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Intelligent resources about stages of a long-term relationship

I'd like to learn a little bit more about what couples counselors, therapists, and psychologists have written about the stages that long-term relationships go through, what the issues and concerns are in the different stages, and what approaches are helpful in keeping the relationship strong at different stages. The articles I've been able to find on the web are pretty shallow, and seem to assume that the purpose of marriage is to have kids. I'd like to find something that is more appropriate to a couple who got married at 40+ so have already attained (presumably) a certain degree of wisdom, and for whom kids are not in the picture or in the cards. Authors that I have found helpful and intelligent in the past have been Gottman, Sue Johnson (Hold Me Tight), and the author of perennial AskMe favorite The Five Love Languages. I'm specifically interested in the 5-10 year stage, but welcome broader surveys as well.
posted by matildaben on Jan 29, 2014 - 5 answers

 

Relationship!: The Game (Probably WON'T Supplant Hungry Hungry Hippos)

What activities/questions/elements would YOU include in a [card and/or board] game meant to serve as part of the "maintenance work" of a romantic relationship? [more inside]
posted by julthumbscrew on Jul 12, 2013 - 11 answers

How Does a New Couple Start Having Regular Money Talks?

My main squeeze is moving in! Our finances are starting to be a little more comingled and I'm looking for the best, healthiest way to start having a regular "money check-in" as part of our new life together. He is on board with this. How do we structure the conversation? Is there a sample agenda? Do we make it a date night? Help, please. [more inside]
posted by amoeba on Mar 26, 2013 - 12 answers

I AM NOT YOUR OWL

I am tired of being the owl for my friends and family. How do I get them to talk to *each other* instead of *me*? [more inside]
posted by divabat on Dec 25, 2012 - 11 answers

Sharing vs. Privacy: Showdown

How much should you expect to share in a relationship? [more inside]
posted by fishingforthewhale on Oct 16, 2012 - 51 answers

Does history repeat itself if the players change?

Moving in with my SO - but worried that I'll end up in the unhappy situation my parents were in. What do you do when you didn't grow up with a positive example of marriage/co-habitation? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 5, 2012 - 13 answers

Me : Extrovert. She : Introvert. Can this relationship survive? Should it?

Me : Extrovert. She : Introvert. Can this relationship survive? Should it? [more inside]
posted by Sloop John B on Mar 28, 2012 - 67 answers

How do I keep therapy from killing us so it can make us stronger?

How can I keep couples therapy from ruining my relationship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 27, 2012 - 24 answers

Can you recommend a good and affordable relationship counselor in the Boston area?

Can you recommend a good and affordable relationship counselor in the Boston area? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 15, 2011 - 4 answers

Chinese and Indian Interracial dating

Is it really that big a deal for a Chinese and an Indian to be dating/potentially getting married? [more inside]
posted by picarosado on Jul 10, 2011 - 26 answers

To what degree should I hang out with my partner's friends? What about "couple" friends?

In the past, my partner and I have had a casual approach to shared socializing - we have a lot in common intellectually and emotionally, but our work and our hobbies are pretty different. Also, I hate parties and my partner loves them. So we spend time together as a couple a lot, but we see our friends separately and don't usually go to big social events together--although we do go to weddings, holidays, etc as a couple. This has gone on (happily, as far as I knew) for years. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 21, 2011 - 42 answers

Couples bonding... or (?)

I'm looking for books and articles about (for back of a better term) "couples bonding" - the way in which couples befriend other couples and reinforce one another's relationships through social interaction and emotional bonding. Is there a real term for this? Are there any folks who have written about this that aren't too pop-psych?
posted by mykescipark on May 28, 2009 - 4 answers

Child without bedtime interrupting adult evenings

How can we get our friends to put their 4 year old to bed so we can have grown up evenings together? [more inside]
posted by lilyflower on Jan 18, 2009 - 45 answers

Incommunicado

Couples counseling without the counselor: My SO and I have some conflicts that keep reoccurring. We really need some counseling, but we're in a long-distance relationship and we only see each other on the weekends, so meeting face to face with a counselor would be very difficult right now. Do you have any suggestions for REALLY GOOD books or websites to help people navigate through relationship issues and settle conflicts? [more inside]
posted by chara on Nov 2, 2008 - 15 answers

Do Mulder and Scully count?

I'm looking for movies and television shows that featured memorable, star-crossed heterosexual couples. The man and woman must either: a) never get together, or b) get together only to have everything go horribly. No long-term relationships or on-and-off again romances, please. Bonus points for obscurity, but well-known examples are also appreciated. Examples: - Red (K. Kieslowski) - Titanic Thanks for your help! :-)
posted by coizero on Aug 1, 2008 - 64 answers

What's normal in a relationship?

Are you in a long-term relationships? If so, how satisfied are you, how much of the time? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 13, 2007 - 43 answers

Approaching Another Couple

My girlfriend and I are friends with another couple whom we'd like to become, er, more intimate with. Unfortunately, they, like us, are very reserved, and don't tend to talk about sex, so we have no idea how to begin to broach the subject. The friendship is very important to us, and we don't want to ruin it. What should we do?
posted by anonymous on Jan 26, 2005 - 38 answers

Sharing Holidays

I'm recently engaged and my fiancée and I are stuck between families. Ideally we could see both sets of family for Christmas but geography rules it out.

How do you handle sharing the holidays with a minimum of stress or hurt feelings? Rotating, where you go to one house on one year and the other house the next year? Split each holiday into halves and see both each year? Any ideas?
posted by jmevius on Dec 10, 2003 - 19 answers

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