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How can you recognize a secure person if you’re insecure?

Am I ruining a great relationship with my anxiety or am I anxious because my relationship is not great? Is there a way to tell the difference between irrational anxiety and alarm bells? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 20, 2014 - 9 answers

In a relationship, in love with a friend, need to make some decisions

I’m in a stable and loving relationship that is approaching the deadline for commitment. I’ve had strong feelings for someone else for a long time, which I’ve managed to control, but have recently resurfaced with a vengeance, and are making me seriously question whether to commit. Help! [more inside]
posted by ashkenazy on May 27, 2014 - 33 answers

Is this just summer-fall-winter-spring-summer-fall-winter-spring love?

Struggling with my boyfriend's apparent lack of effort in our relationship, but I'm not sure if it's worth trying to work though, because he won't discuss if he have a future together. [more inside]
posted by hasna on Feb 12, 2014 - 39 answers

Just not into him or fears from the past? 35f ponders marriage, again.

TL/DR: My BF (30) and I have been together a year and 1/2. Moved too fast for me, and him too in retrospect. Never got on my own feet after bad divorce and that feeling has endured the length of my current relationship. Close friend and 1000000 people on Meta suggest breaking up. But...I panic at that, too. [more inside]
posted by dollyllama on Jan 9, 2014 - 25 answers

Stick it out or move on from this unequal relationship?

I'm in a relationship with wonderful woman (4 months) who I am falling for but should I break it off now because it's unequal? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 12, 2013 - 16 answers

Relationships as a choice - despite dependence?

"I love you, and I choose to be here. ...Of course, if this doesn’t work out, I get deported." I could use your perspectives on choosing to be in a relationship despite sometimes feeling trapped in it? [more inside]
posted by Someone Else's Story on Nov 23, 2012 - 13 answers

How to stay when it hurts like I'm already gone

How do you stay in a relationship when you know there's a very good chance it might end soon? [Siberian winter's worth of snowflakes inside.] [more inside]
posted by Sockmaster on Sep 17, 2012 - 42 answers

What is the best choice for this relationship?

Should I tell the person I've dated that his time is up? [more inside]
posted by kellybird on Sep 9, 2012 - 30 answers

How can I give romantic relationships a different place in my life?

How can I give romantic relationships a different place in my life? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 10, 2012 - 24 answers

How do I love better?

I really don't want to end up alone. What can I start doing to break this generational cycle? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 26, 2012 - 12 answers

Are we wrong for each other or too scared to try?

My partner and I feel comfortable and safe in our relationship, and we feel love for one another. But we are sexually unfulfilled, and to a smaller extent emotionally and/or intellectually troubled. How do we know whether to break up or to work at it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 28, 2012 - 20 answers

What am I doing wrong in my relationships?

Why do my relationships enter the LET'S MAKE THIS A SERIOUS COMMITMENT I WANT TO SPEND MY LIFE WITH YOU stage at an absurdly rapid pace? I used to think this was a kind of charming quirk, but my apparent inability to slow things down in order to determine the suitability of my partner has begun to concern me a bit. Special snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 7, 2011 - 31 answers

How not to people-please your way to relationship angst

How do those who tend to people-please stay honest with their feelings and needs in romantic relationships? I want to avoid becoming overwhelmed and disoriented after about half a year or so, which seems to happen again and again. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 27, 2011 - 14 answers

As we have a short life.. we have limited resources

Getting over the fear of committing time and money into a relationship if we aren't promised it will stand the test of time? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 24, 2011 - 10 answers

How soon is too soon to start feeling restless in relationship?

Should I be concerned that my SO is already scared of feeling "trapped" because of our long-term/forever potential after 2-3ish months of dating (and 7 of close friendship)? He mentioned noticing other women more than normal and equates it to feeling scared of eternal monogamy. Is this a giant red flag? Or am I picking a fight with someone willing to be honest with me about his feelings? Or both? More details inside. (anon because he and mutual friends are aware of MeFi handle) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 25, 2011 - 25 answers

Abandon ship, once and for all, or fight for what I have?

Seven months ago I cheated on my partner. Six months ago I came clean to him. Three months ago we broke up. This past week we have begun to spend some time together, and I feel like we both reached a breakthrough last night. Am I crazy to have this renewed faith in/willingness to work for our love? Do I need to finally let it go? Much more inside. [more inside]
posted by fignewton on Apr 21, 2011 - 23 answers

How the heck do I handle relationships, and the possible end of a promising one, in my mid-20s?

Dear MeFi, How the heck do I handle relationships, and the possible end of a promising one, in my mid-20s? [more inside]
posted by mostly vowels on Jan 2, 2011 - 7 answers

Does this have any hope of not ending in tragedy?

Star cross'd lovers facing another hurdle - can I convince him it's worth it to keep trying? [more inside]
posted by lizbunny on Dec 2, 2010 - 41 answers

Funny stories: some things about your long-term s.o. that once upon a time gave you anxiety attacks?

He's a silly nerd. I love him for it, but the more I find myself getting seriously attached to those things that he does, the more I find myself worrying that one day I won't be able to appreciate it as much as I do now... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 30, 2010 - 14 answers

Help me attract available men please!

Please help me attract available men! [more inside]
posted by fan_of_all_things_small on Jun 26, 2010 - 13 answers

Failedpolyamoryfilter

Failedpolyamoryfilter: Help! I care for two people and I have to choose between them. What does one base a decision like this on? How do I tackle this situation? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 4, 2010 - 26 answers

Was it too soon to ask about his feeling?

Relationship-break-up-post-mortem filter: Did I objectively screw this up or was it just a unique to the person I was with. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 8, 2010 - 30 answers

Should marriage even be a hard question?

Should marriage even be a hard question? Are there people for whom it was who end up very happy together? [more inside]
posted by namespan on May 8, 2009 - 32 answers

How do i tell her not to see him anymore?

How do i tell her not to see him anymore? explanation inside. [more inside]
posted by oviedo on Mar 21, 2009 - 32 answers

How do I learn to trust myself/my partner?

Relationship over-analyzers: how did you get over the need to worry about your relationship so much? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 11, 2009 - 10 answers

So, he mentioned that he wants kids...

What does it all mean?! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 10, 2009 - 13 answers

Ring Around Your Finger/Rope Around Your Neck, short term/long term

When you consider marriage, do you have a time frame? Not for the ceremony, mind you, duration of the bond itself. [more inside]
posted by emhutchinson on Jan 10, 2009 - 62 answers

How to address recurring doubts about a long-term relationship

In serious, long-term relationships, how have you dealt with nagging doubts? How have you sorted through those doubts and then either set them aside and committed yourself, or decided to end things? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 12, 2008 - 18 answers

What are the limits of couples on a break?

Should I give up getting back together with her? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 21, 2008 - 34 answers

How do I get over my fear of commitment/grass is greener syndrome?

How can I get over my fear of commitment? And what are some ways of dealing with the fear that I am somehow "settling" in this relationship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 8, 2007 - 34 answers

How can I diffuse my predilection for long-term relationships in order to make the most of things short-term?

Is it possible to recalibrate my thinking/expectations to accept the circumstances of casual dating? [more inside]
posted by dorothy humbird on Feb 28, 2007 - 18 answers

Cold feet--just a phase?

Can I talk my boyfriend out of cold feet? Should I even try? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 6, 2006 - 24 answers

Should I stay or should I go now?

I'm about to end what is a very good relationship overall... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 11, 2005 - 37 answers

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