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Issues with long distance relationship.

I am living in a long distance relationship and have encountered an issue I do not know how to cope with. I hope you can help me. [more inside]
posted by Salicornia on Nov 24, 2015 - 11 answers

Exploring anger post breakup

In the final minutes of my last session, my therapist encouraged me to explore anger following the abrupt end of a short term relationship. I don't feel angry. How might I approach this? [more inside]
posted by nathaole on Nov 23, 2015 - 21 answers

Boundary-ignorant husband: part of a bigger problem?

My husband keeps pulling up my clothes and rubbing my belly (not pregnant, not trying to get pregnant, dear god I can only imagine if I was). It's meant to be affectionate but I HATE it. I've told him to stop, but he keeps doing it. I think my problem has less to do with the touching (although I really, really, really don't like it and resent having to apologize or explain it) and more to do with the fact that I explicitly asked him to stop but he has not. This makes me irrationally angry. Am I overreacting by moving out of our bedroom into our spare room? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 20, 2015 - 54 answers

The fire is out, but is it possible to spark a new flame?

I don't feel sexually attracted to my spouse anymore. What now? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 10, 2015 - 27 answers

How to handle longtime opposite sex friendships in a relationship?

what is everyone's take on handling opposite sex friendships when you’re in a relationship, especially as we get older? i'm 32. my best guy friend from college moved in with his girlfriend over a year ago. i have met her several times (which i initiated as i wanted to meet her) and i like her (although i have seen her freak at him and noticed she has some insecurity issues) but since they moved in together he always brings her when i ask if he wants to catch up [more inside]
posted by cultureclash on Nov 7, 2015 - 41 answers

Partner locked me out of my house

I've been living with my partner for almost 2 years. Partner owns the house and there is no lease. Yesterday I broke up with partner and left, taking only my necessities. I left my key with partner as reassurance that I wouldn't be making any surprise visits or entering the house without consent. Now, based on conversations we had last night, I am worried that it will be difficult to get access to my belongings and pets. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 4, 2015 - 9 answers

How much contact do you have with your SO?

Couples who have been together for more than a year and do not live or work together - how much contact do you have and what does it look like? [more inside]
posted by yawper on Oct 28, 2015 - 29 answers

Can this (common law) marriage be saved?

My partner (32, male) and I (31, female) have been having the worst year of our lives. We've been together for six years, but the last year has been one horrible thing after another. Our relationship is suffering and it's become difficult for us to spend time together without conflict. My partner has just about given up because he feels like all we do is fight. I think that our relationship is worth saving but I'm not sure what more we can do. How can we right what seems like a sinking ship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 26, 2015 - 22 answers

How do I start living again while going through a break-up?

The ex and I broke up a little over a month ago. We dated 7 months, and were friends/FWB on and off for 5 years before that since we dated for a month in 2010. A week ago he told me he wants nothing to do with me and I'm heartbroken. I haven't done anything but sleep and watch TV for a week. How do I get out of this slump? [more inside]
posted by Autumn on Oct 25, 2015 - 15 answers

I need to stop being abusive

I was in therapy, but then we moved to a developing country a few months ago where therapies are not the done thing. I was physically, emotionally and verbally abusive before therapy. After a lot of work, I am a lot less abusive, but I've found that I still engage in controlling behavior. For the sake of my mental health and my relationship I want to stop completely, but don't know how to without professional help. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 23, 2015 - 16 answers

How to work with everyone quickly

Hi, please help me to compile a list of questions I should ask myself on how to work with everyone in a new workplace. [more inside]
posted by liltiger on Oct 22, 2015 - 16 answers

Should I continue seeing a guy who just wants to have fun for now?

I've been going on dates with a guy I met from a dating app. He's in medical school so he has a busy schedule. We've seen each other 3x and we kissed on the last date. During the last date, I asked him what he's looking for and he said he wants someone to go out with and enjoy his time with outside of school. However, he doesn't know if he wants a relationship or not (ie. short term, long term). [more inside]
posted by missybitsy on Oct 19, 2015 - 31 answers

Ashamed of dating a transwoman or am I respecting her/my privacy?

I'm a male in my late twenties and I consider myself straight. I'm not interested in men or dating a man, and have always had relationships with women. I dated a trans woman for two and a half years. (I'm loathe to specify the 'trans' and to feel like I have to assert that I'm straight but it's relevant to my question.) I'm now not sure about whether to disclose this to my current girlfriend. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 12, 2015 - 38 answers

How can I get my husband to reply on-topic?

My husband and I work different schedules and communicate a lot by text message... but he constantly changes topics and doesn't reply to mine?! [more inside]
posted by gloriouslyincandescent on Oct 12, 2015 - 25 answers

How to deal with not being my boyfriend's first?

My BF [26M] is my first. However, I'm [21F] not his. His first was with a good friend with whom he had a 5 year relationship, and still remains good friends with that ex today. They were both each other's first. Out of all the other ex's my BF's had, he only remains friends with this one. Everywhere I look on the internet or in real life, people say they never forget their first love, that they'll always remain a special part of you. Since I've made this realization, I've felt incredibly low. [more inside]
posted by echoplasm on Oct 9, 2015 - 33 answers

What's it gonna be?

Do I get back together with my long time friend and ex and "see how it goes" despite him being at a crossroads in his life and not knowing what he wants or when he'll be emotionally available? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 8, 2015 - 33 answers

Break-up + small town; do I have to move?

I moved to a small town and started dating a guy pretty much right away. He had already been living there for a couple years at that point. Fast-forward three years: I broke up with him. We both still love our small town. Do I have to move? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 7, 2015 - 42 answers

How can I move past betrayal in a good relationship?

I am in a slightly long distance relationship of 6 months. We have history and are very serious for the time-frame. Four days ago, my girlfriend spontaneously agreed to hang out with her ex boyfriend when he called her. The next day she told me, claiming to have "emotionally cheated." During this talk she opened up about many things, including hanging out with her ex one other time a month into our relationship, making out with him then and similar, but not sex. Before this discussion, we were at a significant high point in our relationship. How do I move past feelings of betrayal? Should I? [more inside]
posted by Foibuls on Oct 6, 2015 - 29 answers

Should I go out with all 3 guys who happen to know each other?

I'm currently in a weird predicament. I recently started talking to 3 guys off of a dating app (not Tinder) at around the same time. They all asked me out for a first date. Through our exchanges, I notice that all 3 go to the same school together and happen to be in the same group of friends. I even saw a few photos of them together. All 3 have asked me to go on coffee or dinner date with them. I don't know what I should do because I haven't met any in personso I don't know them yet to write anyone off. At the same time, I don't want to be labeled as a serial dater if I agree to go out with all 3 of them. I'm afraid of the awkwardness when they later find out. What do you think I should do? Their ages range from 22-27 by the way.
posted by missybitsy on Sep 24, 2015 - 47 answers

Shoring up a marriage once the kids are a bit bigger

We have two little kids (almost 2 & 5). We love our two little kids. We're finally out of the pregnancy and infant stages, and maybe starting to get a little bit out of everything being in crisis mode all the time. But it's been a hard few years, and although our marriage isn't doing badly it feels like we really need to start working on us again. I'd like to hear from those of you a little further down the line of what you did to rebuild yourselves as a couple once your kids got a tad bigger and you could breathe again. [more inside]
posted by telepanda on Sep 24, 2015 - 20 answers

Help me find Eternal Sunshine for my not so Spotless Mind

My 8 year relationship just ended and I am trying to figure out how to move on. I know all of the general stuff from other threads and articles, but there are a few specific things that I am having a hard time with. Details inside [more inside]
posted by kbbbo on Sep 24, 2015 - 22 answers

Looks like I did it again: Codependency recovery

I have been recovering from codependency personalty disorder and it's going EXTREMELY well, but I think I've fallen into another relationship with a codependent. I am at the point where I am over it and want to focus on myself once and for all. How do I just freaking STOP?! [more inside]
posted by Young Kullervo on Sep 23, 2015 - 14 answers

Please advise about this guy I am stuck on

Hello I am a lady in her late 30s and until 3 weeks ago, in a long-term relationship (12 years). We were not married and had no kids, and lived together for a decade. My ex and I shared a deep understanding, laughs and interests, and I thought this was enough until I met a younger guy a few months ago, for whom I immediately felt a crazy infatuation. [more inside]
posted by muppets on Sep 22, 2015 - 17 answers

Will my boyfriend ever love me?

My wonderful boyfriend of 1.5 years cares deeply for me and sees a future for us, but does not love me. Do I wait? [more inside]
posted by byhp on Sep 21, 2015 - 72 answers

Ruminations on Past Unpleasantry

I've noticed in the past few years that I've been having a lot of unpleasant memories resurfacing in my head, whether randomly or triggered by something I see. I feel overwhelmed by these sometimes and want to be able to move past them and focus more on the present. [more inside]
posted by monologish on Sep 16, 2015 - 4 answers

Healthy Expectations for New Dating Situation?

I am six months out of a 3.5 years serious relationship (and very traumatizing break up). I've been dating a new person for two weeks. The dates themselves are great and he shows many signs of wishing to slowly move forward with me. However, I am very anxious between dates. He doesn't text me much between dates and is self-admittedly not a "planner" (e.g. we will have a date but he doesn't confirm day-of; just texts that he is coming over 30 minutes before the agreed-upon time). I can't tell if the anxiety is from (1) normal new relationship feelings; (2) my gut telling me this guy is not into me enough; or (3) my own desperation to feel like I have the stability and constant contact of a LTR again. What are your stories of the first month or two of your own relationships? I have never dated quite like this (we met online) and I want to be more okay with the "dance" and ensuing miscommunications/awkwardness. [more inside]
posted by minoraltercation on Sep 14, 2015 - 13 answers

Moving in together: boring, practical, preliminary edition

My girlfriend and I are moving out of our separate apartments and into a new shared apartment next month, and we can't find advice on the smallest, most boring, most preliminary question: whether to schedule two separate moves to haul our stuff or to combine things with a single move that makes three stops. We'll be using either a moving service or gentleman with a gentlevan in Brooklyn. What should we do? [more inside]
posted by scarylarry on Sep 12, 2015 - 8 answers

How to approach the same old argument in a new way

Seeking suggestions for how to interrupt an unhealthy pattern in a relationship and communicate needs in a way that is generous towards both parties. Plus some depression stuff. Special snowflake details below, of course. [more inside]
posted by adastra on Sep 10, 2015 - 23 answers

Should I begin a relationship with my ex-girlfriend in a new city?

The woman I dated for the last two years (with unwanted break-ups in between due to circumstances outside of our control [being in different locations]) might now be re-entering my life and my city. We're both considering getting back together, and I'm certain we will be happy for the near-future if we do, but I wonder if doing so will cause me to get stuck. Am I justified in thinking this way? What have your experiences been? [more inside]
posted by lalunamel on Sep 7, 2015 - 18 answers

How do we survive an extensive home remodel?

We just bought a new house. Yay! It needs a LOT of work. Boo. How do we make it through the next year with our sanity intact? [more inside]
posted by gottabefunky on Sep 2, 2015 - 15 answers

Unsure if I should continue seeing someone

Is it wise to romantically/emotionally invest by dating someone knowing that they are currently not fully settled or stable in their life situation? [more inside]
posted by sara479 on Sep 2, 2015 - 9 answers

Describe This Relationship

I have a friend who's all over the place. I can't figure her out or how to respond. [more inside]
posted by CakeFragments on Sep 1, 2015 - 51 answers

Can we keep our relationship intact?

We want an open relationship. But we haven't talked it through. And now someone has shown up and she wants it to happen. Is that too much to ask? (Sorry but this is long.) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 26, 2015 - 47 answers

Finally pulled the plug on relationship, feeling confused.

I finally pulled the plug on my relationship after I realized I had been unhappy for most of it. My boyfriend was surprisingly understanding and respectful about it. I have a flight in a week, but I find myself often wondering if I’ve done the right thing. I’m worried I might back out of leaving and I need help. Our history and wall of text inside. [more inside]
posted by AdriftInSpace on Aug 24, 2015 - 20 answers

Female Friend became distant and finally not texting

Hi, I have a long term female friend who stays in a long distance, we used to chat on and off for many years and especially the last few months we had spent hours of chatting almost every day. We were very much supportive each other ,had a lot of fun talks and used to discuss almost everything, shared a nice time and eventually became really close. But gradually she seemed to be a bit less active for almost a month but still managed to chat (some days energetic, some days not) and started doing less initiation of talks from her. Since I felt this is a bit strange as to what we used to, I asked onetime in a quiet way where she just said there is nothing bothering her as the way I thought. But eventually she became in a situation of not feeling to text or talk and told me the same when I asked about it. [more inside]
posted by Christos on Aug 17, 2015 - 10 answers

Should I break up with my boyfriend?

I've become bored with my five-year relationship and desperately need change, but am scared to throw it all away. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 16, 2015 - 46 answers

Relationships with recovering alcoholics/addicts

What typically happens when you're in a relationship with a recovering alcoholic/addict, and what are some ways of mitigating distastrous consequences for both parties? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 11, 2015 - 17 answers

Should I stay with my emotionally unstable boyfriend?

My boyfriend lies, has anxiety and is unstable emotionally, should I stick it out to help him get better or leave him behind for good? [more inside]
posted by Lolly on Aug 10, 2015 - 31 answers

I get frustrated. He shuts down. It gets worse. Please help.

After a minor argument grew into a very stressful situation for both of us today, my boyfriend and I finally figured out a few things that have been contributing to a destructive pattern of behavior (basically, my emotions stress him out, he shuts down, I become more frustrated because he is unavailable to me). At first I felt empowered by our breakthroughs. Now I feel discouraged. Please help. [more inside]
posted by NeverGrowSoOldAgain on Aug 8, 2015 - 53 answers

We are never ever getting back together, so now what?

What does or should a years-old, deeply held friendship look like after you date and then break up? What do I need to accept isn't or can't be the way it used to be? Please help me build a better framework for thinking about this and making judgement calls I can trust. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 5, 2015 - 18 answers

I worry GF might be better off without me; what do I do next?

My long-term, long-distance girlfriend and I occasionally don't get to see each other as planned. Today was one of those times, and her response has me thinking that she might be happier if we weren't together. How do I work out how to proceed from here? [more inside]
posted by six sided sock on Aug 3, 2015 - 42 answers

Did I just ruin my chance with this guy I'm dating?

I've been talking to a guy I met online for about 6 weeks, been on about 4 dates. At the very beginning, I let him know that I wanted to take things slow and not jump into bed with him quickly and he seemed to understand and respect my decision. We still haven't hold hand or kiss. However, our communication has increased significantly. He would call me almost daily and talk to me for over an hour each time. We also text each other constantly. [more inside]
posted by missybitsy on Aug 2, 2015 - 22 answers

Leaving my 4 year relatioship, never left anyone before?

After 4 years, and recent realization of my boyfriends distasteful behavior towards me, I am deeply considering leaving my first adult relationship. I've realize that quite possibly I've never been happy. I've been plagued my anxieties and insecurities throughout most of it. It has also had it's fair share of issues. It probably isn't a good sign if leaving our relationship makes me feel more sane. I think I need advice. Inside will be most of our history of issues and some more specific questions. [more inside]
posted by AdriftInSpace on Jul 29, 2015 - 23 answers

How do I bring up emotional labor in my relationship?

The emotional labor conversation on the blue has really affected me but I don't know how to deal with it. [more inside]
posted by wannabecounselor on Jul 29, 2015 - 41 answers

How do I breakup with my partner in a way that is fair?

I know I need to breakup with my partner but I have several concerns and would like to ask the community for some advice. We have been dating for about 9 months and I have been away on a job for about the last 2, will be back next week and I am feeling guilt about the details of the breakup even though I know it has to happen. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 27, 2015 - 18 answers

Post break up advice

I broke up with my girlfriend of three years yesterday night. I told her I missed a part to fully love her and commit in the same way that she is committed to me. I feel shitty now. What should I do now? [more inside]
posted by mathiu on Jul 26, 2015 - 18 answers

Boyfriend asked for space, how long should I wait?

My boyfriend asked for space after going through a pretty rough week. I'm leaving on holiday in a week (going away for two weeks) and I would like to sort things out before then. Is it a bad idea to contact him myself in a few days, or should I wait for him to make the first move (but risk going away for two weeks without having seen him)? [more inside]
posted by Vulpix91 on Jul 25, 2015 - 23 answers

Help me find my people - online or group support for infidelity

So this is me. My husband cheated on me (twice), and at this point, I really need a safe place to share my experience and the experiences of others. There seem to be an endless number of online forums for this, but the ones I have explored have all been really religious (not my thing), really hostile (understandable but not my style), or all about reconciliation at all costs. Please help me find the support I need. [more inside]
posted by Lamb_Chop on Jul 21, 2015 - 12 answers

Boyfriend thinks therapy is a waste and other issues?

I asked my boyfriend why he changed his thougts on me going to therapy. He used to think it was a waste of time and money, and it turns out, he still thinks it is. This lead to a series of very dysfunctional conversations and I know I now feel very uncomfortable. I don't really understand how he feels or what even happened during that evening. I need help figuring out what happened because I feel lost. [more inside]
posted by AdriftInSpace on Jul 19, 2015 - 48 answers

I need to leave, right?

I have been seeing someone for 3-4 months. His future plans are to look for a job outside of a current city and move within the next 12 months or so. Am I wasting my time? [more inside]
posted by sabina_r on Jul 19, 2015 - 20 answers

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