My dear friend is seeking a job abroad (at least 1 yr) and looking for solutions beyond the typical teach English/WOOFing/what have you. 26 y.o. and has completed 1.5 years of college (but no degree) & several years of activist experience (Occupy + radical queer politics by way of the conservative South). Kind of uncannily brilliant to the point where he's been asked to teach grad-level classes. Looking for something stimulating and interesting and stuck in that spot of not-enough-experience but so-so-much-brights. [more inside]
My good friend's mother passed away and they are having a memorial service at a temple and a shiva. I know the Christian protocols, but am wondering how to proceed. Is sending flowers appropriate? I understand bringing food to the shiva is customary (I know they do not keep kosher), do I bring it with me or take it ahead? Any other guidance here would be appreciated. My friend is quite distressed and I do not want to bother her with these questions at this time.
Question over dinner last night from my nine year old daughter after a long (and ongoing) discussion about advocacy and bullying in schools. LittleTaff:"If a trans woman was Jewish, would her babies be Jewish if she used her seed?" [more inside]
This might be a bit of a stretch, but does anyone have any experience dealing with kosher caterers in Toronto? Recommendations or ones to particularly stay away from? [more inside]
My family is looking to move out of our small condo in Cambridge to a nearby suburb that will give us more space, great schools, green space, and a community to call our own for our growing family. Among the various features we are looking for in our next community, it important to us to live where there is an active Jewish community. We are already familiar and considering Brookline/Needham/Lexington/Sharon, but are less familiar with the vibe in Natick, Winchester, Needham, Andover, and Belmont. [more inside]
I'm looking for exceptionally well written books on topics in Jewish history that don't focus on the Holocaust, the modern state of Israel, or are "complete" histories (i.e. "A History of the Jews") [more inside]
I would like to make an amazing Rosh Hashanah dinner. What should I make? [more inside]
Please can you recommend books similar to Bruno Schulz's, Isaac Babel's and Bulgakov's Master & Margarita? [more inside]
Oy vey! Jews of Metafilter, help me out: what is an appropriate bar mitzvah gift in 2015? It's been years since I attended one, but the first one from the next gen of my family is happening soon and I need a gift, shortly to be followed by the kids of a bunch of my friends. Back in the day, a Cross pen was considered a good gift and I just know that moment has passed. More details: [more inside]
My mom is elderly. She and her husband support my mostly unemployed brother in his 30s. I live far away but talk to her daily. My sibling and his father are into racist, misogynistic ideas and believe the end of the world is coming. They stockpile supplies and make my mom read David Icke (anti-semitism thinly veiled as "reptile aliens" taking over the government) as well as how vaccines and GMOS are poisoning us. I tried to talk to her but she thinks what I say is hard to understand (academic language) so maybe science is hiding something. [more inside]
I thought we had locked down the girl name for our baby due next month (Lila) but my husband is having cold feet. We are stuck! Please help. [more inside]
My friend wants to give a surprise gift of schmaltz (rendered chicken fat, not the metaphorical kind) to a Jewish friend of hers who is from Chicago, and wants to know whether or not to use onions. So, does anyone have a strong opinion either way? Apparently with no onions it's more subtle and nutty. But is it better with onions? Which method would be her best bet?
When I was young, I remember reading a Jewish fable, or maybe even many different versions of a fable, about a wily trickster who outwits someone or something who is holding him or his community hostage. It might have been Herschel or Hillel, but whoever it is, he succeeds by bluffing that he is going to do something awful if he doesn't get what he wants. [more inside]
So I'm trying to find examples of cultures/peoples/ethnicities/religions that are significantly dissimilar to the main city/culture/groups that surround them. Like finding a group of Amish people in Detroit. Or the one someone gave me of the significant Hasidic population in the scantily clad nightlife world of South Beach. What other current examples are there in the USA and Canada of unexpected groups in unexpected places?
I've always known I was a little different. I have trouble remembering things from my relatively normal childhood, so it took until high school to connect the few dots I had, but after I did that, I relished in the attraction I felt for certain other men. It was exciting and made me feel as though I was part of a community with a common story. I grew up with conservative parents who I haven't been able to tell but who I suspect have an inkling, given the things they found left open on my teenage computer and my shy, sensitive nature. I was fine with not making it a part of my identity and limited its sphere of influence to my taste in porn and online friendships. I never felt the need for a relationship- with women or men- but I enjoyed the way validation from "manly" men made me feel both emotionally and physically. [more inside]
In the process of helping post my late grandfather's digitized papers online, I found his adoption paperwork (he made no secret of being adopted, but didn't talk about it much). It gave enough information that I was able to find that my grandfather had a brother, who apparently is still alive. I'm not sure what to do next; it's good to know there's more family out there (my father has few living relatives), but I'm not sure how happy others in my family will be with the reality, and the same may go for my grandfather's newly-discovered relatives. Advice would be helpful; details below. [more inside]
I know this sounds strange, but I'm working on an article about Jewish logo designers, and I haven't been able to determine if Terry Heckler (responsible for the original Starbucks logo) is Jewish. Any mefites out there know him personally (or been to a seder with him?), who could answer the question for me? Thanks!
So I've got 3 small ink Etchings by Jacob Eisenberg depicting early life in Judea - rabbis and the Western Wall that I want to sell, but haven't a clue where. I know they're relatively valuable so I'm interested in going with a reputable site/dealer. [more inside]
Kid BlahLaLa's getting to be around bar mitzvah age and I want to know what alternative, newfangled options there are out there. Is there any kind of modern bar mitzvah movement happening? Alternative bar mitzvahs? Hipster bar mitzvahs? [more inside]
Books on Judaism and Hebrew? [more inside]
I'm like every other post-college twentysomething in lots of ways: I make too little money, watch too much Netflix and indulge in an existential crisis oh, about once an hour. Also, like many in my cohort, I love the idea of packing up a ratty old duffel bag and heading off to some far corner of the world to taste, see and do all I can, while maybe giving myself either a leg to stand on once I return to the job market here or the warm-n-fuzzies that come from volunteering and/or service learning. All pretty standard fare. Here comes the doozy of snowflake: I'm in a wheelchair and have certain difficulties with speech fluency, owing to my CP and spastic diplegia diagnosis. Try as I might, I can't get myself to give up on the dream of spending a year or more abroad, even with all this in my way. Help me get there, oh beautiful hivemind? [more inside]
I was raised in a kosher household, and am feeling like I would like to get back into keeping kosher. Kosher (or Kosher-ish) MeFites, how do you do it? [more inside]
Is 23andMe sufficient for the genetic testing my fiance and I require before getting married (Jewish genetic testing)? [more inside]
In a religious studies course I took eight or nine years ago, the professor mentioned a Jewish congregation in NYC whose services looked almost identical to high-church Anglican services, just with the liturgies changed out. Now that I live in the New York City area (and am dating someone who is Episcopalian-Jewish), I'm quite interested in checking this out, but nothing I can think to search for on Google is turning up the right results. Any MeFi-ites have any idea which congregation this might be?
There are a lot of places attributing the quote ""The sun will rise without thy assistance" to the Talmud. Is that true? If so, where does it say that in the Talmud? I would love to either verify or debunk this quote.
i've been contracted by a jewish organization to provide kosher meal services for 3 weeks this summer. i've had lengthy discussions with them about what i can and cannot serve. imagine that all the little details are taken care of (because they are). my main issue is WHAT to serve on shabbos...for 300 guests. [more inside]
I received a gift from my boyfriend's mother that is at best in poor taste and at worst extremely offensive. How do I proceed? Super-fun cultural/religious beanplating inside. [more inside]
I need to stop reading wikipedia at work, so please give me books instead [more inside]
Help this Reform-raised secular Buddhist-ish Jew observe Kol Nidrei alone! Right now! Unnecessary exclamation point! [more inside]
I have the option of taking Yom Kippur off as a floating holiday. (The other option at my company for a floating holiday is Good Friday.) I'm an atheist. Is it disrespectful to take this day off when I'm not Jewish? [more inside]
(Jew Filter) High Holy Days ideas for the unaffiliated? [more inside]
I am in Accra, Ghana on a business trip, and my colleague and I would like to find a shabbat service tonight. There is no synagogue in Accra, nor a Chabad presence. I've tried calling the Israeli embassy, but haven't been able to get through (possibly they work half day Fridays?) Any ideas?
There is a Kosher deli near my new office. I'd like to have a look around and find some new stuff to try. I am almost completely unfamiliar with Jewish food. Where should I start? [more inside]
What do we know about the origins of vehi she'amda from the Passover haggadah? [more inside]
Planning a DIY, slightly punk rock, progressive, feminist drunken young peoples' Passover Seder, looking for advice on haggadahs, leading for what will probably be a largely goyim crowd, and a million other weird little jewtastic details. [more inside]
Interested in reading more quality Jewish-themed fiction. Can anyone suggest some books? [more inside]
I'm looking for a printed calendar that shows, in overlay format, many of the world systems for describing dates, such as Gregorian, Islamic, Jewish, Chinese, etc... Something to hang on my wall. I don't care if it is "flipbook" style or a large poster. Is something like that commercially available? [more inside]
Interested in learning about Reform Judaism. Book recommendations? [more inside]
What is this tune? (Possibly a Hasidic folk song?) [more inside]
Can you read the (possibly Hebrew) word on the bottom of this salt shaker? [more inside]
Orthodox-in-JerusalemFilter: I watched Eyes Wide Open last night and found it, unexpectedly, quite moving. I'd like to know more about a central image and I'm not finding it online, so I hope an Orthodox and/or Israeli MeFite can shed some light. Dip in, for more details... [more inside]
Does anybody know of a good, oft-updated podcast of sung Jewish prayer? I just subscribed to a choral Episcopalian podcast, but I'd like to have one of nice Jewish songs to complement it, as that's what I grew up with. [more inside]
Where can I find Holocaust- or post-Holocaust related sites in the Vienna area? [more inside]
I'm writing a fiction book where the main character is a Jewish male aged in his late 30s living in London during WW2. I want to make this character sound as real as possible. My problem; I'm not Jewish and I don't really know anybody who is. Help me write this character as realistically as I can! [more inside]
Iranian Jewish female singer, accompanies herself on the Persian sitar...who could it be? [more inside]
Help me identify (and find a recording of?) an old Jewish comedy song: "When it's Rosh Hashana time in Dixieland..." thereby blowing my dad's mind in time for High Holidays. [more inside]
I have noticed in some Orthodox neighbourhoods , that very young boys (5 or 6) wearing tzittzit's. I thought that only boys who had gone through bar mitzvah's wore them? [more inside]
Help me find a Brooklyn nursing home for my grandfather. (asking for a friend) [more inside]
What happens at an 'azkara' (Jewish memorial service)? [more inside]
What is an age appropriate gift for a mid 30's friend who is converting to Judaism for a bat mitzvah gift? [more inside]