So I need some sound advice. I think I was harassed a number of months ago at a local YMCA by another member. I decided to file this complaint internally, and now I'm worried I'm being stonewalled. Normally I would let something like this slide, but I've decided to take up this cause because I think it's the honorable thing to do. If only because I am inspired by the anti-bullying movement. Do I have legal options? Can somebody with any experience or strength with this sort of thing help me figure out what exactly happened to me, and share what they did in a similar situation? Details within.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 1, 2013 -
32 answers
For the last four months, I've been getting anywhere between 3 and 60 calls per day on my cell phone from (555) 555-5555, at all hours. If I pick up, it's a recorded voice, somewhere between a computer and a british lady saying "one... one... one..." What the hell is going on, and how do I make it stop?
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posted by Jon_Evil
on Jan 23, 2013 -
13 answers
At work, my slightly-more-experienced colleague makes a habit of saying subtle and/or ambigious cricitisms, disguised as innocent remarks. I spoke to management about it recently but they couldn't see the problem. How should I deal with a work colleague who tries to undermine me and make me look bad, but who is subtle enough not to get caught?
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 19, 2012 -
27 answers
Former professor made a pass at me. This was upsetting because I consider him a mentor and didn't think he had those kind of motivations towards me. Now he is in town and wants to take me out. What should I say?
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posted by idle
on Aug 17, 2012 -
59 answers
What's up with 774-8283? This appears to be a spoofed phone number calling to harass people at random. How are they doing this, and what can be done about it? Question about American phone calls, probably won't apply internationally.
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posted by The Winsome Parker Lewis
on Jun 7, 2012 -
5 answers
I get hit on a lot at work. It's not flattering at all. I find it very embarrassing and demoralizing. I don't know how to cope.
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posted by chara
on Jun 4, 2012 -
62 answers
A married coworker made a pass at me - help me stop feeling like I need to peel all my skin off.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 2, 2012 -
38 answers
Some random jerk threatened my partner in public a few days ago and he's still pretty shaken, and can't stop thinking about it. What resources can I offer to help him cope?
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posted by rhiannonstone
on May 29, 2012 -
18 answers
Neighbor is using an ultra-high-frequency device against us at very high decibels. It causes constant low-grade nausea and a long-lasting ringing in the ears afterwards. Problem is, it can't really be heard because its such a high-frequency. Cops have come to our house, felt the nausea and ear-ringing themselves, but refuse to do anything about it because they can't "hear" it and we have no way of recording it. My question is: Can you point me towards a device that can record high decibel sound in very high frequencies so we can show objectively that this is happening?
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posted by captain cosine
on May 28, 2012 -
51 answers
My sister received a dream job offer but for one thing - the man who will be her direct supervisor was definitely looking at her boobs both times she went into the office for the interviews.
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posted by pluot
on May 21, 2012 -
33 answers
Someone I dated years ago obsessively visits my blogs and leaves messages. The messages aren't threatening, but they're starting to annoy me. Can I do anything about it? Should I?
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posted by anonymous
on May 21, 2012 -
23 answers
What can you do in this situation? I'm tired of getting harassed and tired of seeing my boyfriend get harassed. Can I file a no-contact order? Details inside.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 2, 2012 -
10 answers
How can I arrange action to be taken against a mentally ill woman who is harassing my family?
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posted by v.barboni
on Feb 28, 2012 -
6 answers
My friends' street kiosk: They are suffering bullying by drunkards and feral 14 year olds. Suggestions for how to deal?
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posted by yoHighness
on Jan 17, 2012 -
28 answers
I had an abortion years ago. Now, years later, I am being accused of "faking" the abortion, and am being harassed via social media sites. Help me figure out how to navigate this situation with dignity and class.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 13, 2011 -
57 answers
Considering a restraining order against an ex, but I have a lot of questions about the logistics and just generally whether it's going to make the situation better or worse. For example, I don't think he knows where I live- so how would it even work? Many more questions inside.
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 26, 2011 -
23 answers
I've been sexually assaulted and heavily/distressingly harassed by a number of different men throughout my life already. Now I'm trying to break it off with a close friend because I feel like I "need a break" from even being close to men and he won't stop even mildly pushing at this.
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posted by DisreputableDog
on Nov 19, 2011 -
24 answers
Does anyone know of statistics or studies regarding repercussions to women as a result of filing sexual harassment charges, or otherwise fighting back against daily harassment (cat calling, etc)? In the US, but interested in any data.
posted by korej
on Nov 15, 2011 -
5 answers
I was harassed by some teenagers on the street and kicked one of them, how could I have handled this better?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 6, 2011 -
85 answers
Can I obtain a domestic violence restraining order in California against a person who lives in another state?
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posted by anonymous
on May 17, 2011 -
5 answers
You're at a science-fiction and fantasy convention. As you peruse the programming schedule, you come across a panel titled "Sexual Harassment in SF&F Fandom (one hour)". What would you expect to learn from that panel?
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posted by magstheaxe
on Dec 1, 2010 -
26 answers
What to do about inappropriate, verging-on-harassment behavior from a recently hired coworker & soon-to-be manager who I'll only be working with for a short time?
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posted by afabulousbeing
on Sep 15, 2010 -
17 answers
I've worked at the same place for nearly 11 years, have had above average evaluations, and received three promotions. However, lately, in my manager's eyes I can do nothing right. I feel as if she's harassing me. Can I do anything?
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 13, 2010 -
12 answers
Are employees of nursing homes and group homes (nurses, management, counselors) protected under the realm of workplace harassment laws when the harassment is from the family members of the residents?
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posted by jasonspaceman
on Jul 6, 2010 -
3 answers
I work at a radio station in a big city, and am being harassed by one of our listeners. How to deal?
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posted by frosty_hut
on Jun 23, 2010 -
20 answers
What legal, moral or ethical rights does ex-spouse A have when it comes to controlling ex-spouse B's dating habits, under the guise of protecting their children?
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posted by Ziggy Zaga
on Jun 16, 2010 -
17 answers
Three managers constantly create a triangle of drama and I'm in the middle. Fight it or move on?
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posted by stormpooper
on Apr 26, 2010 -
13 answers
Animal Control officer harassing us over unregistered dog. Can arrests be made for fines not paid?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 12, 2010 -
18 answers
I think I've been sexually harassed at work. I want to go to someone, but I'm worried this might have repercussions for me. My question is very long, so I apologize.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 7, 2010 -
40 answers
My coworker is saying things that I'm not sure are inappropriate or considered harassment. Where's the line, and what do I do about it?
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posted by Lizsterr
on Jan 25, 2010 -
54 answers
How can I resist the temptation to despair as I get older and still find myself unable to break consistent patterns of frustration in my work and personal life? (long)
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 12, 2009 -
14 answers
The caretaker for our landlords' buildings is moving into the apartment across the hall. This comes with an atypical set of potential issues. We're trying to figure out the best way to deal with it. Explanation (includes politics) inside.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 2, 2009 -
13 answers
My mom is dealing with the aftermath of a stalking situation. Looking for books and other things that might help her get through it.
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 18, 2009 -
6 answers
So I just moved into an apartment, and found out that I have a psycho neighbor.
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posted by milinar
on Sep 10, 2009 -
32 answers
For the past several years, someone with a sick fetish has been sending me sexually harassing emails. The emails come to my Hotmail and Yahoo accounts. When I had a MySpace account, I'd get messages there as well.
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posted by Ostara
on Sep 8, 2009 -
35 answers
When does occasional contact from a former colleague turn into stalking? What is the best way to handle unwanted communication from a person for whom rejection may cause real emotional hardship?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 11, 2009 -
19 answers
Please help me solve a "Private Call" mystery. I have been getting calls for years from an older woman with an accent asking all sorts of weird questions. Now that she's started calling in the middle of the night, I contacted my cell phone carrier (AT&T) and requested help with the problem. They said my only option was to switch numbers. Do I have other options?
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posted by one_bean
on Jul 29, 2009 -
51 answers
How can I, a young woman in a foreign country, stop men on the street from harassing me, or from paying me so much attention?
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posted by acidic
on Jul 25, 2009 -
42 answers
My ex is still contacting me and begging for another chance more than a year after the breakup. A restraining order is apparently not an option. I can't become unreachable. What can I do?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 21, 2009 -
44 answers
