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Should I give this polyamorous relationship a chance or end it?

I'm in a polyamorous relationship of less than a year. It has increasingly been a struggle for me in terms of self-esteem, fear of loss, and anxiety. Lately I've been thinking it's more fair to end this relationship than continue. Is it worth attempting to take this journey in hopes that it will be ok or should I just end the relationship with the idea that, like marriage or wanting children, it's a incompatibility that's a deal breaker? More details below. [more inside]
posted by Thirty7Degrees on Nov 15, 2016 - 17 answers

Are polyamorous relationships more stable?

I've seen a lot of couples go through serious relationship issues when both members of the couple are under significant stress simultaneously - does it help to have a third (or fourth) "partner" to stabilize the relationship when two of the members of the relationship are losing their minds? [more inside]
posted by Toddles on Sep 14, 2015 - 31 answers

What is going on here? (Relationship clarity)

Some advice needed on a newly poly marriage...issues regarding imbalance of resources/effort, feelings of rejection, control issues, etc Please PM me if you think that will be more helpful. [more inside]
posted by queenba on Aug 15, 2013 - 41 answers

When do I pop the statement "I'm in an open relatioinship?"

When do I let someone I'm out with casually (not yet romantically) know that I'm currently in a very committed yet also an open relationship? (Both of us were previously married, have been together 5 years, and realize that monogamy and commitment are not necessarily mutually exclusive for us). I've been out with women who, I think, were interested in me and in whom I might have been interested. I worry if I say something too soon, I might be being presumptuous, but if I don't say anything until much later, they might feel lead on. So I've just ended up saying nothing and things stayed casual and "friendly." The one time I told one woman I was in an open relationship - and this after only a second lunch out - she literally fled the restaurant! Since, I've become a little gun shy.
posted by StraycatA2 on Jul 9, 2013 - 48 answers

Is continuing to sleep with an ex ever not a bad idea?

TL;DR: The guy I'm dating non-exclusively is still sleeping with his ex. I can't decide if this is a red flag or not. For the record, I have been the one insisting we keep things open. [more inside]
posted by krakenattack on Feb 28, 2013 - 36 answers

"i miss you." "UGH, really?"

How to deal with feelings of revulsion when others are expressing their need for your time and care? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 17, 2012 - 31 answers

What to do with a sexless marriage?

Is sex vital in a marriage? Do I need a new perspective, a new conscience, counseling, or a divorce? (NSFW) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 10, 2012 - 42 answers

How can I give romantic relationships a different place in my life?

How can I give romantic relationships a different place in my life? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 10, 2012 - 24 answers

How does a polyamorous couple non-awkwardly "friendzone" someone?

Polyamory-filter! How does a couple non-awkwardly "friendzone" someone? [more inside]
posted by aldebaran on Feb 8, 2012 - 11 answers

Should I let my boyfriend sleep with other women?

Is it a poor idea to let your partner have sex with other people, knowing that you will be hurt by it? Will it be more likely to help or hurt our relationship if he indulges in his fantasies with other women – and is this a reasonable compromise for someone to make? [more inside]
posted by labandita on Jan 22, 2012 - 107 answers

Help me figure this (polyamory-related ethical question) out

This question is about polyamorous ethics. It's part of a larger question about my relationship with my long term partner and considers the ethics of the third party. What I'd like a read on or resources to help think about: the ethics of expressing interest in someone who is already in a partnered, monogamous context. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 16, 2011 - 26 answers

Should I try harder to talk myself out of marriage?

Even though logically I don't feel like he's "marriage material," I am overwhelmed lately with a desire to be married to him. Which way should I be going on this? [more inside]
posted by thrasher on Dec 15, 2011 - 28 answers

Supporting a bisexual partner without ignoring my own needs

How can I best support my GF in her bisexual identity/lifestyle in a way that doesn't ignore my own needs? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 1, 2011 - 12 answers

Why are you wearing that stupid man suit?

This is for all y'all who are GBLTQQIA-identified (let's use 'queer' for short). Do you find--or how do you find--that living in a non-queer world puts pressure on your intimate relationships and partnerships? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 29, 2011 - 24 answers

regarding polyamory

Regarding polyamory and potentially breaking up a monogamous LTR. A question for a friend. Special snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by NoraReed on Jun 28, 2010 - 15 answers


Failedpolyamoryfilter: Help! I care for two people and I have to choose between them. What does one base a decision like this on? How do I tackle this situation? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 4, 2010 - 26 answers

That's some threesome!

It's pretty likely that I'm soon to be involved in some sexy-time with a man and a woman who are married with an open relationship. I'm really excited and a little nervous because I've never done this. Very slightly NSFW details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 21, 2010 - 16 answers

Bob and Carol and Ted and Alice and Lions and Tigers and Bears and Hot Tubs and Hairy Chests and Press-On Nails...

Some now-former friends have decided to jump into polyamory as a solution to a big mess of relationship crazy. I think this is a terrible, terrible idea, for reasons specific to both the couple and polyamory as a whole. But how do I discuss this with them (and others) without sliding down the slippery slope of defining what other types of relationships are "right" or "wrong"? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 26, 2010 - 50 answers

How do I introduce the idea of a polyamorous relationship?

How can I tell my very monogamous husband that I am polyamorous and would like an open relationship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 23, 2010 - 98 answers

How much sacrifice is normal in a relationship?

How do you decide when someone is asking too much of you? How much do you sacrifice in your romantic relationships? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 25, 2010 - 45 answers

Does this ever end well?

Are there ever happy endings for polyamorous couples? Do you know anyone for whom such an arrangement has worked in the long term? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 23, 2010 - 24 answers

How to cope with desire for the forbidden?

Give me advice on how to deal with desire for men that are not my husband. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 1, 2008 - 14 answers

Ethical objections to open relationships/polyamory?

Are there ethical objections to open relationships/polyamory? (If so, list below) [more inside]
posted by beerbajay on Feb 5, 2008 - 33 answers

How creepy is polyamory?

Non-swingers and non-polyamorous people: Do swingers and polyamorous people creep you out? [more inside]
posted by pornucopia on Dec 9, 2005 - 121 answers

Approaching Another Couple

My girlfriend and I are friends with another couple whom we'd like to become, er, more intimate with. Unfortunately, they, like us, are very reserved, and don't tend to talk about sex, so we have no idea how to begin to broach the subject. The friendship is very important to us, and we don't want to ruin it. What should we do?
posted by anonymous on Jan 26, 2005 - 38 answers

Open Relationships

Does anyone here have experience with a polyamorous and/or "open" relationship? [mi] [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 6, 2004 - 35 answers

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