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Wedding Planner Getting Married in Hawaii on a Budget

I am getting married in Hawaii - that much is certain. It is going to be a small wedding (because of travel requirements). When I say small, I mean probably 10 and 20 would be the absolute most. [more inside]
posted by locussst on Feb 20, 2014 - 12 answers

How do people find money to move out when separating or divorcing?

A asks B for a divorce. B is not surprised. B agrees, even though B would prefer to stay in an unhappy marriage rather than be branded with a scarlet D*. A wants to move out ASAP. Generally speaking, how do the financial logistics of this work? No special snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 11, 2014 - 17 answers

Step by step guide to get our future married house in order?

We're getting hitched! Yay! I freak out about money, and I freak out that my fiancé doesn't freak out about money as much as I freak out. Is there a good step-by-step guide you'd recommend that we can go through together to make sure we're covering all of our bases for saving for retirement, saving for other stuff, and paying down debt?
posted by ashtabula to opelika on Jan 16, 2014 - 12 answers

Separate or wait to see if things get better?

My husband and I have been together for 9 years, married for the last 3. We met when I was 19, and him 21. Recently I have been feeling like I might want out. I still love him, but I am not sure that he is going to change in ways which I would prefer him to. Should I tell him I want to separate or wait to see if things get better? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 19, 2013 - 35 answers

Healthy ways of working with financial imbalances in relationships?

I grew up in a lower-middle-class family. Through a combination of hard work, opportunity and luck, I find myself in my 30's with a very decent net worth. It's enough to allow me to feel very secure about retirement, job/career changes, health issues, supporting family, etc. and this security is probably the most important aspect of money to me. For me, money means security, safety, freedom. I maintain a very middle-class lifestyle, continue to work full-time and save at a reasonable rate. I've started to realize how much this factors into my thinking about long term relationships, especially marriage (and its attendant family joining) and financial co-mingling, and am looking for some perspectives on positive ways of managing these kinds of issues. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 27, 2013 - 21 answers

Financial benefits of marriage.

The (unromantic) case for marriage. [more inside]
posted by hellameangirl on Apr 2, 2013 - 46 answers

How do I prioritize between emergency savings, retirement, and student loan payments in a new marriage?

Newly married, and trying to figure out emergency savings vs. retirement vs. paying off debt vs. saving for a family. Please help me prioritize. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 7, 2012 - 22 answers

How can I prevent my history of money from hurting my marriage?

My history with money, coupled with recent life challenges, is affecting my marriage. I am stressed and angry; my partner is (probably) depressed and overwhelmed. How can we grow together, not apart? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 29, 2012 - 13 answers

I really, really, really don't want him to be THAT guy.

My husband has the opportunity to buy a [lower-end luxury brand sports car] from an ill family friend for a great deal. I am totally against it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 6, 2012 - 146 answers

Should I stay or should I go?

Husband's mental health problems led him to compulsively spend over £27,000 (about $44,000) while I supported both of us for three years. I know he'll work hard on therapy, but I don't know if I should divorce him. Should I try and forgive? [warning, long!] [more inside]
posted by TriparteGoddess on Apr 29, 2012 - 62 answers

Please give me your tips for how you approach the issue of money in a marriage.

Please give me your tips for how you approach the issue of money in a marriage. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 2, 2012 - 37 answers

How can I get over this breach of trust?

How to get over a serious breach of trust that is not infidelity? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 21, 2011 - 28 answers

Separation within a marital residence: is it doable?

I think I need a break in my marriage. I've been a lot of emotional pain, and his behavior is making it worse and worse. However, we'd so damn poor that we couldn't even afford to physically separate. What's the likelihood of a separation within a marital residence actually working out? Have you tried it? What happened? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 9, 2011 - 22 answers

So what about Mint?

I like Mint.com and I want to use it. My wife, she disagrees. This has caused some consternation. Maybe you can help. [more inside]
posted by kbanas on Nov 10, 2010 - 45 answers

Help us make our future happy.

Mid-twenties couple living in a big city trying to save up for the future. How the heck to people do it? Help us figure out what we're doing wrong and how to fix it. [more inside]
posted by your mom's a sock puppet on Oct 14, 2010 - 71 answers

He wants a wedding and I don't. Help!

The thought of planning a wedding makes me (female, mid-twenties) want to break out into hives. Problem: my (male, mid-twenties) partner LOVES weddings and desperately wants one. HELP! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 13, 2010 - 40 answers

Why can't I win even if I win?

When you "win" an argument with your spouse, it's not really winning, or is it? [more inside]
posted by abdulf on Sep 17, 2010 - 47 answers

how long is too long to wait?

Unemployed significant other filter: how long is too long to wait? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 30, 2010 - 61 answers

How can I make a budget we can BOTH stick to?

Our household income has been cut in half in the last six months and although we theoretically have enough money to get buy, we keep running out. We're really bad at this. Help? (details inside) [more inside]
posted by threeturtles on Aug 21, 2010 - 36 answers

Normal wedding jitters, or a sign of bad things to come?

I’m engaged. Wedding date is set, I have my dress and all our vendors are booked. But, thinking about life with my fiancé is scaring me. Is this normal pre-wedding jitters, my own anxiety, or a sign that we aren’t right for each other? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 16, 2010 - 60 answers

Big bad marriage trouble. How can I get us out of trouble and not get fooled again?

I missed the clue train. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 17, 2010 - 75 answers

What's yours is ours

Marital Finances filter: I'm curious about how couples decide if they are going to be an "our money" couple or a "your money/my money" couple. [more inside]
posted by ThatCanadianGirl on Apr 13, 2010 - 69 answers

Newlywed Financial Advice

[FinancialAdviceFilter] I'm graduating college and getting married. Now what? [more inside]
posted by kraigory on Apr 7, 2010 - 9 answers

Why do I feel guilty for not wanting a Wedding?

Minimalist vow-exchangers: any regrets later on not having a wedding? [more inside]
posted by blazingunicorn on Jan 17, 2010 - 70 answers

Possibly the longest post on askmefi ever

D...d...dowryfilter? Maybe? I'm getting married to a Chinese woman, very soon, and her rather wealthy parents are asking (hinting, in this face-sensitive culture, so I think that's what it is, but it could mean something else?) where my divorced, broke parents' contribution to the marriage is, or, in lieu of theirs, mine. They've tossed a $140,000 duplex our way, a prime rental property, and a ton of financial support for their daughter. I have about $400 in the bank and an okay freelance career. Barring 10 years to save up and match that...what, exactly, can I do to prevent this from getting really, really, really awkward? A long, rambling explanation follows. [more inside]
posted by saysthis on Sep 29, 2008 - 19 answers

Love and Money

My husband of five months and I have different attitudes towards money. He’s more money conscious that I am, at least, that’s what he calls it. I think of his “money-consciousness” as a cross between minor cheapness and money obsession. I am right now at a crossroads in the relationship and I don’t know how to solve it or whether I should even continue it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 8, 2008 - 56 answers

money troubles

I want to start being more financially responsible. My husband doesn't want to hear it. Can I do this without hurting our marriage? How? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 4, 2008 - 35 answers

Should I just give him the money?

My husband is financially irresponsible. Do I bail him out? (Sorry for the long post) [more inside]
posted by triggerfinger on May 7, 2007 - 38 answers

Hating our money life right now

Will budgeting help? [more inside]
posted by frosty_hut on Apr 9, 2007 - 22 answers

Wither thou go-est...into credit problems?

Help! I need tips for cleaning up my credit before I get hitched. [more inside]
posted by weirdoactor on Dec 1, 2006 - 10 answers

Take the job or leave it?

Should I stay or should I go now? How do I decide? [more inside]
posted by Koffeeman on Jul 6, 2006 - 20 answers

How to talk about money with my spouse.

Money is difficult. I'm familiar with Your Money or Your Life, "pay yourself first", Quicken, The Tightwad Gazette, etc. but my money problems seem to be intertwined with a lot of relationship stuff that is hard to unravel. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 8, 2006 - 45 answers

Tips for an engaged couple merging their finances?

Tips for an engaged couple merging their finances? What are some strategies that have been successful in merging your finances? What has not? We're looking to save for common goals and equally contribute towards our household and food expenses, but also have some autonomy with our money so we can buy our own things or treats every so often without feeling accountable to one another. [more inside]
posted by FearTormento on Feb 27, 2006 - 31 answers

What's the best way for a married guy to get some play money?

Mr. Straight Arrow pays all his bills on time, works like a slave, and has a joint account with his spouse, but wants some fun money to splurge with his kid at a ball game, buy a scooter or go nuts at Sports Authority without his wife giving him grief over spending too much. Is this a separate stash in joint bank account, or something else?
posted by terrier319 on Apr 14, 2005 - 20 answers

Handling money in a relationship.

How do you handle money within your relationship? [more inside]
posted by croutonsupafreak on Feb 17, 2005 - 37 answers

Help me convince my wife to diversify our investments

My wife and I argue all the time about financial matters, but the problem certainly isn't one that I have heard from anyone else. The thing is, we have plenty of money -- more than enough to be comfortable. Hopefully someone here has an idea to help me (us). [MI] [more inside]
posted by bagels on Jan 28, 2005 - 51 answers

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