4 months ago, I (a woman) broke up with my boyfriend of over a decade. The breakup came out of the blue, and neither of us were prepared for the aftermath that comes with dissolving a household. Things are still not completely done, and I feel like they need to be so that I can actually start to move past that chapter in my life. On the other hand, I've been avoiding dealing with these issues for months because of how my ex lashes out at me every time he gets the chance. I need some help formulating a plan to get it all done and stay sane in the meantime.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 10, 2013 -
12 answers
I've been divorced for several years now. My ex-wife and I get along amicably. I am single and she has been involved in an LTR since the divorce became official. Everything's fine, everyone's happy. Our kids are thriving.My ex-wife's birthday is in three weeks and up until now I've been the one to coordinate helping the kids get her something for her birthday. It occurred to me that it's probably time for the New Guy to take this over, right? They're not engaged, he still has his own place, but he does spend a lot of time there in your standard domestic situations. I have no problem discussing this with my ex, I'm just looking for a sanity-check on this idea before I bring it up. Am I missing something? Is this even a good idea? (For the record, I am single and she will probably be responsible for
my birthdays (vis-a-vis the kids) for the forseeable future.)
posted by Setec Astronomy
on Feb 8, 2013 -
20 answers
Pretty sure I don't want to get married or have kids. Problem is, almost all my friends are doing so and it's just getting to the point where I am the only one who isn't doing either of those (not a bad thing).Help me not go crazy if I hear one more person say the words 'I'm engaged" or "I'm pregnant".
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posted by Autumn89
on Oct 30, 2012 -
55 answers
General relationship pattern question about the end of limerance as well as some specifics, with some concerns about monogamy/nonmonogamy. Somewhat long.
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posted by zeek321
on Oct 3, 2012 -
16 answers
How do you stay in a relationship when you know there's a very good chance it might end soon? [Siberian winter's worth of snowflakes inside.]
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posted by Sockmaster
on Sep 17, 2012 -
42 answers
How do I figure out if I want to get married, without, you know, getting married? I feel like I need to figure this out, because I'm at an age that a lot of guys I date definitely *do* want to get married, and I don't want to waste their time.
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posted by peacrow
on Aug 13, 2012 -
41 answers
The quick and dirty: I'm seeing a guy. We slept on the first date, he brought up dating exclusively and we were both in earnest, mutual agreement that neither of us were looking for a FWB type of deal. Caveat: He's moving at the end of the summer. How best to proceed? Details behind the cut to fill in the blanks...
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posted by chloe.gelsomino
on May 24, 2012 -
22 answers
How do I deal with my partner drastically changing his appearance in response to his baldness, and the way it affects my attraction to him?
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posted by Vinegaroon
on Aug 19, 2011 -
18 answers
I'm in a very long-term relationship and am unhappy. However, I don't know whether that's because my expectations are too high or because I am in a legitimately flawed relationship. Should I stay or should I go? Hope me, Hive-Mind - give me the outside opinion (Advice? Anecdotes?) I need to free myself from my crippling inability to decide. A blizzard of snowflake detail inside.
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 6, 2011 -
40 answers
Long distance relationship: How can we make it work? How can we work it out so that we both feel fulfilled?
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posted by thegmann
on May 29, 2011 -
21 answers
My boyfriend and I live together, and the relationship is great, but things have gotten very 'comfortable'. I think it's time to take everything he thinks he knows about us and turn it upside-down (in a good way)! How though?
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posted by Sa Dec
on Apr 20, 2011 -
40 answers
Savage Inequalities? Menopause and Erotic Intimacy. I have skimmed many AskMes and haven't seen quite this combination. Dan Savage is often touted and cited, but this combination is not well covered. What do Mefites and others do when their sex life is on indefinite hold due to their female partner's menopause? What if polyamory is off the table?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 8, 2011 -
9 answers
Regarding polyamory and potentially breaking up a monogamous LTR. A question for a friend. Special snowflake details inside.
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posted by NoraReed
on Jun 28, 2010 -
15 answers
I'm a terrible person navigating uncharted waters. What should I do now?
Copious special snowflake details inside.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 13, 2010 -
32 answers
I'm considering a great job offer in another state, and what it might mean for my two-year relationship. Help me develop a framework for making some decisions about all this.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 19, 2009 -
15 answers
When it comes to love . . . where's the line between deserving to have certain expectations fulfilled, and having standards that are too high? In particular I'm curious to know if you ever ended a relationship with someone you were in love with, and then went on to fall in love with someone else in a deeper and more enriching way.
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posted by lblair
on Jan 11, 2009 -
21 answers
I have recently had the best sex of my life, and I finally know what it is that turns me on - pain. The problem is that this sex was not with my partner of ten years (well, she was there...). I don't know what to do about this. In-depth details inside.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 8, 2008 -
14 answers
What's the best way to find a boyfriend (gay) / Cuddle buddy in New York?
posted by seeminglee
on Jul 28, 2007 -
9 answers
RelationshipFilter: How much does chemistry matter over the long haul? Or, please don't tell me this is my last AskMe relationship question. (Very long, very self-absorbed more inside)
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 4, 2006 -
37 answers
Gay men in relationships: how did you meet your significant others?
posted by adrober
on Dec 11, 2004 -
14 answers
