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Should I wait until after the election to officially change my name?

Mr Millipede and I got married in September. I am taking his last name (and moving my last name to my middle name), but I haven't gone to the social security office to do so yet because work has been very busy and I never got the chance. I now have time to go, but I thought of something: voting. [more inside]
posted by millipede on Oct 21, 2016 - 10 answers

Book or Oral History About Failed Marriages?

I'm doing some research for a story about a broken marriage, and I was wondering if anyone knows of a Studs-Terkel-esque oral history containing interviews with people about their deteriorating relationships or the lies they would tell themselves to keep a marriage together? Thanks in advance for any suggestions!
posted by Bobby Bittman on Oct 20, 2016 - 5 answers

Marriage counseling is off to a poor start. What to do next?

My wife and I are in couples therapy, but I feel like we haven’t made much progress. Help me develop a strategy to get things on track. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 8, 2016 - 18 answers

I can't stop thinking of every man as a potential date

I am a happily married women in my forties and this is causing me some heartache. I would like to be friends with straight men that I find interesting without constantly thinking about them in a romantic way. How do I stop this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 8, 2016 - 10 answers

How do you navigate interfaith practices as a couple?

How do happily married interfaith couples (or those with one religious and one non-religious partner) make it work? What do your daily routines look like? And how do you maintain intimacy and avoid conflict around differing religious practices and beliefs? Looking for stories, anecdotes, books, articles, or other information about how interfaith couples navigate difference. [more inside]
posted by carrioncomfort on Oct 5, 2016 - 9 answers

Get married or move to Crone Island?

I am engaged to a warm, loving, and strongly supportive man. We have incredible affection for each other, a ton of fun together, good communication, and a relationship that many would envy. We have talked about children and he would be a loving and devoted father. In a hundred different ways, he is a better partner than I could ever have imagined for much of my life. I love him dearly and am grateful to have met him. Now I need to decide if I want to sign up for a life with him or putting my money where my mouth is and moving to Crone Island for good. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 2, 2016 - 76 answers

How to divorce when there's so much love left

We love each other so much and haven't been married long, but he's not willing to try to fix things and I feel like we have no choice but to move towards divorce. [more inside]
posted by blackcatcuriouser on Sep 25, 2016 - 16 answers

Do we (New Yorkers) need a prenup?

We are getting married- yay! We live in NYC and are planning to stay for at least 5 years and hopefully forever. I've read past threads and other info about prenups and I think we could go either way. The big question is handling inheritances. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 20, 2016 - 12 answers

Must we combine our finances?

We just got married. Is there a compelling reason to combine our finances? [more inside]
posted by millipede on Sep 19, 2016 - 53 answers

Special pickle-themed anniversary

Remember the engagement BBQ? Well today is my and my husband's third anniversary! WOO! We joked that a third anniversary is probably the pickle anniversary and that they save all the expensive fancy stuff for the fives and tens of anniversaries. So now I want to do something special and pickle themed for him this weekend. I only have a couple days and limited means to pull this together, but in the green I trust... [more inside]
posted by PuppetMcSockerson on Sep 14, 2016 - 22 answers

How can I make the best of a temporary separation from my husband?

So – this question was me. The advice I got was so helpful that I’m coming back to ask for more. How can I make the best of a temporary separation from my husband? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 11, 2016 - 14 answers

Coping with Borderline Personality Disorder in a marriage

I'm looking for recommendations or guidance on how one can manage the mental and emotional challenges of being married to (and co-parenting with) someone who's afflicted by BPD/HPD [more inside]
posted by armoir from antproof case on Sep 9, 2016 - 12 answers

How to deal with a husband who actively rejects my daughter and me?

What more can I (or should I) do in this family situation? There is such an imbalance of love and affection going on, I don't know what to even do any more. [more inside]
posted by retrofitted on Sep 6, 2016 - 51 answers

How did you meet your significant other?

I'm a writer (read: I have not attempted to publish anything yet but I write. A lot.) I'm working on another novel and I want my writing to be as real and authentic as possible. However, I'm running into a gap in my life knowledge that I need your help with. (Please note: I'm not looking for you to post ideas or plot suggestions - I'm looking for a better understanding of real life, in all its messy and complicated glory, to draw from as I write this story.) [more inside]
posted by quiet_musings on Sep 5, 2016 - 170 answers

Why would a marriage counselor say they could only treat one of us?

My marriage is long gone, but I often wonder about this. We went to a counselor, and after a couple of sessions they stated that they could only continue counseling with one of us but did not specify whom or why. Any ideas?Are there certain circumstances in which a counselor does not want to treat a couple? Was it obvious that we were doomed to fail due to an individual issue with one of us, for example? Thanks for your input.
posted by Jandoe on Sep 1, 2016 - 12 answers

How to know when you're truly in love?

How do you know you're in love (and willing to spend your life with someone) versus just loving someone? [more inside]
posted by Sparwasser on Aug 31, 2016 - 75 answers

Struggling with Alcoholism and Infidelity

My marriage is falling apart and I am getting very mixed messages from my wife. As she has finally started the road to recovery she also met someone else in AA and they are having quite the affair. I am struggling with the hurt and anger but also with still loving her and wanting her back. Please help me with some new perspectives. [more inside]
posted by redyaky on Aug 28, 2016 - 32 answers

Husband agreed to attend marriage therapy with me. Now what?

After three years of a stress in our relationship, my husband has lately been open to marriage counseling. He isn't all for it, but is willing. The thing is that I feel like I've been walking on eggshells for so long around him, I'm not sure how to even begin talking about things in this situation. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 26, 2016 - 9 answers

A wedding venue to get married in the southwest of England

I'm hoping that I can get some recommendations for places to get married in either Devon or Somerset in England. Me and my girlfriend are hoping to get married in March-April 2017. We have three main requirements for the venue: 1) We can hire our own caterers or have self catering 2) The cost of the venue hire excluding catering is less than £3000 3) That the ceremony and reception are in the same place 4) For the wedding venue to hold roughly/up to 150 people Also, we're having trouble finding a venue like this... is there any particular terminology for a more inexpensive choice of venue as we only seem to be able to find posh mansion/expensive manor type houses at the moment.
posted by sockpim on Aug 23, 2016 - 15 answers

My father doesn't approve of my fiancée -- how to reconcile?

My father very much does not approve of my fiancée -- how should I proceed? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 10, 2016 - 52 answers

Getting Through the Shitty Marriage Times

People with long, reasonably rewarding relationships: how do you get through the times your partner is a bummer? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 6, 2016 - 49 answers

Sexsomnia and Body Policing

So, it appears I have some kind of sexsomnia, where I masturbate while I'm sleeping. I will wake up occasionally with my hands in my pants, with no recollection of anything. This is bothersome to me and my husband, for different reasons. [more inside]
posted by Dressed to Kill on Aug 1, 2016 - 24 answers

Me vs. My husband's family

I just had a big blow up with my husband's "mother" and while he's taken my side, the more I think about it, the more it seems his story doesn't hold up, and I feel he kind of provoked the argument, but maybe not on purpose. Looking back, this seems to be a pattern. [more inside]
posted by serenity_now on Jul 30, 2016 - 55 answers

Where to go for advice about life issues?

If you don't have any close friends or trusted relatives in whom you can confide, where can you find a sounding board for problems you're facing? [more inside]
posted by akk2014 on Jul 18, 2016 - 21 answers

can it be over now

How did it take you to fully recover from a significant betrayal by someone(s) you trusted? [more inside]
posted by a strong female character on Jul 13, 2016 - 61 answers

Advise me on marriage.

We're women in our early thirties, non-religious and not planning to have kids. I'm divorced, she's never been married. What do we need to know before tying the knot? [more inside]
posted by possibilityleft on Jul 9, 2016 - 9 answers

I think I want a baby – but not with my husband.

I’m married, mid 30s, and of course, it feels like everyone I know is having children. I love children. I’ve told myself again and again that I’m not going to be a mother. I thought I had made peace with it, and was pretty convinced I did not even want to be a mother. That’s why this seems like a huge betrayal to myself and to my husband.... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 9, 2016 - 26 answers

How to help my SIL who is dealing w/husband w/dementia (early Alzheimer

My sister-in-law is the most empathetic, caring for others person in the world & she is dealing with something hard: a husband who has been diagnosed with "dementia" in his mid-60s. The problem is finances... [more inside]
posted by spock on Jul 7, 2016 - 5 answers

Moved 3000 mi for a new job. Spouse hates it here. What should we do?

After moving from one corner of the country to the opposite corner 3 months ago, selling one house and buying another and spending $8000 on the move, we need to not live here because my spouse is absolutely miserable and staying will put considerable strain on our marriage and negatively impact our mental health (his in particular). I am very concerned about both the career implications of making a move so soon, and also that another move will put us into financial ruin. Snowflakes ahoy! [more inside]
posted by rabbitrabbit on Jul 1, 2016 - 114 answers

Getting some on the side, with permission.

My spouse has given me permission to have sex outside of our marriage, has expressed a desire for me to do so. This is not something that I have necessarily wanted to do, but I believe it is something I should consider for reasons I will explain inside. Have you or someone that you know done this? If so, what are the pitfalls? What are some good ground rules? What worked and what didn't? What should I consider before taking this step? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 28, 2016 - 19 answers

Marriage, Law Enforcement, and Social Media

My spouse works in law enforcement at the federal level. Recently, she has become increasingly paranoid about just about everything. She has told me to edit or remove some Facebook posts. She has asked me to delete an Instagram account I use for a local sports league I am involved in as well as my personal Twitter both of which are not public. She prohibits me from posting photos of our child. She demands I not post political things that might "make her look bad". I am not involved with or know with anyone she works with. Should I be upset or is this normal in the LEO world? It feels a little over-controlled and she will not discuss options or compromises. Any help would be appreciated.
posted by anonymous on Jun 18, 2016 - 39 answers

Do you have to be 100% sure that you want to marry someone?

I know this might sound like a somewhat dumb question, but it's something that I'm honestly confused about right now. So I'm hoping that some of you who are older/married/divorced/more experienced could help me. [more inside]
posted by U.N.Owen on Jun 15, 2016 - 57 answers

More stories like Phil's (Season 2 of Grace and Frankie)?

I'm fascinated by Phil's backstory (spoilers below the fold) on season 2 of the Netflix tv show Grace & Frankie. Are there any novels, short stories, movies, or TV episodes with a similar theme? I'm an atheist, so "religious-inspirational" might not be my cup of tea, but I'll try it anyway. I really do want to read these stories. I'm not much interested in Phil's current story (spoilers below the fold) -- just his backstory. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 14, 2016 - 8 answers

Not enthused about sibling's engagement. What to say?

My older brother just proposed to his girlfriend of ~1 year. Red flags have gone off at every turn in his rapidly-progressing relationship with her. Yesterday, he sent a message to me and my parents announcing his intentions to propose, and then it happened before I got a chance to talk with him. My question is, how do I respond to him? More details and a TWIST! inside. [more inside]
posted by Slater Sheldahl on Jun 13, 2016 - 61 answers

Wait, what's my name again?

I changed my name on my marriage license (years ago, in California) but nowhere else. What's my legal name? [more inside]
posted by pennypiper on Jun 13, 2016 - 12 answers

The Intersectional Feminist Name Game

Are there questions about race and culture that my fiancé and I should be asking ourselves as we figure out the answer to the dreaded Last Name Issue? [more inside]
posted by Sara C. on Jun 10, 2016 - 52 answers

Marital Finances - Am I As Big an Idiot as I Think?

I am more and more stressed over our household finances and I'm feeling horribly resentful and ungrateful. I would like some impartial advice/opinions. I have a therapist's session scheduled for next week but this is eating at me and I feel like I'm spending too much energy letting it roll around in my head. I make $135K per year, he *should* (key word) be making at least $300K a year, both gross figures. I pay 90% of the household bills. I have a hard time communicating with my husband. He often bends the truth or has a different version of the truth when pressed on an uncomfortable point. I like to think I am more fact-based, and when I press him, he often resorts to stonewalling or making statements that don't make logical sense. He does not have any expensive habits, he doesn't travel, drives a paid for car, and is generally a nice, well-liked guy. Where is all the money that seems to be normally expected in a practice like this? How do I explain to him that paying the majority of the bills is not working for me? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 7, 2016 - 37 answers

Moving Forward After Marital Infedelity

I just found out that my husband of 6 years has had multiple affairs. I am devastated and I have no idea where to even start. [more inside]
posted by sockaroniandcheese on Jun 6, 2016 - 38 answers

Seeking to be more mature and less insecure in my marriage

We have been married for 2 years, and had a crazy amount of stressful things come our way at once. I don't have the best upbringing or modeling for the healthy relationship I strive for, but I do try. I need examples of healthy ways to think about these situations, healthy self-talk mantras I can use, and tools I can use to determine when I am being unreasonable and when I am being appropriate in my expectations. [more inside]
posted by crunchy potato on Jun 5, 2016 - 40 answers

How do I adjust to a non-sexual, companionate marriage?

My husband of 15 years and I haven't had sex in seven months. We are mismatched sexually and are otherwise happy. How do I let go of the idea that sex with him is necessary? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 3, 2016 - 24 answers

Should we get a prenup?

We're getting married! Hooray! But given our life circumstances, does it make sense for us to sign a prenup? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 1, 2016 - 17 answers

Couples conflict - how do you fight - your stories?

Hive mind, I'm looking for effective conflict resolution techniques/behaviors. A lot of what is written online seems a little too artificial to work in reality with the different personalities of people. What has worked for you in marital conflicts/arguments and why do you think it works? It is said it's not that a couple has fights but how they fight that matters. Having been in a relationship where one person simply doesn't validate the other person's issues and still expects peaceful co-existence, and the other person has a lot of anger in return, i'm trying to figure out what behavioral changes can we make to improve our conflict resolution. Some more details inside [more inside]
posted by whatdoyouthink? on May 28, 2016 - 50 answers

Low Libido... Nooooooooo

I’m a 35-yr-old cis woman married to a wonderful man. I’m attracted to him in every way, and we’ve been together for 10 years. This is the first time I’ve needed to reach out for this problem… [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 21, 2016 - 18 answers

Ex-Husband and Taxes

You are not my lawyer. But I want to know if this is possible, and should I find a lawyer? It involves a divorce and taxes in New Jersey. [more inside]
posted by 80 Cats in a Dog Suit on May 17, 2016 - 12 answers

I love my husband…but I don’t want to sleep with him. Does it matter?

Until I slept with someone else, I didn't realise what I was missing. But I can't break up our lives on a whim. I don't know what to do. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 16, 2016 - 38 answers

How do you teach boundaries and respect?

Is it possible to teach an adult how to be considerate and respect boundaries? If a child grows up without boundaries, is it impossible to learn? [more inside]
posted by serenity_now on May 9, 2016 - 29 answers

Married but interested in younger/beautiful girls

I have been married with an older woman for about 4 years and now I have developed interests towards younger girls. [more inside]
posted by wondering_man on May 4, 2016 - 52 answers

How do I fix my life?

I am about to graduate college with a business degree, a mediocre gpa, and very little experience. I have not made a single friend in college or been in a relationship. I lived with my parents for the whole entire time in college and they expect me to be married before leaving the house. I tend to succumb to extreme laziness and procrastination. I can spend 8 hours daily on the internet instead of doing homework. This procrastination has seeped into my job search. Am I ever going to be prepared for life? [more inside]
posted by sheepishchiffon on Apr 26, 2016 - 15 answers

What do you bring to the table?

What are men bringing to a modern marriage? I read lots of poorly referenced stories about how they increase a women's workload, don't perform emotional labor, and do much less of the child rearing. So what are men bringing to the table? [more inside]
posted by Kalmya on Apr 16, 2016 - 17 answers

How do we break out of a years long separation limbo?

Over five years ago I (male) decided to separate from my wife. We’ve been married for 16 years. The dam burst of emotion that fueled my decision to separate was spent before going all the way to divorce. She hasn’t divorced me either. Neither of us has dated anyone else. Things have simmered to an uneasy state of limbo, where we’re technically married, yet more like just friends and co-parents. How do you break out of an indecision so powerful that any choice feels like dying? Warning: tsunami of text inside! [more inside]
posted by star fruit on Apr 15, 2016 - 22 answers

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