My 19 yr old son has decided to drop out of college after this semester to find himself. The problem is he is without a plan and I believe very depressed. He has been to a therapist in the past and has an appt to see the therapist next week. In the meantime he has called us sometimes crying and saying he doesn’t understand why he is in college. snowflake inside [more inside]
posted by lasamana
on Oct 31, 2013 -
I'm a 30 year old living in the Cleveland area looking to get out of a dead end job, and would appreciate some good resources or advice on how to find something new. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by Thanquol180
on Oct 27, 2013 -
My wonderful nephew is thinking about coming out, but the rest of the family is very religious & conservative. How can I help? Avalanche inside. [more inside]
posted by aviatrix
on Oct 17, 2013 -
My PC has about 1.5TB of HD memory, and about 75% of it is free. And 2GB more of RAM was recently installed, increasing total RAM to about 6GB. But I am discovering that has little effect on why a program would display an out of memory message. I access the program, which is a website builder, from my desktop. Each time the program crashes, I find changes to work most recently done. And now, I am afraid to continue working on one of the saved versions because of the possibility of more crashes. I tried the Microsoft Fix It for OOM errors, but it didn't seem to help. And I've been exchanging messages with Serif, but the answers haven't been as helpful as I've hoped.
Why is this happening and what, if anything, can I do to find out what is stealing the memory and stop it?
posted by CollectiveMind
on Oct 14, 2013 -
I'm lesbian. My tennis instructor hits on me. I really respect him/think he's a cool guy/want us to be friends. What do I do? [more inside]
posted by thelivingsea
on Oct 11, 2013 -
Was I sexually violated? I keep obsessing about this, I don't know if the other parties care or have declared me a pariah [more inside]
posted by Jewel98
on Oct 6, 2013 -
My brother and I are searching for a loved childhood book. He found it on a rare book website, paid for a copy, and never heard from the seller again. We're more interested in finding the book than tracking down the bum. The problem is, we've forgotten the author, and are uncertain about the actual title.
It's about a boy who wants a dog, and goes to sleep (I think the night before his birthday) and has a hallucinogenic dream about a giant dog and stairways to the sky and a giant door with an inscription on it. When he wakes up, there is a real puppy waiting for him, I think as his birthday present.
I remember the cover was green. It was an oversize picture book. I think the title was "The Wishing Tree" but I can't find the book under that title anywhere. I read it in the mid-60's.
Thank you for your help!
posted by aimeedee
on Aug 19, 2013 -
I got a book published a couple of years ago. I love being able to give copies to people once in a a while. I expect I'd like to be able to keep doing this for many years to come. Thus far, I just order new books as I need them. But is it likely that at some point it'll no longer be possible to order more copies? Should I be stocking up on the book? How to other authors out there handle this? I'd rather not have to keep a million copies around if I can avoid it (it's a small place I've got) but I'd hate to find, that, say, in ten years, I'm out of copies to give away, and no more can be had anywhere...
posted by ManInSuit
on Jun 21, 2013 -
We're about to kick out our 5th bandmate (for legitimate reasons: skill is low, ear is bad, attitude is defensive and lazy), who also happens to be one of my best friends. I want to make sure we do it in the most compassionate, generous way possible. What are some things to do -- and to avoid doing -- when we finally sit down with him? [more inside]
posted by qzar
on Jun 3, 2013 -
Considering dropping out of 1st year humanities PhD program. Terrified of starving on the streets. Help? [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on May 12, 2013 -
Damn you facebook. An acquaintance (at best) posted on facebook that he is glad Jimi, Curt, Hank, etc died young because they would have at some point started being old/fat/lazy/sell out, etc (Fade Away). I want to throw out a few names of people who not only kept making good music but who had a critically better musical period later in life.
posted by kenaldo
on Apr 9, 2013 -
What should I know before I camp out at the Supreme Court to try to see the oral arguments in the marriage cases in late March? What should I pack? How is the line policed? [more inside]
posted by zahava
on Mar 6, 2013 -
I need to replace the entry door to the garage soon, but with an extremely tight budget, limited time, an angry mother, and an asshole older brother. Help! Details inside. [more inside]
posted by HiphopAnonymous
on Sep 11, 2012 -
Should I leave my graduate school? Is it even worth it to get a master's degree? Long story inside. [more inside]
posted by ohmansocute
on Jul 3, 2012 -
Should I do more work projects for my wife using my special skills, even though I despise the project? [more inside]
posted by ljs30
on May 30, 2012 -
Moving out of my apartment and I have a few questions on how to handle the last month of rent and the security deposit. [more inside]
posted by Diskeater
on May 21, 2012 -
I recently came across the phrase "tricked out"--used just the way we use it today--in a book from the late 1800s. I was so shocked that I searched Project Gutenberg and found it used all over the place. What's the deal? And what are some other current-sounding phrases that go back further than you would think--used the way we use them today?
posted by circular
on May 16, 2012 -
Help me decide whether, and how, to man up with a shy friend I like-like with a significant age gap. Cue the snowflakes. [more inside]
posted by hungry hippo
on May 4, 2012 -
I'm 22, 6'3" and about 270 lbs. I have been steadily gaining weight over college (which I'm starting my senior year next semester) and really haven't had much time to devote to fitness and weight loss. I know diet & exercise are key. I want to drop down to at most 250 in weight. I've started to have lots of back pain, mostly I think due to being overweight. [more inside]
posted by snow_mac
on Apr 7, 2012 -
What's a good way to give a class full of people the opportunity to share email addresses? [more inside]
posted by ManInSuit
on Feb 25, 2012 -
How to move out of parents house when your attending college with no money or job? I don't have clear goal in what I want to do. [more inside]
posted by Parh6512
on Jan 17, 2012 -
I'm a girl. You're a guy. We're making out, but we won't be doing anything past that tonight. How do I let you know that so you don't feel like I'm leading you on? Or do I let you know at all? [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Jan 14, 2012 -
I am currently Traveling in Indonesia and cannot connect to either Facebook or twitter. I am on a mac which is returning a timeout for the server. i am connected via a cable modem through an ethernet cable. Two other computers - one a mac and one a PC are able to connect to my account via this same cable. I am able to connect to other internet sites with my mac and am also able to connect to facebook and twitter via the aformentioned guest computers. Can you help me Hive?
posted by citybuddha
on Jan 11, 2012 -
I'd like to invite myself to see an old friend, without actually inviting myself. how to do it without looking like an inconsiderate boob? [more inside]
posted by camdan
on Dec 4, 2011 -
My friend wants to end a relationship with his girlfriend who he shares an apartment with. He is looking for some advice about how to deal with the apartment itself, since his name is on the lease. Should he pay her the money for the remaining months of rent in one lump sum? Or Should he suggest that they both move out, and then they split the cost of breaking the lease? And, if she wants to stay she can stay and pay full rent? He would love some ideas- its so hard to bring logistics into a very emotional situation. Thank you!
posted by Equiprimordial
on Nov 24, 2011 -
I need examples of ethnic restaurants in countries you wouldn't expect to find that type of ethnic restaurant. [more inside]
posted by lstanley
on Nov 1, 2011 -
Need help regarding inter-cultural communication gaps and advice regarding moving out. [more inside]
posted by raintree
on Sep 1, 2011 -
How do I handle this situation without looking like a jerk?
We have a new person at work. This person will need a laptop and the company will purchase it. I have a laptop purchased by our company, but it's about 2-3 years old. I'd like to get a new laptop as mine is somewhat outdated, but the if I get a new one, the company wants me to give my old one to the new person. How do I handle this? I'm going to be in charge of the transfer and this new person will see that I am getting a new one while he is getting my old one. I don't want to look like a jerk. What do I say? Help?
posted by focus
on Jul 18, 2011 -
Sexually attracted to men, emotionally attracted to women. My sexual orientation? I don't know. Lots of detail. I need support. Help me. [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Jul 7, 2011 -
Wife and I will be in KC (Excelsior Springs) over the 4th. We've heard some "meh" reviews about the food of the place we're staying at, so we may need alternatives. What restaurants in the KC metro area will be open on the holiday?
posted by Gingercat
on Jul 3, 2011 -
Roommate is mad that I'm moving out. We're on a month to month rental and I have contacted the landlord to end with the last day being July 31. I was typing a text to friend and the current roommate ended up receiving it. He's pissed that he received it through a text message and not through face to face interaction. He's now threatened to withhold July's rent until July 15, 2011, the last day possible according to the Saskatchewan Tenant Act. How do I make the current living situation as good as possible? I don't intend on escalating the situation and I'm going to ignore his threat. [more inside]
posted by DetriusXii
on Jun 21, 2011 -
For the California folks:
I go to school out of state, and I accidentally let my vehicle registration expire. I'm trying to figure out how I can get it done quickly and remotely. My primary concern is the smog test - I'm due for one this year. Searching the internet has given me mixed responses, with some saying you have to go back to CA to get smog tests, and others saying you can waive it in absentia. I need to drive as soon as possible, so I'd really appreciate a prompt response!
posted by howgenerica
on May 30, 2011 -
Had a brief, but harsh exchange of words with someone on an online message board where I stated his response of "No Homo" made me feel uncomfortable. He said I was the most humorless person on the board. Should I learn to accept a joke even if I don't like it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on May 14, 2011 -
Workout Question - A few years ago I went away from my cardio-only gym routine and added in weight lifting. I did chest press, lat pull downs, shoulder press, etc. I'm a girl, btw. I lost a little weight but now my arms are bulky, not super muscly but just bulkier and sometimes they don't fit in my shirts. I enjoy lifting weights but I feel conflicted about it if my arms are going to continue to get bigger and bigger. My question is - how do I continue to lift weights without my arms getting bulkier and bulkier? I would like to also make my arms less bulky if possible.. Are push-ups a good option?
posted by AngryLlama
on Apr 28, 2011 -
I'm planning to drop out of grad school in a few weeks. My questions is, when do I tell my advisor? I would wait until the last day of the semester, but I have a big presentation that will require my thesis committee member's time. I really don't want to do this presentation so would telling my advisor before this happens be a good idea? I also feel it would be more decent of me to tell my advisor sooner rather than later, but I'm not sure what to do. My advisor can be really mean and may make my life a living hell for the final weeks/days that I'm there (though I guess I deserve it). Any insight is greatly appreciated.
posted by Lost82
on Apr 26, 2011 -
Help organising a hen do in London needed!
I need to organise a hen do, in London (UK). The slight catch is that it's in two weeks' time and I have no idea what to do. Hoping the hive mind can come to my rescue! [more inside]
posted by cmarie
on Mar 4, 2011 -
What do I say to a professor about why I want to drop out of a lab project with a professor without burning relations? [more inside]
posted by proficiency101
on Jan 26, 2011 -