I am divorced and retained my married name because I like it and it suits me, and my kids share it. I would like to keep my name, even if I married again. I am dating someone casually who has mentioned that anyone he would marry would have to change her name to his. What is the hive opinion of keeping a name from a previous marriage? Is this unheard of? Should this be a dealbreaker?
posted by Goodgrief on Dec 11, 2009 - 90 answers

My world is destroyed after an affair. I desperately need advice. Its a long story... Please help. [more inside]
posted by wantstobeadesigner on Nov 26, 2009 - 54 answers

My wife has confidence, self esteem issues. We have been married for four years and we have two kids. I live in Canada and she's from S. Africa. She lived there all her life until she was 22. We met there. Got married there. But now live in Canada. [more inside]
posted by alshain on Nov 15, 2009 - 48 answers

How do I make it feel like home? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 14, 2009 - 16 answers

I keep noting a familiar pattern among my friends who "settle down" - either in marriage or a long-term relationship. They inevitably seem to cut themselves off from their friends and refuse to leave the house, even on weekends. Job situations remain a stable variable from their earlier, more social lives - the only thing that changes is the seriousness of the relationship. Kids being a time commitment (and source of exhaustion) I understand - but many if not most of the couples I'm describing do not have children. Is this "normal"? Or is it dysfunctional? What causes it, do you think?
posted by macross city flaneur on Oct 21, 2009 - 82 answers

I am in (long-term, abiding) love with more than one woman. I am marrying one, but I need to deal with my feelings for the other. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 12, 2009 - 30 answers

So my boyfriend and I had the marriage talk; he said no. I'm having difficulty coming to terms with it. Help! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 5, 2009 - 54 answers

My husband is cheating on me and has been for at least two years. He doesn't know I found out. Now what? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 3, 2009 - 67 answers

I found out recently that my ex-girlfriend of 3 years is engaged and getting married in less than 2 months. Should I acknowledge it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 11, 2009 - 54 answers

If you are married, is it mandatory to say so on your Facebook profile? [more inside]
posted by farmersckn on Aug 9, 2009 - 59 answers

If you've felt the temptation to cheat, or have cheated, on a guy: what sorts of things was he neglecting to do around that time? Or what things was he doing? [more inside]
posted by surenoproblem on Jul 13, 2009 - 32 answers

My heart just got smooshed, and then I woke up to this on my iGoogle page. Can you help me keep the hobgoblins of my mind at bay today? [more inside]
posted by ohyouknow on Jul 1, 2009 - 31 answers

I love my husband. But we can't really have sex, and that's not going to change. I'm thinking of looking elsewhere for it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 28, 2009 - 74 answers

I love my husband, he is a wonderful, caring, attractive man but for some reason I don't want to have sex with him even though I'm really REALLY interested in sex. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 9, 2009 - 21 answers

For couples married around 5 years - how many times a month do you have sex? [more inside]
posted by blahtsk on May 27, 2009 - 31 answers

How do you define "success" in relationships? [more inside]
posted by pauldonato on May 27, 2009 - 22 answers

I think I put myself in a compromising position that I think I could have handled differently. New acquaintances came to me privately to essentially say that my wife was very rude to them. I was a tad astonished at their directness, but essentially nodded knowingly. I was there when the *rudeness* happened and said nothing. My wife loves this couple and is trying to make further plans with them which I know will go unanswered. I can't tell my wife why they're not calling back because I did not defend her. What should I have said to this couple when they came to me? [more inside]
posted by teg4rvn on May 27, 2009 - 51 answers

Should marriage even be a hard question? Are there people for whom it was who end up very happy together? [more inside]
posted by namespan on May 8, 2009 - 32 answers

We're trying to get back together, but she has trust issues. How to overcome these? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 16, 2009 - 11 answers

I think she likes me. I think I like her. Do I marry her? Context: Arranged marriage [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 8, 2009 - 23 answers

I've never been someone who practises their married signature or plans a dream wedding dress. Now, suddenly, I like the idea of getting married to my SO very much. Why? Help me reconcile this! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 20, 2009 - 22 answers

Help me find a good marriage advice blog. [more inside]
posted by jeffrygardner on Mar 8, 2009 - 4 answers

How do I move away from needing someone to freely choosing or not choosing them instead? And the closely related question is how do I become more of an individual? [more inside]
posted by doppler68 on Feb 27, 2009 - 10 answers

I have a friend whose friends are Russian brides who got married via an internet site. I'm wondering how long these types of marriages tend to last and what they are like. Are there any blogs or research about experiences of these kinds of relationships?
posted by vizsla on Jan 13, 2009 - 19 answers

When you consider marriage, do you have a time frame? Not for the ceremony, mind you, duration of the bond itself. [more inside]
posted by emhutchinson on Jan 10, 2009 - 62 answers

My long distance marriage is starting to crumble. I don't know what to do. Any comments would be of assistance. Long story inside [more inside]
posted by midwestguy on Dec 8, 2008 - 62 answers

In serious, long-term relationships, how have you dealt with nagging doubts? How have you sorted through those doubts and then either set them aside and committed yourself, or decided to end things? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 12, 2008 - 18 answers

Sleeping together.... no I mean SLEEPING together ... is it still common among partners living together? I always found I got much better sleep alone in my own bed but when partners sleep in separate beds, others seem to think something is wrong with the relationship. What's the common practice/s around the world?
posted by zaebiz on Oct 7, 2008 - 61 answers

I need help understanding how my hyper-smart geek husband's brain works. I want to give him the understanding he craves but am having a hard time inhabiting his plane. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 24, 2008 - 61 answers

Am I just happier being single? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 22, 2008 - 31 answers

How to ask for a divorce after 26 years of marriage? I want to do it in a way that causes as little pain as possible, and makes room for as much constructive problem-solving as possible. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 19, 2008 - 23 answers

I'm getting married in just over 2 weeks time. Some time ago my fiance said he wanted a prenup, and after some resistance I assented. Nothing happened until last week. Now we're in the process and I'm finding it so repellent and depressing that I'm questioning...well, everything. What can I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 1, 2008 - 83 answers

I got engaged a couple of weeks ago, but ever since I have been having huge nagging doubts that I am doing the right thing. I worry I am settling for companionship, caring and safety but without the feelings of passion or true love I should be feeling. I am like the character in the film "Marty" who describes himself as "a short, fat, ugly man" (except I'm not short). What to do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 16, 2008 - 21 answers

Looking for a stellar marriage counselor in Durham/Chapel Hill, NC [more inside]
posted by littleredwagon on Apr 1, 2008 - 5 answers

How do you ignore someone's attitude instead of letting it bring you down? How do you handle living with someone who can be really negative a lot of the time? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 1, 2008 - 17 answers

My husband of five months and I have different attitudes towards money. He’s more money conscious that I am, at least, that’s what he calls it. I think of his “money-consciousness” as a cross between minor cheapness and money obsession. I am right now at a crossroads in the relationship and I don’t know how to solve it or whether I should even continue it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 8, 2008 - 56 answers

Stories about healthy, "normal" marriages? [more inside]
posted by callmejay on Jan 11, 2008 - 41 answers

Statistically speaking, what makes marriages last the longest? [more inside]
posted by Afroblanco on Oct 26, 2007 - 44 answers

I am a guy who has been dating a wonderful girl for four years. We have been living together for most of that time. We are both out of college and in our mid-20s. Though this is my first relationship I feel like we are perfect for each other. She's had other relationships (long and short-term) and feels the same way. I am thinking of asking her to marry me, except for one thing: I am bisexual and it is difficult to give up men. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 28, 2007 - 39 answers

asking for a friend: How can I get my husband to start touching me again? [more inside]
posted by Danila on Sep 28, 2007 - 25 answers

Am I being unreasonable in asking to be treated politely? Is he being too hard on me by basically refusing? Am _I_ the asshole like he says? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 21, 2007 - 27 answers

so okay, due to some spectacular feats of upbringing, my inappropriate-o-meter is all out of whack. So it's a long question. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 2, 2007 - 56 answers

What sorts of experiences, analogies, and general thoughts can people share about interfaith marriages? Specifically, those that have married significant others that are Muslim, but all general interfaith marriage comments would be appreciated. My girlfriend and I come from very similar backgrounds culturally, but are of different religions and we are at a critical stage in our relationship - details inside. [more inside]
posted by copernicus on Jun 11, 2007 - 10 answers

Broke up with her over a year ago; we're still good friends; I never got over her; now I think she might be "the one." What the hell do I do? [more inside]
posted by CommonSense on Apr 20, 2007 - 34 answers

How can I begin changing my views on relationships and romance? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 6, 2007 - 21 answers

Im in town (Lousiville, KY) for two days and my Fiance and I want to get married. Whats the quickest and or best way to do this locally?
posted by slowtree on Feb 21, 2007 - 8 answers

My boyfriend has recently been diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). Alone this is something to come to terms with but on top of this i have just found out he has been lying to me, which has made me question my whole relationship and the very foundations it has been built on. I have no idea what i should do... [more inside]
posted by rainbow_2006 on Feb 14, 2007 - 79 answers

Coping with a relationship with a workaholic? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 21, 2007 - 15 answers

I've recently turned 28, and am still unmarried. For various reasons, I would prefer to stay single. However, my extended family has other ideas [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 14, 2006 - 17 answers

Should I stay with my Clinically Depressed partner or take a chance on love? My wife and I have been together for 10 years. She has Clinical Depression and some physical health problems (nothing extremely serious, but they do effect often effect our sex life.) She is on medication for her Depression, which helps her function. However, it is not a "cure" - it just makes her less depressed and depressed less often (which is normal for C.D.) Recently I met another woman, and yes, have fallen in love . . . [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 8, 2006 - 40 answers