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Dating with herpes - how do I go about this?

Need advice on how to feel less awkward about having herpes and disclosing it to people I am dating. More inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 6, 2016 - 12 answers

Single lady looking for threesomes.

So according to the internet I am a unicorn. This seems like a stupid question, because apparently there are gazillions of couples looking for ladies like me, but I don't know how to go about this safely. [more inside]
posted by Dilemma on Dec 5, 2016 - 8 answers

Advice for moving on

How do I move on when I don't feel ready to? I broke up with my boyfriend 3 months ago and even though breaking up was the right decision, I can't seem to let go (snowflakes within) [more inside]
posted by Chrysalis on Dec 2, 2016 - 11 answers

How to grieve for a pet from afar

My ex texted me yesterday to let me know that one of her cats -- whom I referred to as my step-cats whilst we were together -- was hit by a car yesterday. I'm devastated, though I haven't seen said cat for nearly a year, and I don't know how to process it properly. [more inside]
posted by six sided sock on Dec 1, 2016 - 11 answers

Separation limbo!

This was me. We've living apart, not really communicating, and still married. Now what? [more inside]
posted by blackcatcuriouser on Nov 30, 2016 - 17 answers

Help me think through paganism

I just started going out with a delightful man. He's neopagan and I'm Christian. I'm looking for resources and experiences to understand paganism better. [more inside]
posted by ramenopres on Nov 30, 2016 - 9 answers

Should I date a semi-famous person on the other side of the country?

The title of this question doesn't even begin to convey all the issues here. He lives in Hollywood and is charting a path toward becoming a celebrity. I live on the East Coast, am a bookish introvert, and don't particularly want to get my heart smashed to pieces. I also have ZERO interest in the entertainment industry. Yet we share other interests and have major sparks. [more inside]
posted by Guinevere on Nov 29, 2016 - 22 answers

Should I try to "grow" feelings for this person or listen to my anxiety?

I have been dating this guy for just over a month now. I knew him previously from HS, but we reconnected through a dating site. I had a huge crush on him in HS but I wasn't sure how I'd feel as that was a long time ago (25 now). Before we met I was honest and said I wanted friendship to start off with, cause I assumed he'd expect a hook up right away. We've hung out five times now, and been texting a lot but I'm not sure how I feel still. [more inside]
posted by oracleia on Nov 29, 2016 - 16 answers

How to seduce my boyfriend?

Our sex life is dying, and my usual tricks don't work. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 29, 2016 - 39 answers

Bullied by a professor; what to do?

My anatomy professor is bullying me, and it's taking a toll on my grades, and mental health. I'm reviewing all of my coursework together with her next semester; how do I assert that I have been treated in a biased way, without putting her on the defense, and in a way that gets me back the points that were docked unfairly? [more inside]
posted by erattacorrige on Nov 25, 2016 - 14 answers

Help me learn how to girlfriend

My new boyfriend's not a big communicator in-between dates -- I want him to be. Is this normal? How do I fix this? Can I fix it? [more inside]
posted by themaskedwonder on Nov 23, 2016 - 22 answers

Is there a name for this particular interpersonal behavior?

Is there a name for when people consistently and almost compulsively diminish the experiences, achievements or difficulties or sorrows of another person in comparison to their own? What is the best way to respond to this kind of behavior? Why do people engage in it? [more inside]
posted by armadillo1224 on Nov 23, 2016 - 27 answers

How to deal with distance from new boyfriend and not self-sabotage?

I feel my new guy pulling away a little - should I talk to him or leave it alone? [more inside]
posted by Kat_Dubs on Nov 23, 2016 - 10 answers

strategies for distancing/dealing with my friend who I have a crush on

I have a crush on a friend who is in a relationship. Most recently she invited herself to be my +1 to a holiday party. I wish there were a way out of this but either way I'm trying to figure out strategies to remain friends while causing myself less anxiety. [more inside]
posted by aaabbbccc on Nov 21, 2016 - 19 answers

All eggshells lead to me...

I am the person all your Asks are about, the person you dislike or fear and end up walking on eggshells around. For nearly all my 38 years I have struggled mightily with anxiety and a host of low self-worth behaviors. I've taken medication, been in therapy (and currently am), read books, all the things. Along the way I've heard complaints that I'm too controlling. Too critical. Hold people to impossibly high standards. Knowing these things to be true has always saddened me deeply, but now it's reached a breaking point and I'm looking for hope. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 16, 2016 - 34 answers

Should I give this polyamorous relationship a chance or end it?

I'm in a polyamorous relationship of less than a year. It has increasingly been a struggle for me in terms of self-esteem, fear of loss, and anxiety. Lately I've been thinking it's more fair to end this relationship than continue. Is it worth attempting to take this journey in hopes that it will be ok or should I just end the relationship with the idea that, like marriage or wanting children, it's a incompatibility that's a deal breaker? More details below. [more inside]
posted by Thirty7Degrees on Nov 15, 2016 - 17 answers

Examples of long lasting, successful partnerships between "non-friends"?

It is well known that Penn And Teller have had an extremely successful partnership in magic for over 40 years, despite the fact that they are not "friends" outside of their professional life. What are other good examples of well known partnerships who have managed to be creatively, culturally or financially successful, despite the lack of friendship (or even outright hostility) between the involved parties?
posted by melorama on Nov 13, 2016 - 31 answers

Should I be worried or am I acting jealous?

My husband has a history of having not-great boundaries with women. He has cheated in previous relationships, and while he had not (to my knowledge) cheated on me, he has pushed boundaries in the past. He has recently started a new job. A woman who he works closely with has recently broken up with her long-distance boyfriend. My husband has apparently talked to her about this quite a bit, and now wants to include her in some of our family activities. [more inside]
posted by LittleMissCranky on Nov 12, 2016 - 22 answers

Reentering the Dating Pool in your late 30s - Guidance needed

After splitting up with my Girlfriend of 8 years over a year and a half ago, I am ready to reenter the dating world. I'm glad that I took time off to work on myself. I instantly wanted to date after breaking up, but it was for all of the wrong reasons. I'm now ready and I need some guidance Details inside [more inside]
posted by kbbbo on Nov 12, 2016 - 9 answers

Dating without being a heel

How can I date without hurting people when I'm not after anything serious? [more inside]
posted by blokefromipanema on Nov 11, 2016 - 19 answers

Jealous and anxious about something that *might* happen

There's a girl that would be perfect for my fiancé at my workplace. And my fiancé is joining the same company in a couple of weeks. How can I stop myself from feeling anxious and upset that something may happen? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 8, 2016 - 13 answers

Can I justify not spending Christmas with my father this year?

I have to decide whether to spend Christmas with either side of my family - please help me decide? [more inside]
posted by Kat_Dubs on Nov 6, 2016 - 14 answers

Another Relationship Question

I haven't had much luck with relationships and I'm not sure why. I definitely put myself out there. I volunteer, I have social hobbies, I do online dating. Now and then I meet someone I like who seems to like me back. It's very exciting, butterflies everywhere, we date for a while and it fizzles after 2-3 months. I almost always get the slow fade, and it's always sad and confusing for me. [more inside]
posted by bunderful on Nov 5, 2016 - 27 answers

In today's set of first-world problems...

I'm an adult, but my parents still control my revocable trust. This makes me feel weird for a number of reasons. How should I deal with this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 2, 2016 - 33 answers

I can't ex, he can. How to relationship?

Long-term lovers: can two people who identify with opposing schools of thought on exes and opposite-sex friends coexist happily? I want him to stop talking to his ex completely. He'll do it (and loves/respects me), but he thinks it's overkill. [more inside]
posted by doctordrey on Nov 1, 2016 - 82 answers

Is there a name for this fresh BS my partner is hoisting upon me?

During disagreements (no matter how small), my partner tends to go from 0-60 and uses words, tone, and facial expressions that I see as an attempt to intimidate me into shutting up. It's frustrating and insanely uncool but my question: is there a name for this behavior? [more inside]
posted by youandiandaflame on Oct 31, 2016 - 105 answers

Is trouble having difficult conversations in a relationship a bad sign?

I feel like my partner avoids difficult conversations and often pays me lip-service to avoid unpleasant topics. How worrisome is this behavior long term? [more inside]
posted by aquablue582 on Oct 29, 2016 - 33 answers

I'm smitten! When do I tell my date that I'm planning to move?

Recently met this guy & we've really connected. But I'm applying to a programme abroad next month and it will take me to another country for at least 8/9 months starting next September. [more inside]
posted by Ariel432 on Oct 27, 2016 - 12 answers

What you said upset me, because I actually do care

On the phone the other day, my mom, after complaining (perhaps justifiably) that I didn't call her enough, said, "Sometimes, I think you don't really care that you have a family." I can't stop thinking about this and I want to figure out a way to address it with her. [more inside]
posted by pretentious illiterate on Oct 24, 2016 - 28 answers

I quit. Here is a gift.

Leaving my job. Love my boss. She is taking my leaving like a champ despite it putting her in a tough spot. Looking for help for a thank you/good bye gift. [more inside]
posted by teamnap on Oct 21, 2016 - 9 answers

Book or Oral History About Failed Marriages?

I'm doing some research for a story about a broken marriage, and I was wondering if anyone knows of a Studs-Terkel-esque oral history containing interviews with people about their deteriorating relationships or the lies they would tell themselves to keep a marriage together? Thanks in advance for any suggestions!
posted by Bobby Bittman on Oct 20, 2016 - 5 answers

Barely remembered quote about talkative women and romantic relationships

Sometime in the past year or so I read, either online or in print, something relating to compatibility and fulfillment in (hetero) relationships where the woman is one who has a fast paced brain and needs to talk and needs to be with a man who will listen and take that all in order for her to feel fulfilled in the relationship. Did you read this, too? [more inside]
posted by PaulaSchultz on Oct 20, 2016 - 6 answers

Can this otherwise-promising affair survive a sexual incompatibility?

We've been seeing each other for 6 weeks or so, and it's a promising start. We're compatible in multiple ways, we clearly really dig each other, except for this one thing. NSFW snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 19, 2016 - 17 answers

But wait, so maybe I'm NOT a garbage human being?

Need help/advice for resources for recovering from an emotionally abusive relationship with a whole mess of complications. I am the special-est of snowflakes. [more inside]
posted by FakePalindrome on Oct 18, 2016 - 14 answers

Domestic crisis = time to reasses

Should I move back to England and back in with my parents? [more inside]
posted by guessthis on Oct 18, 2016 - 14 answers

Difficult Conversation-Filter: Probably Not Cancer

I'm having some surgery on Friday next week to excise what is probably not skin cancer on my scalp. I have no idea how to tell my boyfriend this. I'm usually good with difficult conversations and I'm at a loss for how to do this one. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 15, 2016 - 19 answers

Got My Mind Set On You

Help a hopeless romantic get over her fear of asking a guy out. [more inside]
posted by Champagne Supernova on Oct 10, 2016 - 15 answers

"I know we can't talk, but c'mon, you've been filming me for a month!"

In reality TV shows where there is unavoidable ongoing contact between contestants and production staff (particularly camera/sound crew), how are the inevitable human relationships managed? [more inside]
posted by russm on Oct 10, 2016 - 13 answers

Should I STOP ask guys out in order to achieve better results?

I'm wondering if asking men out sets the tone of being the pursuer - one man in particular. What are your thoughts? [more inside]
posted by Kat_Dubs on Oct 8, 2016 - 17 answers

Marriage counseling is off to a poor start. What to do next?

My wife and I are in couples therapy, but I feel like we haven’t made much progress. Help me develop a strategy to get things on track. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 8, 2016 - 18 answers

Help my rational mind prevail.

I (26F) have just started seeing a guy (27M). I like to think of myself as an analytical, rational person, but ever since our first date I have been basically unable to properly eat, sleep, or focus on anything. Help me avoid getting swept up by my elevated dopamine and lowered serotonin levels! [more inside]
posted by schroedingersgirl on Oct 4, 2016 - 11 answers

How do I ensure recovery and healing while continuing to work with STBX?

I continue to work with my soon-to-be-ex husband and I'm having trouble coping with several aspects of this situation. One of the major issues (for me) comes from the fact that I was attempting reconciliation for the longest (while he's always felt otherwise). Would really appreciate suggestions in this regard (particularly from those who've been in similar situations). Details [long read!] inside. [more inside]
posted by satipatthana on Sep 30, 2016 - 11 answers

Push it to MAXIMUM BABY!!!

Question about babies, feelings, and friendships! [more inside]
posted by sprezzy on Sep 28, 2016 - 12 answers

Is my boyfriend hiding something serious from me?

He has been maniacly hiding -since always- his phone from me. I'm not even "allowed to touch it". Dumb question, but lately I'm just freaking out about it. [more inside]
posted by Tiffy119 on Sep 26, 2016 - 54 answers

I'm passive aggressive. How do I fix that?

I've had passive aggressive tendencies my whole life, but it's taken me awhile to realize just how destructive my behavior is for my relationships. I want to stop, but I don't know how. [more inside]
posted by gumtree on Sep 25, 2016 - 28 answers

How do you move beyond betrayal?

Hello metafilter, A few months back, I had a break-up with a friend. At the time, I believed we were very close, and I turned to her because I was very sick, needed help, and couldn't find it anywhere else. Instead of offering help or sympathy, she instead sent me a "go away till you're better" letter two days later. It's broken my heart, and I can't seem to move past it. [more inside]
posted by Rosengeist on Sep 20, 2016 - 14 answers

At almost 25, my former life is falling away - how can I cope better?

I've lost friends to life changes and two people to bereavement. Childhood is officially over, adulthood is here to stay. How do I find some comfort? [more inside]
posted by Ariel432 on Sep 20, 2016 - 7 answers

Accepting flaws in long-term relationships

My partner is incredibly kind and loving to me, and I'm very happy with her, but she can lash out at others. How can I put my anxiety about this to rest? [more inside]
posted by myitkyina on Sep 17, 2016 - 24 answers

Inconvenient sexual kinks and long-term relationships

Gentle, compassionate man seeks intelligent, self-assured woman for a life of emotional intimacy, tenderness, and borderline violent and demeaning sex. :( How could this possibly work? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 16, 2016 - 28 answers

And then there were two.

My wonderful partner and I are looking for resources on how to strengthen our relationship and move on from some past issues. We are already set to attend couples counseling and are looking for things we can practice and dedicate energy to in the interim. What are things that you've done in your own relationships to make them stronger? We are especially interested in advice concerning trust building.
posted by Marinara on Sep 15, 2016 - 7 answers

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