It hurts to stay and it is too hard to leave... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 2, 2009 - 64 answers

Why have I suddenly started to dream about other women? [more inside]
posted by kleenkat on Oct 21, 2009 - 23 answers

My question is about intent? If you hurt someone with what you perceive to be their and your best interests in mind, while simultaneously knowing that what you are doing will hurt that person, is it any different than actively trying to hurt the person. Does duration and occurrence play a role? If I don’t mean to hurt you, but know I am and will for 4 years is it less bad than a single act of active hurtfulness? Is it possible to want to hurt someone you love in an extreme moment but still love and care for that person? Is it possible to call that love? [more inside]
posted by sav on Aug 2, 2009 - 27 answers

Asking for a friend… Should he tell his girlfriend about his cyber fling? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 11, 2009 - 29 answers

Any tips for making a relationship out of an affair? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 9, 2009 - 14 answers

Can this relationship/marriage be saved? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 22, 2008 - 89 answers

Should I give up getting back together with her? [more inside]
posted by cincinnatus c on Jan 21, 2008 - 37 answers

I have a hunch the new boyfriend is going to drop the "I love you" bomb this weekend. I'm psyched. Trouble is: I don't know if I believe him, and therefore don't know how to best respond. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 7, 2007 - 49 answers

CrappyRelationshipFilter: How do you know if a relationship is worth salvaging after your partner majorly fucks up? I need some perspective on this whole ugly, messy situation. (warning: very long! of course!) [more inside]
posted by rndm on May 10, 2007 - 68 answers

How do you move past loving someone who is no longer in love with you? (assuming time and space apart are difficult?) or deal with you love for them until they're ready for you? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 12, 2007 - 19 answers

If you're in love with a married man, and he says he would leave his wife, would you stay? Whilst i love him very much, i am not sure if i should believe him as surely if he really was going to leave her he would have done this by now. Is it possible to love two people at the same time?
posted by rainbow_2006 on Aug 2, 2006 - 88 answers

I recently ended an affair I was having with a beautiful, intelligent, charming, older, married woman (I'm Ashton's age, she's Demi's). After 3 weeks I just couldn't deal with the guilt anymore. I knew the affair was wrong, but I did it anyway. As a Catholic, I'm working on the whole reconciliation thing. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 17, 2006 - 34 answers

I have no problems falling in love - it's falling out I need some help with. [more inside]
posted by luftmensch on Dec 13, 2005 - 29 answers

My ex wants me to come over and find out where we're at in our relationship. We were in a long distance relationship that ended a few months ago when I was intimate with another man (no sex, just so you know, but enough to make it cheating). When I told him, we swore we still loved eachother, but decided break up so we could have a chance to grow, and start again when we lived in the same city (likely spring '06). Since then I've found clarity, come to terms with the nearly unbearable guilt and done my best to change the part of me that went wrong. Come to find out he's been busy....very busy...with many women where he lives. I made a mistake, I know that....so it confounds me that he says he loves me but turns around and does all that stuff with all those girls? I'm very in love with this man, and I want to believe in him so badly, but I can't understand how he can hold such a double standard. Is it just too much to ask of a 24 year old, to actually live the lifestyle he expects of his partner? Is it a Man thing, that you have to get action? And, in light of all this, can I believe that he loves me or am I playing the fool.
posted by aquavit on Dec 9, 2005 - 66 answers