Please tell me stories about cheating or being cheated on. Or, pretend to be a sociopath for a few minutes, and give advice on how to successfully cheat and get away with it.
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posted by Bathtub Bobsled
on Apr 7, 2013 -
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How to quiet the "think about other women" impulse and become faithful in thought as well as action?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 11, 2012 -
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I gave a guy a second chance, but found out later that he had been extremely shady with me the first time around (details inside). I don't know how to get over it. Should I leave the past in the past and focus on us growing together or should I chalk it up to bad judgement/being too trusting on my part and leave the relationship? The explanation is pretty long. Thanks for taking the time to read. I need advice.
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posted by spooky car
on Sep 26, 2012 -
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A few days ago, I came back from a week of vacation. Despite my calm and honest reassurance, my SO is wondering and worrying that I cheated.We've already talked, but she's still very anxious about it. This is the first time I've ever dealt with this kind of situation. MeFi, what else should I/we be doing or talking about? Did I do something wrong, and if so, what should I do differently in the future? I feel terrible, even though I didn't do anything to cheat at all.
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 13, 2012 -
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I recently broke up with my boyfriend of three and a half years. In the time we were still living together but broken up I found out he was starting several relationships. Should I let these women know?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 27, 2012 -
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Help me understand what goes through a persons mind when they decide it is okay to lie or lie by omission. What is wrong with us?
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posted by i_wear_boots
on May 27, 2012 -
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We were in a wonderful relationship for 1.5 years. He went abroad. Sick with loneliness and old emotional problems (BPD) that came back when he was gone, I cheated on him.
Then I moved abroad with him, where he found out. He forgave me and wants us to stay together, I'm not sure what the fairest thing to do is.
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posted by mangoprawn
on Apr 26, 2012 -
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In July, I entered my only FWB relationship. I started catching feelings, and he decided he couldn't reciprocate. He came back into my life on New Year's Eve wanting more. HOWEVER, I have found out some things that have inspired my current run for the hills (irrelevant as it may be, the nitty-gritty is inside). How do I tell him that I know the truth? Or, should I just go cold turkey on communication?
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posted by acertainseason
on Jan 4, 2012 -
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Is it okay for my girlfriend to hang out with her needy ex?
Why she would hide their meetings if there's nothing to hide?
Am I rational or am I the product of being cheated on several times in the past?
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posted by dreamsofhorses
on Dec 21, 2011 -
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I just read messages between my boyfriend and a former(?) flame, after we started dating.. emotional messages about sex, and meeting up. I am devastated. Help...
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posted by ninefour
on Dec 10, 2011 -
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I got involved with a friend who was in a relationship. He is confusing me and I am backing off. What now?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 2, 2011 -
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How do you stop yourself from caring whether someone you've just started seeing is sleeping with/will sleep with other people?
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posted by Chrysalis
on Mar 25, 2011 -
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I recently slept with an old flame. We've decided that we'd like to start dating, but this causes problems with the relationship I'm currently in and the friend who's obsessed with the old flame. Soap opera details inside...
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 1, 2010 -
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Six months. Dozens of emails a week. But it turns out … he’s married, with kids. The thing is, I’ve known him more than 20 years. Help me frame this.
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 29, 2010 -
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Just found out my boyfriend has been cheating on me, multiple times. I decided to give him another chance. What is wrong with me???
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 10, 2010 -
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Is it ethically sound to encourage a friend to cheat on her abusive partner as an excuse to leave the relationship?
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 17, 2010 -
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Ran into my sister's boyfriend holding hands with another woman. She's trying to figure out what to do now. Advice on setting new limits and ground rules?
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posted by anonymous
on May 19, 2010 -
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My girlfriend confided in my yesterday that she cheated on me with an exboyfriend almost exactly a year ago and kept it secret from me. This explains a lot of her overemotional behaviour and the tumult in our relationship over the past while, I think. But when she elaborated on the circumstances what happened sounded more like rape than anything.
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posted by anonymous
on May 3, 2010 -
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I recently discovered that my partner of 9 years has been having an emotionally and sexually intimate affair with a man for the last 2+ years. The man is married with two teenage children.
Though devastated, I'm glad I now know the truth, and I feel very betrayed by two of our close friends who knew of my partner's infidelity and didn't tell me. Given that, should I tell this guy's wife?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 27, 2010 -
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Has a study ever attempted to identify characteristics or behaviors that go along with cheating in relationships?
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posted by Ashley801
on Sep 5, 2009 -
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My husband is cheating on me and has been for at least two years. He doesn't know I found out. Now what?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 3, 2009 -
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My question is about intent? If you hurt someone with what you perceive to be their and your best interests in mind, while simultaneously knowing that what you are doing will hurt that person, is it any different than actively trying to hurt the person. Does duration and occurrence play a role? If I don’t mean to hurt you, but know I am and will for 4 years is it less bad than a single act of active hurtfulness? Is it possible to want to hurt someone you love in an extreme moment but still love and care for that person? Is it possible to call that love?
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posted by sav
on Aug 2, 2009 -
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Is infidelity in relationships in your twenties and thirties inevitable? I recently was cheated on by my ex-boyfriend days after we started living together and many of my friends who are in their late-30s are not surprised.
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posted by countingbackwards
on Aug 2, 2009 -
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If you've felt the temptation to cheat, or have cheated, on a guy: what sorts of things was he neglecting to do around that time? Or what things
was he doing?
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posted by surenoproblem
on Jul 13, 2009 -
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Lesbian monogamy filter: I am really just a hopeless romantic no matter how hard I try not to be? Should I not move right on to the one waiting in the wings?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 25, 2009 -
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After the girl cheated, is it fair to ask her NOT to spend a week at a retreat with him, and others?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 31, 2009 -
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I discovered my girlfriend recently went to the apartment of an ex lover to "hang out". Did she cheat on me?
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posted by aussie_in_NY
on Feb 2, 2009 -
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[Relationshipfilter] Has "cheating" ever been a crucible for your relationship?
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posted by dentata
on Jan 19, 2009 -
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What to do when you find out that one of your friends cheated on his girlfriend (who is also a friend?)
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 21, 2008 -
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I have been in a one and a half year relationship with a man who has cheated on me, lied to me, stole from me and abused me. I KNOW he is no good and while I have tried to leave many times, I always find myself back with him (after sweet-talking and the like).
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 12, 2008 -
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I'm scheduled to have a medical (pill) abortion in a situation involving my optimistic, scientifically brilliant, clueless ex-boyfriend. For some irrational reason, he's the only person I want with me while I go through with it.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 7, 2008 -
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Help me sort out my feelings about the relationship I’m in because I just can’t seem to figure it out. (long and complicated - sorry!)
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 25, 2007 -
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I have a hunch the new boyfriend is going to drop the "I love you" bomb this weekend. I'm psyched. Trouble is: I don't know if I believe him, and therefore don't know how to best respond.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 7, 2007 -
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Is my fiancée cheating on me, or is this simply a case of a wrong number at the wrong time?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 29, 2007 -
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