I am a white cis-het male working on a writing project that includes both a fantasy novel and a tabletop RPG system and setting, based in an alternate history Earth where magic is a part of normal life. I believe in the importance of diversity in representation, so I would like to depict an America in which European/American culture is less hegemonic than in reality. One of the ways in which I want to do that is having non-European systems of magic be influential on the art and science of magic in this world. In particular, I am considering whether there is a way to incorporate chakras into both the fiction and the game's system without it being cultural appropriation. More details after the break. [more inside]
My colleague has been invited to an engagement party for his friends who are Indian-Fijian Hindu. What can he expect at the party and what would be an appropriate gift? If it matters everyone lives in Australia at present.
So, I got my divorce finalized recently after having been separated for 1.5 years. I think I am ready to try meeting and knowing new people. The challenge is I moved to US about 3 years ago and don't really have any experience with dating here. [more inside]
I am having a reoccurring memory of reading about an Native American Indian creation story but I can't remember specifics or what book I read it in. I do remember the topic of the book or this specific part of the being about creation stories and liminal time and space. [more inside]
Individual spices vs blends; ground spices in lieu of curry paste [more inside]
My relatives are coming to visit the big apple and I would be chaperoning them around on a site-seeing tour. The problem is that they are elderly (are retired), from another culture & country (India), a group of 5 and there is a very young baby ( couple of months old) traveling with them. This makes using subways, or taking long walks or using bicycles a difficult proposition. What would be the best way to give them a good NYC experience? [more inside]
Every time I make Indians greens (palak, saag, saagwala, etc) at home, the results are Fine but not as flavorful or as heavily spiced as my favorite Indian restaurants' dishes. Please provide me with your tried and true Indian greens recipes! [more inside]
I am interested in the various honorifics that are sometimes incorporated into (or sometimes partially substituted for) Indian names. I run into this from time to time professionally, and I feel terribly ignorant about it. Is there a resource or primer online that could help me get a better understanding of this and related matters of naming? Or can you give me the ten cent tour?
I'm a white American project manager who works extensively with engineers in India and the Philippines (almost all male). All of them know me as female but I am going to come out as a trans man fairly soon. I have no idea how transgenderism (and specifically trans men) are viewed in Indian/Filipino culture. What might I expect? Should I handle the transition any differently with them than with American/Euro colleagues? [more inside]
Hi all. Long shot, but - I saw this design in the Garst Museum in Ohio, where the Annie Oakley collection is kept. The design is worked onto a pair of leather gauntlets. The label said that the gloves had been a gift from Sitting Bull; it's possible, but also might be apocryphal. I'm interested in quoting the design in an art project, but before I do, would like to know whether anyone recognizes the motif or knows its associations. [more inside]
I just bought a gorgeous sari, got it home, and realized it's way too heavy and desperately needs a liner. No problem, I can just get it converted into a lehenga (long skirt)...I think? [more inside]
A few years ago I was in London and I was at the doctor who shop and happened upon an amazing Indian restaurant a couple of blocks away. It was on 2 floors and as I recall family owned and according to the menu been there for a long time. I will be returning to London and want to go back to the restaurant, anyone know what it was? And the address? Thanx in advance.
I will be visiting India soon to get an arranged marriage. I would like to know what to expect and how to handle the situation. [more inside]
What sort of "hosting" gift should I bring to an Indian (Gujarati) couple who have invited my husband and me for lunch in their new home? [more inside]
I know how to cook in general, and I know Indian food relatively well in terms of...you know, eating it. But my attempts to cook Indian dishes myself have never turn out. Where can I find clear, dependable recipes for (primarily Northern) Indian staples? (By "staples," I mean ordinary dishes like: palak paneer, bhurtha, aloo paratha, dal. My favorite foods tend to be vegetarian, but I'm not a vegetarian myself, so either veg or non-veg is fine). [more inside]
I will be traveling to Goa in the next couple days but only for about 10 days. Usually I have time to get clothes tailor made but probably not this time. so I need recommendations for stores where I can buy reasonably priced ready to wear casual clothes in Panaji, Vasco or environs. Because I don't visit often, and have relied on tailor made, I dont know where to go. [more inside]
Indians of me-fi: is it commonly accepted etiquette that splitting a restaurant bill with Indian parents is an insult? [more inside]
A coworker invited me to her daughter's rangapravesha (indian dance performance) after I saw a fancy brochure/program at her desk and remarked, "Wow, this looks amazing! It would be great to see this kind of dance performance! Let me know when she is performing!" Did I awkwardly invite myself to what is essentially a family event, like a quinceañera or a graduation? If you've been to a rangapravesha or had one of your own, what else should I know if I attend? Additional over-thinking questions below the fold. [more inside]
I'm a bit obsessed with women's tunics at the moment. Especially ones that have a semi-Indian look. Metafilter is so great at finding amazing clothing resources and I wondered if anyone has a good source for tunics or kurtis shipped from inside the United States? (I'm concerned about customs or courier fees for items shipped from other countries.) Thanks for any leads!
My wonderful fiancé and I getting married this August. While I'm happy at the thought of "officially" starting a life together, we've been together more than eight years, and it doesn't feel like a huge deal any more. I'm also stressed about my career, which is occupying my mind most of the time. The actual wedding is being organized entirely by my parents, and neither of us are thrilled about what the ceremony's shaping up to be. What can I/we do to make the whole getting hitched thing more meaningful for us? [more inside]
I bought some hot mango pickle at the Indian grocery store yesterday. It was packaged differently from what I've had before and I am concerned about its safety. When I've bought this same kind before it was in a glass jar with a metal lid, like other shelf-stable canned goods in jars. This time it was stored at room temperature in a glass jar, but the lid is plastic. [more inside]
I'm Indian and I have been dating a white girl for about 2.5 months. How do I deal with my parents who only believe in marrying someone who is also Indian? I've not told them about the girl I'm dating because I do not want to deal with bad talk when the relatives and family involved. [more inside]
I have a gift card for a fancy spice store, and the only spices that are missing from my kitchen are Indian food spices, which is a shame because I LOVE Indian food. What spices/herbs/seeds/nuts should I get to be able to cook complete Indian dishes? And what should I make with them? [more inside]
It's my first time out of the USA, and I don't know what to pack! [more inside]
Blogs or books about "expat" living on an Indian reservation? [more inside]
Asking for a friend. A coworkers wife has been diagnosed stage IV brain cancer. They are East Indian. We would like to bring flowers to their home. Does anyone know if certain flowers have special meaning culturally and / or are there flowers to avoid? Thank you.
Summer is coming and I'll have a lot of time on my hands. What are some of the tastiest spicy foods you've ever had? I'm thinking Indian, but Cajun, Mexican and so forth are all possibilities. I'm after interesting, involved recipes that can be spicy, but are above all TASTY. What should I make? [more inside]
Can anyone tell me more about this CD of Indian wedding music? [more inside]
I work in West Harlem on 135th St. and 8th Ave. I love all types of food, but especially meaty, flavorful foods like oxtail stew. Where should I go? I'm a grad student with a 45-minute lunch break, so the cheaper and closer to work, the better!
Identify-that-song-filter: What is the current top-40's rap song with sample of high-pictched male(?) indian singing looping repeatedly in the beat? [more inside]
Mefites of Holland! Send me to your favorite ethnic grocery stores and trattorias in de Randstad. Bonus points for North Holland (esp. Haarlem-A'dam-Alkmaar), and you win 1,000 internets if you know of a real Mexican, Thai or Indian grocer anywhere within 250k of Amsterdam.
Recommend me some music to go along with reading Salman Rushdie's Midnight's Children? While reading the book, it's occurred to me that I like and am interested in Indian music, but don't really have any, and don't really know any artists to look for other than Ravi Shankar. I think I'm mostly looking for the more classical Indian styles, as opposed to the pop/Bollywood stuff, but some of both would be nice maybe. Can anyone suggest other performers or albums? Bonus if they're easily available through Amazon or iTunes.
exotic ingredient: Carob Molasses - how do I use it? [more inside]
What could have caused this unusual feature in the bark of a mature post oak tree? Another view. [more inside]
Name This Indian Sweet [more inside]
Im 22 years old college male and never had a serious relationship. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. [more inside]
How complete are DNA tests at determining ethnic / racial background? [more inside]
Help me find resources for elementary age children regarding the modern Native American experience. [more inside]
MisterBen needs recommendations for a very specific kind of Indian cookbook – one that’s organized by technique, not by course or ingredient. Imagine if Alton Brown or Mark Bittman wrote an Indian cookbook. The idea is to learn reusable techniques and general concepts of what flavors are used together. What he already has: Madhur Jaffrey’s classics, Raghavan Iyer’s “660 Curries”, and Vikas Khanna’s “Flavor First”, which are used as bibles. Almost all Indian ingredients can be found in our area, and he is comfortable at making his own masalas, so feel free to recommend books you might think of as advanced.
How to find a wedding venue in or near London that matches some pretty specific criteria? [more inside]
I need more ideas for how to spice up/flavor my turkey meatloaf muffins. [more inside]
Where can I find Penda in Denver? [more inside]
I am planning to make dosa for the first time this weekend, with perhaps a foray into uttapam. I have appropriate ingredients (and access to an Indian grocery), but no special equipment. Help me make them the best they can be! [more inside]
Where can I buy Indian whisky in or around NYC? [more inside]
What are your favorite recipes from Yamuna Devi's Lord Krishna's Cuisine: The Art of Indian Vegetarian Cooking? [more inside]
How do I make a good Indian curry with a pre-made curry powder? [more inside]
How can I make the most of my time in Northwest London to understand Indian culture, cuisine, customs? [more inside]
WTF Filter: "Working" with someone that I think there's more with there...but I don't know how to approach taking the leap. Not that special snowflakery inside. [more inside]
How can we tell if we have an Indian mound on our property? [more inside]