers

Struggling to forgive my SO's emotional cheating

How can I forgive my SO (and myself) for emotionally cheating on each other? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 12, 2013 - 12 answers

How to heal with what I've learned?

I’ve been doing some heavy lifting lately involving my mental illness. For the first time in my life I think I’m finally facing the root cause of my problem, rather than the symptoms of depression, low self-esteem, lack of initiative, etc. More details [more inside]
posted by fredmounts on Sep 9, 2013 - 5 answers

hurting over past relationship now more than when the break up happened

I feel like I'm going backwards with the break up over my past relationship which occured over six months ago. I was fine for months afterwards and, in the past couple of weeks, I've been feeling increasingly guilty over my behaviour toward my depressed ex and it hurts to think about memories together and him in general much more than it used to. Is it normal, could it be because our one year anniversary would have been in a few days? Why is it happening, when I feel like I care more about my current bf than I did him? Am I betraying him? What should I do? [more inside]
posted by opalshards on Sep 3, 2013 - 5 answers

Birth control options for sad ladies

New relationship, long history of depression, looking for birth control advice. [more inside]
posted by terretu on Aug 9, 2013 - 17 answers

dying alone with cats/fear of intimacy

I need to get over my fear of intimacy. I need help recognizing self-sabotaging behavior, when dealing with the opposite sex and otherwise, that is preventing me from having a grown-up healthy heterosexual relationship. [more inside]
posted by DayTripper on Aug 4, 2013 - 18 answers

How do I stop relationship doubts from becoming self-fulfilling?

I'm having doubts about whether I'm in love with my partner and whether I want to stay with him. We've been together 5 1/2 years and lived together for almost 4. Because I've started thinking more about doubts I have, I think I'm becoming more sensitive to things about them that bother me, which makes me doubt even more. They also make me feel guilty and isolated from my partner, which makes things feel even worse.

I'm not asking whether I should stay, but for advice on how to stop doubts from metastasizing and making me feel miserable 24/7, while still working through them. Also, for advice on how to be kind and honest with my partner during this time.

PS I have a therapist I was seeing a year ago, yes Mefi I'm calling her right now... let me know if there's anything in particular I should ask her about - CBT etc? [more inside]
posted by blu_stocking on Jul 16, 2013 - 13 answers

I need to be nice whilst telling the world to sod off

I have occasional depressive, anxiety, self-loathing filled episodes. I know them well enough now to know that I can ride them out. When they happen, I need to shut the world out. I can be on transmit - telling people what's happening but that I'm aware of it and in control - but I can't cope with inputs, and I usually need to sleep a lot. My current girlfriend says she can deal with anything except me "cutting her off". How do I walk this line? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 12, 2013 - 44 answers

It's too late to try communication

I didn't communicate with my SO before hand, and now I'm self destructing. What are my options? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 16, 2013 - 14 answers

I have no idea how to get past the honeymoon period. It's killing me.

I have a history of romantic involvements that usually never get past three or four months (with a single exception that went on for 3.5 years). This didn't used to bother me so much, but it's now starting to make me ridiculously sad. I'm 30. How can I learn to hold someone's interest in me and/or choose better? Sorry for the book below, and thanks for any suggestions. [more inside]
posted by oogenesis on May 2, 2013 - 34 answers

What do I do with these very, very strong feelings?

I just had a weekend (non-adulterous) affair with someone who lives halfway across the country. It went well, incredibly well, so well, and now she has gone back home and I am experiencing a massive onslaught of feelings and I am not sure how to proceed and maintain my sanity. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by My Famous Mistake on Apr 30, 2013 - 13 answers

Help me figure out what to do about my depressed boyfriend please

My once caring, kind, thoughtful bf of six months has fallen into a deep depressive state a month ago and has ceased most contacts with me three weeks ago- the exception being a phone call for my birthday- without outwardly breaking up with me; should I stay, should I go, should I wait and give him space, or wait and try and contact him myself? Do we have a future together according to you? Any thoughts/input is welcome, thank you very much! [more inside]
posted by opalshards on Mar 27, 2013 - 18 answers

Will love tear us apart?

I'm experiencing a very tumultuous time in my relationship with my partner of 4 years. I don't know what part of our relationship problems are due to his ADHD, general depression on both our parts or incompatibility. Where can I go from here? What questions can I ask myself and him to get a clearer idea of the origin of our problem? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 26, 2013 - 4 answers

Taking time off from a relationship

My boyfriend and I have been dating for five months. After a big fight this weekend, we've decided to take a week off from seeing each other. Has this strategy EVER improved a relationship? &How do I best manage anxiety this week? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 3, 2013 - 21 answers

I want to help you with your pain but it makes my pain hurt, too.

I'm four months into a fairly intense relationship, and drama and mental health issues have reared their ugly heads. As someone who has had recent mental health problems of my own, I'm feeling a little shaky about the whole thing; can the hive mind give me another perspective? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 28, 2013 - 13 answers

Why is everyone I’m attracted to depressed?

I’ve realised in recent months that everyone I’ve been in a relationship with had/has a mood disorder - depression, or in a couple of cases, cyclothymia with crushing lows. This seems like more than coincidence. What can I do about it? [more inside]
posted by Someone Else's Story on Feb 18, 2013 - 22 answers

Is it the depression talking, or am I making excuses for my boyfriend?

Help me understand what’s going on in my relationship and to set appropriate boundaries. My boyfriend’s possibly depressed behavior is triggering my feelings of abandonment/insecurity and I want to know how to support him through this without getting taken advantage of. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 4, 2012 - 10 answers

Should I Stay Or Should I Go (Here We Go Again)

Going round and round in circles in a relationship that has me asking 'what's the point?' and thinking 'why bother, he doesn't care'. Add to this my freelance work pattern, cohabitation but sleeping in separate rooms, his eating disorder, my issues with child abuse, his distance geographically from his family... and it's all just a big mess. I don't know what to do. Perhaps you can help me untangle things? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 13, 2012 - 26 answers

Resources on Adult Attachment Therapy?

I may be starting adult attachment therapy in the next week, on the advice of a crisis counselor and after a few years of on-and-off treatment for anxiety and depression that's not getting me very far. Point me to some quality, hopefully easy to find resources that can spell out what the experience might be like. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 18, 2012 - 4 answers

Whether or not to take antidepressants

Is using antidepressants to get over depression triggered by a breakup a good idea? [more inside]
posted by tokaidanshi on Jun 19, 2012 - 20 answers

Nun? Or libertine?

I'm dealing with depression and don't want to date until my brain is a bit more balanced. In the meantime, should I just completely avoid men, or attempt the FWB thing and hope that neither of us develop feelings for the other? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 27, 2012 - 19 answers

Breaking up is hard to do

I'm ending my marriage. How do I do it with kindness? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 9, 2012 - 25 answers

Can't not be friendzoned

(23-year-old straight male) After moving to a new city 2 1/2 years ago and suffering a series of setbacks which I've mostly rebounded from, I've found it impossible to make any progress at all with anyone of the opposite gender. I have my shit together, am well-liked by most despite having always been pretty socially awkward and anxious, and am thought of by my friends as smart, funny and charming, but I just can't get beyond the friendzone. What am I doing wrong? Special snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by denmarkstreet on Mar 3, 2012 - 17 answers

Trying to convince myself that it's not really my problem

How do I stop worrying about my significant other's problems and get on with my own life? [more inside]
posted by seiryuu on Feb 4, 2012 - 17 answers

Why do I keep comparing myself to my long-ago ex, and how can I make it stop?

My depressed brain uses my ex as a stick to beat me with. Please help it stop. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 7, 2012 - 11 answers

How do I break jealous thought patterns?

Ex-girlfriend jealousy, my-own-brain-originating-type. How do I break jealous thought patterns? [more inside]
posted by ArgyleMarionette on Dec 16, 2011 - 17 answers

Too sad to be good convo partner?

Ok, so I've been having this problem lately (and I think it's related to my recent depression) where I meet new people and kind of expect that I'll never develop any friendship with them, but then it actually does happen, and I realize in horror that when they bring up previous conversations we've had, I act completely clueless because I didn't bother to remember it in the first place, and they say something like, "Remember we were talking about how my mom lives literally right next door to you?" (seriously, that happened today) and I remember suddenly, but clearly have already made it obvious that I didn't remember it in the first place... That's been happening a lot lately, and I want to know how to recall what I talked about with people more. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 1, 2011 - 8 answers

How to stop worrying and love myself

Lately I have been binging on self-help books, surfing the internet for articles on family issues -- I just want an answer, to know what went wrong and how to fix it. But everything seems hollow. I feel horribly stuck and I desperately want to move forward and I don't know how. Lots and lots of details inside. [more inside]
posted by bunderful on Nov 27, 2011 - 18 answers

Sometimes I think I'm the crazy one

How to deal with the fallout from an SO that has vented about our relationship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 12, 2011 - 21 answers

Love In A Void

My other half seems utterly paralyzed. How do I talk to him about it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 9, 2011 - 22 answers

I want to support you, not enable you

Am I being too impatient and unsupportive with my depressed boyfriend? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 5, 2011 - 33 answers

Are therapists supposed to tell you how to live your love life?

Is it normal or ethical for a therapist to tell their patient to break up with someone? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 19, 2011 - 22 answers

How does one cultivate genuine gratitude?

How do I cultivate gratitude for my wife, without feeling like I'm sucking up to her or giving-in to her? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 15, 2011 - 22 answers

Can I help my brother?

How do I help/support my self-destructive brother? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 7, 2011 - 11 answers

Help me move forward from an emotionally tramatic year....

How can I restore my mental health/sanity after one stressful hell of a year? Additionally, any suggestions for starting to heal as a surviour of emotional abuse by a parent? [more inside]
posted by snowysoul on May 9, 2011 - 16 answers

How to overcome feeling lost, aimless, confused, and alone?

How to overcome feeling lost, aimless, confused, and alone? Thirty years into my life, I feel like I haven't accomplished anything, and I'm not sure how to go about achieving the things I want from where I am (physically, mentally, and emotionally) right now. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 27, 2011 - 21 answers

How can I help someone I my physical presence probably hurts?

Met a girl who seemed to like me. As an aspie virgin, this is unprecedented: she's sending huge-massive signals. Long story short, it turns out she's fallen really, really hard for me, is probably depressed and tells me she's self-harming. Tried being friends, didn't work. Can I help her? Is that even possible? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 8, 2011 - 17 answers

Is my fiancée mourning the loss of being alone

Is my fiancée mourning the loss of being alone? If so, what can I do? [more inside]
posted by PonderousPursuit on Nov 17, 2010 - 61 answers

Why should I go to therapy?

Why should I go to therapy? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 15, 2010 - 25 answers

Please help me manage my obsessive thoughts

Why do my obsessive thoughts focus so much on my relationship, and what can I do to manage them? After living through years of sexual abuse as a child and teen, followed by a severely unhealthy relationship with an older man soon there after, I've actually found someone with whom I have potential to build something that could be really great. The trouble is that my brain is trying incredibly hard to sabotage this relationship, despite my best efforts to control it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 28, 2010 - 18 answers

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