I seem to remember hearing or reading about an ancient society whose word for love was the same as their word for hate. But searching online I can't find anything like that. What culture/language was this? Or did someone just make up this story?
posted by Josh Coe on Nov 3, 2009 - 3 answers

What epiphanies and thought processes have helped you love yourself? [more inside]
posted by mossicle on Nov 3, 2009 - 34 answers

What is is about love that makes me want to spew poetry? [more inside]
posted by nikkorizz on Nov 1, 2009 - 15 answers

I'm scared of what my personality is coming to be. I recently broke up with my wife that I love but had no passion (kissing) with (2.5 yrs). I feel like I've controlled her a lot, do not want her to express a lot of her own self because I am very meticulous and strategic about my words, how I talk, how I present myself, etc. I think that's the same thing that happened with my ex girlfriend of two years. They love me for who I am, I'm a fun loving guy, good looking, good personality, morals, understanding, extremely caring, etc, but I'm wayyy too much of a presence and seemingly controlling to my loved ones. [more inside]
posted by Vandal on Oct 31, 2009 - 46 answers

How do I break up with someone whom I love and am happy with day-to-day? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 30, 2009 - 28 answers

I feel like my life is over and I'm only 35. I feel completely stagnant and stuck, relationshipwise and jobwise. Do I need to change things or do I need to learn how to deal? Help me figure out how to be a happier person. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 28, 2009 - 34 answers

A friend and I are looking for a certain word... it would be related to loving something so much it makes you go weak. Both of us believe there's a word for this but we can't quite put our finger on it. It could possibly be used in this context: "Chocolate is my _____." [more inside]
posted by simplethings on Oct 27, 2009 - 66 answers

Is this settling? Where are those heartpangs I should be feeling? [more inside]
posted by blackcatcuriouser on Oct 22, 2009 - 12 answers

Love is a wonderful thing, how far should one go? [more inside]
posted by sanrio on Oct 21, 2009 - 38 answers

Why have I suddenly started to dream about other women? [more inside]
posted by kleenkat on Oct 21, 2009 - 23 answers

How do you tell the difference between someone who's an extrovert and someone who's romantically interested in you? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 21, 2009 - 22 answers

What can I get as a thank-you gift for my circus directors? [more inside]
posted by divabat on Oct 18, 2009 - 4 answers

My cat is used to getting a lot of attention, but is now left home alone for most of the day. How can I ensure she doesn't feel too lonely? [more inside]
posted by reenum on Oct 13, 2009 - 15 answers

I am in (long-term, abiding) love with more than one woman. I am marrying one, but I need to deal with my feelings for the other. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 12, 2009 - 30 answers

Is it possible to fall out of love overnight? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 10, 2009 - 18 answers

Dont love the new girl I'm seeing........ I dont want to hurt anyone - but dont want to lose her either... Can i fall in love months later? or is it always love or chemistry at first sight? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 9, 2009 - 31 answers

Do I need to know what (or who) he did while we were broken up? Is it wrong to ask? [more inside]
posted by blackcatcuriouser on Oct 7, 2009 - 35 answers

I had a dream about an ex-boyfriend last night and I'm wondering if I should do anything about it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 7, 2009 - 22 answers

How can I get over him when I fell for hard for him? Recently my "friend" I have been seeing dumped me. Ok, his name is Alex. We said we would take it as friends and see where it goes since I prefer my relationships to go like that anyway but I need to get over what happened just over the summer. This is going to be LONG, I must warn you. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 4, 2009 - 19 answers

I'm a mid-20s British male and I haven't had sex for about three years. Manual Overides are barely taking the edge off these days and the horniess is getting so bad I can't think clearly. Help me get laid. Complications inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 4, 2009 - 31 answers

How can love and the certainty that you want to marry someone fade away and leave numbness? [more inside]
posted by whitelily on Sep 28, 2009 - 46 answers

To wed or not to wed: that is [sort of] the question. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 22, 2009 - 81 answers

I'm looking for stories from folks, especially ladyfolks, who have been on the receiving end of random acts of romance. Tell me, when were you surprised by a romantic act? What was it? What were the circumstances? [more inside]
posted by stuboo on Sep 16, 2009 - 37 answers

I can't seem to ever get to the third date. [more inside]
posted by chrisfromthelc on Sep 11, 2009 - 58 answers

So Something by The Beatles (Harrison not Lennon/McCartney), Layla and Wonderful Tonight both by Clapton in one form or another were all written about Pattie Boyd. Are there other examples of a person being the subject of more than one song by more than one artist? [more inside]
posted by holdkris99 on Sep 11, 2009 - 38 answers

What is the best love song you've ever heard? Not sticky-sweet or sappy, but genuinely romantic. Any genre will do.
posted by jjg on Sep 10, 2009 - 189 answers

How can I be more affectionate? I always worry that any of my attempts at affection come across as clingy, and this probably makes me seem distant. Also: how to let go of my inhibitions, and love hard? I keep worrying about getting hurt, and tell myself that if I don't fall completely in love, then I won't get hurt badly. [more inside]
posted by Xere on Sep 6, 2009 - 10 answers

I've been seeing this guy for over 6 months now, and everything is absolutley wonderful, except that he's part of a circle of friends that are very much into recreational drug taking.. I have some experience of drugs, but am now firmly anti-drugs because of the health risks etc. [more inside]
posted by clown-mustard on Sep 3, 2009 - 64 answers

I am madly in love and don't know what to do. Should I tell her? [more inside]
posted by Takeyourtime on Sep 2, 2009 - 27 answers

Am I addicted to pornography? If I am, what can I do? Is there a Porn Addicts Anonymous? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 31, 2009 - 23 answers

So I've been dating this really cool gentlemen for 2 months. We are taking things slow but I find myself getting caught up with him. This is a problem. It's a problem because now he's holding back a bit whereas he was stronger in pursuing me before. Can anyone share advice as to how I can keep my cool so he doesnt become disinterested? Also, how will I know when a man has become disinterested? I'm rambling, sorry but when i become infatuated or "in love" I can't think straight and I lose my sense of self. Save this poor girl from herself. Ha!
posted by InterestedInKnowing on Aug 27, 2009 - 16 answers

What do you do when one partner likes to make advance plans and the other likes to be spontaneous, in a relationship? [more inside]
posted by CatherineK on Aug 25, 2009 - 26 answers

How do I let my boyfriend know I have herpes? When should I tell him? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 22, 2009 - 16 answers

Polyamory: What now? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 21, 2009 - 38 answers

How do i deal with having a best friend i simply cant afford to lose breaking my heart? [more inside]
posted by stillnocturnal on Aug 19, 2009 - 49 answers

I'm trying to figure out a way to approach my boyfriend concerning an issue about our sex life, but I'm having a hard time knowing what to say. For all intents and purposes, we have a fulfilling sex life, however the vast majority of the time he's not able to come inside me. It's been this way for the duration of our 3-year relationship and, though I'm not taking it personally, I'm really beginning to miss a certain level of intimacy that goes along with that particular part of sex. As always, there's... [more inside]
posted by actuallyiam on Aug 17, 2009 - 31 answers

Relationship Filter - I have been dating this woman for 7 months and we have hit a big snag... [more inside]
posted by keep it tight on Aug 13, 2009 - 15 answers

As an addict, have you dealt with a hidden relapse? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 6, 2009 - 16 answers

Work vs. love, recession edition: How to deal with concurrent uncertainty with love and career choices in an abysmal economy? [more inside]
posted by LecheFresca on Aug 5, 2009 - 7 answers

My boyfriend of almost seven years is a "starving artist". I love him and I love being with him.But seriously, can I expect this to ever change? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 4, 2009 - 48 answers

My question is about intent? If you hurt someone with what you perceive to be their and your best interests in mind, while simultaneously knowing that what you are doing will hurt that person, is it any different than actively trying to hurt the person. Does duration and occurrence play a role? If I don’t mean to hurt you, but know I am and will for 4 years is it less bad than a single act of active hurtfulness? Is it possible to want to hurt someone you love in an extreme moment but still love and care for that person? Is it possible to call that love? [more inside]
posted by sav on Aug 2, 2009 - 27 answers

LoveFilter: Interested in your stories of finding lifelong love at age 35 or older, gay or straight. I'm a 35-year-old gay man and want to know what my chances are. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 30, 2009 - 35 answers

What are ways of saying "I like you" that don't sound so... clinical? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 30, 2009 - 60 answers

I'm looking for a fun, cheap, highly-visible way to welcome my mom when she arrives at the airport and make her first night and day at my new place relaxed and comfortable. [more inside]
posted by mdonley on Jul 30, 2009 - 12 answers

Boyfriend's Strange Personality-What Could it Be? [more inside]
posted by ~Sushma~ on Jul 27, 2009 - 66 answers

My girlfriend and I broke up about 3 months ago now. However, we have been in contact regularly (after about a month and a bit of zero contact) since then and have seen each other on occsasion. When im not busy i find myself always thinking about her, and things constantly remind me about her. Im not 100% sure about getting back together with her, what should i do? [more inside]
posted by jdp on Jul 22, 2009 - 15 answers

It's my boyfriend's birthday soon, and I want to make the present giving AWESOME! Have already purchased presents and booked flights to be with him. Am organising special birthday meals for him, and a couple of activities too, so most of the day is pretty much sorted. But I really really want the present giving/opening experience in particular to be super fun for him. I'm thinking along the lines of a treasure hunt with clues so he has to hunt for the presents... Or wrapping the presents in a giant box and painting it like a cake with sparklers on top! Or multiple layers of wrapping disguising the present...Or, um, something else. But I don't know what exactly. I just want to make it a completely excellent fun surprise for him. [more inside]
posted by t0astie on Jul 21, 2009 - 10 answers

I'm in love with a girl 3000 miles away, what do I do? [more inside]
posted by weh546 on Jul 20, 2009 - 37 answers

Did you marry someone you felt "ok" about at first? How did it work out? [more inside]
posted by abdulf on Jul 20, 2009 - 30 answers

I'm building a bit of performance art that involves testing people for their hug level. I need some kind of funky device that I can use to 'test' people for this. [more inside]
posted by diode on Jul 18, 2009 - 9 answers