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Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny, UFOs, human pair bonding?

Is talking early on in a relationship about "not believing in monogamy" a huge red flag? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 5, 2014 - 60 answers

 

Is there hope after cheating?

I severely fumbled with my boyfriend's heart. I don't know what to do. [more inside]
posted by Cybria on Dec 24, 2013 - 30 answers

How do I deal with my spouse having an external romantic relationship?

I found out my partner of 20 years/spouse of 11 was having an emotional/romantic affair with our best friend and lied to me about it. Now that we've gone through the initial reveal, I've told her I've forgiven her; she's hinting she's been thinking about romantic relationships outside of our marriage. tl;dr- Are we done here or can this be saved? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 22, 2013 - 49 answers

What to do about suspicion for a cheating fiancé?

Engaged to be married quite soon. Lots of money already out of pocket, personally and across many other people. Recently confronted with evidence of what, at a minimum, seems to be an inappropriate emotional relationship between SO and another person. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 26, 2013 - 37 answers

Whoops

I drunkenly fooled around with a married friend and now feel terrible about it. What, if anything, do I do next? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 2, 2013 - 28 answers

Partner lied about previous sexual partners & his faithfulness

A lie of omission, to be more accurate. When I met my (now) husband he understood that I hadn’t had sex and didn’t plan on it before marriage, and that I was looking for someone with similar beliefs about sex. Because he knew this, he was honest and told me that he had been in a long-term relationship with someone before for 7 years - I was fine with this. But I recently discovered that he had sex with 3 different women right as he was getting to know me, (one of whom I've since met at one of his work parties, and cringe to think I was the only one in the group who didn't know about this), and he didn't feel it was important to tell me about it when he proposed to me. [more inside]
posted by Zee101 on Aug 21, 2013 - 43 answers

Is this reasonable or am I being strung along?

A month ago I made a mistake and slept with a good friend who is in a relationship. He wants to end it with her and be with me, but says he has certain obligations/plans with her that means he can't for probably another month. How reasonable is this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 29, 2013 - 56 answers

My boyfriend spent the day with his female friend, how should I feel?

My boyfriend of 5 months has a great old female friend who he never had any romantic relationship with. We hang out a lot together with her and she is great, but they also spend some time together alone as well (such as occasional dinners and drinks when I am working or in school). My BF rides a motorcycle and loves going out of town during the weekends for the day, I usually sits behind him on the bike. Today I was working and he took his female friend out of town on his bike for the whole day. They went hiking, lunch, swim in an isolated lake, and visited a nice town on a lake. I know they don’t have any romantic thing going on, but this whole thing bothered me a lot. How should I feel about it? I feel like no other girl would be happy about that, nor he would be happy if I did the same thing with a guy friend. I feel so frustrated by this.
posted by TKL0125 on Jun 30, 2013 - 55 answers

Could you tell me how to succeed in being unfaithful?

Please tell me stories about cheating or being cheated on. Or, pretend to be a sociopath for a few minutes, and give advice on how to successfully cheat and get away with it. [more inside]
posted by Bathtub Bobsled on Apr 7, 2013 - 55 answers

How to quiet the "think about other women" impulse and become faithful in thought as well as action?

How to quiet the "think about other women" impulse and become faithful in thought as well as action? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 11, 2012 - 52 answers

Need advice on second-chance relationship that is failing miserably.

I gave a guy a second chance, but found out later that he had been extremely shady with me the first time around (details inside). I don't know how to get over it. Should I leave the past in the past and focus on us growing together or should I chalk it up to bad judgement/being too trusting on my part and leave the relationship? The explanation is pretty long. Thanks for taking the time to read. I need advice. [more inside]
posted by spooky car on Sep 26, 2012 - 35 answers

I didn't cheat. SO thinks I did. What happens now?

A few days ago, I came back from a week of vacation. Despite my calm and honest reassurance, my SO is wondering and worrying that I cheated.We've already talked, but she's still very anxious about it. This is the first time I've ever dealt with this kind of situation. MeFi, what else should I/we be doing or talking about? Did I do something wrong, and if so, what should I do differently in the future? I feel terrible, even though I didn't do anything to cheat at all. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 13, 2012 - 45 answers

Don't want drama but don't want other girls being lied to

I recently broke up with my boyfriend of three and a half years. In the time we were still living together but broken up I found out he was starting several relationships. Should I let these women know? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 27, 2012 - 88 answers

Love isn't just a four letter word

A male married friend recently told me he loved me. A few weeks later he told me again [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 13, 2012 - 21 answers

What is wrong with us?

Help me understand what goes through a persons mind when they decide it is okay to lie or lie by omission. What is wrong with us? [more inside]
posted by i_wear_boots on May 27, 2012 - 30 answers

Is is selfish to break up with him or selfish to stay with him?

We were in a wonderful relationship for 1.5 years. He went abroad. Sick with loneliness and old emotional problems (BPD) that came back when he was gone, I cheated on him. Then I moved abroad with him, where he found out. He forgave me and wants us to stay together, I'm not sure what the fairest thing to do is. [more inside]
posted by mangoprawn on Apr 26, 2012 - 33 answers

An odd unsettled feeling

What are appropriate boundaries with an ex-girlfriend? [more inside]
posted by sockratties on Feb 3, 2012 - 73 answers

Should I tell him I know he is a liar, or is that too drama queen of me?

In July, I entered my only FWB relationship. I started catching feelings, and he decided he couldn't reciprocate. He came back into my life on New Year's Eve wanting more. HOWEVER, I have found out some things that have inspired my current run for the hills (irrelevant as it may be, the nitty-gritty is inside). How do I tell him that I know the truth? Or, should I just go cold turkey on communication? [more inside]
posted by acertainseason on Jan 4, 2012 - 26 answers

My girlfriend lies about hanging out with her ex

Is it okay for my girlfriend to hang out with her needy ex? Why she would hide their meetings if there's nothing to hide? Am I rational or am I the product of being cheated on several times in the past? [more inside]
posted by dreamsofhorses on Dec 21, 2011 - 42 answers

Relationship ripped apart by Facebook messages

I just read messages between my boyfriend and a former(?) flame, after we started dating.. emotional messages about sex, and meeting up. I am devastated. Help... [more inside]
posted by ninefour on Dec 10, 2011 - 31 answers

My boyfriend found out that I cheated on him. Help me deal with the aftermath.

My boyfriend found out that I cheated on him. What should I do now? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 26, 2011 - 28 answers

How do I accept my divorce for what it is?

Now my divorce is really happening, how do I learn to accept this is the way its going to be now? [more inside]
posted by Under the Sea on Sep 26, 2011 - 12 answers

Cheated on and dumped... would you call it a day?

Cheated on and dumped... would you call it a day? [more inside]
posted by hopecottage on Aug 30, 2011 - 39 answers

Marriage 101

How do you take care of your marriage, if at all? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 2, 2011 - 15 answers

Messy involvement with someone sort of in another relationship.

I got involved with a friend who was in a relationship. He is confusing me and I am backing off. What now? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 2, 2011 - 38 answers

How to get through/past the first few weeks

How do you stop yourself from caring whether someone you've just started seeing is sleeping with/will sleep with other people? [more inside]
posted by Chrysalis on Mar 25, 2011 - 31 answers

Is my mother in danger with her relationship?

Is my mother's boyfriend potentially dangerous and is there anything I can do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 10, 2010 - 14 answers

What a mess!

I recently slept with an old flame. We've decided that we'd like to start dating, but this causes problems with the relationship I'm currently in and the friend who's obsessed with the old flame. Soap opera details inside... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 1, 2010 - 29 answers

Help me recover from on-again, off-again, and then just one huge big BOOM!

Six months. Dozens of emails a week. But it turns out … he’s married, with kids. The thing is, I’ve known him more than 20 years. Help me frame this. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 29, 2010 - 61 answers

Should I give him another chance?

Just found out my boyfriend has been cheating on me, multiple times. I decided to give him another chance. What is wrong with me??? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 10, 2010 - 55 answers

Is he my boyfriend or a creepy sex addict?

Should I trust him? Can people really change? [more inside]
posted by osloheart on Jul 19, 2010 - 71 answers

Is it ethical to encourage someone to cheat?

Is it ethically sound to encourage a friend to cheat on her abusive partner as an excuse to leave the relationship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 17, 2010 - 44 answers

My sister's boyfriend was holding hands with someone else, what now?

Ran into my sister's boyfriend holding hands with another woman. She's trying to figure out what to do now. Advice on setting new limits and ground rules? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 19, 2010 - 60 answers

Rape or cheating?

My girlfriend confided in my yesterday that she cheated on me with an exboyfriend almost exactly a year ago and kept it secret from me. This explains a lot of her overemotional behaviour and the tumult in our relationship over the past while, I think. But when she elaborated on the circumstances what happened sounded more like rape than anything. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 3, 2010 - 38 answers

Anxiety? or my gut instinct?

Trust my instincts? or just relationship anxiety? [more inside]
posted by mrspeacock on Apr 18, 2010 - 14 answers

Friend's cheating...what to do?

How can I support my friend when I (and she) know what she's doing is wrong? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 10, 2010 - 32 answers

Should I tell the Other Man's Wife?

I recently discovered that my partner of 9 years has been having an emotionally and sexually intimate affair with a man for the last 2+ years. The man is married with two teenage children. Though devastated, I'm glad I now know the truth, and I feel very betrayed by two of our close friends who knew of my partner's infidelity and didn't tell me. Given that, should I tell this guy's wife? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 27, 2010 - 75 answers

Why am I suddenly having these dreams?

Why have I suddenly started to dream about other women? [more inside]
posted by kleenkat on Oct 21, 2009 - 23 answers

Profiling cheaters?

Has a study ever attempted to identify characteristics or behaviors that go along with cheating in relationships? [more inside]
posted by Ashley801 on Sep 5, 2009 - 5 answers

What to do after you open Pandora's box?

My husband is cheating on me and has been for at least two years. He doesn't know I found out. Now what? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 3, 2009 - 67 answers

How do I process – I never tried to hurt you but I’m sorry if it happened, it wasn’t my intent, it was yours, get out of my life forever?

My question is about intent? If you hurt someone with what you perceive to be their and your best interests in mind, while simultaneously knowing that what you are doing will hurt that person, is it any different than actively trying to hurt the person. Does duration and occurrence play a role? If I don’t mean to hurt you, but know I am and will for 4 years is it less bad than a single act of active hurtfulness? Is it possible to want to hurt someone you love in an extreme moment but still love and care for that person? Is it possible to call that love? [more inside]
posted by sav on Aug 2, 2009 - 27 answers

Is cheating in relationships in your twenties and thirties inevitable?

Is infidelity in relationships in your twenties and thirties inevitable? I recently was cheated on by my ex-boyfriend days after we started living together and many of my friends who are in their late-30s are not surprised. [more inside]
posted by countingbackwards on Aug 2, 2009 - 33 answers

What did he do that made you cheat?

If you've felt the temptation to cheat, or have cheated, on a guy: what sorts of things was he neglecting to do around that time? Or what things was he doing? [more inside]
posted by surenoproblem on Jul 13, 2009 - 32 answers

Two Sides To the Story Left Me Feeling Anxious

Would my ex really lie about something like this? [more inside]
posted by InterestedInKnowing on May 10, 2009 - 29 answers

Any tips for making a relationship out of an affair?

Any tips for making a relationship out of an affair? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 9, 2009 - 14 answers

Should I not be a serial monogamist with the one waiting in the wings?

Lesbian monogamy filter: I am really just a hopeless romantic no matter how hard I try not to be? Should I not move right on to the one waiting in the wings? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 25, 2009 - 16 answers

After the girl cheated, is it fair to ask her NOT to spend a week at a retreat with him, and others?

After the girl cheated, is it fair to ask her NOT to spend a week at a retreat with him, and others? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 31, 2009 - 37 answers

Did my girlfriend cheat on me, or am I thinking too much?

I discovered my girlfriend recently went to the apartment of an ex lover to "hang out". Did she cheat on me? [more inside]
posted by aussie_in_NY on Feb 2, 2009 - 48 answers

Oh boy. What have I done now.

[Relationshipfilter] Has "cheating" ever been a crucible for your relationship? [more inside]
posted by dentata on Jan 19, 2009 - 50 answers

Is he a cheater?

Is there any way he's not cheating on me? [more inside]
posted by GIRLesq on Sep 18, 2008 - 161 answers

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