Online-dating filter: Should I confront him about bringing his girlfriend on what I thought was a date, or just let it all go? [more inside]
posted by aabbbiee on Oct 12, 2009 - 30 answers

[overthinking filter] Should I pay for match.com platinum? [more inside]
posted by mercredi on Aug 3, 2009 - 18 answers

I met someone that I (really) like through an online dating service (rhymes with batch.bomb) - but I'm in correspondence (and in one case f2f) withe several others. What should I say to them? [more inside]
posted by youchirren on Aug 2, 2009 - 8 answers

Good online dating sites in the UK that aren't cheap and tacky? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 14, 2009 - 8 answers

Good UK online dating sites for people who can spell?
posted by humblepigeon on Jul 14, 2009 - 14 answers

We met on eHarmony but live long distance from each other. After a few weeks of great emails and phone calls, we travelled to the same city to meet in person, had a wonderful time and had sex. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 16, 2009 - 15 answers

Online dating: How do you interpret a reply that doesn't seem to further the conversation? Is the non-response response a response or a non-response? Let's do some emotional forensics over-analysis. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 4, 2009 - 32 answers

Is it socially acceptable for a male college student to use online dating? If so, what service should I use? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 16, 2009 - 26 answers

Unemployed and dating... Advice! [more inside]
posted by IAmBroom on Mar 16, 2009 - 36 answers

[OnlineDatingFilter]: What to do when you've sent an intro email that you, after the fact (of course) realize is not some of your best, er, work? Ride it out and hope that maybe the recipient will see through the momentary lapse in reason or cleverness to the sparkling gem inside? Follow up with a mea culpa of sorts, in which you write what you really wanted to write initially but were trying to be too clever or pithy or whatever? Chalk it up to a learning experience and forget about it? [more inside]
posted by hapax_legomenon on Mar 16, 2009 - 26 answers

Do you talk on the phone before you go on first dates with people you meet online? [more inside]
posted by dyslexictraveler on Dec 9, 2008 - 30 answers

What's the best online dating site for the UK? Details, annecdotes, and answers to other little questions welcome. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 17, 2008 - 10 answers

I'm not a bad writer, but I'm really, really bad at writing online dating emails. Please give me some tips on how to write an excellent online dating email. [more inside]
posted by Sloop John B on Oct 20, 2008 - 43 answers

How do I politely say "thanks, but no thanks" when someone messages me from an online dating site? I've recently joined okcupid, mostly to meet new people, and so far have had some really nice conversations. However, I've also had some people contact me that I don't seem to have anything in common with. I don't want to just delete their messages - that seems rude, when they've gone out on a limb to message me. But what's a polite way to say I don't see anything to talk about, without that turning into its own conversation?
posted by anonymous on Aug 28, 2008 - 39 answers

Online dating issues. How close is too close *before* you meet someone in real life? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 8, 2008 - 18 answers

Occasionally, I respond to online personal ads that do not have a picture attached. I ask for a picture, and sometimes, when I see the pictures, I'm not attracted in the least to the person. Shallow, I know, but physical attraction is important to me. What is a polite way of saying this without hurting their feelings?
posted by angiewriter on Jun 13, 2008 - 33 answers

Widow in her mid-thirties would like some dating tips... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 7, 2008 - 35 answers

How to send that first email in the world of online dating. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 28, 2008 - 47 answers

Do you know of any good dating sites which mainly serve South America? [more inside]
posted by Ashley801 on Dec 8, 2007 - 1 answer

Dating sites: Some seem to work better than others. By work I mean getting interest/dates out of them. There's a lot of variance in design and functionality amongst these sites. I'm inclined to believe in the cases where the site totally didnt work there's something fundamentally flawed about them. [more inside]
posted by browolf on Nov 8, 2007 - 13 answers

I'm a female about to venture into the world of online dating. Are there any norms/rules/trends that I should know about? [more inside]
posted by cookie googleman on Sep 26, 2007 - 17 answers

Have you used Chemistry.Com? eHarmony? Match? Etc.? [more inside]
posted by WCityMike on Sep 20, 2007 - 48 answers

I met a really great guy online, talked for hours (30+) across 4 days. We've got a lot in common, but the first in person meeting/date (dinner & a movie) went horribly when I forgot how to interact with human beings. After a couple of days of not talking we're back up to where we were: several hours of conversation a night. I'd like to ask him out again. Any suggestions on what to do or where to go? Any tips on how to actually remember to talk on a date? [more inside]
posted by aristan on Aug 13, 2007 - 11 answers

OnlineDatingFilter: what's up with the non-meet-up? [more inside]
posted by violetk on Jul 11, 2007 - 44 answers

What should I put in my first email to someone I found on an online dating site? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 1, 2007 - 32 answers

I'm looking for an article I read online a few years ago. It mentioned how many emails, instant messages and phone calls it takes to equal one in-the-flesh date, such as "it takes one email conversation or 1 hour of instant messaging to equal one date". Help me find it!!!
posted by damnjezebel on Apr 24, 2007 - 4 answers

This question is for women who have used online dating : What are your most common reasons for breaking off an email exchange with a man who you met through online dating? Also, once you have given the man your phone number, and he calls you, what are your most common reasons for not returning the phone call? [more inside]
posted by kenoshakid on Dec 13, 2006 - 41 answers

I have to fill out one of those lovely online dating questionaires, and am having trouble coming up with witty, charming things to say about myself. How to overcome this particular form of writers' block? [more inside]
posted by kenoshakid on Nov 14, 2006 - 18 answers

What's the best online dating site? [more inside]
posted by otherwordlyglow on Sep 7, 2006 - 63 answers

What do you do if you met online, got married, and completely told your close friends how it happened BUT didn't tell other people? In fact, you lied, declaring you were set up by friends. You thought the other people would be passing acquantainces but they became much closer friends..... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 28, 2006 - 25 answers

What are your favorite subtle questions to ask, while in the early stages of dating, that'll help reveal some insight into the real personality of your potential S.O.? [more inside]
posted by peewee on Jun 22, 2006 - 50 answers

If a guy is not a player why would he continue to frequent a dating site a month into what seems to be a pretty good relationship for both of us? [more inside]
posted by terra on May 19, 2006 - 36 answers

RelationshipFilter: How much does chemistry matter over the long haul? Or, please don't tell me this is my last AskMe relationship question. (Very long, very self-absorbed more inside) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 4, 2006 - 37 answers

So you met someone online and experienced the technological equivalent of the "thunderbolt." You found yourself in love, based only on text, knowing it was crazy. Then you met in person. How did it go? [more inside]
posted by helcat on Dec 1, 2005 - 52 answers

I know I can't control the internet, but there is someone looking at my website in a creepy fashion, and I don't want them to anymore. Well really, I never did. How should I deal with this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 5, 2005 - 22 answers

OnlineDatingFilter: Nerve.com personals was once great. Now it sucks. Any suggestions for replacing a once-great source of intelligent singles with a dating site that actually has a client base that has a nominal number of people worthwhile courting? [more inside]
posted by lalochezia on Sep 25, 2005 - 44 answers

Match.com question for the straight guys in tha hizzouse. [more inside]
posted by tristeza on Aug 22, 2005 - 31 answers

Half-past Thirty Dating Filter: Here I am dating at 34, and it sure is a drag. But online dating sites make it strangely easy also. I'm curious about how people think about dating etiquette. [more inside]
posted by OmieWise on Jul 22, 2005 - 33 answers

What are your experiences with online dating? [+]
posted by slipperywhenwet on Feb 12, 2005 - 29 answers

DatingSiteFilter: One thing that annoys me on dating sites is profiles that are very short - just 2-3 lines or so. I'd like to know a bit about potential matches (yes, I'm picky!) But I'm wondering if having too long a profile is a turn-off to women. I'm a guy in his late twenties who totally believes in honesty, and my profile on a couple of sites is about 600 words long. This is so I don't accidentally end up with people who won't fit (I'm an atheist libertarian among other things). Is my profile too long? Should I keep some "mystery" back? Am I not getting any contacts because women might be falling asleep by the time they finish reading? Please share your thoughts and experiences.
posted by anonymous on Feb 7, 2005 - 31 answers

Online dating diplomacy. If you decide after an email or two that you are not interested in the other person, either because the conversation is uninspiring or the pictures they send are unappealing, should you actually write to tell them "sorry, but I'm not interested?" Or is that worse than falling silent and letting the correspondence die? Some people persist if you don't respond, and ask "what's the deal? you didn't like my pic?" I honestly don't know what's the best thing to say, if anything. Honesty is not the same as full disclosure, and I just feel that random people really don't need to hear that I find them undesireable / uninteresting. I figure if I just stop writing, most people will simply write me off and move on. What do you think?
posted by scarabic on Jan 31, 2005 - 38 answers