Can anybody give me some examples of characters in film, television, or literature who incidentally have an illness or disability (i.e., their illness or disability does not somehow become a central plot device)? [more inside]
I'm going to be cooking and freezing large quantities of meals for two family members (same household) who are undergoing medical difficulties. Suggestions needed! [more inside]
Is there somehow less of a problem with Bacillus cereus in Japanese rice? I often see remarks like this one about not refrigerating onigiri, and about leaving rice in the rice cooker for hours if not days and continuing to eat it. The worst food poisoning I have ever had was from B. cereus, so I am hypersensitive to rice preparation and storage. [more inside]
I'm taking my first sick day in a long time, after my boss told me to go home from a meeting because I had actually lost my voice. I'm not good at knowing when feeling crappy merits taking a sick day and when it merits just sucking it up and hauling yourself in to work, especially if you have meetings planned or are supposed to be teaching a group. How do you decide that the level of sick you're feeling is sick enough to require calling in?
I'm on 20mg day of citalopram/celexa for generalised anxiety. I stupidly forgot to take it over the weekend. Have found it and taken today's dose but can already feel withdrawal anxiety amping up. Is there anything I can do to make this less painful until it gets back into my system? I work from home so suffer from loneliness and lack of distractions, though I have meetings with a nice colleague tomorrow. I also have a legal appointment on Thursday that is making me very anxious.
My good friend is in the hospital across the country. She is my age (mid-20s) and has a ton of potential. Because of school and money I only have one chance to fly out, so I won't be visiting her (she is also heavily sedated anyways). There is an at least 50% chance she will die of this (though that is an older number and it has likely gotten worse since then). I'm looking for quotes, poems, prayers, or stories not for her, but for her friends, to help deal with this uncertainty and stress. [more inside]
I've been dating a great guy for a few months now. About a month in he told me that his mom was diagnosed with an inoperable brain tumor 8 months before we met. His mom has done radiation and was seeming to get better in the last few months. He was making plans for me to meet his family for the first time on Thanksgiving. He just found out his mother has taken a turn for the worse (she's having difficulty walking), and I'd like to know: 1) how I can support him and 2) how to navigate meeting his family during this difficult time. [more inside]
My dog's medical history has our vet stumped. Very low platelet count, lethargy, bad limping on one hind leg - two similar but not identical incidents 6 months apart. Maybe you can help? [more inside]
I'm due to fly overseas on vacation next week for the first time in five years. There is a bunch of stress surrounding it: I have to finish a bunch of work before leaving, it's the first time I'm vacationing internationally since my divorce nearly three years ago, etc. And, since yesterday, I've been getting post-nasal drip, sore throat, chills, etc. [more inside]
I have been wondering if I have Crohn's disease. I want to get evaluated by a doctor, but I would like to hear about your experiences of onset and diagnosis to see if I'm on the right track with this. [more inside]
My mom got sick to the point she was hospitalized for two days, pretty much vomiting up her stomach lining. Now she's home, she's lost her discharge instructions, and has a significant loss of balance so she tottering up and down flights up stairs with extreme risk, almost collapsing in the store when she goes to get groceries. She needs a visiting nurse service, something. [more inside]
Need help handling growing apart from your partner when chronic illness has eliminated everything you had in common. If the relationship is deteriorating, when and how should you keep it alive? [more inside]
How to end a relationship with a partner who is physically dependent on you? How to deal with the guilt? [more inside]
My dad had a massive stroke in January. He has made remarkable strides, but he will likely never be the same as he was. How do I learn not to be sad about this? [more inside]
Generally I can have cheese and yogurt in small amounts but not milk and cream, and I've had cheesecake in the recent past even after I became lactose intolerant to the aforementioned. I still feel terrible after 24 hrs. Do I have to seek medical attention? [more inside]
After ten years it's time to retire my Ford F150 King Cab pickup. I'd like to buy something more environmentally kind. Complications: sharing this vehicle between myself and my 6'2" (still growing?) teen driver. AND need to accommodate my chronic illness. Energy(and time) nearly sapped. What should I testdrive? Special snowflake details inside. [more inside]
I need advice about very gentle exercises and reconditioning after a long period of bed rest. I have a heart condition and have been very inactive for years. Recently my heart problem got somewhat better. Now I can do very light exercises. But even very gentle exercise can be a problem for me. I need advice about reconditioning safely. Also I would like suggestions for websites, books or other resources for people recovering after long periods of bed rest who are severely deconditioned. [more inside]
My parents didn't accept my boyfriend for about six of the seven years that we've been dating due to his physical disability. Now my younger sister has a new boyfriend whom my parents wholly and happily accept, and as childish as this is, this is bringing up all sorts of unpleasant feelings. [more inside]
Greetings. I'm wondering if there are any notable or smaller scale poets and writers that were mainly hermits or eccentric? I'm not picky with the genre, country, or era. [more inside]
My mentally ill mother likes to send me super mean emails every once in a while, which I don't usually reply to. I just discovered today that she has accidentally been sending emails to a random person with a similar email address to mine. I'm not sure what, if anything, I should do about it. [more inside]
One of my grandparents who I love dearly has had multiple lingering illness for the past few years. The nurse is soon recommending hospice care. It is so difficult to know that my grandparent has been suffering and largely bed-ridden for the past years. I live a few hours away and visit every few months. My husband is very supportive but I still feel sad about it often. I guess this isn't much of a question, but I am looking for ways to help process what is occurring. Thanks in advance.
I recently posted my current situation here. I'm still struggling with a longstanding issue: My mom's undiagnosed (notwithstanding a brief stint on anti-depressants 15 years ago following her divorce) possible depression. About once or twice a year I find myself with her while she sobs uncontrollably and talks about how lonely and alone she feels as she ages. These are all valid feelings and fears, but everytime I bring up seeing a counsellor to help her get her life back on track, giver her tools to cope, filter out the negative energy in her life (such as her codependent relationship with her 29 y/o son), she refuses to admit there is a problem. [more inside]
Can you set me straight about the urge I get to control my husband's eating and exercise habits? [more inside]
Hi, I struggle with chronic illness and disability and have one very part-time job that I split my time between attending in person and working from home. I need to bring in some more money, however, though I'm not expecting anything grand income wise. Ideally I'm looking for jobs that have enough work available that you can sign in or pick up an hour or two or three of work without the obligation of sticking to meeting a set schedule each week. It's hard because my illness is so unpredictable. Any ideas would be appreciated. [more inside]
My family had unusual ideas about health, illness and contagion, and now I have confused instincts about when to go to the doctor, and when to worry about giving someone my nasty cold. Do you know some resources or rules of thumb that might help? [more inside]
I understand women have been doing this for hundreds of thousands of years, but I'm "delicate". How to not lose my job while feeling this ill? [more inside]
I seem to have acute anxiety lately, which is causing a cognition deficit for me. My memory is quite poor and lax these days - I'm not certain if it is due to my vegan diet, or my ongoing intensive anxiety? Are there any tips on how to improve my memory and stabilize my anxiety? [more inside]
I recently started seeing someone that disclosed that he has a serious mental illness that needs a lot of medication to keep somewhat under control. I got freaked out and after giving it a few weeks of thought, broke it off. Did I over react? [more inside]
I was physically ill as a child, in the hospital more than school, and through young adult years as well. Mom was/is classic hypochondriac. As an adult for the last 20 years and in my early 40s, I have let it hurt my work record and advancement. [more inside]
I had a minor cold about a week ago that has turned into a sinus infection (I think). The cold was pretty bad for a couple days, but then I was completely fine for 4 days. I'm having some nasal congestion, and swollen lymph nodes, but the worst problem is that I am getting this nasty headache whenever I'm on my feet/trying to do anything. No tiredness, no fever, no aches or chills. I've been getting these awful headaches for 3 or 4 days. I'm off work until Tuesday, but I'm worried that this won't be resolved by then, and am looking for any ideas to stop/lessen these headaches. [more inside]
What can I do to help my co-worker who's dealing with family illness? My co-worker's mom was diagnosed with brain and lung cancer several months ago and going through treatment with a poor prognosis, and then this week her dad had a seizure. My co-worker is now in the situation of having to be the sole care-taker (both physically and emotionally) of two very ill parents. I'd like to do something to help -- any suggestions? [more inside]
I recently had pretty big health scare. I am recovering now, but I am still very freaked out about how close I just came to dying. [more inside]
I just finished reading The Emperor of All Maladies: A Biography of Cancer again and it was just as incredible if not more so the second time around. I'm wondering if there are other nonfiction books of similar quality and comprehensiveness for other topics - primarily looking for a diabetes book but also interested in any other comparable books. [more inside]
I have had a long, difficult year, and I'm starting to crack. All year, I was dealing with things pretty well and now I'm not, and I can't stop beating myself up over losing my grip. [more inside]
I thoroughly cleaned my water bottle just now and wiped black stuff from the sides of the inside. I assume it's mold, and I think it's probably been there for a while (days? weeks?) already. I drink at least 1 L of water from it daily. Will I suffer any effects? [more inside]
Whenever I get sick, I also get concurrently really sad. Something about the physical crapness and being alone all day really gets to me. Any suggestions for keeping your spirits up when you're feeling low both physically and mentally? What has worked for you? [more inside]
Is living overseas too risky for a person who has gone through a psychotic episode? Should I give up on the idea of going back to teaching overseas? [more inside]
It looks like I'll be discharged from my week-long stay in the hospital tomorrow. (Fingers crossed, knock on wood.) I've been treated for double pneumonia, chronic migraine, trigeminal neuralgia breakthrough pain, and severe constipation. This is the longest I've ever been hospitalized. I'm weak as a day old kitten. Still having pain from the migraine and TN. Still having difficulty pooping. Still short of breath. But they say I'm better enough to go home. Give me your best hacks, skills, and advice for transitioning home and having an easy recovery. [more inside]
I'll be accompanying my mother-in-law to her first chemo appointment tomorrow. What can I bring her to make the experience as comfortable as possible for her? [more inside]
An American friend became ill while in Norway last year while on vacation, and had to spend a day in hospital. The hospital now wants >$5,000, despite the bill supposedly being paid by insurance in January (the American insurance company is supposed to have covered it all except for a nominal copayment). They keep on sending him letters from Norway. What should he do? [more inside]
Last couple of years i notice that 2-4 hours after eating pork, (with the exception of cured pork like bacon) I feel sick: achy, stomach ache, vaguely feverish. My father admits he hasn't eaten pork in years but simply says; Just don't really like it i guess. But then he recalls that his father couldn't tolerate it. Made him sick. Poking around the internet I can't really find a reasonable explanation for this. Thoughts?
Solo Travellers - what practical tips do you have for handling the unpleasantness of getting sick while on holiday? [more inside]
I have been suffering from health problems with cumulated in a diagnosis of fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue syndrome. Except most doctors I've seen don't think that's what I have, and frankly neither do I. As a long shot, I ordered a 23andme DNA test and ran it through Promethease. How can I use this data to further my quest for a proper diagnosis? Is that even possible? [more inside]
For the second time within two months I have come down with an odd illness. The only symptom is that I feel tired and weak, similar to the tail end of the flu. My body is clearly telling me I am sick, but there are no other symptoms. None or the fever, runny nose, aches, sore throat that I can expect to see when I "normally" get sick. [more inside]
They threw two gallons of saved up, putrid urine on the front of my house, getting half a gallon on my roof and some under the eaves. Police were called. I cleaned the best I could. The smell was nightmarish. This was in the spring. We are now into the fall and the smell returns when it rains. I've had three sinus infections since this happened, after not having a sinus infection for years. Could this be related? Is old urine soaked into my roof dangerous to my health?
I have a neighbor who is mentally ill and his condition is not improving. He leaves trash on our street and parks his car in front of my house with his trash inside. His house is unfit to live in and I don't know what we can do to help. I'm afraid to approach him 'cause it's progressed to him barking and talking to himself. We live in suburbia and I need resources that can help him.
I’m having troubles working out if I’m being unreasonable in the below scenario. [more inside]
I'm ill—down with a flu—stuffy head, terrible cold and sneezing, aches and pains. I know what I need most of all is rest but my brain just won't cooperate. I'm full of this crazy hyperactive energy and totally unable to rest. Any ideas?
Why do sriracha and harissa disagree with my digestive system, when many other spicy foods that also contain chiles and garlic do not? [more inside]
I am kind, youthful, energetic, bright, and capable and my resume is bare due to prolonged illness. I am working retail and I am bored, underpaid, and frustrated. Help me find my way. [more inside]