Do you do this? How do I escape the pattern of going back to, because I can't resist helping, my (I think) mentally ill (or unstable/intense) husband. See, he's not all bad... Do you regret going back? Do you wish you had? [more inside]
posted by Toto_tot on Nov 25, 2009 - 42 answers

Harry and I got married when I was 42. Ours was a rocky relationship at its worst and absolutely riveting at its best. Even today the passion we share and yes, even the fights we occasionally have are intense, but all the laughter, that is what kept us together. We are sharing our 25th wedding anniversary on our wedding day this December. We are writing vows and I wanted to know what are the little things in relationships that made you love someone the most? I feel like all the things I want to say are cliche I need inspiration. I don't want to disappoint him.
posted by anonymous on Oct 16, 2009 - 13 answers

Recommend a good Boston Metro Relationship/Marriage Therapist/Counselor? [more inside]
posted by kryptonik on Aug 27, 2009 - 6 answers

Did you marry someone you felt "ok" about at first? How did it work out? [more inside]
posted by abdulf on Jul 20, 2009 - 30 answers

Help- how do I save my marriage! Long description and details after the jump. [more inside]
posted by TheBones on Jul 15, 2009 - 41 answers

Are relationships a zero sum game? Is there such a thing as a happy compromise? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 17, 2009 - 28 answers

What steps did you take to find your partner in spite of social anxiety or severe shyness? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 2, 2009 - 33 answers

Help us (straight couple in our late twenties) fix our sex life so we can stay together. [more inside]
posted by monkeygenius on Mar 31, 2009 - 33 answers

Over the summer, I got married. For the most part, this is totally awesome. Due to circumstances beyond our control, though, we got married by eloping to Canada, and for many people, this seems to make our marriage less than real. I'm having a hard time dealing with it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 9, 2009 - 32 answers

Separation of Personal Debt in an Ongoing Marriage (NZ Law) [more inside]
posted by thomasck on Jan 16, 2009 - 4 answers

Omnibus Relationship Question: Getting married, and can't wait, but have numerous small issues I want to resolve. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 13, 2009 - 20 answers

How do you cope when a loved one, married to someone you can't stand, reveals during a crisis that everything is as awful as you suspected? But then turns around and decides to stay in the marriage, when everything that you have seen points to a relationship that is somewhere between self-destructive and unworkable? [more inside]
posted by Kirklander on Jan 5, 2009 - 29 answers

How do I stop being controlling towards my husband? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 3, 2008 - 24 answers

Relationship Filter: Are we just not good for each other, or am I actually just screwed up from my family and last relationship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 4, 2008 - 25 answers

Two people like each other, but never at the same time. Is it worth waiting for her? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 16, 2008 - 15 answers

ArrangedMarriage Filter: I'm from a culture that encourages arranged marriage and have been thinking about asking my parents to start looking. [more inside]
posted by reenum on Jul 4, 2008 - 40 answers

Is my relationship going nowhere? And how might I go about asking him what his intentions are without freaking him out? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 23, 2008 - 30 answers

Can anyone recommend a non religious premarital counselor in Des Moines, IA (or nearby)? [more inside]
posted by unvivid on Mar 13, 2008 - 1 answer

My girlfriend is having second thoughts about what she wants out of life. This could lead to a change and possible end our relationship. I'm scared. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 15, 2007 - 27 answers

I’m an early-30’s guy, seeing an early-30’s girl who I think I could be with long term. She is unquestionably an awesome person, and I appreciate the fact that she brings a different perspective and background to the relationship than my own. As with many things, these differences can be a double-edged sword. Read on, below... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 8, 2007 - 50 answers

She wants to get married in a Catholic church, I fundamentally disagree. What to do? [more inside]
posted by Phyltre on Nov 6, 2007 - 99 answers

Shit a ring or get off the relationship pot? Warning: very long. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 31, 2007 - 59 answers

What degree of indepdence is appropriate for a long-term relationship / marriage? [more inside]
posted by sergeant sandwich on Jul 29, 2007 - 49 answers

Our 15th wedding anniversary is imminent and my plans need some adjusting due to some financial difficulties. In other words, what I planned to do costs money and we have none. Any ideas of how to make our 15th wedding anniversary special for my wife without spending a lot of cash? Even if I went ahead and spent the cash, my wife wouldn't enjoy herself. God bless her, she's a simple woman who's easy to please, but I want to blow her away in the creative/romantic/fun department. Our anniversary is on a Wednesday. I'll get home from work at 3am on Wed. Waking her up is not out of the question. (She loves to party....usually. On the weekends, after the kids are down, we stay up late, drinking wine, eating fattening foods, and watching movies.) I could wait until morning and cook a big breakfast, but our dear children will be awake then, and I think a 15th anniversary demands some special romantic "alone-time". The following weekend is not out of the question, but "the moment" will have passed, requiring something more formal/expensive.
posted by keith0718 on Jul 4, 2007 - 19 answers

Can anyone recommend a couples therapist here in New York City (ideally Manhattan)? Trying to work through a few outstanding issues in our pre-marriage relationship, and looking for some outside help.
posted by thomascrown on May 21, 2007 - 3 answers

My fun, happy, fairy-tale marriage of 2 months is imploding because my husband suddenly can't accept my past. Super-long explanation inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 30, 2007 - 70 answers

Is my husband's behavior normal, or is this indicative of depression or some sort of anger-issue? And is there anything I can do to help? [more inside]
posted by catfood on Mar 28, 2007 - 52 answers

Are my standards for a girlfriend / potential wife too high? And if so, what do I do? Here's the deal. I'm a 28 year old single guy living in NYC who's finally starting to feel the old part a little. I'm fairly successful in business and have a good group of friends and a fairly active life outside of work - lots of interests, one of them in particular being girls. [more inside]
posted by allkindsoftime on Sep 9, 2006 - 33 answers

What can a wife do to demonstrate appreciation and affection for her husband? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 9, 2006 - 53 answers

How can I define my feelings, having a small field of reference? [more inside]
posted by psyward on Jul 21, 2006 - 10 answers

I have just started to be attracted to a friend I never had feelings for before, in an insidious and subconscious way. But my girlfriend and I are living together, and she's pushing hard for marriage. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 13, 2005 - 23 answers

If you don't fall in love with someone quickly will you fall in love with them at all? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 6, 2005 - 24 answers

Three months ago, my then-girlfriend and I broke off a 2.5-year relationship. We were doing it long-distance for the entirety of it, though that never hurt us. Two summers we lived together, too. We had started to fight a lot later—usually about stupid things—and basically just started to drive each other nuts while we were apart. When we were together in person, things were wonderful, but we had to support each other across the hundreds of miles, too. It was a mutual break-up for the most part: she wanted to take a month off, but I said it was inappropriate for us to pretend to be with each other when we're really trying to get away. This may have been the biggest mistake of my life. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 29, 2005 - 46 answers