My once caring, kind, thoughtful bf of six months has fallen into a deep depressive state a month ago and has ceased most contacts with me three weeks ago- the exception being a phone call for my birthday- without outwardly breaking up with me; should I stay, should I go, should I wait and give him space, or wait and try and contact him myself? Do we have a future together according to you? Any thoughts/input is welcome, thank you very much!
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posted by opalshards
on Mar 27, 2013 -
18 answers
Going round and round in circles in a relationship that has me asking 'what's the point?' and thinking 'why bother, he doesn't care'. Add to this my freelance work pattern, cohabitation but sleeping in separate rooms, his eating disorder, my issues with child abuse, his distance geographically from his family... and it's all just a big mess. I don't know what to do. Perhaps you can help me untangle things?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 13, 2012 -
26 answers
What do you wish you had known before you embarked on an intercultural relationship/marriage?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 4, 2012 -
37 answers
A few days ago, I came back from a week of vacation. Despite my calm and honest reassurance, my SO is wondering and worrying that I cheated.We've already talked, but she's still very anxious about it. This is the first time I've ever dealt with this kind of situation. MeFi, what else should I/we be doing or talking about? Did I do something wrong, and if so, what should I do differently in the future? I feel terrible, even though I didn't do anything to cheat at all.
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 13, 2012 -
45 answers
It's getting more and more difficult to evade being honest, but I don't want to hurt him! The truth? My boyfriend of three years (and man I absolutely love) is a terrible...
terrible singer.
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posted by thatbrunette
on Apr 26, 2012 -
75 answers
how to get over a breakup when you don't want the person back, but feel no closure? (note:very long)
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posted by teaforone
on Feb 24, 2012 -
22 answers
How can I have a more sexual relationship with my boyfriend, and stop freaking out all the time? Or, how can I accept that this is the relationship we have and it's not going to change? Warning: this is going to be both long and stupid.
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posted by krakenattack
on Nov 14, 2011 -
47 answers
I'm not normally jealous, but one of my bf's female friends is making me feel a twinge of jealousy and I don't know if I should say something to him or not.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 12, 2011 -
31 answers
Did you ever meet two potential Significant Others with whom you felt an equal level of physical attraction, shared interests & common values over the course of several dates? How did you end up deciding which one was the Right One? How many dates did it take? What questions did you ask yourself? Did your thought process center mostly on emotions or practical concerns, and how did either approach (or both) help you choose your partner?
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posted by invisible ink
on Feb 20, 2011 -
44 answers
How do I stop feeling guilty about the break-up? Sorry, for asking so many questions as of late...this was my first relationship.
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posted by nikayla_luv
on Jan 14, 2011 -
20 answers
I was looking through the pictures on my BF's iPhone this morning, and I found a few pictures of his ex girlfriend that he had saved recently. He claims that he has no feelings for her. Should I be worried?
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posted by maggymay
on Dec 15, 2010 -
56 answers
Is it normal to never fight with your boyfriend/girlfriend? Should I get mad at him for certain things?
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posted by sunnychef88
on Nov 20, 2010 -
38 answers
Dear Metafites who have been diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome,
If you are in a romantic relationship (or hope to be in a relationship in the future), what would you like your girlfriend/boyfriend to know about AS? Are there any books on AS that you would want your girlfriend/boyfriend to read?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 25, 2010 -
6 answers
My partner of almost two years and I are "taking a break." Is it possible that this could be a period of growth and not just the death rattle of our (up until recently) happy relationship? Have you ever taken a break successfully?
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posted by anonymous
on May 25, 2010 -
29 answers
RelationshipFilter: After about a year of dating weirdos and loons, I met someone really neat. The problem: He's unemployed. Has been for a while. We've been dating for several months, and it's getting to the point at which I'm realizing that I really dig him. He seems to be pretty irresponsible, which makes me anxious. Is this relationship doomed?
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posted by kittenplease
on May 7, 2010 -
33 answers
[relationship filter] How do I tell the person I'm seeing they drink and sleep too much without sounding demanding or preachy?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 11, 2010 -
16 answers
What road to take during a devastating breakup? Be the supportive, hopeful, girl that will stay until the storm calms down OR move on with my life and leave the love of my life?
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posted by penguingrl
on Feb 10, 2010 -
27 answers
My S.O.'s life is falling apart and has decided to break up with me, however, S.O. has requested that nothing change. (LOOONG, so sorry)
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posted by penguingrl
on Feb 2, 2010 -
73 answers
Theoretical relationship filter: Would my boyfriend be a jealous freak if he told me he doesn't like or want me getting theraputic massages from my cousin's husband who's a licensed masseuse?
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posted by InterestedInKnowing
on Jan 28, 2010 -
36 answers
I like this girl and all signs say she digs me, but the situation's funky...read on and help me! Help me figure out this conundrum.
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posted by Born to Hula
on Jun 16, 2009 -
49 answers
how to deal with canceled plans and disappointment in long-term relationships?
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posted by sucre
on May 25, 2009 -
17 answers
Started dating a guy I've known for years a couple months ago. Around the time we first met we slept together, but he shortly thereafter got back together with his long-time girlfriend. Fast-forward a couple years, they've broken up for good, and he says he still has feelings for me and wants to give things a real shot.
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posted by libertypie
on Jan 16, 2009 -
26 answers
Am I wrong to think I should be present for the selection (and raising) of the dog I will eventually have to live with? To be fair, it's a little more complicated than it sounds...
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 8, 2008 -
51 answers
How do I deal with a racist boyfriend? How did you help someone overcome their racism, or did someone help you overcome yours?
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posted by lblair
on Dec 2, 2008 -
55 answers
My other half really wants me to get the modern
shag hair style like Brad Pitt's. I have long hair at the moment and I'm not too keen on the change... I think it's too feminine (pink is not the new black) and outdated. Am i being too stubborn?
posted by jakubsnm
on Sep 28, 2008 -
28 answers
I have been in a one and a half year relationship with a man who has cheated on me, lied to me, stole from me and abused me. I KNOW he is no good and while I have tried to leave many times, I always find myself back with him (after sweet-talking and the like).
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 12, 2008 -
46 answers
Depression has knocked my passion (for everything) out. Gwargh. What do I do while I get therapy sorted?
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posted by divabat
on Jul 21, 2008 -
13 answers
Is it moral to have a backup girlfriend or boyfriend and telling that backup of your plan?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 27, 2007 -
44 answers
Help me help my boyfriend. My boyfriend is caring, supportive and great in all the ways that matter, but I think he's depressed, and it's gotten past the point where he's willing to talk about it. He's said several times that he feels there's no way out, and while he's had brief spells of depression in the past and has been able to pull himself out of them, I'm worried that this time it's too deep for him to do it alone.
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posted by odayoday
on Aug 4, 2007 -
15 answers
