The wife of one of my office' higher ups has a birthday coming up, and a colleague's wife is planning a lavish birthday blast. Can I bow out early without hurting anyone's feelings? [more inside]
I have a milestone birthday coming up and an incredibly lovely friend has taken it upon herself (with my blessing) to invite people to my place for a low key celebration (yay!). Unfortunately, she also accidentally invited a friend of mine whose boyfriend I can't stand. [more inside]
I'm planning a #MEDIA-themed party. Some of my current siblings-in-law would totally dig this and it would be fun to have them there - we're all on good terms. However, I absolutely do not want my almost-ex (divorce proceedings underway) present. Is there any acceptable way to invite them but not the ex?
I want your best tried-and-true recipes for BIG versions of snack foods. Supersize me! [more inside]
I'm looking for those "Wowza!" gourmet dishes and touches that impress guests, but in the summertime BBQ category. What are your tricks for easily making a BBQ fancy, different or impressive, instead of the same old burgers and dogs?
I need your best sparkle magic tea party music! If unicorns had a posh tea party while playing croquet and chatting about the best brand of horn glitter, this is what they would be listening to! [more inside]
Last week, I received an invitation to a good friend's couple wedding shower that's happening a week from now. It happens to be on the same day that I work. I just started a new job and the company is short-staffed currently so I feel bad about requesting a day off to go to her shower. I'm reluctant about asking for a day off because I'm afraid that the manager might get mad at me. Plus, I wasn't sure if a week would be too short of a notice. Do you think I should try to request off to go to the shower or do you think it's not a big deal? [more inside]
My wife and I will be hosting a backyard party soon. I'm putting down fresh mulch this weekend and we're dead heading the spent spring flowers. I've cleaned up the weeds and bastard maple volunteers. What else should we go to be good backyard hosts? [more inside]
We're looking for somewhere to host ~60 people with catered food in early August. Nothing too fancy -- think more like a company picnic and less like a full-out gala. Preferably on the Peninsula or in South Bay. [more inside]
I need ideas for party themes for a small, semi-regular academic department's cocktail party. We're talking ~50 people, a mix of students and faculty and staff. But I'm rapidly running out of theme ideas, and having a really hard time finding ideas online that aren't either massively culturally appropriative or sexually suggestive/misogynistic (thanks, frat parties). Please help! [more inside]
It’s getting to be summer, when a young man’s thoughts turn inevitably to aw yiss summer jams. But I’ve been hearing awesome US summer jams for nigh 40 summers now, and I would like exposure to non-US summer jams. I’ve applied my sun block, packed my beach towel, and I want you to take me on a summer jam journey around the world. [more inside]
We are trying to clean out our pantry in advance of a house move, and want to use as much as possible to make snacks for our goodbye-old-house party. One of the things in our pantry is a box of S&B Japanese Curry mix (medium hot). Given that a big pot of curry isn't really a good finger food, what would you suggest we make with it? (For those who are not familiar with this ingredient, it is not a powder, but more like a stew/sauce base.)
We're throwing a tiki party and I would like to set the mood with some soundscape. Please recommend some online available jungle sounds and beats to set the vibe. [more inside]
My new favorite way to entertain is what we're affectionately calling cocktail club—a casual drop-in thing with a cocktail of the night and snacks. The cover charge is limes and lemons. Usually 4-6 people are present at any given time. We do it every week, sometimes a couple times a week, and it is the best. I need more ideas for cocktails, foods, and making it THE BEST EVER! [more inside]
Dearest Mefites of the USA, my 21 yo daughter is planning to galavant around your country this Northern Hemisphere summer, and we'd like your input! Any advice/recommendations for things to see, places to go, how to get there, accommodation, etc appreciated. We're yet to book flights, leaving everything pretty much to the last minute. We have friends in San Fran who will likely be her first stop, then after that, all is variable. [more inside]
A close relative is retiring this year, and I'm considering throwing a party-- but have absolutely no skills or experience with this type of event (or, really, with party-planning in general). Looking for tips/ ideas/ planning frameworks that will help me put together an awesome retirement bash. [more inside]
I'm planning a bachelor party for ~7 people in Chicago. The main event will be going to a Cub-White Sox game. [more inside]
I have received a notice of works with regards the Party Wall Act for some work that will commence soon. I'm fine with it but plan to suggest my neighbour gets a Schedule of Condition written up. What happens if he doesn't? Should I then dispute it, or let it go? [more inside]
About a month after our small civil family-only wedding ceremony, we're throwing a party at a bar so we can celebrate/get drunk/dance with about 50-60 of our friends. Open bar and our playlist: done and done. We'd like to put some creative, inexpensive touches on this event to make it feel more like a wedding and less like a big birthday party. (Inexpensive is key. We love the idea of a photo booth for example, but they're rather pricey to rent.) I'm hopelessly uncreative. Any ideas?
I'm looking for a not-too-sweet, alcoholic punch recipe to serve at an upcoming party. Caveat: must be some shade of pink. [more inside]
Hey, so I'm getting married this October in North Carolina, and I'm wondering what my bachelor party should look like. I can't think of anything to do besides fishing and camping. What are some other fun ideas? Caveat: no drinking. Probably 5-10 people will be on the trip, tops.
Last year for my birthday, my family came over for dinner and cake, and we tie-dyed. It was THE BEST. I'd like to do something similar this year - fun for all ages (4 year old - 60 year old, 8-10 people), easy to do, somewhat quick, doesn't require everyone sitting down at the same time and "doing a craft", not too "lame" for the adults, but not too complex that the 4 1/2 year old can't do it without a little help. Tie-dying was fun for everyone, but I'd don't want to do it two years in a row. I've got two weeks and can get pretty much anything in store or from the internet. Willing to spend a bit of cash. Thanks!
This year I'm throwing a party to celebrate International Color Day (because why not) and the end of winter. I'd love to get ideas for what I can buy/make/acquire to max out the color experience of my apartment and the party. [more inside]
Hi I'm throwing a party and I'd like to project some weird/cool looking stuff. I have an old white Macbook. So along with some obscure Youtube clips I found I'm looking for things like Xaos, or Electric Sheep, or other weird/nifty toys I can fool around for a bit while projecting. Bonus points if I can walk away from the computer and the program keeps doing something fun. Old-skool / Unixy things A++!
I'm helping find music for a Viking-themed party that would be both fitting and fun to dance to. I've got some viking metal, but that is more head-banging than the booty-shaking I am hoping for. What is the Gogol Bordello of viking bands, or the electroswing of viking music?
My friends and I would like a drink we haven't tried (i.e. not a screwdriver or other widely consumed drink). We're none of us big drinkers so we each contributed stuff that's been hanging around in a cupboard unused. Here's a list of what we gathered: [more inside]
My wife is going to be turning 40 this month, and in addition to the obligatory good food, friends, and requested viewing party of Man From Snowy River (her favorite movie), I'm hoping to add a fun, mildly competitive event for all attendees: a snow-based pentathlon. [more inside]
What are your key tips to throwing a good dinner party? What do you do about that one friend who will. not. stop. eating? What do you think is a good price per head for a group meal? How many people do you think is ideal for a good dinner? [more inside]
I just found out that my ex is planning on attending a New Year's Eve party I am going to and it is causing me a lot of stress. Strategies for dealing with this? [more inside]
We're throwing a small holiday party for some friends, and we've promised to have at least two kinds of punch -- one with booze, and one without. But we always make the same sorts of punch over and over again, and I'd love some ideas! [more inside]
White Elephant gift for work: Something yellow, under $15, can buy in-person in SF [more inside]
We are having a solstice winter holiday open house where I plan to have two kinds of alcoholic beverages. I would like people to sing for their grog! Basically, I'm looking for short sing-able stanzas (spoken word, poetry, limericks, etc., would be totally acceptable) that I will put into a hat for people to select, perform their bit, then fill their cup. Help me fill the hat with good stuff! [more inside]
Hit me with your best ideas for a work fancy dress party with the theme 'Christmas Carols'. [more inside]
I'm home for the holidays and seeing many friends after years apart. I have five days, each consisting of brunch, lunch and dinner with others, and am looking forward to unimaginable quantities of free alcohol. I am a seasoned (pickled?) drinker that does not normally get hangovers but never have I been on such a social whirlwind with so many opportunities to celebrate. Does anyone have advice for overcoming the potential weaknesses of the flesh to rise to this challenge? Or, how to pace myself when offered so much free deliciousness? Details below [more inside]
Anywhere from Dixieland to Penguin Café Orchestra, via Django Reinhardt and something Latin, what musicians/tracks/albums can you suggest for a 4-hour playlist to make a happy, potentially boppable score to a cocktail party? Would be nice to divide it into intro, main and outro parts - but all suggestions are welcome for a fun, refined, vocal-less (or at least mainly so), non-pop soundtrack to a charming, light-hearted evening. (Bonus points if sourceable via Rdio.) Thanks!
Myboy’s twin passions are Minecraft and The Amazing World of Gumball. We are throwing him a GumCraft/MineBall 9th birthday party and would love suggestions on decorations, food/treats, beverages, music, party favors, and activities. Either Minecraft or Gumball suggestions would be great, but suggestions that meld the two themes together would simply rock the house. [more inside]
A group of us will be in town the first weekend in December. Going out in unfamiliar cities is tricky. Where do all the cool queer kids party the first weekend of the month? And by kids I mean 25-45 year olds, 90s hip hop / top 40 /songs with lyrics you probably know loving types, possibly but not necessarily hipsters who hate lining up and don’t love paying cover. Looking for a fun, unpretentious bar to drink and dance, with an approachable crowd. [more inside]
My friends are throwing a party and they want all the food to have a pun associated with it. Can you help me think of some clever names for easy party foods?? [more inside]
I would like to host a holiday/Christmas party this year, but I have never done it before and I would like some advice on how to do it in such a way that (1) people will attend, (2) people will have a good time, and (3) it is fun for me as a host. Lots of specific questions and info ahead. [more inside]
My daughter is having a slumber party for her birthday. I'm used to (and comfortable with) normal birthday parties: planning lots of fun activities, yummy things to eat and keeping order with bouncing children for a few hours, but I'm worried about having a half dozen 7 & 8 year olds sleeping here. Those of you have done it -- what's your advice? Anything that would help this go well? [more inside]
I'm putting together a Halloween marathon party this weekend, with a few horror movies (about evenly split between good and cheesy selections), and lots of video interludes in between that speak to a sense of pre-2000 horror/VHS/halloween nostalgia. I need your help on the interludes. I'm finding it hard to pick the exact vibe I'm looking for, but for examples: [more inside]
My husband-to-be and I plan to have a small civil wedding with immediate family in California (where we live), and would like to throw a casual party with drinks and dancing at a bar in Manhattan or Brooklyn so we can celebrate with our friends. [more inside]
I just became the person to put together a 125 person holiday party (I have the caterer, location and liquor confirmed as of today) for our top-level donors. How do I execute on the phrase "looking forward towards the future" which is the somewhat vague theme that I was given from my boss to make the decorations, theme, etc, come together in one beautiful swoop? We're hiring a designer to do decorations but I am supposed to come up with what I want first to give this person direction. Our budget is reasonable but not extravagant. [more inside]
I don't know the guest of honor. Should I buy a gift for a 50th birthday party? [more inside]
I got a sweet plastic cauldron for a pre-Halloween party we're having and I'd like to serve punch out of it, but it's not watertight and I don't know that the plastic is safe for serving drinks. What's the best/easiest/cheapest/surest way to make this cauldron a punch bowl? [more inside]
I'm having a birthday party for myself Saturday, and I've put off planning far later than I normally do. Help me out, hivemind! Looking for recipes for: 1) A great savory quickbread that doesn't have onions or garlic (or anything related to those, due to allergies of a couple attendees); 2) A dessert made with apples and/or pears that can either be prepared in advance or prepared up to the point of baking in advance, and then just needs to be put in the oven; 3) Tasty cocktails involving apple cider. Thanks!
Over the weekend we went to a party at my friend Ryan's apartment (not his real name) where he lives with his boyfriend Kevin (also not a real name), then we all went out to a bar. They've been dating for probably a year. My friends Anne and Steven, who are dating, came too -- they don't really know Ryan and Kevin but they came for the party. I ended up leaving fairly early and Anne and Steven were still there, as was my friend Amanda (none of these names are the actual names of participants). I found out yesterday from Steven that Kevin "jokingly" groped Anne which is obviously profoundly not okay. I have a few questions about how to proceed from here. Don't know if this matters but I am a woman so it would be great if suggestions about specific steps I should take could please bear that in mind. [more inside]
My longtime friend of more than 20 years is having a formal cocktail party to celebrate his recent engagement to his partner. The invite says no gifts, but I definitely plan to bring a gift. This friend is very special to me. Given this is an LGBT couple (not sure that really matters here, isn't a cocktail party a cocktail party whether it's a gay or straight couple?) I would appreciate your gift ideas. Thank you!
We're having an Sunday afternoon (1-4pm) cheesecake reception for 2 dozen people, and also want to provide fruit, veggies, cheese, and crackers. How much non-cheesecake food should we provide for a group this size, if most of them are also eating cheesecake? What about beverages? [more inside]
I'm the lady at my office who sends out the "Everyone please wish a Happy Birthday to X!" emails. I try to include a cute animated gif in all of them. I'm running out of birthday-themed gifs a few weeks into this game. Wanna help me compile celebration and birthday gifs? [more inside]