My boyfriend and I have been together for a little under 3 years, and we have lived together for over one year. We are in our late twenties. We are extremely compatible 90% of the time, have so much fun together, are mutually supportive, generally very communicative, and love each other deeply. We get along with each others' families, we travel and live well together, and we share so many interests. I am ready to marry the man, and he is maybe/kinda/sorta ready to marry me. Ouch!
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posted by tentwentythirty
on Feb 22, 2013 -
57 answers
What are some good SECULAR reads (books or websites are both great) on getting engaged, marriage, etc.? Particularly for those who are not engaged but would like to get engaged in the (maybe not-so-distant) future.
Also, some relationship-specific questions inside. Primarily, when's a good time to get engaged?
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posted by BenS
on Dec 18, 2012 -
30 answers
[Psycho Filter] - I love him. He loves me. We intend to get married next year. YAY! But it feels like a
really long time away. Help me to be patient and enjoy the anticipation and build up, because right now I am suffocating in a world of "OMG CAN WE PLZ GET MARRIED YESTERDAY!" eagerness.
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posted by gwenlister
on May 16, 2012 -
28 answers
Me and my girlfriend are going to get engaged in a couple of weeks and both decided that we would rather avoid a formal proposal. Instead, we will spend a day together at the beach and magically emerge engaged.
Given the fact that the surprise quirky engagement is off the table, any ideas for how I can make this an even-less forgettable day?
Bonus question: What are the technical things that you regret missing from when you got engaged? More pictures? Who to tell first? What am I missing?
posted by anonymous
on May 6, 2012 -
18 answers
Surprise marriage proposal filter, askee edition: how did you handle it and what did you notice your spouse doing a lot of before he/she proposed?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 20, 2012 -
20 answers
Why can't I control my stupid feelings? Love one guy, distracted by another, engaged to be married. Advice/personal experience?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 6, 2012 -
33 answers
My boyfriend and I are in our late 20's and we've been together for almost three years. We've talked a lot about marriage (both casually and seriously), and we've both been enthusiastic about it. I'm getting the feeling that he may propose soon, and suddenly I feel nervous about it. I think I'm just generally scared of making such a big life decision. I know it's normal for people to get pre-wedding jitters, but what about pre-engagement?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 3, 2011 -
14 answers
I'm having a difficult time trying to mentally process an ex's recent wedding because I'm hung up on the sex/religion aspect of it all. I need advice on how to stop thinking about him.
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 21, 2011 -
33 answers
How can I stop wondering whether my boyfriend will propose during our romantic getaway?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 16, 2011 -
32 answers
I want to propose to my long-distance girlfriend
this weekend, but I have some lingering doubts.
The opportunity for a special/romantic proposal is coming soon, so I know that if I don't pop the question then, it will be too late. I don't have a ring, and I'm not sure if I should get one.
But I have a few doubts that I would feel better hearing other people's opinions on...
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 5, 2011 -
48 answers
I love my boyfriend very much. We have a wonderful relationship and I would like to get married. We would both like to get married. We've talked about it, and agreed that we share this goal. Yay! However, we have very different ideas about when to get engaged. I want to shout it from the rooftops, but he wants "more time". Please help me understand his reasons for waiting to make our intentions official and public.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 13, 2011 -
31 answers
Help me mitigate the effects of my family's lack of enthusiasm for our engagement.
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posted by OLechat
on Jan 3, 2011 -
5 answers
My boyfriend and I (a woman) have been dating for less than a year. I want to propose marriage to him, but I want to do my due diligence first. What do I need to do, other than wait? In the same way that people say you should focus on the marriage, not the wedding, I want to focus on the engagement, not the proposal.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 21, 2010 -
27 answers
Where can I find statistics on how long a marriage lasts depending on how long the couple has known each other before tying the knot? Do rushed marriages last any less time than those of couples that have already lived together for a couple of years? Is the length of engagement a relevant factor as well?
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posted by omnigut
on May 7, 2010 -
15 answers
Calling all 'alternative' girls! I need some advice on how to propose to my girlfriend (I'm male). Expensive gifts don't impress her, and her tastes are more 'classic' than the norm. I love how she is, but my tastes are much more modern. I'd like to do (and offer) something unique and unforgettable but can't figure out what.
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 23, 2010 -
32 answers
Any suggestions for a pre-marital counselor in Chicago? My fiance and I are doing a church wedding, and we are doing the Catholic pre-Cana requirements, but we actually think our church's requirements are too...minimal.
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posted by bibbit
on Mar 10, 2009 -
3 answers
I'm planning to ask my girlfriend to marry me this summer, when we take a two-week vacation overseas. The trick will be to bring the ring with me in a way that doesn't attract customs', or her, attention.
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 25, 2009 -
34 answers
Relationship Filter: Are we just not good for each other, or am I actually just screwed up from my family and last relationship?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 4, 2008 -
25 answers
I am afraid I am marrying the wrong woman, but I hope that our it will still work. Am I making a mistake?
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posted by fairlysober
on Jul 14, 2008 -
78 answers
My otherwise sensible sister seems to be rushing into an ill-thought-out marriage. Is there any loving and effective way to get her to think more carefully about what she's doing?
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 7, 2008 -
23 answers
I got engaged a couple of weeks ago, but ever since I have been having huge nagging doubts that I am doing the right thing. I worry I am settling for companionship, caring and safety but without the feelings of passion or true love I should be feeling. I am like the character in the film "Marty" who describes himself as "a short, fat, ugly man" (except I'm not short). What to do?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 16, 2008 -
21 answers
[WeddingFilter] I need recommendations for a really,
really basic book or Web site that explains how to plan your own wedding. Bonus points if it holds your hand and tells you "there, there, it will all be alright."
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posted by desjardins
on Mar 25, 2008 -
27 answers
ProposalFilter: I'm proposing in New York City tomorrow, can a New Yorker or someone with good city knowledge make sure my plan will work alright?
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posted by jpcody
on Dec 13, 2007 -
28 answers
How common is it for couples to get married without an expensive engagement ring?
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posted by mpls2
on Nov 19, 2007 -
117 answers
What is the appropriate way to ask one's future father-in-law for his blessing to propose to his daughter, in Spanish? (asking for blessing in Spanish, not proposing in Spanish). This is urgent.
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posted by jewishbuddha
on Nov 15, 2007 -
11 answers
Can anyone reccomend any estate jewelry dealers in the Los Angeles area? I'm looking for a relatively traditional engagement ring in the "couple thousand bucks" price range, but I'm a recent transplant.
posted by anonymous
on Jul 18, 2007 -
7 answers
I asked him to marry me. I live in a very open-minded, liberal and culturally aware area. To my surprize, the general reaction to learning about the engagement is one of complete shock. People seem so amazed that I was bold enough to get down on one knee, ring in hand, and propose to him. Which led me to the question of, how common is it nowadays, for the woman to ask the man to marry?
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posted by engling
on Feb 17, 2007 -
50 answers
Can you buy a girlfriend a ring without asking her to marry you, when the relationship is already going on for 5 years? Not that I don't want to marry her, but we're just not there yet. So the question is: can I buy her a nice ring and not propose, or would that be so weird that it would better be to not give her a ring at all? Thanks for any insights. For the record, I'm 40, she's 35.
posted by hz37
on Feb 13, 2007 -
39 answers
What did you say to your significant other when you asked for their hand in marriage? Or, on the flip side, what was said to you?
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posted by yellowbkpk
on Nov 19, 2006 -
50 answers
Ok, that's it, I can't hold any longer - I'm gonna propose to my lucky girlfriend. But how?
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posted by wibbler
on Dec 28, 2005 -
35 answers
When it feels right, how long should I wait before asking the woman I love to marry me? What do you wish you knew about your significant other/ex-significant other before you took this step?
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posted by jeffe
on Nov 9, 2005 -
34 answers
The girl I love is leaving our work team, and before she goes I want to buy her an engagement ring. I think she may be the one.
The trouble is that (a) I don't know what kind of rings she likes, (b) I don't know what size ring she wears, (c) I don't think she'll say 'yes', and (d) I love her more than she loves me. Quite possibly my love for her is unrequited.
We're both professionals in our 30s, we've had a couple dates, and she knows I care about her. She doesn't know how much though. What are your thoughts and suggestions?
posted by anonymous
on Oct 27, 2005 -
66 answers
Does anyone have experience with a moissanite engagement ring? I hate
the diamond industry because I've been doing human rights work all my life, but those Harry Winston diamond ads make me swoon more than I'd like to admit.
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posted by hamster
on Jun 16, 2005 -
34 answers
Marriagefilter - I (we) got engaged a few weeks ago, and the wedding planning has started. We're frantically searching (our minds, the intraweb) for pre-ceremony songs. Something along the lines of Sarah Mclachlan, something easy for a male and female vocalist. My fiance is even considering a song by Wynonna. Please lend any suggestions; we're brain dead.
posted by tr33hggr
on Jul 24, 2004 -
22 answers
