Ask MetaFilter posts tagged with Invitation

Saving "Podiatrist Convention" for the anniversary party.

explosion — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 07:33:30 -0800

(NameMy___Filter) Help me name our wedding! Next year, giraffe and I are going to be married, and I am currently designing our wedding invitations. However, there's a twist, as the invitation is in the form of a poster, similar to a promo poster for a music festival or perhaps a movie. We have pretty much nailed down the wording of the remainder of the poster, but I'm at a loss for a good title.

Rejected concepts so far:

"Steve and Erin's Wedding" (too boring)
"WeddingFest 2009" (too cheesy)
"Podiatrist Convention" (too Dada)

I'm open to suggestions including our real names, user names ("Giraffe and Explosion" has nice cadence, I think), or neither. Humor is definitely a plus, but I want something that won't be lost on family members or friends who are less familiar with the Internet (the rest of the poster is for that).

Font question

tizzie — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 12:45:56 -0800

I want to design an invitation that looks like a football game ticket stub. What font should I use?

Party perfect

Evangeline — Mon, 04 Aug 2008 09:38:41 -0800

Birthday invitation etiquette questions I'm about to send out invitations to my birthday party. I'm having the party at a restaurant. Is there some way to gracefully say that the food and drinks are my treat? I'm afraid some of my poorer friends will get nervous about spending too much money. Also, is it appropriate to specify "no gifts"?

Oh, one more thing - is it necessary to give single invitees the option of bringing a guest? I have a few friends who are part of a couple, and I'm inviting their SOs, but do I need to give my single friends the option to bring someone? If so, since there won't be an inner envelope, should I just address the outer envelope to "John Doe and guest"?

Sorry for all the questions, but outside of my wedding, I've never sent out invitations!

Where to print custom wedding invitation?

patrickje — Mon, 16 Jun 2008 13:25:30 -0800

Where to print custom wedding invitations online? Has anyone had any experience with any online printing places? I'm going to print about 100 wedding invitations. The wedding invitation will have a photo on it. I'm having a graphic designer friend of my mine help with that, I'm just wondering where to print it, and what format the printer would be looking for? Has anyone had any experience with something like this?

wedding shower thing

frosty_hut — Sat, 09 Feb 2008 10:24:59 -0800

Wedding shower faux-pas, how to recover? I was recently invited, via a group email, to a wedding shower for another person at my part-time job. I've been there a year, and I've chatted with this woman a couple of times. I'm not one of her good friends obviously, but I was invited to a shower for the girls. I knew I wasn't going to be able to attend, but I planned to get her a gift.

Well the date of the shower came and went, and in the meantime I hadn't given her anything or even emailed her to say what was up. In my own defense I was terribly busy, and it just slipped off my radar. I think she and the other girl who set the thing up are upset with me, but it could be my imagination. Anyway, when I realized that I'd forgotten to RSVP, I put a card wishing her well and some candy in her mailbox (I'm a part-timer who works the evening shift, and I never see her).

I feel like both she and her friend who set the thing up are pissed off at me, and I'm very frustrated with myself--here I am trying to do my job and stay under the radar as a newish employee, and I'm just starting to feel competent about technical things in my position, but already I'm screwing up socially. It doesn't affect my paycheck, of course, but it makes me unhappy.

I never can manage to get into the swing of the girl vibe at work, and I'm beginning to resent that this is a part of what I'm expected to do. With two jobs and no way to get around except by bus at the moment, it's hard for me to keep many social committments, so I tend not to make them. When I get invited to something as a matter of course, like these showers that keep happening for people I barely know at work, it's like I've been placed on this conveyor belt and a clock starts ticking, and suddenly I'm under the gun to either RSVP and/or think of a suitable gift, and/or buy a gift, or tell the person I can't make it, or some combination of the above, and this time I messed up and they just didn't hear from me at all.

Did I screw up to the point that I deserve ostracism? (I don't have hard evidence of this, just a noticeable coolness on the part of the lady who sent out the invites). Should I go talk to the bride-to-be and apologize for not RSVPing?

How do you politely tell an ex that they are invited to your parent's visitation, but not the funeral?

Anonymous — Wed, 19 Dec 2007 06:01:44 -0800

How do you politely tell an ex that they are invited to your parent's visitation, but not the funeral? I've often heard that that funerals are for the living and not the dead, but I would like AskMeFi's advice on how to gracefully invite an ex to the visitation/wake of a parent but not the funeral. We parted ways several years ago and soon afterwards one of my parents was diagnosed with a terminal illness. My ex was upset and I assured him/her that I would keep them updated as things progressed. After not hearing from me for several months, my ex assumed that one of my parents had passed away and posted in a public forum, my parent's name, Rest in Peace, along with some other things that deeply hurt me and other members of the family.

I want to recognize his/her need to grieve via the visitation, but want to avoid the drama of having him/her present at the funeral as it would make several family members uncomfortable. Any thoughts?

Easy Invitations

daviss — Fri, 27 Jul 2007 06:10:13 -0800

I saw a website the other day that allowed you to send out a group voice mail message but cannot find it now. Does anyone know what I'm talking about?

Rule of thumb about who to invite at work to your wedding?

parma — Mon, 09 Jul 2007 18:30:35 -0800

How do I decide who at work to invite to my wedding? I'd love to invite everyone on my 20 person team - even the ones I only have worked with with five minutes here or there (Most of them.) But I'm afraid by inviting them, I may be making them feel obliged to come, lest I get offended. (I wouldn't at all.) Is there some sort of rule of thumb here? And what about my boss's boss, who I've had a total of maybe 4 minutes of conversation time with (99.9% chance he won't come, mainly because he doesn't know me and doesn't care). But he ultimately is the person who hired me since my boss is a contractor and not fully my boss.

...My motivation is that I am wanting to have a good relationship with everyone since I really like my job and want to stay.

Replying to a formal invitation

ascullion — Wed, 23 May 2007 02:38:36 -0800

So, I've been invited to a party at my country's embassy later this week. The formal invitation asks me to RSVP, but I don't do this sort of thing very often, and I've got no idea what the right protocol for a response is. Anyone got any idea?

Please help me with a sensitive wedding invitation challenge .

razzman — Thu, 22 Feb 2007 12:25:35 -0800

Please help me with a sensitive wedding invitation challenge. My partner doesn't want her parents on the invitation as her father has died years after a bitter separation from her mother. But my mum is a traditionalist and can't understand how I could leave her off the invite. Is there a way for everyone to be happy? I'm talking about the kind of invite which goes "...marriage of partner, daughter of mr and mrs xxx and razzman son of mr and mrs zzz. This is a kind of cultural expectation. My partner doesn't like the idea due to her family history.
We thought about putting a little cross near my partner's father's name but then this would imply that her mother is a widow (she kept the same surname). Leaving off her father and just including her mother is an option, has anyone seen this before? Any other suggestions?

Downloadable wedding monogram font?

obiwanwasabi — Thu, 02 Nov 2006 14:13:36 -0800

A friend is looking for a free (or really cheap) downloadable font to create a monogram for her wedding invitations consisting of the bride and groom's first initials and an ampersand (ie N&V). Any tips for a scripty, engrave-y, calligraphy-y, weddingy type font with lots of flourishes? Is it a monogram if it's for two people? I have no idea.

Evite + PayPal?

waldo — Tue, 15 Aug 2006 13:27:05 -0800

In coordinating events for a small alumni group I want to collect money in advance of each event, so that somebody's not left holding the bag when a few people don't show up. I'm basically looking for Evite, but requiring payment in order to RSVP in the affirmative. (It turns out Evite doesn't do this.) Is there any such service?

Addressing wedding invitations...

tastybrains — Sat, 05 Aug 2006 10:10:21 -0800

How rude is it really to use a printer and a nice calligraphy or script font to print addresses on wedding invitation envelopes? I know that traditional etiquette says that you should always hand-write the addresses.

However, after writing out about half of the addresses by hand, I can't help but think that they look like absolute crap. I don't have terrible handwriting, but it looks really goofy and uneven on the envelopes.

As an experiment, I printed out a couple of sample envelopes using an elegant script font, and they look gorgeous. I want to marry the frigging envelopes, they look that good.

Also, people send their invitations to calligraphers all the time. So is printing out the addresses from my computer really that much more impersonal?

I'm not trying to be impersonal or lazy. I just want them to look good! Am I going to go to etiquette hell if I redo the envelopes from my computer? Do normal people even care?

How do you refer to a divorced couple attending a formal function together?

TTNoelle — Wed, 26 Jul 2006 14:05:54 -0800

What is the formal etiquette on how to address an invitation to a divorced couple who are attending a wedding together? A close relative of mine is getting married, and I'm bringing my ex-husband to the wedding. My family got into a discussion on how Emily Post would address the invitation and place setting, and it got us to wondering.

While I am single, it just doesn't seem right that it would be "Jane Smith & Guest" since I was married to this man for 8 years and have a child together. Yet, of course we wouldn't be "Mr. & Mrs." I can't imagine this is a unique situation and somewhere there has to be an etiquette guideline, but I certainly can't find it.

(If it's important, we were married for 8 years and have been apart for 4 years. He has been in a serious relationship for over 2 years. Obviously, we have managed to maintain a close relationship.)

Wedding Reception Invitation Wording

jennyb — Fri, 15 Apr 2005 09:26:43 -0800

We're getting married in June at the courthouse. Our parents, and anyone else who's around and wants to go, is welcome to come along but we're not formally inviting anyone. We are, however inviting people to the reception, and I have questions about what the invitations should say. The facts:
1. The reception is a very small party at a local restaurant and pub that includes a heavy hors d'oeuvres/light dinner buffet (so it's in the evening) and open bar.
2. We really don't care what people wear, as long as they are comfortable.
3. The invitation is to the reception only.

We're using an assortment of clever postcards as our invitations, and having people RSVP via email (this is okay because the guest list is very small, and the only people who might be put off by an email RSVP have already RSVPed) so brevity is a consideration. How much of this should I try and communicate and how should I make it clear that the invitation is just to the party?

I've gotten this far:
Together with their families
jennyb
and
corpse
cordially invite you to...

But then I'm at a loss.

Does etiquette demand hand addressing wedding invitations?

grabbingsand — Tue, 03 Aug 2004 16:36:10 -0800

EtiquetteFilter. Specifically, I'm interested in wedding invitation etiquette. Even more specifically, I'm interested in the proper etiquette for addressing wedding invitations. No, not the proper wording, because I've found that ... I really just want to know: Do we have to address all of these things by hand?