I found out my bf has been telling a female coworker he's unhappy with me and our newborn baby. I am hurt and angry. Now what? [more inside]
Four weeks after giving birth I suddenly became unable to sleep and the problem persists. Heavy medication keeps it in check but makes my life dull and keeps me from enjoying my baby girl to the fullest. What could cause my insomnia? YANMD, of course. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
What's the safest way to deal with having a newborn baby and needing to manually open the door, on another floor, to my apartment building several times a day? [more inside]
How hard is it, really, to do your own newborn photography for baby announcements? [more inside]
Mr. liet and I are expecting a baby in July, and as he'll be our first baby, and I have absolutely zero experience with other people's babies, I have questions. The AskMe archives have covered most of them, but I'm curious about two things: how much and what kind of clothing we should have on hand, and how to disseminate our registry without throwing a baby shower. [more inside]
I'm expecting in a few months and am not with the father. We are trying to figure out how to both bond with the baby while not living together, and how long the baby needs to stay in one household before we can switch her every other week. Any advice? [more inside]
My husband and I are expecting a baby in June. Hooray! We live in a one-bedroom, fifth-floor Manhattan walk-up. Yikes... I would really appreciate help with what a newborn baby actually needs in our situation? [more inside]
Teeny Everyday was born ten days ago, and mom and baby are doing very well. To celebrate paternity leave ending, Mom had the bright (or maybe not so bright) idea of a road trip to her favorite national park, Death Valley. However, I've only been there once, and am somewhat hazy on the details of how we got to certain places of interest, like Zabriskie Point. Is this trip unrealistic with a newborn? [more inside]
I'm 32 weeks pregnant with my first child. Meanwhile, my sweetie's father is succumbing to cancer (so, by the way, is my stepmom, whom I love dearly). I'm interested in tips on how to cope with tough stuff like this while pregnant, how to both be supportive and get the support I need right now. [more inside]
One of my best friends from childhood just gave birth to her second child, a ten-pound boy, in an ice storm. Yikes! We've been texting, and she's had a challenging time with it so far. What can I do to help? [more inside]
Approaching 37 weeks, and all the anxieties of new-mommyhood abound. I've read extensively, bought all the recommended recovery/ nursing/ baby comforting paraphernalia I think would be useful... and I'm still acutely aware that this is our first go-round and my husband and I have ZERO idea what to expect (other than sleep deprivation, a sense of despair, and unpredictability). [more inside]
My family is about to welcome child #2. We have a 2 year old who is about to be a sister. We have done some preparing, but not enough (did I mention we have a 2 year old?). What are your hottest tips 'n' tricks for making life easier in the 1st year of having a second child? [more inside]
As a Colorado resident, what legal/custodial consequences may I face after brief, light usage of marijuana for management of extreme pain from approximately 20-21 weeks gestation? Please be honest but gentle if you can... [more inside]
I just had my newborn son circumcised at a nice modern hospital in a country that doesn't really "do" circumcision (India). After the procedure was over, the doctor asked me if I wanted the foreskin, since (according to him) some people want it to keep it for "religious purposes." Does anyone know what groups keep the removed foreskin and what they do with it? Googling isn't turning up anything, but I might be using the wrong key words.
We just bought a house and had a newborn and today I noticed that the carpet (why carpet is in the bathroom I'll never know) outside the shower was wet. It looks like the shower stall is leaking a bit and the wood around it is moldy. [more inside]
Six days in with my second lovely baby, we're having a bunch of new-to-us challenges. Advice desperately sought. [more inside]
I'm looking for tips on how to have more fun during the early months of parenting a baby. [more inside]
Preparing for our first baby in October and trying to figure out the smartest approach to equipping ourselves with everything we're going to need. So many choices to make! What things should we pay more for because we'd regret pinching pennies, and when is splurging on the pricier stuff a waste? What should we look for new vs used (and not just for safety issues like carseats, but also what's the key "never waste your money on buying X new, you can get it so much cheaper used" stuff)? [more inside]
I am expecting my second baby in about three weeks (!). My first is not quite 2, so it feels like we just did this and we still have all of our stuff. Other than newborn diapers I'm not sure what else we need. Please tell me what I'm missing! A list of some of what we have after the fold. [more inside]
Having my first kid. Need to get stuff. Looking for for some tips! [more inside]
My neighbors are having a baby soon, and I'd like ideas for something useful to give them that won't end up just taking up space in a small apartment. I'll probably be ordering from Amazon UK or eBay UK. We're casual friendly but not close, so offering cooking or housecleaning help wouldn't be appropriate. (I feel pretty sure the new mom will have her mother with her at first.) [more inside]
My birth father (I'm adopted) recently married for the first time and had a son a couple of weeks ago. So I have a baby brother for the first time in my 36 years. I would love to buy him and his wife a present for his marriage and to celebrate their new arrival. I would love this to be thoughtful, and practical and because of this have been frozen. More complications inside. [more inside]
I'm looking for ideas for things to do with my in-laws and my six week old baby that require basically zero walking. [more inside]
My friend just had a baby, I wanted to send her a small-something to let her know that I'm thinking of her and her newborn. What would be good for this? [more inside]
Can anyone recommend a part-time mother's helper that can get to North Cambridge? We want extra support for a week in taking care of this guy. The mom will be at home, and we want to reduce the chances that she gets overwhelmed, starting this Wednesday, after his grandma goes home, and I go back to work.
My partner and I just found out last night that we have been chosen as adoptive parents to a baby... who is due in September! So, suddenly lots to do and lots to learn. Where do we even start?! Instruction manuals, blogs, scholarly articles, To Do Lists, To Don't Do Lists... What are the resources you found indispensable? Which did you find later that you wished you'd had earlier? Which are a waste of my time? We have wonderful family and friends who I know will help us figure all of this out, but I need to start building up my own arsenal of resources.
Due to an incredible amount of life changes (including marraige, move, new job and death of a parent) I have barely been able to do all the things you are supposed to do when you are pregnant with your first child. Due date is a little over am month away. On top of that I have gained too much weight and feel very uncomfortable, especially at work. My questions range from how do I make the next six weaks bearable (especially at my desk job) given I've outgrown my maternity clothes and feel really uncomfortable physically, to what are the top three things I must learn and/or have before baby arrives? [more inside]
I'm expecting my first child in just a few days. Other than Vonnegut's [title], what are some good, creative, sweet, snarky, or famous things to say to a new born baby to welcome her to the world? [more inside]
Considering getting a bedside co-sleeper for my baby. Parents who've used these, were they worth the money in your experience? [more inside]
So, yes, I love it when my adorable newborn falls asleep on my chest. But how can I get her to transition to the bassinet so I can get some sleep? [more inside]
Currently 10 weeks pregnant with our first. We are trying to brainstorm everything we can possibly do ahead of time to make maternity leave and the first weeks/months home with a newborn go as smoothly as possible. Some examples: buy a chest freezer and fill it with meals that can just be popped in the microwave or oven. Save up for doggie day care passes to get our dogs out of the house and tired out in the beginning. Veteran parents, please enlighten us as to anything and everything else we can be doing to help us get through the acclimation period! [more inside]
Complication: moving transatlantically soon. [more inside]
I would like to give a subscription for diaper delivery to a friend. I want to make sure I do it right, though. Does anyone have experience with diaper subscriptions? [more inside]
Our first child is due in the next few weeks! This isn't a question about getting ready - we've done a lot of preparation (see inside). I want to know how you enjoyed those first crazy weeks. Were you able to relax into the sleep deprivation and rhythm-less newborn life? Do you look back on those days fondly? We expect to be tired and frazzled, but we want to intentionally savor this special time. We will have ~8 weeks at home together with our baby. Tell me how you did it. [more inside]
I’m currently expecting my first child, who is due around Halloween. I have some minor and probably totally inconsequential—yet nagging—worries about her expected birthdate, and would love if those of you who are late fall babies OR a parent of a late fall baby would come in and assuage my concerns. [more inside]
Not the happiest circumstances to bring a new child into this world. After years of supporting her husband, financially and emotionally, she's reached her limit. He's dealing with some addiction issues, and has become increasingly hostile with the birth of this baby. Maybe they'll work this out one day, but right now she doesn't feel safe, has filled her car with personal belongings and is staying with family. She left him a lengthy note, but does not want to talk to him in the next few days. This has been a long time coming, and while I don't imagine it will be a surprise—his family has actually encouraged her to do this—he won't react well. What sort of legal precautions should she begin taking? [more inside]
We're using all the advice from the Happiest Baby on the Block to get Little Stardust to fall asleep. It works the majority of the time and I can successfully get him to fall asleep by swaddling, rocking, white noise, etcetera. The problem is that he'll only stay asleep as long as I'm holding him. [more inside]
In the next two weeks, there will be a new addition to our household -- a baby. (Not mine.) And since it's not mine, I would prefer not to hear it. There are lots of AskMes about earplugs, but many (like the ETY ones) use as a selling point that they don't muffle speech. I want to muffle everything. Best ear protection for the job, <$30?
How can I carry my 7 week old who is too big for a sling but too small/young to be carried in a standard upright carrier? [more inside]
I need to hire a nanny. I've got over 30 applicants to an ad on one of the big caregiver websites, and I'm working on setting up interviews with a couple of the applicants. I need your help so I don't screw up and hire someone I'm going to regret for a really important job. [more inside]
I'm going to be a proud first-time papa in a couple months, and I'm gearing up for the madness and joy to come. I've really enjoyed reading non-fiction anecdotes about fathers and children, and I was wondering if you had any books you might recommend? Hopefully nothing 'Chicken Soup for the ____'-ish, but more along the New Yorker-y lines of Paris to the Moon by Adam Gopnik and Home Game by Michael Lewis. [more inside]
I have a 4 day old baby and my 2 year old just came down with a fever (101.5 at the moment). We don't have anyone who can take the toddler for a couple of days, but I am afraid the baby or my wife might get sick. I am really worried. What should I do?
My 1.5 week old baby was born a month early and is being treated for an extremely rare, incurable genetic disorder discovered last weekend via newborn screening. I haven't told anyone beyond my parents, and in the meantime everyone keeps offering to help with/visit the baby. What should I do with them? I can't bear to have the same horrible conversation over and over. [more inside]
Parents of Metafilter: What the best gift you can give new parents? Everyone has suggestions for the baby but what about the parents? What are the things you wished you had/realized you couldn't live without when dealing with your first kid? How could someone have made your life easier despite being on the other side of the planet? [more inside]
I'm expecting my first child next week and have chosen his pediatrician, but the doctor takes unvaccinated patients. How dangerous would it be to bring an unvaccinated newborn into this office?
We're Brits in Washington DC about to have our first baby! We have bicycles but don't own a car (use Zipcar / taxis). All the standard baby-prep advice seems to assume owning a car... so do you guys have any tips for car-free baby living? In particular: car seats (for occasional use / quick installation), diaper services and bike trailers? Details inside! [more inside]
Expecting our first baby in about 2 months now. I have been so consumed with reading up on this pregnancy & labor that I have neglected to learn about what to do AFTER that. You know, when the little homunculus is actually out of my belly and chilling in our living room. Please share your best book recommendations for newborns. Humorous and serious alike. Telling me not to read and let instincts take over is also acceptable with anecdotes.
Please describe your co-sleeping experiences [more inside]
I'm building a baby registry. a) What was your absolute most-used, wouldn't-survive-without-it thing you had on your baby registry? b) And what were you absolutely certain you'd use all the time that just gathered dust? [more inside]
A 2-parter for parents (from a soon-to-be): 1) What did you think was going to be easy, but turned out to be hard? 2) What did you think was going to be hard, but turned out to be easy? [more inside]